I stopped caring, I care that I don't care anymore.
Looking at my life, how I got here, I don't have regrets. It just doesn't matter.
its probably wrong for me to say i stopped caring about everything. i do care. but. i dont know. im tired.
it's been in my head for a while now. i dont want to continue like this. i just want to stop.
it bothers me. not caring. i feel like i could have done criminal things with ease. but i have no need for it so i didnt.
it feels good saying this here i guess.
I do have a question
but its stupid for me to ask this here, cause it will probably be positive in a way and im searching for something this site probably wouldnt give me.
thank you,
Goodbye
Joseph Adrian
Hi, Joseph. I'm sorry to hear that you're feeling that way. I'm not a doctor or mental health professional, so I obviously can't say for sure, but from personal experience, it sounds to me like you may be suffering from depression. I'm not sure what question you wanted to ask, but we can do the best we can to answer it for you, or at least point you in the right direction.
At this point, I would recommend seeking help. I know that's probably the last thing you want to hear, but you've made it clear that you don't like the way you're feeling, and you don't have to feel that way forever. Things will get better. But having a counselor or therapist, or even just a good friend to rely on, can help immensely. You don't have to go through this alone.
Please hang in there, and feel free to ask your question.
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I have found these strange white stains in my groin. What can it be? I'm worried,since it gets itchy and smelly:( at times. Thanks!
White stains, itchiness, and odor are all signs of a possible infection, but it could also be a number of other things. Because there are so many things that could cause something like this, the only way to know for sure is to see your doctor. We can only give possible explanations here, and since I imagine these symptoms are bothersome, you should have them checked out.
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Okay, so basically, two years ago a friend and I, wrote witty letters to 'God.' (I, for one, do not believe in him.) And, recently I got a bible in the mail, a long with the notes we wrote, and buried in the snow two years ago. We did not have our addresses on it, but we had our names, and last names.
I just wanna know, based on what you think, was it a stalker, or..?
(Note: She had gotten the bible as well, and there was no return address, and post office could not trace it back. We got the bibles on the same day.)
That is definitely pretty strange. I can understand being a little weirded out by it. But, if they had your names in them, I can't imagine it being very hard for someone to figure out where to send them. It could have possibly even been someone you both knew. Which, in that case, if they knew where you lived, they could have just slipped them in the mailbox instead of actually mailing them.
It's definitely something to keep an eye on, but at this point I don't necessarily think it's anything too be too concerned about, and hasn't crossed the line into stalker territory, not legally anyway. Just stay safe and keep your guard up.
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I know it sounds bad but I'm sick and tired of doing everything I can to further myself and still not having enough money to have the things I really want/need.
Seriously I graduated with honors, have 2080 volunteer hours, took first place both years in a row in Future Business Leaders of America for IT, have all of the Adobe Certifications and I have a full time job plus overtime working for a corporate company.
Where have I gotten from there? NOWHERE and I'm so SICK OF IT! Why am I working this hard when I can't even afford to move out or get a car of my own?!
I saw an episode of Dr.Phil about these guys who call themselves "Sugar Daddies" and give these girls who pretty much just look pretty and hang out with them (though I assume sometimes sex is included) anything they want. One of the women had SEVEN luxury cars and a mansion and the guy was also paying her way through law school.
The other girls had pretty much everything they wanted as well for pretty much nothing...they were all filthy rich and no older than 30.
So now I keep thinking well why can't I do that?
I'm pretty, smart, young and have nothing to lose! I have no car, no place of my own I come home exhausted to be bitched at by my mom and shelling out $750 a month to her to make her shut up. I have no life so why not make myself one?
I signed up for one of the sites already and right away I got messages from rich men talking about beautiful I was and how attractive it was that I was intelligent too. Some of them even offered to fly me out to see them and one of them even wanted me to come stay with him in his mansion and offered me a great job with his company that he proved to me existed.
Being an idiot I haven't said yes to any of them.
I'm so scared that one of them will kidnap me, rape me, kill me or force me into staying with them against my will because they'd know I would have nowhere else to go.
So I keep going to work every day and living a boring life not getting anywhere and talking to others just like me not getting anywhere and just being buried in debt and misery.
