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About Me: Hello & welcome to my advice column! My name is Jennifer and I'm 19 years old. I'm married to my high school sweetheart, Eric, as of 06.09.07! ♥ He is in the United States Navy, and right now we are stationed in Virginia Beach. Eric is my best friend, and my hero..I love my sailor! I also love helping people and giving advice on all kinds of things- I'm a very good listener. I'm in my sophomore year of college, majoring in psychology, and will eventually be going to med school to be a psychiatrist. Feel free to leave anything in my inbox. I'm always looking to meet new people and give advice!!

My interests: my fiance, music, eating, sleeping, gymnastics, dancing, partying, going to the beach, shopping, taking pictures, & there is so much more to me than all this! ;)

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no haha its not really a fantasy.. but no 13? i know ppl that r younger than me and have had sex.. but anyway. no i just like really like him and yeah

Well anyone under the age of 13 having sex should just die or something, because sooner or later they are going to die of aids anyways. If they kill themself before hand- they won't have the chance to pass it to anyone else. I hope things work out with you tho- and good luck.
♥Jennifer

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hey okay.. i'm 13 and i know this guy thats like 14 or 15 that will like kiss me and stuff.. and i like him. but one thing, i dont know how :-/ please help i wnat this fantasy

Kissing is your fantasy? Well.. okay then! Just relax and take it slow. Kissing definately comes naturally to people and you should't worry about it hun! Just don't get all tensed up and nervous because it won't be as enjoyable- and there isn't anything to worry about anyways. You're only 13, this guy can't expect you to be a pro anyways! If you're still worried, try looking up on a website tips on kissing- that might help you out. Good luck and have fun!
♥Jennifer

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what time of the month in relation to your peroid are you least fertile? (if i were to have sex without a condom becuase it is against my boyfriends relgion what would be the safest time of the month to do it?)

Honestly, I'm not 100% POSITIVE what time in the month is the time when you are least fertile, so I don't want to give you a wrong answer. Try looking up the question online on an informational sex website. Usually you can find answers to questions like that on sex advice websites. My advice, don't have sex without a condom. It's really not worth it hun, and you have a much bigger risk of getting pregnant- or if he has been with other girls even a std! Always use some form of protection whether it is birth control pills/patches, or condoms. If you do choose to have sex without a condom- make sure he at least pulls out. If you are positive you re ready to not use a condom- make sure you are ready and responsible to pay the consequences if you become pregnant. You can get pregnant ANY time. Even when you are the least fertile. So be careful, and use protection. It's really not worth it to go without.
♥Jennifer

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Latly i have been having sexual dreams about my best frind. i dont have any feelings for him what-so-ever. we are like brother and sister. What do you think it means?

When you dream, alot of the time it is because there is alot running through your mind. When you sleep- your brain has a chance to rest and it sorts everything through. Sometimes the resluts come out wierd. This doesn't exactly mean that you want to/should have sexual relations with this person. Maybe you are confused about something else in your life and these dreams are trying to help you somehow think through them, but it might not be saying to do stuff with your best friend. Dreams can be crazy like that sometimes, don't let it get to you. If you really want to know what it means, try looking something up online about it. Maybe you can find a website that translates dreams? I hope this response made sense- it's kinda hard to explain! Good luck, and I hope you figure it out.
♥Jennifer

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So i have this friend that lives about an hour away(Zack)(wink wink) and i like him and it seems like he likes me too but he lives so far away that its really frustrating. Should i make something happend or just stay frinds and find aoneone around where i live?

Robynnn I love you babyyy! I hope you take the advice I gave you on the phone tonight!
♥Jennifer

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What do i do when your talking to your friend online and shes kool then shes tells you this."okay, well jason is 16, and i dont like him. and he always forces me to fuck with him, when i dont want to. so im basically being raped everyday beacause we have sex everyday but sometimes i do want to, but if i dont he will get mad and start to hit me to force me i dont know wat to do, he is in the kitchen right now so i wanted to hurry up and tell u befor he came back because he is stayig over here for a few days." Then i say the best thing is the cops.Then she says "Jason told me if i called the police on him hed kill me" She asked me for help now im asking you .... Please help me

Well..if you are really serious about this question then I think you definately need to get in touch with someone who can do something about it for your friend. Call the cops- if this guy is really serious and will really hurt her, then he can be throw in jail for a super long time. Why does this girl keep hanging around this guy if all he does is "rape" her and hit her? Tell your friend to stay away from him and not "stay over there for a few days." Good luck, and get someone involved who can make a difference.
♥Jennifer

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i just got a new bf and i like him alot my friend dared me to kiss him but i said no. He wants to talke me to the movies and i said ya but if he tries to kiss me what should I DO??

-boyfriend dinial

Kiss him back..?
♥Jennifer

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Hey girl! my mom has always been really protective of me and i have to be home by 11 on the weekends and sometimes not even that.I havent gotten caught doing anything wrong i'm responsible and everything and i have talked to them several times about it but they wont budge. it is hard when the people i'm always with dont have to be home until like 1 in the morning. they need to realize i'm gone in a year and a half ughh. i cant stand this anymore
love ya, Bethany

Hey Bethany. Sit your parents down and tell them you have something important that you need to talk to them about. Explain to them that you feel that your curfew should be 12 because you are 16, and very responsible. Make sure they know that you haven't been caught doing anything wrong yet and until you do..you deserve a chance. Be mature about it and don't whine and say stupid things like "but everybody else.." because those lines never work. Just tell them how you feel and even say something like that you don't feel like they trust you when you havent even made any mistakes. I hope things work out for you- and good luck! Oh- and remember to have a mature attitude- you will get alot farther with them if you do!
♥Jennifer

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Im a really short person and i weigh more then i should..prolly around 155 and im only 5-1...what can i do to loose weight?

