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Is there any chance at all of a woman getting pregnant if the man wears a condom, without actual intercourse?
The penis would still be quite close (touching, probably) to the vagina, but not inside. (link)
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The chance is extremely low. If the condom breaks or has a hole in it, though, and if any semen comes in contact with the vagina, pregnancy could theoretically result.
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There is this one kid i like and he is in high school...the problem is ..is that he is friends with my sister and my sister would not like me goin out with him if he is her friend..my sister told me that..should i just go out with him..or not go out with him like she said not to?
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desprate to know (link)
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Does your sister have any specific reason why she doesn't think you should go out with him? It's possible that she thinks he's too old for you, or that he hasn't treated his past girlfriends well, or something. If she does have a concrete reason, try to find out what it is.
It's possible, though, that she just doesn't feel comfortable with the idea because you're her sister and he's her friend, and it would be weird. Actually, I can sort of understand how she feels: it can definitely be awkward when your family life and your social life collide. But ultimately, she doesn't get a vote here: this is up to you and the guy, and if you decide to date, it's her responsibility to be mature about it.
That said, you can try to make it as easy for her as possible. For one thing, you can agree that you won't put her in a position where she has to run interference for you, if the relationship ever gets sticky. If you sit down with her and get her to articulate exactly what she's worried about, then you can come up with ways to defuse her fears. And maybe, if she thinks about it calmly and rationally, some of her concerns might not seem like such a big deal after all.
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my boyfriend is not exactly cheatin on me but he likes 2 girls.He always tells HER that he likes HER more than me.And he always tells me that he likes me more.Iknow that is messed up.But,i don't want to be mad at him becuz the last time I was mad at him he was pissed off the whole day and he (Kinda)cried.Even if I do get mad at him I know that there is a chance that he might dump me and go with HER.And I don't want that to happen.What do i do?? (link)
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Your boyfriend is acting like a manipulative bastard. Don't let him pull this garbage, and especially don't let him make YOU feel bad because you called him on it.
Dump him first. If he really likes you better, he'll get rid of the other girl and come crawling back. If he doesn't, then he's not worthy of you, and you'll look like the cool one because you had the backbone to get rid of the loser. And even if he stays with the other girl, he'll almost certainly continue to be a jerk to her. Why would you want a boyfriend like that when you could find someone who treats you with respect?
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...since you don't have any other contact details. In regard to question: http://advicenators.com/qview.php?q=132566, I had no idea that it was offensive to call something a 'cult'! Its just with the many, many denominations of the christian church, I find it hard to keep up with what is being considered a cult and what is not, so I simply used it for lack of a better word, but I will remember 'sect', as [after looking it up] I found this to be the term I was actually wanting to use. I just wish there was a way to respond to reviews on here.
My thanks for pointing this out to me :)
--DruidX (link)
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I figured it was probably something like that. :) No worries -- I wasn't personally offended or anything, but I just thought it might help to clear up the terminology, since lots of people are quite sensitive about this sort of thing.
Yes, I also think it would be nice if we could respond to feedback (although I suppose in some cases it could lead to a great deal of unproductive back-and-forth). Oh well!
cheers,
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Hey yall,
First of all I want to thank all the people who helped me with my last question.I loved the advice.Thank you!
Ok my next question is about me and my bestfriend.
My bestfriend means alot to me, I mean i've know her for 4 years but.Recently she moved away from my neighborhoo,and not in walking distance.So when she moved I started hanging out with my new next door friend.We now hang out all the time like me and my bestfried use to do before she moved.My bestfriend is now taking it as though i'm tryna replace her. But i'm not.I mean she said that she don't like the fact that i'm slowly replacing her and I need to choose who do I want to be friends with more.Who should I choose? My bestfriend or my close friend.Both of them mean alot to me. I'm confused!
Love Apple (link)
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You shouldn't have to choose between your friends: most people have more than one close friend, even if only one of them is the "best" friend. It's not really fair of your best friend to ask you that, but maybe there are some things you can do to make her feel better about the situation.
