Hello my name is Diamond, I am currently a third year psychology major. My passion in life is to be of aid to mankind in any way possible which why I aspire to become a Psychologist no matter what it takes. I find complete and utter joy in helping others through giving them advice or by simply being an open ear for someone you just need to talk to or express your feelings to. I love to make others happy in anyway possible, it brings joy to my heart like nothing in this world. I have given advice to a large amount of people, usually people I barley know. The people I meet tend to open up to me and share their feelings and/or problems whether big or small. I have been the ears for many people who just want someone to talk to,when they feel no one else is there to listen or atleast cares enough to hear what they have to say. I have been a shoulder to cry on and I must say it is very fulfilling to have people see this sort of security and comfort in me. I am open to any questions, I am open to listen to anyone that is feeling alone or scared, I care about everyone in this world even if I have yet to meet them, I know that every human being is special,unique, and beautiful in their own way and I just want to be there for anyone who doesn't know or believe this. I want to install the importance of positive thinking into everyone I encounter in my lifetime. I am even here for those who aren't going through any particular hardship but just wants advice. Advice is always good because it is always good to have a second persons opinion to weigh your options and decisions even if you choose to use the advice or not. I am looking forward to your questions,conversations, or anything you would like. I am just a message/ e-mail away. Please do not hesitate to contact me. You will never be ignored or simply forgotten about.
E-mail: princessdiamond1314@yahoo.com
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(I am a female) I know that different guys prefer different things, but in general would it be the safest bet to shave/remove the hair "down there" or to leave the hair?
and also, what's the best way to get rid of hair in the bikini area? (link)
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Hello,you should ask the guy what he prefers because some guys could care less and some guys like to get specific.But in general if you want to be on the safe side 96% of guys like it shaven for various reasons.However,you only do what you want it is your choice/your body not there so just do what is best for you and never feel like you have to because if he really cares about you in some way it shouldnt matter too much and he should respect your decision!I hope this helped,the best of luck to you and if you have any other questions on this topic or any other questions you can send me a private message and I would love to help:)
SINCERLY,DIAMOND:)
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what do people usually do after their done like getting fingered or giving a hand or blow job? lets say if it was just a boy you were hooking up with, but are good friends with tooo. like if your hanging out and then in the spur of the moment something happens, what should you do after so its not all awkward and be like welll okay....
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Hello,lol usually when you are just hooking up it is always that awkward silence like soooo what should we do now. Honestly if you arent comfortable with that person then may you shouldnt do it because it is hard to avoid that awkardness afterwards. However if you know them somewhat well you two can simply talk about something,just lay next to eachother and rest after all of the pleasure lol,watch some funny show on tv..always brighten the mood(who doesnt love to laugh),you can grab a snack or anything,it doesnt have to be forever just enough to relax and ease the awkardness then the two of you can go on and do other things and if you really liked it you can go at it again..theres no harm in that:) I hope this helped,the best of luck to you and if you have any other questions on this topic or any other questions you can send me a private message and I would love to help:)
SINCERLY,DIAMOND:)
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i lost my virginity to my current boyfriend. we've been having sex since october 2007. we haven't done it like a lot but i think it shouldn't still hurt by now. he's not doing anything wrong really. i've tried being on top and it wasn't too bad but it still doesn't really feel good. it still hurts a lot when he's on top too. anything i can do? (link)
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Hello,well as you may know,sex is different for everyone and it just takes some time for others to get used to it.What I suggest is that you make sure you are well lubricated before he goes inside of you,you can do this with foreplay,if he fingers you and maybe goes down on you it should make you well lubricated and aroused.When he goes inside of you make sure he takes his time,if he simply shoves it in it will definitley hurt because it is still very painful for you. Make sure you communicate this to your boyfriend so it will be pleasurable for the both of you:) When you arent well lubricate it causes friction and can cause unbearable pain and is rarley ever pleasurable. You guys can take it slow also,he can only go inside of you partially every time you have sex and go deeper each time so you can get used to him penetrating inside of you. When you take it slow also have him not be as rough so it wont cause tearing of any kind it can cause pain especially for you.So just use those tips and take it slow and you will be used to it in no time.I hope this helped,the best of luck to you and if you have any other questions on this topic or any other questions you can send me a private message and I would love to help:)
SINCERLY,DIAMOND:)
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Hi
I need some romantic idea specially for valentine day for longdistance relationship and also some tips on lingerie
I am 25 and my sweetheart is 31 and he loves football
Any tips or ideas ..pls
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Hello,well guys love surprises and they lvoe when you notice there interests and use it to there advantage.Tips on lingerie,I think you should dress up like a sexy referee or a football cheerleader that way it can be three in one lol,he wil have the girl he loves,the sport he loves,and the sexual/visual pleasure all in one.What more could a guy want lol.Especially since you guys dont see eachother alot a suprise like that would be special and I am sure he will enjoy it.I hope this helpee,if you have any further questions on this topic or want more ideas you can send me a private message and I would be more than happy to help:).The best of luck to you and I am sure you will have a beautiful and fun valentines day!!
