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Q: I am a cashier at a restaurant. I work with a girl who is lazy, rude, and doesn't follow company procedure. She is never reprimanded. She didn't even show up for a mandatory meeting. She is somehow up for a promotion too. If I were to act like her I would be fired. What should I do. Her laziness means that I have to work even harder to keep everything going.

There is no good answer for this question. Sorry. Its not your buisness. I am sure your boss realizes that this employee was absent at a mandatory meeting. You just keep working doing the best you can do. You are going to find people like that at every job you work at. Unless it is a very small job. Point being you just have to keep working hard. Good Luck.

Q: is it bad that I'm horny 24/7 like its hard as fuck being a virgin man.. should i save tip college or when i get married or if i lost my v card in high school would it be wrong/trashy

I had my v card taken from me at a young age 13. I wanted to save my self till marriage or until i was in a serious relationship almost 10 years later i find my special someone and as a way to make us special we choose to not have inter courses right now not until we are living together but its something special snd if you want to be able to share that with someone i would wait now you also have to think that girl that you fall for may or is probably not a virgin not many are anymore sadly to say

Q: My mom married a much younger guy last year, and living with him has been awkward because he flirts with me when my mom's not around. Yesterday when my mom was at work I was sitting on the couch watching a movie with my little brother and sister, they were sitting on the floor. My step dad came and sat by me. He put his hands in between my thighs over my jeans and started touching my breasts. He did while my sister and brother were sitting on the floor with their backs to us and it was dark. When he did that I was scared . I told him to stop and he told me not to tell him to stop. My sister & brother were watching the loud movie, so they weren't paying attention to us on the couch. I tried pushing him away and moving. He kept on bothering me the whole time and I was scared to get up and when my mom got home I went in my room. I never feel comfortable around him. He'll put his hand on my waist, rub my stomach and get too close to me in front of my mom and it feels uncomfortable, and he's always saying "You're beautiful" My mom thinks he's playing around. And he looks at me with perverted eyes, all the time. i know my mom loves him so much and I know she wont believe me & she'll stay with him because he has money and we have nowhere else to go. She has stayed with him even though he beat her up before.

This is abuse and if you are scared to speak with your mother you need to speak with an adult you do trust a teacher, counsler at your school, police friends parents, grandparents. Dont be scared. Be strong and get help for your self. Good luck.

Q: Last night, my mother went to bed early and it was just me and my stepdad in the kitchen. As I was preparing myself to take my medication, he came up, pulled my shirt up and started rubbing my stomach while I had my back turned. Should I be nervous? What does it mean?

I cant tell you what it means because i dont know why. Speak with him with your mother in the room just let him know it made you uncomfortable.

Q: there is this tutor I work with in the tutoring lab in college. She's great and a wonderful person to be around with. She is about 28 and I am 22 and she is engaged, My class ended a few months ago but I saw her around campus when I was going to meet up with a friend recently and chatted with her
now I find myself going out of my way to that location just so I can hopefully see her and talk to her again. Last week I went and sat there for about half an hour (I had nothing else to do though so I wasn't skipping anything) I just get this extremely good feeling when talking to her or seeing her. Is this creepy?

someone responded this

"You better watch what you're doing or you could end up on the wrong side of her boyfriend and that could result in you with a sore face.
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But this makes no sense, if her boyfriend came after me and attacked me for no reason that would be assault and I can probably press charges

I recently ran into this girl again. She was in the math lab, I went in and started chatting to her and she seemed happy to see me and happy to chat. I get this extremely good feeling whenever I see her or talk to her. I can't explain it

No shes not married and you should follow your heart but what if it was the other way around. You were engaged and someone was going out of their way to speak to your fiance. I dont find it stalking. Just remember when she cstches on he catches on more and likely shell avoid you and ending it on your own terms nd walking away would be less painful

Q: Hello, I need help with my relationship with my mother. I am 18 and I feel as though we are growing more distant and hostile towards each other. I feel as though every time I do something wrong (which I will freely admit I am guilty of), my mother and I over react to each others response and it just ends in a shouting match. We continue to do this (and have done so for years) and I can certainly say it is not pleasant for either of us. It has gotten to the point that I am reluctant to talk with her as it almost always ends with one of us upset and angry at the other.

I am not writing this because they took my phone or Xbox or something and I am just complaining because they are unreasonable. I'm here because I need some genuine advice on how to communicate openly with my mother about why this always happens.

I know I am not the perfect son, but I feel as though the instant I do something wrong, we just get into it.

I can't stand to be angry all the time anymore.

Maybe it is more than just a communication problem. Something more deep between you all. Or a depression. Depression can cause you to be irritable. Try to focus your hostility in another form. A punching bag, a run, writing etc. Once you can release your tension it will be easier to talk. Good luck.

