HEYY im THE RACK !!
im 16F and livin it up in Rhode Island. I love to just kickback and relax. I think i'm pretty mature for my age and have a interesting view on life.
iv been on this site for years, but i just made this new column. so i've prolly given you advice before, i love giving my opinion, i love helping ppl with what they dont know, so feel free to ask!! =]
Location: Rhode Island
Age: 16
AIM: THEE RACKK
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Do guys prefer blow jobs or sex?
I know everyone's different, so giving examples from experience, etc. will do. I'm just curious. (link)
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Definitely Sex! but then again that depends on the girl, what if that girls sucks in bed, but gives a killer blowjob.. i think theyd prefer the bj then.
If sex feels better than the blowjob then why not go for the sex.. sometimes there are just things that make the sex inconvenient or unattractive, like what girl [or guy] is doing it and how.
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Hi! I met this new girl at school and I really want to be friends with her because she seems to interesting. The problem is that she won't open up and be friendly with me! She's, pretty much, a loner and keeps to herself. Everybody needs a friend though and I'd like to get to know her better. I don't know if she gets too nervous to really talk to me or what but I'd really like to have some conversations with her.
How do I get her to open up to me and be my friend without being pushy or intimidating? THANK YOU ALL! (link)
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Keep talking to her, dont give up, just dont be annoying about it. Over time I think everyone opens up atleast a wee bit. lol
She just needs to feel comfortable, talk to her about things she might already know, maybe about a book she is reading, give her the opportunity to have control of the conversation with something that interests her.
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hey i was wondering..are the trojan ectasy condoms the same size as the regualar trojans? i just bought them the other day and the square packages look a little bigger than the regular? i fit in the regular trojans,..i hope these are the same size =[ (link)
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Yeah they are designed differently. They have a flare head. A bit bigger further up. You'll be fine, open one up!
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Girl #1 is 20 years old, sexy, smart, ambitious, wild/spontaneous and is a 'country girl' if u will. I feel a connection with her and a spark when i am around her that i havent felt in a long time. But, she is very dramatic and is constantly angry at me 4 things which are either not my fault or are just blown completely out of proportion. every week she finds something else 2 b angry with me about that i really dont deserve and then she will treat me like crap for days, making me grovel at her feet. I really am the nicest guy on the planet and would do anything 2 make her happy, yet she constantly tells me that i don't care about her and am selfish. She has many emotional issues and is now seeking help so hopefully she will begin 2 c me for who I really am. But 2 weeks ago, she called things off with me in order 2 try 2 get back with her ex boyfriend. So, being fed up, I went out and met someone else (girl #2). Girl #2 is 21 years old, and is the sweetest person on the face of the earth! She is very much like me (an engineer, smart, wacky sense of humor, very caring and loving, sensitive etc) and she is also very beautiful. I end up going on a few dates with her and hooking up with her (she was a virgin before me). Then girl 1 decides that things won’t work between her and her ex anymore so she comes back 2 me. So I tell girl 2 that I still have feelings for girl 1, and I tell girl 1 about girl 2. Girl 1 is very angry, but is willing 2 work things out. Girl 2 is upset, but still wants 2 b with me. The thing is I really like both of them and could see myself being with either one of them. My dilemma is that I don’t want to hurt girl 1 in her time of need (since she is not emotionally stable) and I don’t want 2 just up and leave girl 2 since I took her virginity. I have put a lot of effort into making girl 1 believe that I wasn’t going 2 just leave her, and now I am contemplating doing just that. Which should I choose? Booth are viable relationship options. (link)
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You should definitely choose girl 2!
You should of thought before you took her VIRGINITY!
but not only should you stay with her for that reason but also because you sound much more positive when you talk about her.
Girl 1 doesn't sound too pleasant, you are probably young as well and ask yourself, do you really need someone who is emotionally unstable in your life right now? maybe as a friend, but not as a girlfriend. She needs to work things out with herself before she can be with someone else.