SINCERLY,DIAMOND:)
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well my boyfriend was fingering me he has done it more thatn onece but this time i started bleeding he said he had 3 fingers his nails were short. it was not a little bit of blood but it was not alot an hour later i stoped bleeding. Why did i bleed and is it possible he popped my cherry?? (link)
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Hello,well it is possible that he possibly popped your cherry this time but it would make more since that he would have popped it the first two times but since he used more fingers this time and was possibly rough he could have popped your cherry or created scarring on your vaginal walls because of the number or fingers he used and the way he did it.I hope this helped,if you have any further questions on this topic or any other topic you can send me a private message and I would be more than happy to help:)The best of luck to you and dont worry I am more than positive it is nothing serious! SINCERLY,DIAMOND:)
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Ok so i recently had sex with a jerk who i don't talk to anymore now i am still sort of interested in my very first love he goes to high school with me but is a freshmen because he failed but he has always been thier for me and did love me at one time i would like to have him back in my life but of course he has new girls and has moved on also so should i send him a myspace message because i don't have his cell anymore and tell him how i feel and see if we could rekindle what we had or should i not and just let it be (link)
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Hello,Absolutley I think you should send him a message to tell him exact;y how you feel,after all he will never know how you feel until you tell him,you guys had strong feelings for eachother previously so most likely those feelings still there but maybe in a smal amount. You never know what could happen,its always worth a shot especially when it is something you really want.You should always try just to see the outsome because later in you may end uo wondering what if I would have sent him that message what would have happened, It eases your mind alittle when you let someone know how you feel and let them do with it what they will. You guys could end up together or just good friends. Make sure you explain exactly how you feel so he will have a good idea of how you feel exactly.Communication is key in any relationshiup and if you cant explain your feelings to him now then you probably wont be able to when you get back into a relaionship,so just be open and honest in the message and I'm sure you will have a good outcome,if he is the right one for you then it will happen but if not you just move on and find someone that really wants to be with you and treat you like the beautiful young lady that you are,you deserve the best never forget that.I hope this helpe and I wish you the best of luck,if you have anymore questions or need advice on this topic or any other topic dont hesitate to contact me,just send a private message and I would be happy to help!
SINCERLY,DIAMOND:)
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hi i'm 16 years old and i am done with my life i see no hope i have gone through lots of pain in my short life my dad puts me down and is constently critisizing me and i fell in love very young when i was 12 in seventh grade i found my first love he ended up failing and having to move and because we wear young and it was a secret we lost eachother that emotionally hurt me a lot i became very alone and in high school i started to loose my friends and now have very few and i am very alone also i ended up falling for another guy he turned out to be a jerk took my virginity and called me and said horrible things about me and moked me about when we had sex it has made me very self causious i don't have any pride in myself i hate myself everything i do isnt good enouh i think i'm ugly i just need something nuthing i try every makes me happy please someone help me what can i do to get my confidence and self worth back so i will stop doing horrible things lieing and having sex with random guys because of my sadnees (link)
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Hello,Well as you may well know life throws horrible things at you sometimes.Unfortunatey some of theses horrible things occur back to back but just know that everything in your life happens for a reason good or bad. you are exprienceing these things to make you a better person in the future and as an adult.Just think if you dont go through things in your life you wont know how to handle certain situations. You go through things as a learning experience,you have to try even though I iknow it is extremly hard to find the good in every situation because there is always a shinning light in the darkest of situations. Please so not think this of yourself you are a beautiful person inside and out.Everyone is special and unique in there own way and everyone has something to offer this world whether they know it or not.You have a purpose and you will find this purpose in tiime.Just think about it there is no one in this world like you,you have specific attributes and charactrisitics that no one has.Do not in any way blame yourself for the way others treat you and put yourself down because of this.Right now you dont beleive that you are a beautiful and special person and until you realize this and fully beleive it you wont feel as good as you should.Things happen in life and life can be hard but there is no way you can