I know it's harder to make plans with someone who isn't right near you, but if you set aside special time for her, she may not feel so left out. If you and she hang out regularly, she won't feel like you're disappearing from her life.
Tell your best friend that her friendship means a lot to you, and that you're willing to do as much as you can to make things better. But also tell her that it wouldn't be fair to your other friend to just be dumped, and that sometimes you'll want to spend time with other friends too. And your best friend should try to make new friends as well! It's hard when you move into a new neighborhood, but it's important for her to try. Probably she's awfully lonely right now, and that's what's making her so difficult.
Also, maybe your best friend would feel less excluded if you invited her along every now and then to do things with you and your next-door friend. She probably won't be able to come all the time, but if she feels like you're not shutting her out, it might help.
If none of this works, then I think your best friend is being unreasonable. If after all this, she's still pressuring you to choose, then tell her that you're very sorry she feels that way, but true friends respect each other's freedom. It's her loss if she can't accept that. Good luck!
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O.K...i knew my friend liked this guy at our school & he had wanted me to go down on him & i was like no i cant do that..then 1 day i was walkin home & he had asked me again...i was thinkin & i asked him did he think my friend wouldnt mad & he said they werent talkin..(mad) & i was like well O.K.so after i got home i felt bad & told my friend..she said she was very disappointed & that our friendhip was frozen! So she got all mad & i was like whatever.see i had also did 1 of her other friends guy too. but ive done him before & them goin out didnt change nothin.(he said)They simply told me i did somethin they wouldnt do! So whats the big damn deal!!..what should i do??? (link)
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Whoa. I don't think you realize how serious this is -- the fact that your friend liked this guy is the least of your problems.
So here's this guy -- whom you don't even like especially, as far as I can tell from your letter. He wants oral sex, and you just give it to him. Why? It seems like you've gotten into the habit of letting guys use you for blowjobs, and you're not getting a damn thing out of it.
Stop servicing these guys. First of all, it could be very dangerous: you can't get pregnant by giving blowjobs, but you can sure as hell get all kinds of nasty STDs, including AIDS. You are worth more than this, okay?
Oral sex is sex. It's not something you just hand out on your way home. And you shouldn't feel like you need to do that kind of thing in order for guys to like you -- it doesn't work, anyway, and you wind up losing friends.
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Okay, I like this boy named Joe. We went out for a day but then we broke up because he claimed he didnt know me enough. I still like him but he doesnt like me anymore, well he is saying that atleast. and i sorta believe it because i called him, he knew it was me, and he hung up... ON PURPOSE! how can i get his attention and maybe go out with him again? (link)
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Are you sure you even want to? I mean, this guy doesn't sound particularly nice. He doesn't seem interested in you, and he isn't even being polite about it. I think you should consider finding someone who deserves you more.
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I live in a suburb of New York City and I'm a Senior in High School. I'm trying to decide where to go to college. My top 3 choices are Cornell, Florida State, and Miami, and I've already gotten into all three. Miami gave me a lot of money, but Florida State has the best program for what I want to do and Cornell is the closest to home. I love all three campuses and don't care about travelling far away, but I don't want to make the wrong decision.
Any thoughts? (link)
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Congratulations on your college acceptances! That's a very impressive achievement.
There are a few questions that you need to ask yourself before you can make this decision. First of all, what are the relative strengths of these programs? Florida State may be the best, but is it so much better as to overrule all the other possible considerations?
Secondly, how sure are you that your prospective major is what you want to do for the rest of your life? To what extent do you want to keep your options open?
Thirdly, what other aspects of university life are important to you? Do you want a more intense academic experience, or a more laid-back atmosphere around you? Does climate make a huge difference?
Fourthly, how critical are financial considerations here?