And she went back to her ex and now is crawling back to you, doesn't that make you feel like a back-up, do you really want to be an extra in her little movie ? Girl 2 probably has her feelings invested in you now, i would say pick her but take things slower this time around, you just told her about girl 1, i think that definitely affects the relationship a bit. But go with the girl who is more suitable for your life right now. I think when it comes to picking who you want to be with, you have the right to be selfish and think about what is better for you, not them.
So who is better for you? [ btw i really wanna know who you pick, so let me know ] =]
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this may be a really stupid question but i REALLY don't know the answer.
does sperm really show up under blacklight? doesi t really stain clothes / body parts like that?
if so, how long does it take to come off? (link)
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it sure does. i think you probably just wash it a few times. but who is seriously going to have a blacklight checking someones clothes and sheets [creepy] lol and about the body parts, I dont think so, but it can sit within the body for a while.
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50% of marriages end in divorce.
What do you believe that the reason for this is? I mean, were the people not meant for each other in the first place? Did it just take living together for a while for them to realize that?
OR was what brought down the marriage, well, getting married? Are some couples super happy as boyfriend/girlfriend but the stereotypical expectations of a married couple get in the way? (i.e. the wife has to cook, care for kids, etc.; husband has to work)
i hope i'm making sense.
i just want some opinions on this :) (link)
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lol i love opinion questions.
I think alot of divorces have to do with cheating.
Cheating is the new thing now, not only are the men cheating, now the women are sneaking around too =]
Also people just change and you want the person you fell in love with, not the new person they seem to have become. It depends on the two people, but there can be a lot of fighting just for no reason, or stress about bills, and what if the man has a gambling problem, that can seriously put a deep hole in the marriage. Any kind of addiction/problem within the relationship has high potential for divorce.
I personally dont want to get married, I am 100% for divorce but why have to go through that, if you guys love eachother and want to spend the rest of your lives together than go ahead [even buy eachother rings], and if anything happens that makes one or both change their mind than they wont have to file for divorce or split the accounts and all that crap. It'll just be a heartache and not a pain in the ass as well.
Also people can just get boring, I dont see myself wanting to be with that same person forever, seriously forever sounds like a long time, and they will probably become physically unattractive to me within time, and new is always exciting. But I've never experienced true love, so thats probably why I think people get "boring" but I still dont think I will change my mind =]
Well hope what i said was interesting.
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Hi, 22/f, he's 28/m.
Background: I worked at a coffee shop. Andy is one of the regulars. We talked a lot, hung out a little, and wound up dating for a month when I was broken up with my long-term on-and-off mess/boyfriend, Mike. Because I was still addicted to Mike, I broke it off with Andy. He understood, and hated myself for doing it, but I had to. Leading him on would've been wrong...
More than a year later: I no longer work at the coffee shop, Mike and I are done, and I've started hanging out with the regulars again, including Andy. A bunch of us went to the bar last night, and he made it pretty clear that he still likes me.
He's a good man, he's intelligent, he's fun, he's respectful, we have a lot in common...I don't know. I'm just kind of afraid to get back into a relationship with him because I hurt him last time. If we like each other, though, shouldn't we pursue it, if we're both single (which we are)? Should we just make sure we take things REALLY slow? I've been considering getting back into the dating scene lately, but dating around, not seriously...y'know? Just have some fun. What if he wants something more serious, and I hurt him again?
I need advice on this; I'm used to dealing with a hypersensitive, narcissistic, borderline guy...I don't think I know how to handle a normal one. (link)
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I'm used to that same kind of guy, so when the normal one comes around your like ummm wtf do i do?
lol. So i think if your genuinely interested in this guy then definitely start dating him, go on small dates, hangout and decide wether you guys want to be like bf gf or like "talkin" but only to each-other. I say just go with the flow, if things go fast then hey they go fast, what is the worst that will happen.. your 22, have fun, if he wants something too serious let him know that at this point in time you are not ready for that, but if he can handle your pace than that's great.
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Hey everyone, 22/f.
So, I recently got out of a shitty relationship with a guy (James) I'd been with for over four years. My heart hadn't really been with him for over a year, but we said our final goodbyes only last weekend.