change the past,the only thing you can do is live in the present,try to enjoy yourself as much as possible and change for the better. Love and relationships are a very sensitive topic and unfortunatley people get hurt when it comes to things like this because your emotions are on the line.Know this,everyone is put in your life for reason and most are put in your life temeporarily,you will have to deal with loss and pain to get to the good it is just a way of life. When people put you down or are rude to you it is because they are hurting within and want to take it out on others whether what they say is true or not which it most likley is not. You have so much potential and you have so much to offer,you shouldnt let what others say effect you,you know who you are and you know what you are not,if you truly beleive this then no one can change that EVER.I am sure you have a beautiful spirit and mind and you have the potential to change within to know that you are worth so much more than the words people say use against you,remember they are just words. Because all of the things that went wrong in your life you have no choice but to have this negative attitude towards life because that is what you know and how you have coped with what you have been through.Those things are in the past now and this things from the past are bringing you down in the worst way possible,your life is so special and you should be happy everyday just being alive. Each day is an opportunity to try new things and learn new things.You should try and do things that make you happy whatever it is,little things can make you happy just looking at a pretty flower,enjoying the fresh air outside,reading a book that you have been wanting to read or watching a movie,try to find things that you like and utilize that to boost your mood.Also say encouraging words to yourself such as "I'm special in every way" “I am beautiful” and the most important “I DESERVE THE BEST” This is vital in many aspects,when it comes to the whole not respevcting yourself when it comes to guys you have to live by this. You are a great person and you do only deserve the best,you deserve a guy treat you with respect,to care for you,be honest with you and be there for you no matter what.The guys that you are seeping wiht could care less about your feelings or what you want they are focused on there pleasure.From now on you should only do the things that make you happy and dont worry about anyone else or what anyone else has to say because it really doesnt matter. It will take time to get out of this stage in your life but you have to have the will power to want to change and think more positive. THhinking positive and being optimistitc is the key to happiness and if negative thoughts consume you on a daily basis it will alter your thinking. You will contuinue to think that what you do is not good enough and that you have no self worth. But the truth is you do whatever you can to the best of your ability and if that is not good enough for others then that is too bad because you tried your best,there is however always room for improvement and if you recognize your faults then they can easily be altered and fixed. You are worth so much and you shouldnt give a guy the time of day if they cant see how special and unique you are and everything that you day and do.You can have sex with any guy but it is so special when you have a guy that understands you and accepts you for you,you dont want to ever settle because I promise you there is someone out there waiting for you,you are still young honey and you will have plenty of experiences with guys,just try to make those experiences special.Don’t feel bad if you dont have someone you care about currently because he will find you,he will see something inside of you that no one else see’s and will be there for you in evryway,some people who are in there 40’s still dont have that special relationshp either,it just takes time and patience! I know it is hard to change but once you make that first step you wont regret it, if you try to your best ability to ignore the remarks people say and beleive in yourself then you will go far. Your thoughts are powerful and can bring you up or down and you obviously want to go up. If I know you are such a beautiful,intelligent,special,and unique girl then it wont be hard for you to beleive this and NEVER EVER forget it.I know right now you may feel like you have no one to talk to or that understands you but I am here to listen to you I care so much about what you have to say and how you are feeling because it is very upsetting to see others upset and sadden by all of the trials of life. I promise you things will get better,this is only temporary and you are garuanteed to have a bright and beautiful future,dont worry about it.I am open to talk to you and listen to you whenever you want,you can send me a message or email me anytime(princessdiamond1314@yahoo.com) I know how vital it is to have someone to talk to at times like this and I want you to know that I am here for you,If you have any further questions,just want to talk,or need someone to listen to you do not hesitate to contact me.Good things are going to start happening for you and you are going to feel so much better in time!!! I hope this helped and I am looking forward to hearing from you!!!YOU ARE AMAZING!!never forget how much potential you have and how greatly special you are!!
SINCERLY,DIAMOND:) :0 ;) ;) :) :) :0 ;) ;) :) :) :) ;) :) :0
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Okay so this is kind of an akward question
But are vaginas supposed to be wet?