So without knowing the answers to any of the above questions, my first reaction would probably be to go to Cornell. I mean, Cornell is world-class, whereas the other schools are ranked a lot lower overall. I can't imagine that Cornell doesn't have an excellent program in whatever it is you want to do, plus it will also provide you with the opportunities to explore other options at the highest level. And Cornell always looks great on a resume. (When you are applying to graduate schools, it's extremely important to specialize, and to attend the best program you can in your field or subfield, but it doesn't matter quite so much at the undergrad level.) Finally, I think if you go there and dislike it, it'll be a lot easier to transfer out to one of the Florida schools, and not so easy the other way around.
But that's just my opinion, and, like I said, I can't give you a good answer without knowing more about your situation. If possible -- I know this might not be practical -- I would strongly recommend that you go visit all three campuses, get a sense of what they're like, talk to some students and professors, and then listen to your instincts.
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I went skating with my friends and my boyfriend..
And he had to leave early, and my friends when he was there were all comming back and forth back and forth to us.. and we didnt skate but I could tell he wanted to.. and I didnt but I should of for him.. but I didnt even wanna be there because skating is boring as hell.. and I just wnated ot see my frineds and get out with Alex.. but it was the worst day.. because after he left my frineds kept leaving me and I tried calling my bf form a damn pay phone but ti wouldnt work.. and when he left he just said bye and I'll see you on monday.. and my friends (NAme) and (Name) just got a boyfriend and thye already hugged and kissed ont he cheek, and me and my bf have been going out for liek 5 days and he hasnt kissed or hugged me.. I reeeally love him but I duno.. what do I do??!!!!! (link)
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First thing: you really shouldn't judge your relationship on the basis of your friends' relationships. People are different, and relationships are different, and what's appropriate for some people may not feel quite right in others' situations.
There's no reason to be nervous if he hasn't kissed or hugged you yet. You've been going out less than a week, and it sounds like you're quite young, so he's probably not entirely sure how to behave around a brand-new girlfriend. Maybe he just likes to take things a little slower than your friends' boyfriends, or maybe he's not quite as self-confident. And anyway, you could always give him a hug and a kiss, you know, if that's what you feel like.
Next time, plan to do something that's fun for *both* of you, and just try to relax and enjoy being with him, rather than worrying quite so much about whether you're doing everything right. :)
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im in a relationship but i have not had a good sex life im in my 30's and i just need it women who are of my age would understand my point im sure anyhow there is this other guy who likes me alot he knows i am in a relationship he is single and more closer to my age than guy im in a relationship with i kissed the other guy today wow it felt like great im not sure i can choose at least not right now please dont put me down especially if you are the type that dont need or have the desire to have sex or are getting sex whenever you want it i know maybe i should choose but i dont know the guy i kissed that well and the guy im in a relationship with is not that bad except for no and i mean no sex HELP HELP!!!!!!!!!!!! (link)
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If the only good thing you can say about your current relationship is that it's "not that bad," then I don't think you're really invested in the guy. Why stay with someone whom you clearly aren't excited about? In this particular case, I would take your attraction to other guys as nature's way of telling you that this isn't meant to be; it seems like there are even deeper problems than the lack of sex.
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I've written a few books and I just LOVE to write. So many things and idea's I could put. I also love to be noticed for great things i do. I really want maybe one of my books to be published or known. I'd like to submit it but I don't know where to. That's why I need your help can someone tell me somewhere I could submit a book to? Please!
~Desperate for fame~ (link)
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There is a directory that comes out every year called Literary Market Place, otherwise known as LMP. You should be able to find it in the reference section of your public library. It's also available online at www.literarymarketplace.com, but not all the information there is available to people who aren't paid subscribers. They have profiles and contact information for basically every publisher and serious literary agent in the U.S. and Canada.
You should contact publishers who put out books that are similar to yours. If you write nonfiction about relationships, for example, go to that section of the bookstore and write down all the names of every publisher with a title there. Likewise, if you write short stories, find publishing houses that specialize in those.
Most publishers will have guidelines for people who want to submit unsolicited manuscripts. Those guidelines should be available in LMP or on their websites. Follow those guidelines exactly. When you write your cover letter, make sure it's interesting, informative, and not more than one page.
