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heyhey, well this is where i tell you bout myself im guessing, well im 16, i live in norwood ma, i go to a technical school. my screenname is chiquitablaze420. and i have a myspace website and an xanga, thats it. the rest are fakers! alrighty well ask away kids, im here to help you the best i can :) peacee

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14/m my parents are always talkin about how bad life used to be for them. They keep telling me how they used to get beaten for everything they did wrong. I know i'm not perfect and i deserve punishment sometimes, but this is torture! I made it known that im not interested in hearing these depressing stories and its like they don't hear me because they keep telling the stories. and its not even like they change it up, cuz they don't. I just got in trouble for saying i didn't want to hear it again about 2 hrs ago. How can i let them know that i don't want to hear the stories anymore? What should i do? plz help. thx

hey man, tell them that it sucks what they went through and you are glad they treat you with respect but it makes you upset to think about how bad they had it and how much if must of sucked for them. and maybe they will get off your back a little bit and ease up on the story telling..if not get a portable cd player and wear it around the house jk, no but talk to them about it but dont be rude when you say it. alrighty!
good luck dude!
love unity!

I am 14/f and my cousin who is 12/f will not leave me alone...i see her everyday and she calls me like 5 seconds after i see her on my cell phone and she wont shut up...she wont leave me alone on the internet and she keeps talking to me and my friends....it bugs the hell out of me.... and she copies everything i do and everything i wear....when i told her that she has to let me have some space she started crying and told her mom that i told her i hated her...which i never said. Her mom came over and told me that i had to be nice to her because she had no friends. What should i do to keep her from annoying me with out making her cry and making me look like a bad person?

Heyy, thats kinda cool that your cousin looks up to you, but i know that it can get annoying, introduce her to some 12 years that you know, or if theres a school function at her school then go to it and ask her about her friends there and have her hold a convosation with them or since she looks up to her talk her into playing a sport at school and add in that it is the new cool thing to do and your going to try out for the same sport at your school, it might get her interested and help her make friends and keep her busy! alrighty i hope i helped!
love unity

13/f i have just moved in my 8th grade year which is still hard for me to get over but my parents rly don't seem to get it that i'm miserable in my new town. my grandmother lives in my old town and offered for me to live with her. and it sounds rly good sometimes my parents and i disagree alot and i know most teenagers do but they still treat me like i'm 5 and its hell forme to live with them. i don't know what i should do. all my true friends are in my old town and i'm there every weekend. if you think i should live with my grandma please tell me what to say to my parental units! please help i have been lingering this for a long time and i have def given my new town a chance i've been here for 5 months

Hey girl, talk to your grandmother about it, tell her you feel miserable and ask her if she can talk to your parents. Going to a new school and being miserable sucks, make your parents a deal that if you go there for one more month and dont like than you can move with your grandparents and see what they say! keep your head up girl and talk to your grandmother!
love unity

ok im not really excited about christmas and i dont know why? i mean i feel like something is missing in my life or is it that im just getting older but i dont think that is true bc i like christmas and all but it just seems like it doesnt matta anymore.

Hey, i felt the same way, and im not to sure but i think its the spirit of christmas, like when you were younger you would go to sleep thinking there was a santa clause that was going to come to your house but now you go to sleep thinking alright im going to wake up the next morning and its going to be like my birthday. there is no magic to it anymore and you just kind of grow out of it, it sucks, but watch christmas movies and make cookies and it might make you feel a little better about christmas and bring some of the your christmas spirit back! aight
love unity

Why do I get in trouble for the simpleist things, honestly I think my parents are out to get or keep in the house forever. I'm like grounded for like 2 months and all that's keeping me up is karate and ever second I'm being punished, all of the times I'm trying to be nice to them and seriously that's all I am doing. I'm 14 and I can't move out so I have no other choice. I'm seriously thinking of getting tape and taping my mouth shut. I get good grades and things but my parents just think sometimes that I'm like a bad daughter, that's the impression I get from them. Help me... =(

Hey, my idea is that maybe you and your parents should go to a counsler, or talk to your guidence counsler at school about how you feel, they can make your parents understand, i went to a counsler with my mom and now we're pretty close, i tell her pretty much everything and feel pretty good about my reletionship with her. Talk to somebody it should help both you and your parents out and help you to deal with them!
alrighty!

love unity

I lost my cuzin and i tell my friends itz ok i hav to get over it i really don't get over cuz i rele miss her and i love her. Shuld i keep tellin my friends this?
Signed
Lost Cuzin

hey,im sorry for your but no you shouldnt keep it in,losing someone is so hard and if you have a close friend you should talk to him/her. you will feel pretty relieved. its not good to keep it in because it will hurt you even more, and thinking about it will make you feel even worse. Losing someone is something you cant get over, yo just have to grieve with it, but it is okay to grieve. And just think, your cousin is probably up in heaven watching over you. So she will always be there. If you need to talk you may respond back on my site, alrighty!