I really want my boyfriend to finger me
But I don't know if something wrong or not. (link)
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Hello,absolutley vaginas are suppose to be wet,your vagina creates a sort of natural lubrication,if your vagina is dry then it creates friction and cause pain.Being wet is a great sign and shows that your are being aroused and pleasured,do not worry you will get use to this,it may feel weird the first time but a girl becoming wet is a natural part of the sexual process of becoming aroused.I hope this helped and the best of luck to you,If you have any further messages you can send me a private message and I would love to help:)
SINCERLY,DIAMOND:)
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uhm sucking and/or just in and out motion? (link)
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Hello,sucking is not the same as on and out motion,sucking is lick your sucking on a popsicle and when you give ablow job that would not be as pleasurable,When you give a guy a blow job you always want to do the in and out motion because the whole point is to make it feel simialr to vaginal intercourse,Make sure your mouth is well lubricated so it can feel as similar to vaginal intercourse as possible.If you cant get all of his penis in your mouth then you want to put your mouth as far as you can go without gagging and firmly grasp your hand on the rest,go in the up and down motion and have your hand do the same,it feel almost just as good as the real thing.I hope this helped,the best of luck to you and if you have furthr questions on this topic or any other topic I would be happy to help,if you want me to be more speicific or anything else you can send me a private message and I will answer any question you would like:)
SINCERLY,DIAMOND:)
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i have never cummed and i really want to.. So which positions really work for ladies? And will i know once i've cummed? Will alot come out and will it be embarrassing? Lol i always feel like im about to cum or that it feels really good and like im about to explode, but thats it.. Thanks.. (link)
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Hello,well as you may know many women never orgasm during sex simply because the guy is not stimulating you properly, Vaginal stimulation always feels good but the main part the guy should stimulate is the clitoris.The clitoris is has thousands of nerve endings and even if stimulated by itself without vaginal stimulation you will orgasm within time. Foreplay is usually a good idea,like a guy going down on you or simply stimualting your clitoris it will heighten the experience whe you guys actually have sex.Also while having sex you can stimulate your clitoris or have him stimulate it and you are garuanted to get an orgasm. Unfortunatley I cannot describe postions on here and get into detail but just remember to communicate with your partner and tell them what makes you feel good so they will know and so you will get the orgasm you deserve.Girls can easily get orgasms on there on because they know exactly what pleases them and they are usually more focused on stimulating the clitoris. You will definitley know when you have came,it is an unexplainable feeling that is hard to describe,it is an intense feeling of pleasure,you know how you feel like you wil exlpode,all of the pleasure built up will be released and you will be very satisfied.Everyone has diffrent reactions when they orgasm,some produce alot of sum and all the pressure built up makes them squirt all of the cum out and some simply just produce more and you just feel alittle more wet than you already are,it just depends.When you orgasm your muscles in your vagina usually contract,some girls temble because there muslces begin to tremble and some dont shake at all. I think it is always good to practice with yourself and see what you like and it helps you to become comfortable with yourself,it will give you a chance to experience receiving an orgasm on your own so then you will know how you react to reaching orgasm.It wont be embarassing,trust me you wont be worried about whats happening with your cum while you are having an orgasm you will be worried about the pleasure!I hope this helped and if you have any further questions I would more than happy to help you,if you have any further questions on this topic or any other topic just send me a private message:) The best of luck to you
SINCRELY,DIAMOND:)
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how does someone get a g/f? how doesone keep a g/f? how is one supposed to act with a g/f? how is a g/f supposed to act with a b/f? what are some signs to look for that will tell you if she is flirting with you? (link)
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Hello,well as you may know there ae no specific rules for keeping,getting,and keeping and gf/bf if it was that way eeryone would be in great relationships,however, this is the total opposite because alot of relationships run short,people change and things can just go wrong. You shouldnt just want to be in a realtionship with anyone,relationships should be special and you should know the person fairly well before getting into relationship. Jumping and rushing into a relationship is one of the worst things you can do and usually leads to a very short relationship. I am sure you are fairly young and you dont have to worry about being in a realtionship as much because you are going to have tons of experiences with this.Until you get about 16 to 18 you dont usually have a real relationship because most in middle school and highschool just because they are pressured to and it is the norm.But a real relationship is about communication,having a connection,respect,giving your all to that person and knowing that they will be there for you no matter what,it built on trust and honesty,you spend time with that person and no them very well in everyway.You have to be a mature person to have a good relationship in order to share and open your heart to another. Well since you dont want just any gf,you will know which one you might potentialy might want to get to know and be in a relationship with,all you have to do is get to know a girl that you are interested in and be yourself and see where things go.When it comes to being in a relationship you either want to be with them or not there is no way to act specifically,you just have to be yourself and be comfortable with that person and everything will be pretty good.When you are in a relationship you have to show that person that you care,through words and actions,you spend time with that person and you should always be there to listen to them.Make sure you have good communication in a relationship because this is the most important, if you cant convey the way you feel,what you like and dont like,and cant be open with that person then the relationship wont work as well. You can tell if someone is flirting you simply by the way they look at you,It is a certain look that shows that they are intersted,when you guys talk or even when she just glances at you. Some people give diffrent signs that they are intrested,some are mean some are very nice and give compliments.You will know if they are interested or not,if there behavior becomes a pattern then you will know that they are flirting.I hope this helped and I wish you the very best,if you have any further questions on this topic you can always end another message,you can always update me on the situations and I can help you further in any way,dont hesitate to contact me!!