Excercise will definately help you stay in shape and tighten up that tummy! Get some work-out videos and do them FAITHFULLY every night. Running and jogging help too- find a gym you can run in. Get a membership and a gym if you have to.

Try eating better; like salads and pitas. Cut back on the fast food, or better yet..don't even eat that crap. Lighten up on the pop too. Drink alot of water and just watch how much christmas chocolate you're eating. =) Hope I helped!
♥Jennifer

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MY lips get really chapped over night. What's a way to keep them smooth? dont say chap stick cuz that doesn't work for me. Thanks!

Bistex. It's simply amazing and nothing else has ever worked for me. My boyfriend and I use it all the time, and it makes your lips feel so much better as soon as you put it on. =)
♥Jennifer

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I wanna start to put myself out there to recording companies because i am a vocal major! i also wanna look for modeling agencies, and acting agencies! any ideas on how i could get started?

I model for a company called "Barbizon." I just got a call saying they were looking for people, and I went to the audition and made the cut. Check and see if Barbizon has a website. If you do find something and go to an audition- some advice is to make sure you go into the audition with an attitude that shows how much you want the spot and how much it means to you. They REALLY look for attitude towards the program! Hopefully I helped somewhat, and good luck w/ everything!
♥Jennifer

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My boyfriend has a really nice sports car. its a camaro! I was wondering what I could get him for a gift for his car that he'd like. any ideas?

Sweet car! It really depends because I don't know what kinda things he already has. Chrome exhaust tips, or neons..anything like that would be sweet. If you don't know what kinda stuff he already has, get him a gift certificate to auto zone or a car store so he can pick out what he wants! I hope I helped- and feel free to leave anything else in my inbox!
♥Jennifer

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why do we never hang out n e more woman?? :( haha -- ashlee

=( I miss you Ashleeee! Lets plan something before break is over. I love YOU.
♥Jennifer

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I weigh about 131 pounds and I'm 5'4 (I'm a female) I'm kinda curvy, but I would like to weigh around 115. Is this seriously a realistic weight? If so, how should I go about losing the weight in a healthy manner?

I consider myself to be an average teenage girl. I'm 5'4 and I weigh 115. So.. I guess it is realistic.
♥Jennifer

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I'm wearing a sweater and wasn't sure how to do my hair. It's a big, off the shoulder sweater from American Eagle. I'm just wearing it with jeans. I've have pretty long hair, down to the middle of my back. What can I do?

Straighten it, and wear it down. When you are done straightening it- take sections of it and CRIMP them. It will look super cute- trust me!
♥Jennifer

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Ok, here's what's going on... My boyfriend, we'll call him bob, has been living with me secretly for about 2 weeks now. My dad, just found out that he was here yesterday morning, and my dad was very mad. Then last night, my dad found out about it and made him leave, bob left and came back, and now my stepmom just saw him leave. So I'm really really really grounded right now. I don't know what to do or tell my parents, I can't kick Bob out because he has nowhere to go, literally. He has a pretty bad story though. Should I tell my parents his story and risk being able to be with him? Or should I lie to my parents more?

Definately tell your parents whats going on and why you are having him live with you. You have already lied enough. Just grab both your parents, sit them down and tell them that you need to have a talk about something serious. I really hope everything works out for you. Good luck!
♥Jennifer

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So one of my best friends has really goten annoying latly...? i dont want to be mean and ignore her so what should i do??

Maybe instead of talking to her and telling her that she has been annoying you (since that might hurt her feelings) you can just hang out with your other friends more? That will give you some time apart from her and it might make things a little less shaky between the two of you. Don't make it seem like you are ignoring her- just keep yourself occupied most of the time so that you won't have to resort to spending lots of time with her. Don't completely stop spending time with her- just cut back a little. Hope I helped! Feel free to leave another one in my inbox if you need anything else!
-Jennifer

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hey i was wondering how much do you weigh and how tall are you?

I weigh about 115lbs and I am 5'4. =)
-Jennifer

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When I was still with my boyfriend, I never really and truly loved him. I loved him but I wasn't IN love with him, if you know what I mean. He broke up with me, saying we had nothing in common and I thought I was okay. My friends came round to cheer me up and I thought I was over him. Then, yesterday I couldn't stop crying and I realised that I loved my ex. I need him back, I can't live without him. Everyone's telling me that I'm still young and that my heart will be broken a thousand times until I find the right guy, but I don't care. I'm scared that if I don't get my baby back then I'm going to hate christmas forever. What should I do?

Why would you hate Christmas forever because your boyfriend broke up with you?! =\ Anyways tho- I know this isn't what you want to hear but your friends are right. There's so many more guys out there who will be good to you and will have more in common with you. Don't waste your time crying over this one guy. But if you try everything and you still can't get over him- talk to him and tell him how you feel. Communication is the only way to make things work out. Hope I helped!
-Jennifer

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I was in a mental institution and I got really close to one of the staff members that worked there, she helped me in every way possible and I thought of her as my mom. Since I have been out it seems like everytime I call the hospital to talk to her, they make an excuse for me to NOT talk to her. Last night my sister looked her up on the internet and come to find out, she lives a mile away from me, and I have her home phone number, I mailed her a christmas card this morning to her home, but I dont know if I should actually call her at home. I miss her so much and she made such a big impact in my life, what do I do? I don't want her to think that I am like stalking her or anything! ???????

Aww, that's cute. I would give her a call if I were you. Explain to her how you feel about what she did for you, and wish her a merry christmas or something like that. I don't think you will seem like a stalker or anything- and that was rude of them to not let you talk to her at the institution! I hope everything works out for you and good luck hun!
-Jennifer

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