love unity

i personally dont think it matters what people rate me because i think what i gave is good advice, plus i dont care if people have high ratings or not if i ask a question

so what is your opinion?

note: im not gonna rate you if you post here.

i think your absolutly right! everyone has diffrent opinions and if they dont like urs than who cares, your being honest!

hey, ok.... ive been feeling sad lately b/c my bf dumped me. we went out for about 3 weeks and then someone told him i was breaking up w/ him. that wasnt the first time it happened. we continued to have these problems until one day he told me he wants to be single anyway for the first marking period. i didnt know what to say so i just acted like it was ok with me but its really not. were still acting like friends but sometimes i get some clues toward thinking that hes with someone else now. hes asked my friends many times why i broke up w/ him. he didnt want to be with me then b/c he thought i couldnt decide whether i wanted him or not. i think hes moved on but sometimes thinks about me again. i wish he would really want me back. this guy is really important to me alot. ive only had like two bfs b4 him and this one means alot. i feel like ive lost something i didnt deserve to lose. every day i wonder if he will go out with me again in the second marking period like he promised. if he doesnt i dont know wht i will do. please if u have any advice let me know so i wont feel as depressed. thanx so much! ~tepy - 13 -female~

hey tepy, dont worry about it, talk to the guy, and just him about it, and if you dont want to do that than just think about it this way, your either going to be with him or you are going to find somebody better, those are really your only two possibilities, i mean yeah, there might be some losers after him but you will find somebody better or the better will be him! so keep your head up and maybe if he sees that you aint sweatin ova him he'll be like hmmm mann i needa get that girl back, and if not than you will defintly find somebody better because if he wont give you the time of day than he can go....******* haha... u no wat i mean, but defintly talk to him and how you feel and ask him how he feels! alrighty!
:)
peace girl

where do you shop and what kind of shes and clothes do you have? thnx!
- lauren

hey lauren!, i shop at hot topic, wet seal( when im looking for something classy) , pac sun mostly, im not really into stuff like aeropostal or abracrombie..lol i cant even spell it. haha i like independent, element, volcom brands. I used to have phatfarm shoes but they got boring so i just had people sign me them,I now have vans shoes that i live in haha and some black flipflops. my bestfriend kt acutally gives me cool ideas for cloths too, i also like shirts that have funny saying on them, and with my outfits i just get braclets and stuff from hottopic i love them! well if you have anymore questions just ask!!!

Don't you know that drugs don't make you think straight? What's so fun about them? Drugs show that they don't make people artistic. The poems and the music are already in your head, drugs don't make them.

haha, i know drugs dont make you think straight, it makes you think diffrently, the poems and music arent already in my head. if you only even knew the feeling, you probably still wouldnt understand, and for someone to say that i have no future...thats not cool at all because my whole future is right in front of me and im almost at to where i want to be in life. And its not even like drugs are a top priority of my life, i get high and do all the normal things i do...people take anti depressants to fix their chemical inbalances in their heads...and well i blaze. And acutally kmk is a very very good band, and they are rich...they are acutally somewhere in life and that proves to you that your wrong and that you still can be somebody even though you smoke pot. anymore questions..just ask!
peace

i'm thinking about asking my parents for a Lap-Band procedure. it's where they make like a .5 inch incision and stick a rubber band that can be inflated around the top part of your stomach so that your food slowly trickles down into the bottom part of your stomach, filling you up faster. it's a lot safer than gastric bypass because there's no cutting or re-routing involved. have any of you heard about it or even had it? please help me! i checked my BMI and it's 53.5! i almost cried!! thanks.

alicia:-0

hey, i know this is sooo late for answering,but my old advice page was g0inbananas420 and well someone has been going on there just giving rude answers, i cheaked up on the old page (g0inbananas420) and i saw what you wrote and the answer was " who cares lol" i am really sorry for that and i just thought i owed you an apoligy, i think you should first try to lose the weight yourself and if you cant lose anymore than talk to your parents! i am really sorry for before!