SINCERLY,DIAMOND:)
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I have been with my boyfriend for nearly 9 months. He is 32 and Im 19. Hes had a lot of girlfriends and is really sexually experienced. He is the only guy ive slept with so im not very experienced. I recently bought some lingerie. http://www.knickerbox.co.uk/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/productdisplay_et!letc~ev!22258||et!letc~ev!22265||_40651_-1_22258_56285_20001_22258
Because he has never seen me wear anything like that im not really sure how to go about it. Like id feel a bit stupid if i just walked into the bedroom with it on so was wondering if anyone had any tips? (link)
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Hello,well if you are comfortable with him nd especially since you guys have had sex previously there is no need to feel stupid in anyway.I actually think that is a good idea it is great to surprise your boyfriend in different ways. Guys LOVE surprises especially when it comes to sex it is a big turn on.Make sure it is at the right time though because he might be busy but hey what guy wouldnt want to be distracted buy there hot gf in lingerie:) When you have that on it will give you him an idea of how you like to please him and it will spice things up. Just be confident and come on strong and he will love it,dont worry he will love it:)You can always be just laying on the bed when he comes in and sees you or you could even dance for him in it,so many options:)I hope this helped and if you need me to be more specific or need more advice on this topic or any other topic I would be more than happy to help,just send me a private message,the best of luck to you and have fun!!
SINCERLY,DIAMOND:)
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should there be a certain age difference between a b/f and g/f? (link)
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Hello,well as you know girls mature faster than boys so if you are thinkg of dating someone younger than you I dont think it is ideal but you do find love in the oddest of places,love takes no shape or form so if you have a special connection with someone than I dont think age should matter.The only way I thinka ge might really matter is if you are youngr than 18 and dating someone older than 18, I only say this because legal issue come into play and the guy could get in serious truoble. Think about it this way if the guy is too old and you know you would have to sneak aroundwith him that wouldnt be as fun because you wouldnt get the great experirnce of actually spending time with them,having fun and getting to know them. I hope this helped alittle but if I knew both of your ages I could help you even more and be more specific if you would like that.The best of luck to you and you should go with what you fel is right and what is the best decision for you,Your happiness is very important:). If you have any further questions on this topic or any other topic I would be more than happy to help you dont hesitate to contact me:)
SINCERLY,DIAMOND:)
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hi! i've read alot of your answers to things and i reallly love your advice :)
im 18/female
so there is this boy i've been good friends with for about four years, maybe even longer. i've always been REALLY attracted to him and i know hes attracted to me. within the past year though he's been trying to get with me and the only thing that stopped me was his girlfriend of two years. well since they recently broke up he knows id do anything with him in a second because he turns me on like no other, hahaaaa. the thing is im still a virgin, never had a boyfriend, farthest ive gone with a guy is making out and the last time i did that was like seriously 3 years ago. i'm so self conscious of myself but the thing is i think i'm pretty and i have confidence because all the guys tell me how hot i am and sorry im not trying to sound conceited at all. anyways now that hes done with his girlfriend i feel like we can do anything we want. there is just two things that are holding me back. one is that the farthest me and him have gone is "kinda" a kiss haha its confusing and hes like gone down my pants but hasnt fingered me or anything and i mean pretty much felt me up but thats all. i tell him alot that has been going on with my life though, so i trust him but i'm just so nervous of what he will think of me and my body. i'm a skinny girl too, 5'5 and 115 pounds. and second like IF we were to do something i dont know where. my parents are always so nosy when he comes over and one time they came home and saw me in my bra with him (we didnt even do anything though) so its a little embarassing and at his house, thats another story he never has anyone over at his house. getting a hotel is outta the question, i think that would be taking things too far if i suggested that lol. and if SOMETIME we ended up having sex i'm nervous i'll be a baby and not take the pain well which will make me feel stupid, you know.