Do the same thing with literary agents. While publishers do occasionally sign up something that just appears in their mailbox, it is much, much easier to get published if you have a reputable agent on your side.
It's always a help if you have some sort of personal contact. If you know *anyone* who has had a book published, go to them and ask them to put you in touch with their publisher or agent.
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I have social anxiety disorder but I want to ask Orlando out...what do I do?
Social Anxiety Disorder is something that I JUST CAN'T GET OVER just like that...and it's hard. Please help. Sometimes I fall really hard for him...and I just want a chance with him.
From,
My heart skips a beat (link)
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Is Orlando someone you know well already, or is he someone whom you just see around?
If he's not already one of your good friends, you might find it easier to start with approaching him on a non-romantic level. Maybe it'll feel like less pressure if you're just trying to strike up a conversation with him, rather than ask him out.
Once you get to know him better, and feel more comfortable around him, it won't be such a big deal to ask him out on a date -- I mean, it'll be scary, but it'll be the same kind of scary *everyone* has to struggle with when they like someone. Just remind yourself that he should be flattered by your interest (and that even if he says no, it's not the end of the world and not something for you to be embarrassed by -- it happens to most people at some point).
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I was just wondering if anyone knows what kind of grades I would need to get in order to get into a University College. Right now I have a 4.0 weighted grade but only because I'm taking honors classes. Does anyone know what kind of extra curricular activities I'm going to have to do in order to be able to make it into a UC? (link)
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Well, what kind of extracurricular activities are you interested in?
Pick the ones you like, because if it looks like you've signed up for a whole bunch of activities just for resume-padding, the admissions officers won't think well of you. Find something that you know you're good at, and really shine; or get involved in something totally new just for the challenge, and do everything you can to master it. It's especially impressive if you can achieve some sort of leadership position, because then it's obvious you take it seriously.
Colleges don't want you to be involved in extracurriculars just to fill your time: as a rule, they hope you're doing things that broaden you and make you a more interesting person. Also, your activities don't necessarily have to be school clubs: you might be studying music with an outside teacher, or running your own business, or something. As long as you can talk or write about it intelligently and explain why it's worthwhile to you, colleges will want to hear about it.
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Hi, I am 21 years old...the problem is with my sister "Courtney" she is 15 years old and is getting in alot of trouble right here lately. She's been getting in fight's at school, stole my mom's car to go joy-ridin', tried to hookup with a 26 year old ex-convict, and just the other day she got caught at school passing a note to a boy with a condom inside, asking him when there were going to have sex? I don't know what else to do... I have tried talking to her it doesn't seem to work. Any idea's why she is doing this? This behavior just started this year. And I can't keep a eye on her becuase I am married and noi longer live at "home". (link)
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Wow, this all sounds pretty serious. I couldn't really say why she's started acting this way, although there are some possibilities that spring to mind. Has she found some new friends that she's trying to impress? Could she be very angry or upset about something that's happened recently? Do you think she might be using drugs?
There's probably not that much that you personally can do, unfortunately. It's very good that you're trying to talk to her, though -- if she knows you are paying attention and that you care about her, she may turn to you when she's ready. But in the meantime, I think you should encourage your mom to take her in for family counseling. Whatever's going on with Courtney, it's too important -- and definitely too potentially dangerous -- to take lightly. Good luck.
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I have a friend and we like each other, but we both have relationshhips with other people. YEt, my friend talks to me and says that he can't stop thinking about me and he says other things too. But i love my boyfriend more. WHat should i say to my friend? (link)
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All you have to say is that you love your boyfriend. Period. Don't get into long discussions with your friend about it -- that's want he wants, because he's hoping he can persuade you to break up with your boyfriend or cheat on him. If you make it absolutely clear that that isn't going to happen, and refuse even to talk about it further, he'll give up eventually.