This is gonna sound bad, but I'm already considering dating. Is it too soon? I think I'm past the point where I'm attracted to a guy because he's not James, and can see the guy for who he is, but there's still that fear that that's what I'm doing, y'know?
I don't know if I'm looking for a relationship right now as much as just getting to know some guys and having some fun (not like that...James kinda killed my sex drive).
Anyway. The kicker here is that I've never actually dated before. Like, gone out with guys who weren't my friends first, who I didn't already know well. I guess my question here is something along the lines of "any tips?" or "any feedback for me?"
Thanks! (link)
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Well your young and able to drink.. hit up the clubs with some friends have a drink or two.
Look good that night,go to a popular spot, and your bound to get hit on.. be outgoing, dont be afraid to give your number out to a guy [not everyguy, but one you get a good vibe from] and see where things go from there. I wouldnt talk to drunk men, chances are they wont remember you or where they put your number.
Basicly put yourself in situations where you will meet new people and dont be afraid to conversate.. nothing sucks more than a person who just cannot talk. lol have fun!
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My friends and I were talking the other day and we got curious about something. If you die, what happens to your internet stuff? I mean, does MySpace go in and delete your MySpace so that somebody else can use that URL name or does it just sit there? In addition, we were curious about Facebook, MyYearBook, Friendster, Hi5, and BeBo. We figured the same thing would happen to them all but in case it's different then I listed the ones we were interested in.
Thanks for any of the info! :D
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yeah it stays there. thats why i tell one person my password in case anything ever happens. but sometimes pages are turned into like shrines and people will leave messages to the person who passed away, and its like peoples' way of grieving.
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I'm a senior in high school beginning college next fall. I'm not much of a party person but I consider myself to be really nice. What are some ways to make quality friends on campus? (link)
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Yup definitely join a club, or even better a sport so you can stay fit as well. And step outside the box, take a chance, and party a little. It wont hurt, just bring a friend with you, and dont drink too much. Be outgoing, you can still be really nice, but if your really quiet then how will people know your nice, get me? well have fun
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I really want to learn how to drive but, of course, I want to do it legally and not just take my mom's keys. My mom said she doesn't really care if I learn how to drive right now or not so it isn't a big deal for her. How do I get a learner's permit so that I can learn how to drive though? None of my friends drive so I don't really have someone to ask and I don't want to ask something stupid to them anyway. Where do I go for a learner's permit?
Oh, and will I need to take a test or anything? If so, is there any way I can prepare myself for a driver's learning permit? (link)
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usually you can take drivers ed at your high school providing you are 15 and 10 months when classes begin. At the end of the classes you take a test and if you pass you can go to the DMV at 16 years old and get your permit. 6 months later you have your appointment to get your license.
For now you can still practice, have your mom take you to a big open parking lot with little to no cars and you'll be fine.
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My boyfriend wants me to go on the birth control pill so he doesn't have to put a condom on when we have sex but I'm not sure if it's safe to do that. We really can't risk me getting pregnant so I want all of the information on this before I go on the pill so I know what needs to happen for us to be safe. I'm not against going on the pill or anything, but I do want to know if we'll be safe and protected if he doesn't wear a condom any more when we have sex. My boyfriend says as long as I take the pill every day then he won't have to wear a condom, but a friend of mine says she still makes her boyfriend wear a condom just be on the safe side even though she's been on the pill for like 3 months now.
Any info. is great info.
Thanks! (link)
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I would look into what pill you want to get first, there are different side affects and women are affected differently, so you may gain weight, have spotting and breakthrough bleeding which can affect your sex life, and other symptoms, so decide whether you really want to go on it.
I'm on the pill and I never take it at the same time everyday and some times I even miss days, you may think you'll do it right, but you never know, so always wear a condom!