gosh i just dont know. any comments, suggestions, anything will help. (link)
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Hello,well I dont think there is any reason you should be shy.You are obviously beautiful but that isnt the most important quality its your heart and your personality. I can tell that this guy is attracted it to you no doubt and likes your personality from the way you guys talk. I am sure he adores your body even though you may feel self concious,for some reason girls are always critical of there bodies and they way they appear to guys. He thinks your attratcive and I am sure he would love to have sex with you,when you guys start to the act of kissing and getting into foreplay he is going to be so totally aroused that he could care less how your body looks literally,I am sure nothing is wrong with your body though I am sure you have a beautiful body and he is going to have sex with you regardless,You have nothing to wrry about in this situation.However,since you are a virgin you probably have alot going through your mind anbout is it going to hurt,will it feel good,how should I act,will he like it..those are all valid questions but everyones experience with sex is different,If you are confortable with him it should ease some of this nervousness and you might be able to go with the flow. Sex isnt something you plan it shouldnt be something that is like aroutine it shouls just happen.Communication is important when it comes to sex,you might not know exactly what pleases you when it comes to sex but when something feels good just moan alitlle or you can even say mm that feels good.Guys like to hear that they are making you feel good and like to know what you like.One question,are you ready or do youthink you are ready to have sex?Because before you have sex you should be comfortable with yourself,masturbation is a great way to get familiar with yourself and what pleases you and makes you feel good.Confidence is really sexy when it comes to guys if you even pretend like you know what you are doing they like that and I am sure everything will be fine when you choose to. It may hurt when you first begin but usually if you masturbate it tends to hurt less because you are use to it in away. The pain of the first time will however not last forever it is important to make sure you are well lubricated and relaxed the first time it makes it so much easier:)About the place that is kind of an issue my parents are the same way but when you really want something you figure something out,your bes bet is letting him come over when your parents are going to be gone for a few hours,or finding a way to get to his house,unfortunatley you may have to lie to your parents to get this done but if its something you really want to do then you may have to make that sacrafice, I am in no way telling to to lie to your parents or saying its ok,you should do whats best for you,I am just trying to give you options and ideas to get you started.I want to thank you so much for coming to me for advice I really appreciate it,I wish you the best of luck and I hoped this helped,i will be more than happy to anwer any more questions you have on this topic,specific questions might be best for you since its your first time,everyone goes through the FIRST TIME it can be confusing and scary but everything will work out I promise.Looking forward to hearing from you in the future if you need anything else:)
SINCERLY,DIAMOND:)
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my boyfriend and i (both 16) have decided to have sex
i've been on the pill for quite some time (due to an irregular period)
but yeah we plan on using a condom too
so basically any tips to make sure it wont break, get stuck, etc
or just how to make it be the most effective
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Hello,I think you guys are going to be pretty be petty protected,thats great that you are on the pill its a great contraceptive..and your smart for using a condom as well.To prevent the condom from breaking just makr sure you are well lubricated.To prevent the condom from getting stuck which probably not happen,make sure he pits the condom on right and not insidr out,make sure he leaves alittle,very small amount off of his penis do not slide the condom all the way on you have to make sure thete is extra space at the tip so the semen has somewhere to go!I hope this helped,the best of luck to you and if you havr any further questions on this topic or any other topic I would be happy to help just send me private message,have fun and be safe:)..the best of luck to you! SINCERLY,DIAMOND:)
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Ok i know this question is kind of stupid but i had sex with a real jerk and a guy who took advantage of me who is no longer my friend and i was wondering if it was possible for me to become a virgin again it would help me feel much better so leave me some advice please (link)
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Hello,well unfortunatley there is no way to become a virgin again unless you went in for surgery and got your hymen sewed bakc up but then again virginity has more to do than just a hymen. Your hymen can be broken even not furing intercourse(popping your cherry)There is no way to undo the past just focus on the now and the future. You can learn from that bad situation and make sure the next time you have sex it is with someone that cares about you and is not trying to take advantage of you in anyway,it should be mutual, if that makes you feel better. You can remain abstinent until you find that guy worthy of being with you intamatley and it may just feel like the first time because it will be something you both want to do,so you wouldnt be a virgin again physically but mentally you would be!:),.just know that you only derserve the best and you deserve a guys respect and loving kindness,you will go far knowing this and you may regret less of your sexual experiences.Just see the way he treated you as a learning experience that you will never let happen again:)I hope this helped and I wish you the best of luck,if you have any further questions on this topic or any other topic I would be happy to help you just send a private message. Hope everything goes well!
