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Who I am is of no great consequence. I am a traveler of the Way. Having only seen a glimpse of the great and terrible storm that lingers around us, I can help anyone who wishes my help; all one need to do is ask. Every so often, the winds will change this message giving a new insight on the misfortune that lingers in days to come in our departure from the harbor we commence our voyage.
Some will not understand wisdom that hides in these words, for them I must say in time it all become clear. To understand these words one must have patients, experience, an open mind, and a willingness to learn. If you have these traits (in one form or another), and desire these words of wisdom, then ask away.
Love my friends, is a cherished treasure. Those who find in it purest form, will desirer nothing else. Those who do not will have an emptiness that the world can never fill.
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We all will love something in our time, it is inevitable. However whether we chose to act upon that love is another, we can let it go by as it passes in the river of life, or we can pluck it out when it comes into reach.
Furthermore what we love is also is up to us. Whether we chose to love our mates/partners or what they can do for us, money, power, fame, or whatever else we worship is entirely up to us.
Since the dawn of time, weâ??ve all sought to understand it, we can never fully grasp the power of it, but here are some people who have tried help us better comprehend the Supremacy of our Heart.
"You know you're in love when you can't fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams." Dr. Seuss
"Love me when I least deserve it, because that's when I really need it." Swedish Proverb
"Most people have a harder time letting themselves love than finding someone to love them." Bill Russell
"Since love grows within you, so beauty grows. For love is the beauty of the soul." Saint Augustine
"Love comes when manipulation stops; when you think more about the other person than about his or her reactions to you. When you dare to reveal yourself fully. When you dare to be vulnerable."
Dr. Joyce Brothers
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Till the winds of your choices bring you back,
~Teen Guru~
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what does drinking 8 glasses of water do for you? like will it help me lose some wieght? (link)
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Water is what keeps you running. It helps your muscles and organs run smoothly. By drinking plenty of water, you can work longer (because you’re not so tried), you are less likely to injure yourself during a workout/ sporting actives; as for losing weight, it is possible if you drink enough water in place of other stuff (like soda), because you’re getting that extra sugar and calories. But water alone can’t make you lose weight, you still need to eat right, and exercise often.
I hope this helps you out, let me know if it did!
Best of luck
~Teen Guru~
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I have a phobia that I want to get over but dont know how, please help. (link)
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there is only way to get ride of a phobia, that is to face it. you may need help with breaking it, but it can be done.
I hope this helps let me know if it did?
~Teen Guru~
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I think somebody already asked a question like this, but here I go anyway.
I am about to turn 15 years old in September, and I am in all honors classes this year in highschool. I also want to be in Drama. I was thinking maybe this year I could look for a job. Would that be too much on my plate for one year?
I am also wanting to take tennis lessons and workout after school.
I heard that honors classes hand out alot of homework, but I really want a job because my parents are never willing to pay for certain things, and I dont blame them.
Should I cut down on my after school to-dos? (link)
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First of all ask you yourself, why are you taking all honors classes? Is because of your parents putting presser on you? Do you want to get in to a good collage, like Yale, or Havre? Of what ever the reason
Second ask yourself can I handle it? Honors Classes, and Drama can be quite demanding, same thing with sports, and working out. Jobs are as well. My I recommended a suggestion. Write down all that you plan to, and how long it will take, try to manage it. If you think you can work it go for it. Many people have had a full plate on there platter during school.
Finely I suggest that you think about what you want to do most, whether it is drama, tennis, school, or whatever. Then do it. You are only a child once, live it! Don’t try to grow up too fast if you don’t have to. Take it from someone who knows, don’t waste your childhood on trying to be adult, you never know what you are missing till it’s gone.
I hope this help you on you life’s Journey. Let me know if I helped you in anyway. An dif you need more questions ask don’t be afraid to ask me.
~Teen Guru~
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i cant think of the name of the song or any other words to it but the part that goes "Is this the end of the line" do you know the name of it?
