HEY EVERYONE, I'M KAT!
and i'm here to help :)
i love to give advice, and i've been told that i give some good advice, aswell.
i'm very dedicated once i get involved in someone's problems, and i'll probably make sure you're okay, and that my answer has been sufficent.
i don't 'sugarcoat' my answers, as just about every columnist on this site complains about, but i do present everything in a way that people will be able to handle, and relate to in their situation.
i could honestly care less about ratings, i just wanna help some people out. in my problems, current and past, i seek help through my friends, who i adore.
i'm a huge my chemical romance fan, and i know pretty much everything about them; so if you have a question on them, i'm here. go for it. ;)
i'm unique in my own way, so ask me for something, and i'll give you a fairly different answer.
XOXO
KAT!
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I need a prank to play at my slumber party. Any ideas? (link)
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Hey,
Drawing on your friends and taking pictures is always a good thing. :P
I'm not sure which kind of prank you'd like; one to really scare, or one for laughs.
If you want one to scare, try acting like you, or one of your friends in on the prank is really hurt. Then, see how everyone reacts.
Maybe tell your friends someone's outside looking in the window? Haha, run down your steps after saying you need to use the bathroom or something, saying someone was watching or something.
It sounds stupid, but try looking up 'pranks' on YouTube. You'll find some good stuff, there. :P
Hope I've helped!!
XOXO
KAT!
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I just want to get big i am a running back for my football team. I lift all the time everyday in school but nothing seames to work what should i do? (link)
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Hey!
Take it slow, definitey. The season just started-here,at least- so you're not going to see any huge results too quickly.
You might want to try working on all parts, legs, abs, everything. This will make everything proportional, and you'll look bigger and more muscular.
Also, make sure you eat very healthily! If you've just got fat over the muscle, you'll end up looking bigger, but definitely not in the way you're wanting. So you might consider losing some weight in fat, and gaining it in muscle. :)
Ask your coach for some specific exercises, he should be able to help out!
Good luck, and I hope I've helped.
XOXO
KAT!
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since cellulite is fat, will exercise get rid of it? im only 15 and i have a lot in my butt, and my thighs right under my butt but i only weigh 124. so, i dont ever want to get into a swimming suit because everybody will see it. and i look at everybody else my age and their butts are all like tight and perfect lol. anyways, will running get rid of it? or what can i do? (link)
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Hey!
I'd say you're pretty thin already, definitely normal for your age.
But yes, running will help it go away. Basically any cardio or aerobic exercise will help to take that away. It will tighten the muscles, but make sure that you eat properly, so that you can actually see the muscle underneath!
Just watch how much you exercise, because you'll lose stuff everywhere, and since you're already thin, you'll have to watch it. :)
XOXO
KAT!
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man look im a real playa an all rite so me n mah nigga nick always playen girls so he introduced me 2 dis one girl because he told me she got lots o money so now its not bout dat i realy like her alot an all like alot alot i dont know wat 2 do please sum one help me (link)
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Um, maybe try actually acting like a gentleman towards her? Be nice to her, and don't act like a humungous 'player'.
Yea, flirting and stuff is good, but make sure you respect her, too.
Compliment her, ask her questions about herself, make inside jokes, mess around. That kind of stuff.
XOXO
KAT!
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i dont understand. is limewire illegal?
like lets say i downloaded it. and i downloaded new songs onto my computer from it. is that illegal? (link)
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It's kind of gay, actually, the policy. It's not illegal to actually have limewire, but downloading any content is, because it would otherwise cost something on any other program, lol.
I'd just say not to try to go selling burned CDs or anything, and I think you'll be fine just using it. :)
XOXO
KAT!
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I started going tanning about 4 week's ago.
For the first 3 day's i went for 6 minutes.
And after that i kept going up on the minutes.
During the 3-4 weeks i went tanning , i only used a stand up bed , and i went 12 minutes everyday. So my question is ; am i at risk for skin cancer ? (link)
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Well, any kind of tanning, to my knowledge, puts you at risk for skin cancer. Though indoor tanning may or may not be as dangerous as the real thing -it all depends on the level or heat/light you're losing- Yes, you're still at risk.
Honestly, the best thing to do is to be happy with your own skin, but if you really must have that glow, lol, I'd reccomend the oils and spray tans. Contrary to popular belief, there are some good ones out there.
Best of luck, and I hope I've helped!
XOXO
KAT!