SINCERLY,DIAMOND:)
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So i lost my virginity almost a year ago it was extremly painful and my guy barly got his penis in because it was too painful for me. The second time i had sex with him it hurt again really badly i was starting to get frustrated then i had sex a couple weeks ago with a differn't guy and it was also extremly painful now i do not have any std's and i do not have a urinary infectionn or anything like that i already got that checked out but i want to know why it is so incredibly painful when i have sex i want to be able to have good sex is it because i don't trust my partners and i'm worried and afraid does it cause me to be uncomfortable i just need some advice im 17 and Female (link)
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Hello,well sex is different for everyone,some girls are tighter than others and the intercourse can be very painful.It can be that you are uncomfortable,you being uncomfortable makes you tighten your vaginal muscles and makes it harder for the guy to enter the vagina,also there may not be enought lubrication when the guy first enters you,When there is not enough lubrication from you or from a store bought lubricant it ca cause friction in you vagina and can be very painful and uncomfortable. When you have sex again you should make sure you re well lubricated and its probably going to be hard for you to relax and loosen up because now you have associate sex with pain. This best thing for you to do is to masturabate if you are comfortable with this,it gives you a chance to understand what pleases you and gives you a chance to break that association between pain and sex. You are usually more comfortable with yourself when it coems to sex but if you still arent comfortable with yourself when it comes to sex then maybe you should wait until you are to have intercourse again. When you masturbate you can start with one finger and once you get comfortable,keep using more..MAKE SURE YOU ARE WELL LUBRICATED even during this. You can always use a dildo as well but that might be very painful as well so you can start with one finger and maybe move up to a dildo if time permits. This pain will subsie in time you just have to become comfortablw with yourself and get use to it as a whole..remember:practice makes perfect so you will be able to have painless sex in not time:).I hope this helped and I wish you the best of luck,if you have any further questions on this topic or any other topic I would be happy to help you just send a private message. Hope everything goes well and you can update me on the situation if you need further advice:)
SINCERLY,DIAMOND:).
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Its been really weird for me. Last year in 8th grade I was always upset because of different things going on. I did cut myself like 3 different times during that year. My friends were always there for me and everything. I have done way better a little after the beginning of 9th grade. I feel horrible now. I feel so upset and I'm always crying at night. But the thing is that I am only crying at night. I don't ever feel so upset during the daytime. Is something wrong with me? I feel like I'm so horrible at everything I do. Mostly because of school, I'm not doing good in two of the subjects and I'm just not getting it and I just break down. I mean besides that though, everything is so great but I don't feel any better. I have a good family, we fight but not as much as before, parents still together but almost got divorced a few months ago, the greatest friends in the world, and my boyfriend who treats me like I'm the best thing in the world. How come I'm not happy with this? At night I try to talk to my friends on the phone because then I start feeling better. They can't talk at night alot though because of how late it gets. I don't know why but I'm only happy during the daytime or with my friends. I feel so upset during one of my classes at school though, only because its not my best class. I don't think I'm really ugly except at times when I'm thinking, "why would my boyfriend like me, I'm not even that pretty" and then I start comparing to other girls. Last year I was worse I guess, I would be upset all day and with my friends but right now I don't know whats really going on. I'm only 14 and I don't get it. Sorry it was long and thanks for any help. (link)
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Hello,first off I am so sorry that you are feeling this way, it is bad enough to have deal with lives daily pressures but to feel sad for unknown reasond makes it even worse. I know you dont know why get sad at night but I am telling you there is a reason,emotions can be very confusing but with the right imformation they can be jusr as aesily explained.You have to ask yourself whatr is on my mind when I am at home alone by myself,there is something that triggers this sadness,it is most likely your thoughts maybe your unconcious thoughts,What do you talk to or want to talk to your friends on the phone about exactly regarding why you are sad,i fyou can answer these qestions I can possibly give an answer to the reason you may be getting upset also whatever reason you cut yourself in the past may be a cause if this sadness,there are so many reasons you could be feeling this way,it could be that you dont like being alone and the fact that you know your friends are there for you gives you comfort.When you are alone at night this is probably the only time you are alone and have time to really think about you and your life this can be causing this oriblem, If you dont mind dont mind do you think you can answer 6those questions I stated before to your self or even to me in aprivate message,they will help you greatly to figure out what is going on. A more optimistic outlook on things is also, if you think about it you have so much to ber happy for and I am sure you know this,I mean you hav great friends,a caring boyfriend(which is hard to find)and a family that loves you dearly,school may not be going that well currntly but all you have to do is take the right steps to improving your grades. The first step is figuring out the problem you have then taking the right steps to fix them. Do not ever think that about your self,I am sure no I know you are a beautiful girl inside and out and that is why your boyfriend likes you.He likes you for you and all that you have to offer,he sees something special in you that attracts him to you and I am sure you guys will last for a long time to come because he seems very sweet andkind hearted,you are bery lucky to have a guy that treats like you deserve to be treated because you only deserve the best,comparing your self to other girls is pointless becaue everyone is unique in their own way,you are beautiful,amazing and unique there is no one in the world like you and you dont need anyone to tell you that because you have to beleive it,it wont be hard to believe because it is true. You can also try to do more things that make you happy,because you have to focus on yourself before you can give yourself to anyone else,you have to make sure you are happy and satisfied,read a book or watch a movie you always wanted to,just do somethin you know intersts you and that makes you smile if you have no clue what these things are just write them downs,write down your likes and dislikes and you will know exactly what makes you happy!I hope this helped and I wish you the best of luck,if you have any further questions on this topic or any other topic I would be happy to help you just send another private message. Hope everything goes well.NEVER FORGET HOW SPECIAL YOU ARE IN EVERYWAY!!:) :) SINCERLY,DIAMOND:) ;) ;) ;) :0 :) :0 :) :) :) ;)