One of the guys from the site I decided I wanted to meet day after tomorrow so we're meeting at a sushi place in town (so as not to put myself in danger). We've been talking for weeks and he's not super rich but he's very well off and not looking for sex out of me. He's looking for an actual relationship which I really like and he lives in my state and often travels for his job so I figured that would give me time in between to really figure out if I could really have a relationship with him. The problem is if my mom ever found out she would freak out. He's in his 40's but I don't care. I've always liked older men anyways and he seems very genuine.
I hope to find somebody though who's VERY rich and winds up buying me a car or something really awesome like that.
Is this bad? I've just worked so hard and I don't see myself going anywhere without the help of a wealthy person and this seems like the perfect thing to do...
Whether or not it's "bad" is subjective. Everyone has their own set of beliefs and morals, so what's wrong to one person may be fine to another. I definitely agree that this is a risky situation, and something you need to do a lot of thinking about before you get too far into it. It could, in some ways, be compared to prostitution, depending on how you look at it. But if it's between two consenting adults, both who know exactly what type of relationship it is and what's to be expected, then I guess it's not a huge issue. You definitely need to be careful and take every possible step to protect yourself. There are bad people everywhere, you can't always avoid them, but you should have some safety measures in place.
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I am a university student and was supposed to be meeting with my tutor tomorrow to discuss how my dissertation is going. I felt a bit under prepared but I didn't want to tell her that in case she thought I hadn't been working hard enough, so I emailed her saying I had to work and asked if I could see her on Friday instead. The email bounced back, so later on I sent her another one, this time admitting that I was under prepared. As soon as I'd sent it I noticed that my original email had now been sent, so now she will have two emails from me with two different excuses and she will realise that I have lied.
What should I do? I've looked into recalling it etc but it isn't possible.
Definitely tell her the truth. If she got both emails, then chances are she knows what's going on, anyway. It wasn't a huge lie, but lying to try to get out of it is the worst thing you can do. I imagine she'll be fairly understanding about the whole thing. Chances are, though, she may not even ask.
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Hi im 15 and mostly talk to a group of 3 girls every night on facebook..our conversations are quite short lived becus it will usually be 'wat u doing?' then they ask me and i might ask them something about school..im always the one who keeps the conversations going but am also boring them with the same questions! Does anyone have any advice on conversation.i also really like one of them but i think i am boring her is there any way of flirting without telling her how i feel until i think she feels the same:) all help appreciated
Keeping a conversation going can be difficult at times. The best thing you can do, especially with the one you have a crush on, is to try to get to know her, assuming you don't know much about her already. Start small, favorite music, movies, tv shows, things like that. Try to find something you two have in common. That can lead to longer, deeper discussions. A quick google search will also show you tons of sites that list questions you can use to get to know someone.
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I just wanted to know do birth control pills work because I have to take them and just to make sure they wont harm me
Birth control pills can be up to 99.9% effective when taken correctly. It is important to take them at the same time every day in order to get the best results from them. They don't protect from STDS, though, so you should definitely take that into consideration when having sex. There are potential side effects, such as weight gain, sore breasts, and nausea, but you should look up the side effects of the type of pill you're on, just to be sure. It is very very rare that they cause serious side effects, and it's usually a case of allergic reaction. Just monitor any signs closely and talk to your doctor if anything feels off.
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I've searched loads of sights and none have told me what my dream could mean.
Its pitch black and i am in house 18,green door, we got here in a red van (never see anyone else thats with me) and the cupboards are broken. then i hear a cold voice saying “you have failled!” it laughes and the whole area is pure black,i'm falling. i feel my tummy turning and then i wake up scared,cold and out of breathe. i have this dream EVERY week.please help it frightens me alot. :(
It sounds to me like it could represent something you're stressing over. A common interpretation for falling dreams is a feeling of inadequacy and self-esteem issues. Maybe there's a goal that you feel like you're not reaching, or a situation that you feel like you're not handling well. This would also help explain what the voice is saying.
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Hello Advicenators!I honestly have wave wanted to die for a while now.I am a 13 year old female and have cut myself almost everyday scince I was 11.I feel like I'm not worth thr very air that I breath.It hurts sometimes how bad it feels to be here even now.I cannot do this. I need a friend.
I'm sorry you're going though all that, and you are definitely worth the air that you breath. I'm sure you're used to hearing this advice often, but the best thing you can do right now is talk to someone. Talk to your parents, a school counselor, or consider visiting a therapist.
I've been depressed before, and seeing a therapist helped me a lot. They don't try to force you to take any medication, and they can attempt to help you figure out what's causing your feelings, and how to better deal with them.