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So I'm a girl.I'm bisexual and really attracted to a friend of myne.Everytime I see her, I just wanna grab her in my arms and cuddle her.What should I do? Should I tell her I find her attractive and that I like her or should I just keep my feelings to myself? (link)
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Does she know you are bisexual. If she is not bisexual and you know she is completely straight then I would suggest not telling her that, you might creep her out and then she might not want to be friends anymore. Keep that stuff to yourself. I know I would be creeped out, but im 16 and still immature compared to adults [some anyway lol] so it depends on who she is, but for now let it be a secret desire.
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How am I supposed to ask for advice if I dont know what my problem is. This is what happened to me a few weeks ago. I met this lady, a very brilliant, smart, sophisticated type of a woman.
She went out with me several times, we shared notes in our school work...she is a Physician Assistant student at University of Minnesota and am going for my masters in Mass Communication and Journalism.
After a few weeks, she started missing my phone calls, ignoring my phone calls and when I confronted her she asked me for money to pay a medical bill of 1,200.00.
What was she upto? I wondered!
So I asked her if she thinks we are heading anywhere with our relationship?
She said I was not her type....I was not light skin enough....I was tall enough and had the hair she liked but I was not light skin enough.
Should I bleach myself...cause I really care about her.....pleae advise. thanks...bye
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haha not LIGHT SKIN ENOUGH? that sounds prejudice, stay away from her. and are you crazy? bleach your skin? dont even consider that. there are many people who would like you no matter what your skin color is. thats nonsense. And dont give her money. she doesnt deserve it, no matter what medical problem she has, she probably has a brain condition for saying something so dumb. Dont waste your time on people like that, life is short, you do not know when it will end, dont care about people who dont care about you.
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I'm super pretty. Super skinny. All the boys drool over me. But I'm nawt popular, because in 5th grade, i was a total LBR and i befriended the lamest girl in my class. Now,were still friends and shes still and LBR. Most of my friends are super popular and i would luh-v to hang with them instead I'm expected to hang out with my LBR. So how do i gradually drop her without hurting her feelings?
Thanks!
xoxo Kellie (link)
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Dont stop being her friend just because you want to hang out with the popular kids. If they cant accept who your friends with than they are true friends. Put yourself in her shoes, if you were "gradually dropped" just for the hell of it how would you feel? Unless she did something mean or annoying or some legitimate reason then dropping her as a friend is just mean and she could probably get a better friend. True friends are more important then popularity, remember this, most of those people you will never know again after high school, how about keeping at least one good friend even if she is considered lame. Dont let others pick your friends, you pick your friends.
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im 14 and i want to kiss my boyfriend when he askes me and i for some reason make excuses up everytime. he askes me before hand because he knows that im uncertain about the hole thing and he understands but i really want to kiss him just somethings holding me back and im not sure what it is. ive never kissed anyone before and im not sure how im to aproach the hole thing and to what level i take it. im just uncertain and worried about the hole thing. i really want to but yeh :( (link)
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Believe me, after you kiss him your going to be like that's it? this is the big thing i've been waiting for? it's really not that big a deal, you'll like it, and it'll feel natural like something you should be doing. If you skip straight to tongue kissing, you may be a little grossed out, but you'll live. Try small pecks or long kisses minus the tongue until your ready. Dont worry, you'll be fine!
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I am a 32 year old divorcee with three children. For the last six months I have been dating a wonderful man he is good to me and to my children. We get along well together and enjoy each others company. The problem? I just am not sexually attracted to him. We've had sex it's not that it's bad I just don't always want to do it. He is much smaller than I am accustomed to. Should I give up all the good things about our relationsip due to my lack of physical attraction for him? (link)
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well lets hope you dont mind some 16year old advice. lol
I used to think looks were everything, I barely cared about a guys personality, looks were the most important thing until I met a very cute guy who soon just treated me like shit. I snapped out of it and realized the inside matters more. Looks can be deceiving. So i think if you like this man and you guys have a bond wether it be more emotional than physical, then you should give him a chance, because somehow the way you see him can change, the more you like him the more attracted to him you can get. His personality will outshine his looks, making him more attractive.
I mean is it just me, or are most highly attractive men assholes and the ugly ones very nice ?