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Familiar with any song that has that, if you remember more about it of who did, I might be able to help
I hope you find it,
~Teen Guru~
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okay well i really really like this guy. and whenever im around him i get the butterflies... i mean hes soo different from any other guy ive met.. but i feel like ive really been giving him mixed signals.. like one day i would be flirting with him and the next day i would like barely talk to him.. and i think that might one day just make him lose interest in me.. i have no clue why im like this around him at times.. i no im not nervouse or shy around him.. it just happens.. please please help me i rate high for good answers.. (link)
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It sounds like you have the typical crush, a crush effects everyone differently, but one typical early stage of it is what you just described. So what can you do, you’ll hate me for this but there is nothing you can do, it if you really have feelings for him this feeling will pass, nothing to do but let it pass. Until then just keep have a friendly relationship with him. Sorry I can’t say more. I hope this help; let me know if it did. I hope it works out for you. And remember if he really likes you, he won’t lose interest.
Best wishes
~Teen Guru~
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Aight, which girl should I go with? Here are my options:
-Sort of preppy, very smart, I like her, she likes me as a friend
-Best friend's sister. Sort of tom-girl-ish
-Internet girl. 2 years older than me. I like her, she likes me. We share similar interests. Don't know what country she lives in. Haven't seen her in 2 months.
-Tomgirl. Known her since I was a year and a half old. Fairly smart.
Please help, I usually rate 5s if I choose to rate, and I'll leave comments. Wiseasses get 1s. (link)
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Well it all depends on what you line in a girl, the one you’ve got a lot in common. The only way you’re going to know which one is right for you, is to try one out if that doesn’t work out you’ll know better for next time. That is why it is important to date many people. I wish I could give you more info on who is right for you, but I can’t only you can make such a decision.
I hope this helps you out, Let me know if it did!
Bets of Luck
~Teen Guru~
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ok! i have a camera, its a dsnap and all, and i have cords to it for the usb ports and theres 3 on my comp. well i've been using my camera for awhile and suddenly 1 day they juss stopped working. when you plug it in, this thing is suppose to come up saying what you wanna do like transfer photos etc. and it doesnt anymore. when i go into the hpzone program for pictures, and try connected that way it says its not connected. i even tried taking the card outta my camera, putting it in my comp. doesnt work either. at last, i tried taking the card and putting it in my printer, trying to transfer the pictures to the comp, and it said that its still not connected!
ill try ANYTHING, so please give advice and ill rate high.
thanks! (link)
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Well first try plugging it in the other Ports, if that doesn’t work then it may be the cord, if that is the case you need to replace it, most electronics stores sell them. And if the new cord doesn’t work, then it may be the comp. in that case you need to take it and have it checked.
I hope this help; let me know if I did.
~Teen Guru~
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I want more confidence...I want to be able to say I look good anf not care what people think
Thankss xoxcaittxox (link)
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If you want more confidences try developing your talents, learn to express your self in front of others. This could be in sports, academics, the arts, etc. Remember that confidences is a two way street, the more effort you put in it the stronger it will become, the same is vise versa, the less you put in it, the weaker it will become!
I hope this helps you. May you find yourself in this messed up world!
~Teen Guru~
PS Let me know if this helps
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I have a friend and he is thinking of suicide..I try talk him out of it,but he won't listen. He has problems in school,family life,relationship problems. I don't want him leaving me. We have been best friends so long!
HELP! (link)
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First of all try talking to him again! Reason with him that things will get better, I know from a fact that when things get really down for someone they want to take the easy way out which all to often resulting in their own life being lost.
And if talking does not work go talk to his parents/ a grown up who can help! They can get your friend the professional help he will need to get through life. It will not be easy but you must now take full action on this matter, when someone talks about committing suicide, all too often the act will soon follow! Your friend will need you more now than ever before
Best of luck I hope you succeed in stopping him from making the mistake of his life.
Let me know if I helped in anyway!
~Teen Guru~
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what are STDS? how do u get them? can you get rid of them? what happens if you have STDs? (link)
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STDs Stands for Sexually Transmitted Diseases also know as Sexually Transmitted Infections (STIs). Well STDs occurs when you are sexually active! (Whether you are protected or not). I don’t want to scare you but STDs (as you called them) you can get infected if you are sexually active with many people. Even if it’s your first time you can get it if your partner has it. Keep in mind that once can carry a STD and not register until later. In fact the only sure way not to get it is to wait till your married and it’s just between you and your spouses (if they are STD free). Not only will you be sure you don’t have it, but it will be more meaningful to the both of you, when you use sex as it was attended, to reproduce and make a new life! Anyway there is no way I know of to get rid of them, you can help though to sure the symptoms.