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15/F
I got my belly button pierced in November.. It's still infected .. I don't know if I should let it close or not? How would I know?? And If I did let it close how long would it take to heal? I want to get it repierced somewhere else.. Help please bcus I'm dated /:
I definitely agree that you need to talk to your piercer about it, but if it's been infected for this long then you really need to see your doctor as well. I've had several piercings and was always told to not remove them if they get infected, but it may be different in your case. Go to a doctor and talk to your piercer as soon as possible.
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I was in a bad car accident 15 years ago and they had to do a lot inside my stomach so I have a big scar there. A couple of years ago I had my tubes tied and they cut my bowels and they had to fix them. But anyways I have been having this really bad pain on the left side of my belly button, it feels like my stomach is tearing. I have had 2 CAT scans and they can't find anything wrong. Can anyone help me?? I feel like everyone just thinks I am making it up because they can't find anything.
If the pain is that bad, then I wouldn't just blow it off. After going through so much surgery, this isn't something to take chances on. Be persistent. Go to several different doctors if you have to, get as many opinions as possible. Stomach pain can be caused by so many different things that it's hard to give advice on it, but even if it turns out to be something small, it's better to be safe than sorry.
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Female, Just Turned 13.
Hi! So... Me and my BFF met in the beginning of the school year (August) - And she has changed my life.
However... Our other friend told me she was moving. Long story short: She kept it from me! She said she wanted me to FIND OUT! ;( Ok so she moved before Winter break..
Winter break ended and she wasn't here all week. She texted me and told me the news.. Ever since, I couldn't stop crying. Seriously! We were even going to go to Disney World in May.. I'm so depressed. I can barely eat or sleep. What do I do? She changed my life and she meant so much to me ;(. Everytime I think of the good memories or the day we met, I start to cry. She was the bestest friend I ever had!
I'm very sorry to hear about you losing your friend. I know that can be a heartbreaking situation. It seems a little strange to me that she would keep that from you, though, but maybe she was upset about it as well and that was her way of handling it.
If you need to cry then cry. There's nothing wrong with that. You have to handle the loss of the relationship in whatever way works best for you. Try to stay in touch with her, and always remember the memories you have together, but don't be afraid to make new friends and have fun. I know it's hard right now but thinks will get easier in time.
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lm sexualy involvd wth my bf and l havent got my periods for 2months now,have had 3tests and they all came negative went to a doctor had anothr test and it was also negative,l sometimes feel like vomiting and have lost my apertite lm worried but then is it posible that l cant be pregnant.need help please
While it is still possible, the chances of four tests, including one done by a doctor, coming back with false results is extremely rare. I'm not sure how long ago your last test was, but if it's been a little while, I'd take one again if I were you, just to be safe.
There are other things that can cause missed and irregular periods, including stress, which could also cause a loss of appetite, and it does sound like you may be pretty stressed at this point.
Either way, though, if the text comes back negative, it may be best to go see a gynecologist to make sure nothing serious is causing your missed periods.
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So my brothers friend james he's in 9th grade and I'm in some7th grade. Ever since last summer we've both had crush on each other so we would try and hang out when school started. But every time he wanted to hang out i wasn't able to. Soon enough he thought i was blowing him off. Yet i wasnt and he told my friend that he was sad and mad at me , by the way he never talks to my friends about us because he doesn't want anyone to know he likes me. It been 2 weeks sence we talked. I don't know if he's worth the wait or if i should just get over him. Or if i should text him
Waiting two weeks does seem a little much. But, he is upset with you because he thought you were blowing him off, and although you really weren't, I can imagine why it might seem that way to him. This could be his way of trying to figure out if you're really interested in him or not. If you are, then text him and explain the situation to him as best as you can.
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All right so my story starts like this.