Q: Please don't think I'm a bad person. I know this is such an awful question to ask and I would never ask it if I was adopting a baby. I don't really see the difference between a baby you have and a baby you adopt, but imagine that you were adopting an older child. Like a pre-teen? I'm asking because that's the situation I may be in.

I want to love this kid more than my life. I want to take this child who has never been loved by anyone before and shower him with love. I want to love him so much that I would die for him without even having to think about it. However, what would it say about me to love him as much as my other kids who have been with me since I held their little naked bodies in my arms shortly after their births? What would it say about me if I didn't?

As I'm writing this, I realize that it sounds much worse than it did in my head. I don't blame you if you think I'm a jerk, but while I feel capable of loving this kid as much as any other, I wonder if it will say very little about my relationship with my other kids. What would it say if a new kid could come along an automatically mean as much to me as they did? What would it say about me if I took this kid in and didn't give him the love he needs so badly and has been deprived of all his life?

Also, I find myself treating the kids differently. For example, one of my sons was going to get a dirt bike for Christmas, but I've been wondering if I should get him one or not. They can be so dangerous and I'd biting my nails every time he used it, worrying that he'd get hurt. However, I when I thought about getting the new kid a dirt bike, I didn't have a problem with it. I don't want him to get hurt either. I'd rather anything happen to myself than that, but I'm not as nervous about him having one.

Tell me what you think of this situation. Really imagine yourself being in this situation yourself and give me complete honesty. If you want to call me a jerk, go ahead, but please, give me some direction. Thanks in advance.

I was married and had two step children. I took them as my own treated them as my own. I used to watch my sister in laws kids all the time who never got attention from their parents and I treated them as my own. Children are innocent pure. Its awful so many children are in need of a family. Ive never treated a child different from my own. With the dirt bule i think you want to give him one because he hadnt had anything and you want to make him happy and feel loves as in your fear of treating him different you are over reactting i did the same thing i was worried id treat my step kids different than my own but we all fell together like. Puzzle just remember he doesnt no what its like to feel loved by a family

Q: I've known him for 5 months. He's an incredibly sweet, kind, caring, and genuine guy. He's older than me and lives far away. My parents don't care about the age difference but don't believe that he has a good enough job for someone of his age. They think that I can't possibly know him (because of the distance) and don't know what kind of family he comes from etc.

He's come to visit me multiple times since we met. These visits are really expensive because he has to get a hotel. If I were to visit him it would be a lot cheaper because I could stay at his apartment, or even at my friends apartment which is 45 mins away from his.

I'm 18 years old but am still dependent on my parents. They said that if I go visit him they will stop paying for my university. However he can't come visit me anytime soon and I really miss him. They took my passport and think that I don't know but I realized it was missing. So I'd have to confront them and ask for my passport back.

I don't know what to do.

You may know what he wants to show you about him. I am not saying hes a bsd person i dont know him but if there is something truely there than it can wait. Get threw school they are paying for your school amd helping you. Starting a career is extremely important exspecially in todays society. I know its not what you want to here but unless you are able to pay for your own schooling amd be independent listen to your parents charish the time that you two do have together when he comes to visit it will bring you closer

Q: Okay so i'm in middle school and there's thius guy i like , he said i wasnt bad looking ?

I wouldnt call it love not yet. Maybe he is not ready for a dsting relationship. Become friends take of slow and it may bloom into more

Q: i know what it is like to be misunderstood for example um i usually walk around everywhere i go thinking about stuff that makes me happy and im always in my happy place but suddenly my mother ask me if im okay which angers me the most so how can you make them understand you becuase its something only you understand and its something that i have always understood

I apoligize i dont under stand your question although people are not mind readers open up and talk to your mother walking around alone all the time pushing the bad or sad thoughts aside are only temporary.

Q: Ive had enuf of this life and honestly do not want to live anymore. Not because she left me but because i hate myself for letting her hurt me agen. Because i believd her and let her in my life agen. All i hav for family is my mum and an older brother i dont get along with. No friends becoz of her. How do i ensure my mother is cared for afta i pass?

If you wanted to ensure your mother was taken care of you wouldnt take the easy way out. Suicde is not the answer. There are people out there who care. There is always support groups and counesling. There is nothing to be ashamed of in going to speak with someone. Mend things with your family. They will always love you. Life gets tough for everyone but its never more than we can handle. I wish you the bestest luck and will always be here to listen and speak with

Q: I have been broken up with 2 times now by the some Boy. Why does it hurt so much?