Well what you chose in this matter is up to you I hope this helped you in some way. Let me know if it did! Just remember that the best way to avoid them is to not have sex, until after you’re married!
Bets of Luck to you my friend
~Teen Guru~
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i have a boyfriend and i luv him so much and i never want 2 let him go but i dont think he knos how much i do luv him..how could i tell him?
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Well not knowing what your boyfriend is into, but doing something with him that you plan. Going to a sporting events, attend anything he is in to (plays, sports, concerts, etc.), or you can simply just tell him how you feel (that always works).
Be careful, sometimes we thing we found love, but in reality we didn't and wound up hurt. (I don't mean to sound like a parent, but I've seen people who though they felt that they were in love but feel away from it shortly after)
There are many things one can do to show affection, the best tip I can give you is to trust your heart. You’ll find a way. Just don't make your self miserable doing something 4 him that never leads to anything good.
I hope this helped let me know if I helped
bets of luck young one, may you find what you are searching for.
~Teen Guru~
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i broke up wit my exgirl a couple months ago but i cant stand bein away from her i want her back i feel like i cant live wit out her wut should i do? (link)
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Well it is natural to go through this. It is called LOVE WITHDRAWS (LW). It sounds as if you are infatuated with the IDEA of having a girl friend. However there is no way of knowing if your situation is LW or not with what you have just told me, so I’ll give you the symptoms for it.
Ask yourself was this your first relationship? If yes you’re a prime candidate for LW.
How long were you in the relationship? The longer you were in a relationship, the more likely you would get LW, and the harder the break up.
Who Broke-up with whom? Did she break-up with you? or you with her? If you broke-up with her, then you’re most likely having second thoughts. If she broke-up with you you’re most likely having LW.
The Reason why you two broke-up with each other? If it was something serious than it is most likely regret. You must decide how serious it reason why is.
These should be enough for you tell if you have LW. but you must decide whether it is or is not.
Now getting back to the “I feel I can’t live with out her” part of your question. Don’t make me laugh! Love is strong, but not that strong (not counting Romeo and Juliet, that was fictionist not reality). Yes it sounds romantic, but total not true! If you’re truly have feeling for her, and she for you, then it will work out, if not the relationship will be disastrous.
I hope this helps you, sorry if I offended you, that was never my attention. Anyway best of luck, I hoped I helped you, let me know if I did.
May you find yourself
~Teen Guru~
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OK my ex boyfriend calls me everyday to talk about his day. He slips in a sentence about me and him then he talks about his girlfriends. Yes that is plural. He has more than 1. He asks me to rate him on how hot he is on a scale from 1-10. I rate him a 7 and a half. He has a nice body but he's not niice to me when we date. This guy, does he still like me or not? I rate! Sorry so long. We had a relationship for 2 months before I found out he cheated on me. (link)
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Guys like the one you just described have one thing on their pathetic little minds, what you can give them. You said he cheated on you, he has Girl Friends, and he is hinting he is “Still in love with you”. He sounds like a young immature and juvenile person, one that thinks he is all that. The best thing for you to do is to think about it, would some one who loved you go behind your back and cheat on you? If you answered yes your beyond my power to help. If you answered no, then how can you be sure he loves you NOW?
What you do with this info is up to you. I sensuously hope it works out for you. Best of luck
Let me know if I helped
~Teen Guru~
P.S. if you like more help on this issue or have another question, drop a line.
