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hot and heavy?
hi! i've read alot of your answers to things and i reallly love your advice :)
im 18/female
so there is this boy i've been good friends with for about four years, maybe even longer. i've always been REALLY attracted to him and i know hes attracted to me. within the past year though he's been trying to get with me and the only thing that stopped me was his girlfriend of two years. well since they recently broke up he knows id do anything with him in a second because he turns me on like no other, hahaaaa. the thing is im still a virgin, never had a boyfriend, farthest ive gone with a guy is making out and the last time i did that was like seriously 3 years ago. i'm so self conscious of myself but the thing is i think i'm pretty and i have confidence because all the guys tell me how hot i am and sorry im not trying to sound conceited at all. anyways now that hes done with his girlfriend i feel like we can do anything we want. there is just two things that are holding me back. one is that the farthest me and him have gone is "kinda" a kiss haha its confusing and hes like gone down my pants but hasnt fingered me or anything and i mean pretty much felt me up but thats all. i tell him alot that has been going on with my life though, so i trust him but i'm just so nervous of what he will think of me and my body. i'm a skinny girl too, 5'5 and 115 pounds. and second like IF we were to do something i dont know where. my parents are always so nosy when he comes over and one time they came home and saw me in my bra with him (we didnt even do anything though) so its a little embarassing and at his house, thats another story he never has anyone over at his house. getting a hotel is outta the question, i think that would be taking things too far if i suggested that lol. and if SOMETIME we ended up having sex i'm nervous i'll be a baby and not take the pain well which will make me feel stupid, you know.
gosh i just dont know. any comments, suggestions, anything will help.
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Hello,well I dont think there is any reason you should be shy.You are obviously beautiful but that isnt the most important quality its your heart and your personality. I can tell that this guy is attracted it to you no doubt and likes your personality from the way you guys talk. I am sure he adores your body even though you may feel self concious,for some reason girls are always critical of there bodies and they way they appear to guys. He thinks your attratcive and I am sure he would love to have sex with you,when you guys start to the act of kissing and getting into foreplay he is going to be so totally aroused that he could care less how your body looks literally,I am sure nothing is wrong with your body though I am sure you have a beautiful body and he is going to have sex with you regardless,You have nothing to wrry about in this situation.However,since you are a virgin you probably have alot going through your mind anbout is it going to hurt,will it feel good,how should I act,will he like it..those are all valid questions but everyones experience with sex is different,If you are confortable with him it should ease some of this nervousness and you might be able to go with the flow. Sex isnt something you plan it shouldnt be something that is like aroutine it shouls just happen.Communication is important when it comes to sex,you might not know exactly what pleases you when it comes to sex but when something feels good just moan alitlle or you can even say mm that feels good.Guys like to hear that they are making you feel good and like to know what you like.One question,are you ready or do youthink you are ready to have sex?Because before you have sex you should be comfortable with yourself,masturbation is a great way to get familiar with yourself and what pleases you and makes you feel good.Confidence is really sexy when it comes to guys if you even pretend like you know what you are doing they like that and I am sure everything will be fine when you choose to. It may hurt when you first begin but usually if you masturbate it tends to hurt less because you are use to it in away. The pain of the first time will however not last forever it is important to make sure you are well lubricated and relaxed the first time it makes it so much easier:)About the place that is kind of an issue my parents are the same way but when you really want something you figure something out,your bes bet is letting him come over when your parents are going to be gone for a few hours,or finding a way to get to his house,unfortunatley you may have to lie to your parents to get this done but if its something you really want to do then you may have to make that sacrafice, I am in no way telling to to lie to your parents or saying its ok,you should do whats best for you,I am just trying to give you options and ideas to get you started.I want to thank you so much for coming to me for advice I really appreciate it,I wish you the best of luck and I hoped this helped,i will be more than happy to anwer any more questions you have on this topic,specific questions might be best for you since its your first time,everyone goes through the FIRST TIME it can be confusing and scary but everything will work out I promise.Looking forward to hearing from you in the future if you need anything else:)
SINCERLY,DIAMOND:)
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