Break ups always hurt. Even when you are the one doing them. It makes you stronger and takes you a step closer into meeting the one. Surround yourself with good friends.

Q: Ok so this is for my friend. She is 13 (yes she has her period) So she had sex with her boyfriend (and her bf also went through peburity)and so they didn't use a condom. And he said he did cum.. is there a possibility that she could get pregnant? She is just really worried and wants to know.
~Thanks :)

Yes its possible.

Q: i feel so much pain when my bf do anal sex with me my age and bf age 21,his pines 8 inch long and fat sometimes i m cry so much plz advice pian free sex

I just don't do it. It hurts me to. I just tell my husband I cant do it. I dont care if he uses his fingers. work up towards it.

Q: For the past few days, I have been getting very nauseous about food. I am a vegetarian, and very skinny, but I eat enormous amounts of food! I love food! I eat small portions at breakfast so I won't be bloated, a simple lunch of fruit, a basic meal like rice or pita bread with shrimp, salad, or even some ramen. I also pack a drink, chips or pretzels, and maybe a granola bar. I have a pretty good healthy diet; lately when I sit down to eat at lunch or think about food, I get extremely nauseous. And I was nauseous on Monday, with an extreme lack of appetite and nausea. I woke up and felt absolutely horrid that day like I was going to throw up.

My friends keep taunting me that I am pregnant, and after a while, I laughed... but now I am beginning to worry. My boyfriend and I do have an active sex life, and I know condoms are not 100 percent efficient, but we use them. I am only 16 and I am seriously beginning to think I am. However, I will wait until I get my period on April 18th. Hopefully, I will be reassured. Any advice for me on why I am sick? Thanks.

I have been sick like that since the end of January. They still havent found out what is wrong with me but I am not pregnant

Q: which branch is it where you go once/twice a month and two weeks in the summer?

Army as a reserve.

Q: if zach is my boyfriend then what is a good nickname for him

I have always just called my husband babe or hun

Q: Dating older men was not zomethibg i planned on in life, however once i started dating i seemed to only find older men attractive.

My boyfriend Jorge and i have been dating since October 2010. We met exercising around our neigborhood. He waz a recent dicorced father of a 2 (now 3) year old. I was a university student who just moved to Florida.

When i moved to Miami we still saw each other 4x a month. Recently he asked me to move back to central Florida to advance our relationship. After much debate, i decided to leave Miami. Now ive been back for 4-5 months and if anything i see him less or the same as i did when i lived ib Miami. Thjngs have not even attempted to advance. I questioned him about it and he acted like i was speaking another language! I told him i am fed up and we need to go our separate ways, but thats not what i really want.

My question is this:
Why do you think he did not want to advance the relationship?
Do you think he just wanted me closer and more convienent for gim (possibly even control)?
Do you think my responce to this event was appropriate?
If we speak again what should i say to get my point across?

* he is also a cardiologist with his own pratice, ill be il school for 2 more years. Our families know about each other, i have met his son, etc.

I mean I think you should talk with out you no an argument. I mean tell him that you thought the two of you were going to attempt to advance our relationship together I moved back so we could spend more time together but it seems we are at the place in our relationship as we were while I was in Miami.

Q: Is tape only intercourse? I told my boyfriend I didn't want to give him a blowjob. But he stuck his dick in my face and demanded. I resisted so he just hacked off in my face until he came. Is this considered rape? 15/f

It is sexual assault but it depends on where you live to be able to consider it rape. You could always google it or talk to a police office. You can ask to speak to a female if it would make you feel more comfortable.

Q: So I'm 23 and thinking lots of death lately....my brother. Killed himself in front of me when I was 15 I watched my aunt die of cancer all my grandparents died I was a foster. Child in many different homes and badly abused as a child ... I get a lot of bad thoughts about ending life what should I do ps... I'm a girl I'm from Canada

I can't say I know what you are going threw, because I don't. I have recently over came my fear of being able to talk about the times I was raped I over came my fear by being in counseling. I was diagnosed with PTSD. Post Dramatic Stress Disorder. Something you see hear read about anything can trigger this. It is best to learn how to deal these situations. It can be done you just have to work at it. Taking your life shouldnt have to be an option dont let it be.

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My name is Ashley. I am 22 years old. Ill be celebrating my 3rd 21st birthday June :) . I had my first child at 15. I got married at 18 and had another child shortly after. They have two different fathers. I am currently going threw a divorce. I moves states after we seperated ( ugly seperation) but I had no family in that state. I left everything except my beautiful babies and our clothes. I found a job up north and things are going good. I am dating. I have been in abusive situations. I am going to college for psychology and sociaology. Im here to listen help and give you advice ive been in alot of different situations and can relate to a lot.