So I have been liking (and now, close enough to loving) a guy right from 2010 when I first met him. We ended up in two different places. He started becoming close to me, but he had a girlfriend in 2010. I liked him, anyway. We becaame close friends. And it only grew stronger. To be true, he was attracted to me even while he was in a relationship. I told him I like him. We used to text almost everyday. We even sexted and flirted, sometimes. And his relationship started faltering. (because his girl was also in a different place, long distance problems) It ended, finally this year, and he was heartbroken. He started getting over her. I went to his place to meet him, by this time, because he was single, I was free of guilt and we made out, many times. Also, he cares about me a lot and considers me to be one of the closest. We fought a lot, but ended up resolving issues everytime. Our sexting, flirting, caring continued. He told me he really likes me but since he has just gone through a bad long distnace, he cant do another one, and he doesnt want to hurt me. He thinks his ex has been a bitch. Yesterday I asked him what is the most beautiful thing in his life, and he asked me the same thing.I said 'it's you' and he was shocked. He said 'I am a bad guy, I hurt you, why do u like me etc' I got mad over him. He apologized to me and said because he feels guilty about me having given given given and he thinks he has not been able to give me what I deserve ( a relationship) but he loves it that I am there and that 'I am dam important to him'
So basically I like this guy and I have waited for him too long. I have given him unconditional care, love, support. He is a beautiful person. I find his presence very soothing. I feel very safe in his arms. He has been truly supportive.
I have been balancing out my emotions and friendship with him. It has been painful, and even embarrassing. he does not want me to go.
Should I wait more? But what I dont get is till when? Till when should I keep myself hanging? What if he never wants a relationship?
There is this other guy who likes me, a loooooot. But i told him I cant do justice to him because I alreayd like someone else. That is not very relevant, actually.
The main question that troubles me is that till when should I wait for him to come and since his plane has just crashed, will he be ready any soon to board another?
Sigh. I dont know.
Maybe you have something to say.
Thanks in advance.
Situations like that can be extremely tough. I'm not sure how long ago him and his ex ended their relationship, but everyone has different periods of time that they need to heal from things like that, and it's pretty honorable that he doesn't want to rush into anything at the risk of hurting you.
The one thing that concerns me, though, was his willingness to flirt and sext with you while he was in a relationship, because what if you two form a relationship and he's willing to do the same to you? That's not saying that he will, though, but it's definitely something to consider.
As for what you can possibly do right now, you deserve to be happy. If that means moving on, then move on. If you're extremely interested in a relationship with him, though, your best bet at this point may be to just sit down and talk with him. Tell him exactly how you're feeling about the whole situation. Don't try to rush him into anything, just ask if he's going to be willing to take things further with you at some point or if you should just move on.
Ultimately, though, you have to decide what you want more in this situation, and if you like this guy enough to wait it out.
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I don't wish to stir up a lot of controversy but rather to get info and opinion on circumcision. My friend just had a baby and wasn't sure whether to have this procedure performed. She's asking male friends their view.
She doesn't nor do I like the idea of inflicting pain on a child. I've read this operation takes 10-20 minutes and is hard on the infant. However, I've also read that an intact foreskin is hard to clean for a child, there can be cheesy discharge that hardens under the head and that the foreskin can crack or tighten as an adult needing the procedure. I don't know if any of this talk of preventing STDs, AIDS or cancer is true either.
I'm just hoping I can go back to my friend with a better idea of what I feel about it after hearing from people hear especially parents who did and didn't have it done and whether they would do it again based on what their experience was.
As a female with no children, I can't give any personal experiences on the matter, but I have done some research on it so I'd like to pass on some information I have found.
Circumcision is a highly debated topic and you're likely to get strong opinions from both side of the fence. Some studies have indicated that circumcised males are less likely to develop UTIs, penile cancer, STIs, and HIV. Some studies even indicate a 60% decrease in HIV transmission in circumcised males compared to uncircumcised males.
Circumcision can increase the risk of meatitis (inflammation of the opening of the penis), and the risks that come with having any kind of surgical procedure are included. Also, the American Academy of Pediatrics state that "there is no absolute medical indication for routine circumcision of the newborn."
Of course, all of these things are debatable, including any studies conducted. The best thing your friends can do is conduct as much research as possible on the issue, consider the pros and cons, and make a decision together.
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I hate being home on long breaks from college. When I'm at school everything is amazing and I'm perfectly happy. At home, I feel surrounded by a general sense of negative energy. I don't click with my friends here the way I do at school, my family annoys me, I get easily irritated, I'm extremely lazy, and always tired despite getting 10 hours of sleep a night (or day, I typically go to bed at 4am and sleep until 1:30 in the afternoon ugh I hate that). Everyone here annoys the hell out of me. I hate having to drive to do anything. I hate how cold it is. I overthink things and get depressed. Over the summer I had huge issues with being home. My job gave me intense anxiety and I had a self-esteem crisis. I felt like the biggest loser ever. Then I returned to school and it's literally the opposite. I just had the best semester ever. I'm a totally different person at school than I am home. ughh I just want to be there and have my regimented schedule back with all the people who I love and make me happy, all my work and classes, and beautiful, serene outdoor scenery. How can I be make the most out of these next 4 weeks at home and be more of a cheerful, energetic person?