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Okay, look, I just want everyone to know that Catholics ARE in fact Christians, and if you don't belive so, research it. We DO NOT pray to Mary, we honour her! Just because of a few minor differences doesn't mean we aren't Christians, that's the whole bloody point of the different denominations! AT least we're accepting of other religions, while some of you claim we're pagans and non-Christians go to hell no matter what, thanks a bloody lot. I just want to know, what makes you people think we're not Christian, and I'll clear this whole mess up and explain things to you. I'm not looking for converts, just understanding. I believe Jesus taught peace, love, and understanding, n'est-ce pas? (link)
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I think most people are aware that Catholics are Christians! I'd never heard anyone say they weren't, till I read one of the comments here.
I think everyone gets a little confused about who believes what, what with all the disagreement within and among faiths. If everyone would just limit themselves to explaining what they themselves believe, and stop trying to tell other people what they think those others believe, we'd all probably be better off. :)
(Also, DruidX, I think you're always very intelligent and insightful, but you should realize that it borders on insulting to refer to someone's religion as a "cult," no matter what you may think of it personally. Especially coming from someone who advocates tolerance. Perhaps you were thinking of the word "sect"?)
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i recently have been excommunicated out of a great church due to not following their rules i was happy there part of me wants it back but part of me wants to live the way i want to live how do i get it all to mesh together so i can be happy all the time i loved the church i really still do i miss it all what should i do if you need more details please let me know but i warn you it is long well if anyone can help let me know (link)
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It depends on whether, in your heart, you believe in the rules you broke or not.
If you believe that those rules *are* definitely the right way for you to live, then think about why you broke them, whether it's possible for you to change your behavior, and then go talk to whoever's in charge.
If, deep down, you believe that those rules are not right for you, then you should certainly find another church. I'm sure you can locate another church that's more accepting, but just as spiritually fulfilling.
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hey i was listening to the radio and i only caught the end to this. it was talkin about gettin some collage credits while your in high school. it said for 8th and 9th grades could join but i really dont know it there was an 1-800 in there but here the number. if anyone could call it and tell me what it is all a bout i would really really like that. Thank you so much
381 9898 i dunno if it has a 1-800 in there and btw i live in jax (904) (link)
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I don't exactly get why you can't call the number yourself. If that doesn't work out, why don't you ask your guidance counselor if he or she knows anything about outside opportunities for college credit? Or do a Google search or something.
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Ok there is this thing during lunch and I am like, idk, like all WHATEVER! about it. and my friends want me to go and i want to go but i think the preppies in my school are like, oh yeah look at me, and I dont like people like that. But deep down i feel that if i go that i'll become good friends with them. What should I do? (link)
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I'm having a really hard time understanding what you're talking about, unfortunately.
About all I can say here is that giving people a chance is usually a good thing.
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My son is in 4th grade and was just suspended for being reported for what he said to a girl but denied it and he keep saying he didn't say to 4 teachers & then told me a story that I really thought was the truth because My son would never open his mouth to say that. I was going to see why he was the only one since I felt they made it up. I was asking him all the names on the way to his school then he said not to tell on his friends made me think why not so I told him if he said anything to her at all better say it now,before I look stupid in there and then he said yes he said it I couldn't believe this was my son that the next day still have not punished him. What should I do when I'm hurt & angry I can't even look at him because I want to just get the belt out and bet his ass.(sorry)but I know I would really hurt him so I need advice on teaching what he did was wrong and help teach him how to respect adults? (link)
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Good for you for restraining yourself from punishing him until you're calmer! Physical punishment is not the way to go about this.
As soon as you feel up to it, have a long talk with him (but a talk, not a yelling session!). You need to explain two things to him: first, why he can't say hateful things to girls (or any other kids), and second, why he can't lie to you. Make it clear to him that these are separate issues, and that you wouldn't have been quite as upset if he had told the truth to start. Be very upfront about the fact that you are personally very disappointed in him, and why it matters to you.
I think he should be punished -- he needs to be clear about the fact that actions have consequences. It's up to you, of course, how you want to do it, and you may feel that the suspension is enough. But you also may want to revoke some of his privileges temporarily -- for example, if certain of his friends encouraged him to act this way, you might not want to let him hang out with them for a while.
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