How does it make you feel to know your parents really don't care about you? I mean, if they did, they wouldn't let you do all the bad crap you do-you're like high everyday-how could they not know? Either they do and don't care, or they don't even care enough to check to see what you're doing. I feel really bad for you, deserve to have someone care for you. Your answer about why you smoke would be laughable if it weren't so sad. Just like every other stoner and drug addict out there.

how do i feel? well i feel great, all my dreams are finally coming true because of my mother, she has been there every step of the way, she knows i party and that im a little crazy but shes okay because she knows im a teenager and she cheaks up on me just like any mother would do, and she trusts me because i pretty much tell her everything and shes very into my life, i love her more than anyone. And tell me what every stoner and drug addict is like? and tell me what kind of life they live? or where you think one would be...?
answer me that! thanks!

ill be 15 in dayz an last year i wen ta this new skool an when i tried out 4 basketball an made it this rummor got started that i had "did it" wit the coach ta make the team.. when of course i ddin

now this new year even before skool started..
there is now a rumor that i did it wit this dude i wen out wit las year named Criag when i didn an every1 belives it..
i donno what to do bc im not a hoe like that i mean he was my 1st kiss
an all these ppl belive i did it. how can i make it stop.. how can i jus get thro it

hey hun, that really sucks, you need to let rumors pass and those who believe it obviously dont matter in your life, someone obvioulsy envys you, you just gutta keep ur head on straight and remember that thats just talk, worthless people who have nothing better to do than to start a rumor, but defintly confront the person/ people starting the rumor and just dont even be a bitch about it just say "hey im sorry that you feel getting off telling rumors is a pleasure, and that you think of me as a person to do that but i honestly dont care what you think about me, i know those rumors arent true so im not worrying" , and girl i bet those rumors will soon pass by dont worry just keep smiling :)

i rlly dont wanna go to school tomorrow...i get made fun of, but thats not the point. i just wanna make myself throw up one time. ill never do it again..is that really bad?

hey, girl dont worry about what people think of you, you just be you and be true to yourself, hold your head up high and never ever let anyone bring you down, people like that need people like you, they need to bring down someone to make themselves feel good, it is so sick and wrong, but please dont make yourself throw up, its so unhealthy and gives you bad breath, just dont let what anyone says or do bother you, be strong and live positive!
hope i helped!

hi i moved july 6 and well i have the oppourtunity to stay at my school where i was going before i only have one more year ( going into 7th) and but i can go to a diff school if i want (it a long story) welll if i go to the new school i can start over but im not sure if i want to and if i go to the same school it will be the same ol' borin stuff!! well i need help and i will rate only 4's and 5's so? can you help?

hey!! I was going through that same thing, trying to decide if i wanted to stay at my old school or go to a new school! Ive grown up in the same place since I was 3, and Ive basically been around all the same people. So when i got the choice to go to a new school i decided it was best if i tried it out, i was getting sick of my old school and decided i wanted to just start over new, i have my close friends from my old school who i am always going to be close with no matter what, i think its time i need a change so i picked my new school.If you moved and theres no way you can go back to your old school after the one year than i would stick to your old school 1st cuz its ur last times with the people there! and you never know you might miss them!

ok, my boyfriend dumped me. but i have no idia why. he told me that he just didnt want a girl friend.. but i know thats not the reason. ive herd that way to many times before. i cant stop thinking about it. his name is all over my binder in sharpie.. i dont no what to do. im lost. it seems like there are no guys on the earth but him. does anyone know any ways to get my mind off him, or get over him?

hey, yea break ups are really tough, and it hurts, but trust me there are bettr guys, its going to be so hard trying to get over him but give it time. I just think this way when im trying to get over somebody i really liked, you are either going to find a much better guy or this guy is going to come crawling back to you, those are the only two choices. Yea, there might be some loser guys before you find the better guy but you just have to wait a bit and the special new guy will soon to come along!
hope i helped girl!

i swear i have this really really bad eating thing. like when it comes to food i have no appitite. i feel like im hungry sometimes, but the voices inside of me tell me that im really not. people tell me that im really skinny and when i look in the mirror i swear i look like im 300 pounds. please tell me what i should say to the voices. please i hope you can help me!
-Sarah , TX

Hey Sarah, i defintly think you should go to a doctor to get help, people see themselves diffrently then what other people see them as, i think you have to trust yourself and just when you look in the mirror just say to yourself "im beautiful and im no one is going to tell me other wise" i defintly think you need to just believe in yourself that you arent big, you need to be able to feel good about yourself, go talk to a doctor about it and im sure they can help, and just always think positive, your mind is telling you otherwise but you need to take control and think about how you look and how you feel about it. Its most important that you feel good about youself. i hope i helped you out girl, IM me if you need anymore help

I'm 16 and i know im pregnant. Im starting to gain weight, my family has a good reputation,like no pregnancies below 20 i dont know how to tell my mom what should i do

hey hunny, 1st off i think if you have a Planned Parent Hood (deals with pregnent teens, abortions and making the right choices) near by you then you should go there and they can help you with telling your parents, i know it is going to be very hard telling your mother, but she has to know, even though she's probably going to get upset over it she will evenutally cool down and realize this is when you need her most. Dont worry girl, everything turns out fine in the end. And I kind of have a story related to your situation so IM me and we can talk!
bye girl-hope all goes well

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