But if you know there is no way you can overcome your non physical attraction to him then tell him you just want to be friends and nothing more. Because at the end of the day that is who you are in bed with, you want to be able to look at them and get happy. you know? so good luck, i'd like to how everything goes. i hope i gave some good input. =]
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ok, so i like this boy alot and my friend told him that i liked him and we excahngeed numbers...then my friend liked his other friend so we all went to the movies, well me and this boy kind of kissed and stuff. well the next day i was all happy and stuff, then that week i like called him every day but i was afraid to talk to him so we were quiet on the phone like always. then their came a time where he just cussed me out cuz i wouldn't suck his you know what. the next day i told him sorry. then i told this other boy that went to his school that i was going to fight him, and i told another boy from his school that i lost ma v card by him but it was a lie. but they told him and he got all mad cussin me out sayin well you are a tweak ur on my dick get off o and i didnt mention that he was still in love with his ex but anyways he just said alot of stuff that hurt me and i dont know what to do???
Im ashlee and im 15
and the boys name is corey and he is 16 "I NEED ADVICE!!!!!" (link)
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Boys just dont have manners nowadays. I've been cussed out and called names that NO ONE should say to anyone. I personally think parents who think they do a good job raising their kids need to do 10x better, because in the end they always say "what went wrong?". Treat these boys like they are girls, because they are, no real man or just male would talk to a female like that, so cuss them back out like they are some hoes on the corner. lol
The lies you told dont make you look good, but honestly I'd lie again and deny I ever said that lol. Most importantly, dont ever apologize for something you dont want to do, especially something as dum as oral sex. A guy who just wants that from you is NOT WORTH YOUR TIME. AT ALL. instead of saying sorry you should have said fuck you!
You may still feel hurt, that will pass, just dont talk to these guys, let them talk, they are not worth it. Hold your head up high and keep walking. =]
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I've been dating this guy for almost a month now and he seems to be a pretty good guy but things about him make me think he is only using me. He keeps hinting to me that he wants me to suck him off or have sex with him and it's getting pretty annoying. At first I thought he was just kidding around with me but now he brings it up every single day!
He also always bums a few dollars off of me every day for snacks near lunchtime. I wouldn't mind but he doesn't say he's going to pay me back. He doesn't really come from a wealthy family though.
He's nice to me though and always makes a point to tell me he cares about me. He hugs me every morning when we see eachother at school and he sits with me at lunch. He doesn't really talk to me even if he's sitting with me though. He always has his friends around at times like that so I don't even know some of the basics about him like his favorite food, movie, or book.
I'm just kind of torn about this situation. Is he using me or is it just early in the relationship? Should I tell him to stop talking about having sex with me and that I'm not going to do it or what? Should I stop giving him money for snacks and tell him he needs to bring his own cash? I don't want to be mean but I don't want to be stepped all over... (link)
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Hey, so i wouldnt say he is necesarily using you, he probably just thinks since you are his gf you dont mind giving him some change for lunch if he doesnt have the money. And you do keep giving it to him, so that gives him the impression that you dont care. And him hinting about sex is probably to get a reaction from you, basically like wether your down for it or not, but he may do it in a kidding around way. Boys will be boys, but girls should still be girls, so respect your self and your wishes by not doing anything you do not want to do. You can tease him by going along with what hes saying, like "ohh yeahh, mhm definitely, NOT! [then laugh]" or you can be serious and tell him your not ready. lol About the knowing the basics of him, well there are some people I have known for years and am friends with and I still dont know their favorite anything lol That's all little stuff though, the important stuff matter, like who they are and about their life.
Next time he asks for money say you dont have any, and definitely give this kid a shot, its not worth breaking up over something not that serious, tell me how everything goes.
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why dose guys get turn on more girls do. what make a girl turn on? (link)
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I get what your asking, but you should definitely reword that/add words, because it doesnt make sense.
Anyway, a girl can be turned all by all the same things a guy is turned on by, it depends on the girl. A few things are..
The male body [abs, muscles, private area]
Dirty Talk
Sexual activity [kissing, touching, etc.]
Cologne
Certain clothing [ex. i love guys who wear pink]
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