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I've been with my boyfriend since October 23rd 2005, i'm 15 almost 16 and he turned 18 in March. [ if that helps ]. He started living with me about 6 months after we met. We fight sometimes , but when we do fight he sometimes gets abusive. We got in a fight like a week ago and he grabbed me by the back of my neck forcing my head down in the my bed. My first thought after he did it was " well i don't feel the pain now , but i know in a couple days my neck will hurt ". and so it did.... i really love him alot and i wish he would change. is there anything i can change about myself for him to stop this , because i know in the future if this keeps happening , we won't be together.
thank you so much.
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This definitely isn't going to be the answer you'll want to hear, but if you just try to change and meet his demands, he'll get worse. No girl, or guy deserves to be in this kind of relationship. And you're only fifteen going on sixteen? That's totally unnessesary.
Don't change yourself. If you do, make it for the better. Make yourself bolder. If this guys even tries to touch you again, kick him. Fast and hard.
He may be your boyfriend, but this is assault and that's kind of against the law.
If you want to stay with him, and think his actions have been for some odd, abnormal reason, talk to him. If it helps, have a family member or friend who knows him well with you, too. Maybe even one of his family members who might know what he's been doing. Talk everything over, and maybe he'll realize what he's doing is wrong.
If nothing changes, though, you need to report him to the police, or leave him or something, because in the worse, but possibly most common scenerio, he'll get worse, and you'll end up getting really hurt, and NO BODY needs that.
If not for you, do it for the other people who love you.
Try to talk to him, and then see what happens.
Best of luck, and even if this may not be the answer you were looking for, it may be the answer you need to hear. I hope I've helped in some way.
XOXO
KAT.
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what are the sign that ur friends is drifting away? and what does it mean when your friend is "trying to drift away" from them? (link)
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Having your friends 'drift away' is basically when they begin to not want to talk to their friend as much as they used to, or their relationship dosen't seem as good or close or fun as it used to be.
Some of the signs may be that they're ignoring you, not calling/or answering your phone calls, not talking to you as much, not seeming as trustworthy, hanging out alot without you, and the obvious things that would essentially, and unfourtunately lead to a lack of friendship between two people (fighting, being mean/ignorant, ect)
A friend TRYING to drift away is basically someone trying to stop being friends with someone else, but dosen't want to flat out say anything.
Hope this helps..
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ok, i'm having a hard time understanding the whole "friends with benefits" thing. i mean, if you're attracted to someone, and that close to them, why wouldn't you want to just be boyfriend/girlfriend? and i know this sounds sexist, but... i can understand why a guy would like this arrangement ("woo-hoo, i can mess around with any girl i want!"), but as for the girls... don't you feel used and cheap? or are there really that many girls who just want sex and nothing else? i'm really not trying be judgemental, i just want to understand it! (link)
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I think it's that the girls may want stuff like that, but it's also more likely that they want the guy to really like them. I just wouldn't go with that kind of thing, because the guys only in it for the physical stuff, and not the emotional stuff.
Basically, the girl's hoping the guy will eventually become attracted to her if she goes through with that kind of stuff. :(
Hope this has helped, though!
XOXO
KAT!
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What are the bases? (link)
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If you're reffering to cheerleading bases, they are the girls who hold the cheerleader who goes in the air's legs. They hold the stunt up with their arms for power. There are two, one for each leg.
If you need more info, just let me know!
xo_graziano_ox@hotmail.com
XOXO
KAT!
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Hey guys can somebody explain to me (LIKE A LOT + EVERYTHING) about cheerleading stunt groups. I need to know the positions and what you're supposed to do and stuff. Also, some easy stunts that I could do with my group =] (link)
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Okay, so I'm not sure EXACTLY what you want; but here you go from a flyer. :P
BASE-There are two. These girls are usually and generally strong, and fairly tall, but it all depends on the build of your flyer. The bases should be close in height, if not, adjust by spreading the legs of one, to make her shorter. NEVER go on your toes to try to reach a stunt. These girls support the stunt by holding the flyer's legs above their heads.
FLYER/TOP-This is the one who goes in the air. She's generally small and light, but there are always variations, according to your squad girl size. This girl needs to lock her legs and keep her body tight. As easy as this looks, the flyer MUST push off of her bases while in the load in; she needs to have power, and needs to support herself by sucking in her stomach, butt and LOCKING HER LEGS. Flyers generally use a high-v in the air, for balance.
BACKSPOT-Backspots help the flyer into the stunt, and holds the ankles of the girl while in the stunt. The backspot is usually the girl who counts for the stunt, and decides when to pop, ect. This girl needs to be strong, as easy as the position looks. She needs to pull up on the flyer's ankles/calfs, so that the bases have less weight in their hands.
I'd write up all of the information here, on stunting, but here is a great website that should really help you!
http://www.lifetimetv.com/shows/cheerleader/index.html
Enjoy, and good luck with stunting! Don't try anything unless you think it's safe, and try to watch your tecnique, not just on getting the stunt up there!!