I agree, try to keep in touche with your friends from college if you can. That may help with some of the issues. The tiredness could be from the change of sleeping schedule. I imagine you probably don't sleep so long when you're taking classes. Maybe try sticking to a similar sleeping schedule as you do then so it doesn't mess with your internal clock too much.
I'm not sure what your hobbies are, but a time like that would be a good time to engage in one, or find a new one. Something to occupy your mind and give you a sense of accomplishment so you don't feel so lazy and stressed.
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Okay, so my name is Allison and I am 13/f. Well there is this new guy named James 15/m that just moved to my town. Well me and James have been dating for abot 3 weeks now. And i think he is wanting to have sex. When its just the 2 of us he always makes remarks about how sexy and stuff he thinks I am. But he seems to kinda force me to do things with him like let him finger me, blow jobs, etc. I want to know if I should go through with sex and stuff. Oh, by the way he does drugs and steals and does other things I am not proud of. So, thanks:)
It is not okay for him to force you to do things. That should be red flag number 1. Also, if he's into so many illegal activities, you being close to him could potentially cause some issues for you if the police happen to catch onto what he's doing. You're obviously feeling uncomfortable with the way he acts, so do what, in my opinion, is the best course of action and leave now. You deserve better than this.
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Hey there. I need some advice on something that's been bothering me for a while. I would like to know if it's right or wrong to live together before marriage? What are the reasons of why it's right? What are the reasons of why it's wrong? My ex that I just broke up with told me that she would rather wait until marriage to be living with her lover. I however would rather live with my future wife before marriage if possible. It gives me the chance to see how they normally live and how we can fix issues we don't like about each other. Her reasoning of why she didn't want to live together is because it states in the bible that living together before marriage is wrong. I too am religious, but disagree with that fact in the bible. But I know that once once gets married, your stuck with that person for good. I don't want to ever get divorced and my ex also doesn't believe in getting divorced either. But that wasn't the reason she broke up with me. We broke up because it did seem like the relationship was moving too fast and it seemed like she wanted to get married sooner than later and she was very clingy at times which I hated and she was offended when I would say that to her. She however has been in a couple abusive relationships and had other abuse to her in the past. As a result of the abuse, often she would whine about stuff quite frequently too.
Thank you for your question. Whether or not to live together before marriage is something I hear people argue about fairly often, and it is definitely something that comes with it's good points and bad. I can't say much as far as religion goes, because I'm not very religious, but I can say that if your beliefs are very important to you, this would be something to really take in consideration (which I can see you're already doing). Now, other than religion, there are a few other things to consider.
I have always been an advocate of living together before marriage because of the reasons you stated: You really get to know someone, their habits, their routines, their quirks, and it can help you determine whether or not you are going to be able to live with them forever. The little things that annoy you about each other may be easier to deal with if there isn't the added pressure of being married involved.
On the other side of this, one of the possible cons of living together before marriage is that you could lose the excitement of "being married." If you're already living together, then you won't have that big change that a lot of people do, and you could miss out on the excitement of that.
Those are just a few of the possible pros and cons of this situation. While I usually recommend living together before marriage, ultimately it is up to the couple to decide, and is not a decision that should be taken lightly. Lots of communication between partners is needed to ensure that whatever decision you make is the best one.
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So for about 3 months now, my ears have been very dry and very sore. I went to the little clinic and they told me to clean them with peroxide. I tried that, and it didnt work. I tried putting neosporin, and regular alcohol on them and they continue to be sore and whenever I put my earrings in (real gold) they hurt really bad and they get hot and swell up. Sometimes, I can't even get the earrings in my ear at all. I feel like I've tried everything. Does anyone have any suggestions to help?
I'm not sure about the persistent dryness, but it sounds like you may be allergic to the earrings. I think most, if not all, earrings contain some form of metal, like nickel, which some people are allergic to. I would recommend not wearing those earrings anymore. And if the problem still hasn't cleared up, maybe go to a new doctor for a different opinion.
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