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i have a friend, and anytime we are hanging out alone or with other GIRL friends..shes normal and acts herself. but whenever we're hanging out with guys..she acts like a complete idiot, saying stupid things, acting stupid...just making herself out to be the stupidest girl ever!! and shes not stupid at all. after a party last night me and another friend told her and she was just like "you guys do it too and i don't care what people think" we do act dumb sometimes but we never take it a far as she does and after seeing her act so stupid- we will never do it again. she does it to get attention from guys and she gets it but its totally negative attention. its funny for a while, but then it gets annoying and everyone knos shes putting on an act. how do we get her to realize what shes doing is annoying and looking bad on herself? (link)
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First of all girls act "so-called-Stupid" like your friend because they think that’s the only way a guy will know them. Now there is nothing wrong with BEING silly and doing crazy things, but not alright to ACT that way just to impress some boys (who all reality you’re better off avoiding at this time).
So what can you do? Well until pigs Grow wings, and birds gills, NOTHING! That’s right NOTHING. Your friend is making the decisions all on here own, only she can change.
However there are a few things you can do to help her realize what she is doing. Keep in mind these may or may not work. It all depends on the scenario and the people in it.
First of all talk to her, try to reason with her that the boys will only like how she is acting, not for what she's really like (in other words the boys like WHAT SHE IS DOING rather than WHO SHE IS). It will not be easy but it is a must if you want her to realize what she is doing.
Second, by your friend acting so stupid around the guys, she has got it in her head that that's the only way for a girl to get a guy. How did she get that in her head? Well I told this to someone else a while back and now it seams you need to here it too. "One gets such ideas into their head by; peers, today's media, poor family life, betray of some sort (or what they think was a betrayal), cultural, and most importantly a lack of example! All these things combine to hedge up the way to a one's feelings (there are other reasons but for the sake of this discussion I will not name any more)."
So what can you do about it [the influences]? Well some of the things you can effect. Which ones you must figure out on your own. It is not my place to tell you everything, but to show you the directions. Once you have isolated what you can do for your friend, begin to act upon that knowledge you have just required.
May you reach your friend before she is lost to you forever! I know it is a difficult and long road head, but I believe you and your friend will come out alright. Best of luck, let me know if I helped in any way.
~Teen Guru~
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Hi guys.
Sorry if this is really long...i rate high.
Alrighty.
Well i have a boyfriend and i love him to death. We've been together for over 3 months and ever since ive knwn him he never EVER talks about his problems.
If i know somehtings wrong he'll say things like.."Its not important" or "Its nothing" when i can seeeee that its bothering him a lot. I want him to know that he doesnt need to act all tough around me. And i need him to know that he can talk to me about anything. I just dont know what to say to him.
Ive tried the usual..."you know im always here for you" and all that and he says he knows but it doesnt change anything.
Do you guys have anything i could say or do that would get him to know that im always there...and ready to listen?
Any advice is great advice!!
Thanks...
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It saddens me to say there is very little one can do in such matters. Guys for no fault of there own have devolved a sense of arrogances. They feel that is not “Manly” to open up and share their feelings, they are afraid of being called; as Arnold states it, “Girly Men”.
That way of thinking can only change if the Guy wants it.
So what can you do to help him break down the Walls of Pride (Yes Plural)? First of all like any great opponent you must know first what exactly you are up against. I mention the Walls of Pride earlier, I will not discuses what they each are but I will, however, tell you about their builders. The Walls, like most barriers are there to keep others out, or oneself in. The way of thinking that your bf has came by; peers, today’s media, poor family life, betray of some sort (or what they think was a betrayal), cultural, and most importantly a lack of example! All these things combine to hedge up the way to a guy’s feelings (there are other reasons but for the sake of this discussion I won’t name any more).
So what can you do about it? Well now you know more about how the Walls come about, you can help him by looking at the list I’ve just listed off and look at the things you can control (or can influences). Once you’ve found what you CAN do, start influencing him in a positive way (be careful, it is not as easy or safe as it seems; friend can have a powerful effect in a young man’s life, both for good and for bad. That is why it is so important to hang around good friends).
I hope this help, let me know if it did and how it turns out. I wish you luck, you have a terrible and treacherous road ahead, one I know all too well. I’ve seen both worlds, where guys will hold in their feelings and go mad, but will open up eventually with the help of good friends, and time. Just remember it may look hopeless, and you think you aren’t making that much progress, but you are. Keep with it. May you see what I have seen already.
~Teen Guru~
PS if you like to know more on the subject or have further question remembers I’m only a mouse click away.