Smile, Sparkle, Shine. ;)
KAT.
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Is there any way to have your period go faster? Im going on an overnight trip with my class in a few days and im on my period. but it will be really uncomfortable. HELP!
thanks in advance
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Sorry, but you wont be able to speed it up or anything.
But don't sweat it; if you don't think about it too much, you won't even realize you've got it, guarentee. I mean, I've cheered and forgot about it. :P
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my cat keeps killing animals outside, and bringing them in my yard. shes killed four different things just this week and brought them in my yard. my mom hates her, and i threatening to get rid of her. how can i stop her from doing this? keeping her inside isnt an option, sooo.
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Aw, that sucks.
My cat used to do this, too, I think.
The only option I can think of is to get a little garden fence (from like, Kmart or Walmart in the gardening section,t hey're cheap) and this should help keep the cat in.
I mean, it's probably too late to scold her for that, because she probably wouldn't understand, so I'd just reccomend the fence thing.
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okay like for the last names "haskins" and "moretti" what country did they originate from? like are those last names italian french german polish etc... (link)
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Moretti sounds like a VERY Italian last name. Haskins, I'm pretty sure, is Irish, though it could also be German.
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I know this sounds quite weird haha but.. when i go to the bathroom, basically at school where there are like 2 stalls, i like can't pee if there is someone else in the bathroom. like i CAN pee if im going to like explode, but i just cant pee. i dont know why its like i am ashamed of it. its a mental thing and i dont know. whatss up with this it annoys me so much because sometimes i really have to pee.
hahaaa sorry if this is weird (link)
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Oh, I understand this.
Haha, the only reason it's awkward, is because someone else can hear you.
All you have to do is make sure either, someone else is going at the same time (so it's not like, one person) or wait until someone's out.
Those are a bit drastic. Maybe turn the hand dryer on, or flush the toilet before/during the time you go, then no one can hear.
If anyone asks about that, just say there was something in the toilet or something.
Hahaha.
XOXO
KAT.
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So, I have been going out with this guy, for a little over three weeks. He told me that he can't see us in the long-term having a relationship because I'm an atheist and he's a catholic. Like, when we get married - everything will just be screwed up. He said he still wants to be friends with benefits, the thing is. I can't understand why he would want to be that, you know?
What would you do? (link)
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Aw, this really stinks.
Honestly, I'd probably just stay away from him. If he's not dedicated enough to stay in a relationship, he shouldn't deserve you just for the physical stuff.
I'd honestly say just to respect YOURSELF, and just be friends. It would keep things easier, because chances are, you'll end up liking him again, and he'll not feel the same way or something.
XOXO
KAT
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what should i wear to a rockish concert, with fall out boy? It will probably be warm, but idk what to wear. helpp!
p.s. i dont have a jean skirt or jean shorts..just normal jeans.. thankss (link)
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Be very comfortable, and be ready to move around; especially if you're going to be in a standing section. If you like this band, I'm assuming you have a shirt? I'd reccomend to wear that with, with some cute ripped jeans or plain jeans. Not many people are gonna notice what you're wearing, though, really.
Sneakers, definitely.
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Hi, I'm 15/f. And I'm 4'11. I wanna to know things I can eat, drink, or do to get taller.
By the end of this summer, I want to grow at least 3 inches. Please, I really want to get a bit taller.
Ps: Please don't tell me "Just eat a balanced diet" or as to why I wouldn't be able to grow. Just answer if you know what I can do. (link)
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I agree with taking vitamins. You can't really do much else to MAKE yourself get taller, though.
You're low on your age, on the height. You could go to the doctor for some x rays (that's what I had to do) and if they approve it, you can get some shots to possibly help your endocrine system, which could help you get taller.
Check it out with your doctor. :)
It may just be genetic, though, that you're short.
Embrace your height, I know I do, haha.
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i woke up this morning and i had a zit on the side of my face. the dance is also tonight. i need a way for my zit to go away or less noticeble. i need help fast. i rate high (link)
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Well,
You can't exactly make it dissapear by tonight. I'm warning you, do NOT try to pop it, either, unless it's turning white and is actually ready to be popped. That could cause scarring and more acne.
The only thing I'd suggest is to not worry about it, use lotion so it dosen't get all dry and icky, or use a good coverup.
I'd just say not to worry about it, because dances are usually dark, anyways.
In the meantime, use the tips I told you about, and use a topical cream, or wait it out.
XOXO KAT
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What does the phrase "to knock your lights out" mean? (link)
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It basically means to knock someone out. Like, to hurt really bad, or make them unconcious. :)
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