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Friends w/ Benefits - I don't get it
ok, i'm having a hard time understanding the whole "friends with benefits" thing. i mean, if you're attracted to someone, and that close to them, why wouldn't you want to just be boyfriend/girlfriend? and i know this sounds sexist, but... i can understand why a guy would like this arrangement ("woo-hoo, i can mess around with any girl i want!"), but as for the girls... don't you feel used and cheap? or are there really that many girls who just want sex and nothing else? i'm really not trying be judgemental, i just want to understand it!
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I have trouble understanding it for the same reasons. Your feelings are correct so keep them
and never do this. :)
I think, and this is just my opinion, that most girls in this type of relationship are hoping the guy will change his mind and want them as a girlfriend.
Some may just be in it for sex, but
I'd bet if they were honest, most are not.
The guy is getting what he wants without having to commit to anything. He can date other girls, they think he is wonderful because he isn't pressuring them for sex.
Meanwhile Miss Benefits doesn't date other guys, doesn't realize other guys probably know what shes up to. She gets a reputation. The guy doesn't have to spend any money on her, and he will take the girlfriend to the dance while she goes alone.
So you keep feeling the way you do and don't get wrapped up in a relationship like that. Discourage your friends. Girls need to wake up and have a little self respect.
Thanks for the question. Maybe if some girls see that not everyone is falling for that kind of thing it will open their eyes. :)
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yes people ask this question a lot most guys want friends with benifits because they dont want a relationship only to mess around and have sex but the gurls do feel cheap and used but yet there still freinds with benifits we the women mostly do this although sometimes but rarley its the other way around but we do this because we like them and its the only way we can have them but basically friends with benifits fucking and screwing around like boyfriend and gurlfriend do but without the committment and your free to do who ever you want and your not cheating i know its stupid but yet it happens i hope i helped
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I think it's that the girls may want stuff like that, but it's also more likely that they want the guy to really like them. I just wouldn't go with that kind of thing, because the guys only in it for the physical stuff, and not the emotional stuff.
Basically, the girl's hoping the guy will eventually become attracted to her if she goes through with that kind of stuff. :(
Hope this has helped, though!
XOXO
KAT!
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ok sometimes with freinds with benefits its complicated for example a girl may be attracted to more then one guy but she doesnt want to hurt either of them so she has freiends with benefits .. basically you are single but always have a partenr just incase u want action.. i dont know if that helped much or not
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