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Does anyone have any tips for how to redecorate your room with very little money? I don't want to paint it or anything, but I want it to look less plain. (link)
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Try having a theme, like pets, friends, family, etc. then find cheap things at garage sales, attics, or wherever you can buy things cheep like that. Look for posters, pictures, pillows, crafts, etc. all pertaining to your theme.
Some good themes that are fun are
---Friends/memories; where you get pictures of your friends things they have giving you and hang them, place the in your room where you think they look best.
---favorite place in the world; decorate according to your favorite place you’ve been to or want to go to. Use pictures, blankets, crafts, whatever. It could be at the beach, forest, mountains, the city, country, etc.
---Fantasy/Dream; this is a fun one because it how you see the world, though it can get pricy if your not careful. Just pick things that have a fantasy/dream feel to them, lights, pictures, figurine, etc.
I hope this helps you, let me know if I did.
Best of Luck
~Teen Guru~
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Hey.
Alrighty my boyfriend and I are constantly fighting over the stupidest things such as whos right and whos wrong. He hates Green Day but i LOVE them and when i got my ticket for the concert he got pissed at me. But i KNOW he loves me and i love him so much i dont wanna lose this. Our 3 month "anniversary" is in 11 days and im so happy with the relationship. But i think his trust issue is getting in the way. And i dont mean for that to sound mean cuz im not TRYING to be. But i NEED him to know he can trust me. Hes accused me of cheating on him with my ex who now lives in germany then felt SOO bad for doing it. He has had a rough time growing up and feels like he cant trust many people. What can i do to help him know he can trust me...with ANYTHING?
Thanks for any and ALL advice!!
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P.S. SOrry its so long.=/ (link)
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I’m afraid there is very little one can do on this matter. He needs to trust you. From what you’ve told me, it sounds as if someone betrayed him sometime in his past; unfortunately such wounds heal very slowly. What you can do is tell him that you want to be open with him, you are not cheating on him (if that’s true), and that you care for him but feel hurt when he doesn’t trust you. Talking heals many damages of the soul. Learn why he has hard time trusting you (if you don’t know already). It will not be easy; most people hate to open up (especially Guys). The reward, however is a must have in any relationship, how can love happen there is no trust to channel it.
I wish you luck, I feel you will need it. I hope this help, and if I did, please drop a line telling me.
Best of luck and may you uncover the pain in your bf life.
~Teen Guru~
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For a musical I am doing with a lot of dancing, I need to wear character heels. My parents are "opposed" for some reason against my character heels because they think it's a health problem for me, even though the heel is only one inch and the whole thing is built for dancing in. They want to buy me other shoes, but I need to wear my character heels! What can I do to convince them? They are CONVINCED that their way of thinking is right without listening to me, too. (link)
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It this case tell them that the director will not allow anything else. If that doesn't work get a note from your director stating that you need them. I hope this helps let me know if I did.
~Teen Guru~
P.S. as we say in the theater, “Break a Leg”
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Hey All.
My boyfriend is coming over in a few hours, and we have to stay outside. He will only be here for about an hour. He has a car, and he can drive, but we can't go anywhere. What are some things that we could do? (like games or w/e not nasty stuff)
Thanks in advance!
I'll rate and leave feedback, if that helps!
Oh, Its our 18month anniversery today, too.
-SLeK- (link)
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reviewing pic. of you two together, thats always fun.
Hope this helped.
~Teen Guru~
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Do you think that it is wrong to talk to an ex while dating someone else? I am with this guy right now and he doesnt trust me so he went into my cell and checked my text messages and found that an ex had been text messaging me. We are in a big arguement now about weather or not its ok to talk to an ex. Please help (link)
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That is not a good sign if a bf does not trust you. Part of being in a relationship is trusting each other. Whether there is nothing wrong with talking with an ex or not is not an easy answer to find, and only you can tell what the answer is.
I can't say much more. Think deeply on the subject, if you feel that you did nothing wrong then on this matter you did not doing anything wrong. It is not your current bf to dictate who you can and can not talk to it is YOU!
Best of Luck I hope this help (Let me know if it did)
~Teen Guru~
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