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Virgin again
Ok i know this question is kind of stupid but i had sex with a real jerk and a guy who took advantage of me who is no longer my friend and i was wondering if it was possible for me to become a virgin again it would help me feel much better so leave me some advice please
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Hey Y'all!!
I know everyone is trying to help you out by telling you that you can get your hymen sewn back or whatever and that is just NOT true!!! Sweetie, I know that you want to be a virgin again and you can, spiritually. If you no longer give yourself to that one person emotionally then you will have your full heart to give the person that really deserves it!!
LOVES
Gwen and Jaz
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Physically, yes.
Spiritually, no.
The only way you can become a "virgin" again is to have surgery.
Yes, they have surgeries that make you physically look like you're a virgin by making you tighter, I guess. They're very pricy.
But think about it. I'm sorry to admit it but your virginity is the one thing that you'll never be able to get back :/
He took something very special and unique from you and you may physically become a virgin or go to a virginal ceremony, whatever. You still will internally be a virgin and you will know that always in your mind.
I'm sorry this happened to you :/
I hope I helped.
Feel free to ask any further questions or update me on anything that goes on.
Good luck.
-Kayla
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Unfortunately, no you cannot become a virgin again. When you loose your virginity, the very thin membrane, the hymen in your vagina has been ruptured and this will not grow back,or come back. Once it's puncture, it's gone for good.
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Every new person is a chance to do it right.
Set some rules for yourself. Don't sleep with someone until X period of time, maybe start with a year. If you break your rule you do, people make choices all the time, but it gives you a goal to meet thats far off.
Heres how I see it. When you involve sex, it complicates things alot. Often the relationship becomes ABOUT sex for a good while. Instead of getting to know each other, you spend time before sex thinking about when you're next going to have it, and time after doing the same. You focus alot less on just getting to know someone.
On the way, here are a few things to pay attention to.
- How often does he ask you about yourself vs how often does he talk about himself?
- When he talks about himself, is he bragging, is he telling funny/sad/interesting stories?
- Watch his eyes. Does he meet your eyes, does he stare at everything BUT you (means hes nervous) or do you catch him constantly staring at your body?
- Does he seem to respond to you with interest? Does he have a glazed over look staring off into the distance when you talk?
- Does he remember specific things you've told him several times? If you tell him a funny story, does he remember it two weeks later if it comes up in conversation?
From stuff like this you can tell alot about a guy. An asshole will ignore things you say, won't remember anything, will talk about himself excessively or brag about himself alot, and often if you have a conversation will take every opportunity to dominate conversation. You might say something really interesting to him, and instead of responding to it, asking questions about it, or relating to it in some way, he goes off on something somewhat random talking about himself.
Pay attention to how much they pay attention to you. A guy should want to know things about you, want to find out about you. He should want to do things for you, the same way you do things for him. If the relationship isn't equal in these departments, he's probably not someone you want to be with.
You need to have a better criteria. You can't "get back" your virginity, but virginity really doesn't matter that much. Everyone does stupid shit that they regret, if you learn from it, you won't make the same mistakes the next time.
Remember this asshole. Remember how he acted around you. Avoid guys who act the same.
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umm no but u do have a second chance as they say frm the people at the life center thats wat they told us at the sex class thingiey
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Hello,well unfortunatley there is no way to become a virgin again unless you went in for surgery and got your hymen sewed bakc up but then again virginity has more to do than just a hymen. Your hymen can be broken even not furing intercourse(popping your cherry)There is no way to undo the past just focus on the now and the future. You can learn from that bad situation and make sure the next time you have sex it is with someone that cares about you and is not trying to take advantage of you in anyway,it should be mutual, if that makes you feel better. You can remain abstinent until you find that guy worthy of being with you intamatley and it may just feel like the first time because it will be something you both want to do,so you wouldnt be a virgin again physically but mentally you would be!:),.just know that you only derserve the best and you deserve a guys respect and loving kindness,you will go far knowing this and you may regret less of your sexual experiences.Just see the way he treated you as a learning experience that you will never let happen again:)I hope this helped and I wish you the best of luck,if you have any further questions on this topic or any other topic I would be happy to help you just send a private message. Hope everything goes well!
SINCERLY,DIAMOND:)
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