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Hey, im 15 years old and female. Ohk so i am involeved sexual with my bestfriends ex boyfriend. And he is such a player we don't date we just mess around. He claimed that he hasn't done nething with ne other grl but me in the last 3 months... but I feel so bad bc we had sex and he was dating some1 infact she was 1 of my friends I relle just want to have more than a physical realtionship with him but idk he's such a player! And I know he doesn't want that from me and that he's not over my bestfriend and that kills so should I stay or should I go? (link)
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Hello,you kind of answered your own question when you said he doesnt want that from you and he is a player. If a guy cheated on his gf with you then he will do the same to you,guys have as pattern and it usually continuses,you dont want to get hurt by any guy you deserve so much more. You deserve to be treated with respect and loving kindness and i am not sure if he will provide you with any of that. An he is still not over your bestfriend thats a big issue as well,if he has feelings for someone else then there is no room in his heart for feelings for someone eles, You gave to completeley be over someone else to give your full self and your heart to someone else. You dont want someone who is not ready for a relationship. I am not sure if the relationship you two have right now is good for you because he does not have the same feelings for you that you have,i think he thinks the relationship you two have is purley sexual and nothing more and you are starting to see it in a different way. The only way to get over is you can either talk to him about the situation openly and tell him how you feel directly to see his reaction,or you can just stop seeing him because these feelings that you are having for him are only going to get stronger. But as you can see I'm not sure if he would treat you like you deserved and you dont want that,never settle..you deserve the best,always rmemeber that,If you can tell a guy can treat you how you deserve to be treated and wont open up there heart to them they are better off gone.you will have plenty experiences with guys in your life you are still young and you will see that guys from age 14-19 or even older mainly have sex on there minds and if you examine how they treat you even when not in arelationship you can find out twhat they are really after. Yu want a guy that wants you for your mind and all that you have to offer not just your body because they may not respect you if you just give up yourself quickly!I hope this helped and I wish you the best of luck,if you have any further questions on this topic or any other topic I would be happy to help you just send another private message. Hope everything goes well and you can update me on the situation if you need further advice:)
SINCERLY,DIAMOND:)
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well first off sorry I haven't told you about that guy at my singing skool but last night I was at an mall thing where there is a movie theater and shops and barnes and noble with my friends and everyone from school is there and we kind of just hang out. Well the guy from my school that we call "derek" was there with his group of friends and when we arrived I was like oh crap what do I say what do I do? You know? Well when we were jet hanging out he kept coming up to me and saying hi. When we were in line in barnes and noble waiting for my friend to get a Carmel frap. He and his friend came in started like walking behind us then when we turned around they were just sitting staring at us like hello. So then when we finished getting her drink my fiends like there gone and then she's like nevermind because they were on the upper level looking at us. So then when we were outside at the tables we were just sitting talking and I could feel his eyes on me and when I looked at him he didn't turn away. But here's the deal he hasn't asked me out or anything and like... I like him he's cute but he's kinda popular and I'm also don't know ifvi like him so I'm solo confused please help thxxxxx (link)
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Hello,wow he is really showing that he has a general liking for you and flirting with you here and there,that is a good thing.But you guys barely know eachother,you have not talked that much so you dont know eachother that well,you just know that he is cute and that he may have a nice personality.However you dont really get to know someone unless you spend time with them and talk to them you know. You may feel like you like him because when a cute guy flrits with you I mean how else are you suppose to feel.Now that you know he is interested all you can do is continuie to talk to him and see where things go it6 is no good to jump into a relationshi[ when you dont know much about the person. Just take it slow and go with the flow dont try to rush anything,everything happens for a reason and once you guys really start to get to know eachother he may ask you out,you two may come to an agrrement that you should go out or just could be good frineds you never know,only time will tell.So just keep talking with him and try to spend time with him so you will know if you truly like him for who he is or you just like how he looks and the way he flrts with you.I am pretty sure once you guys get closer you will know exactly the next step to take,no worries. I hope this helped and I wish you the best of luck,if you gave any further questions on this topic or any other topic I would be happy to help you just send another private message. Hope everything goes well and you can update me on the situation if you need further advice:)
SINCERLY,DIAMOND:)
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