Call MeSKY
i;m 16 and i live in New York, The reason i decided to give out advice because i have been through alot in my life,
-I grew up without a father,
-dealt with abuse up till recently,
-dealt with many mental issues,
-dealt with death in a close knit family,
-dealt with disease.
-Jerk Boyfriends
-Sex issues
-Step Sisters
I've been through a lot, but it only made me stronger. I know what it feels like to be down, to be lower than you've ever been before, Sometimes you just need someone, even if you don't know this person just to talk too. When friends aren't as supportive as they should be, and parents aren't there. Thats why I'm here. I'm not perfect with advice but i will tell you straight up and do my best to help. No matter how big or small a problem is. I will be as open as i possibly can, and maybe just maybe( No promises though) i will help. Just know that talking is a good way to solve any problem..
-Sky-
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Ok, so my mom installed this internet filter called CyberPatrol. It's really annoying because it won't allow me on way too many sites! It pops up for the most unnecessary reasons!!! usually its for "chat", "glamour and intimate apperal" and "drugs alcohol and tobacco"!!!! I'm a 13 year old girl and this Stupid filter isn't allowing me to Chat with my friends or shop or even allow me on any websites were they even Mention the word cigarettes! Please help me! 1.tell me if you agree with me. 2. I don't want to know how to hack into cyberpatrol, but I want to know how to get my mom to be reasonable with me! Is It because she doesn't trust me? Does she think I'm gonna go on 'adult' websites? PLEASE DO NOT tell me that she just wants to 'protect' me from junk on the internet, because that's not the problem!
In short...I just want my mom to be reasonable! (link)
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My mom was that way when i was your age.
She does want to protect you and i know why she does.
Have you tried going up to her like a mature adult and asking her to remove this so you can chat with your friends.
Try talking with her im sure she will reconsider if you go to her in the right way.
Anything problem can be solved if you attck it the right way.
think about it!
-sky-
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15/f
my boyfriend (17/m)has been fighting with me a lot lately and much of it is harsh. today was killer. it got to the point where he called me a dumbass and the most immature person that he knows, and that he's been going out with me for the past 10 months, because i have "the potential to be a good girlfriend." he tells me that i act like a spoiled little kid and need to grow up and stop being so immature.
this kind of fight happens too often. it has lead me to vodka. i can mix it with cranberry juice to cover the smell and my parents never notice that its gone so i can get away with it. i drink it because its the only thing that can get rid of my saddness. i dont want to be an alcoholic. i realize that i need help.
what can i do? what should i do?
please help me.
i need it.
and also,
i need a friend. (link)
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Your boyfriend sounds like a boyfriend i use to have,
I use the word use because i realized it was a unhealthy situation.
No one especially your boyfriend should belittle you like that.
You need to have a talk with him,
Drinking is not the answer, and it never is.It only destroys people. and i should know i know maybe alcoholics in my life.
if you continue down this road i may happen. Never drink out of sadness.
Is he really worth all the oan our having because i dont htink anyone is worth feelin bad constantly.
And im here if you need a friend.
Ive been down this road and its not easy to get off of but its possible.
-Sky-
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14/f
i have a really healthy diet.. well i dont diet but i eat healthy and 5 smaller meals a day. i dont eat junk food and recently gave up sweets for lent. today (easter) i ate alott like chocolate and alot of dinner. i feltlike shit after eating. like, i don't even think i was hungry i just couldnt stop eating sweets and i felt so fat afer wards. im not even that fat i jut dont' like my body (5'3, 115, musclar). i tried to throw up after (i never have before) just to get ride of the junk, but i dont have like a gag reflex. i dont know what to do because sometimes i just feel the need to puke. what can i do? (link)
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Dont force yourself to puke you can get into bad habits.
Which can cause a eating disorder.
Now that you know that you get like that dont do it control.
that the thing,
one day of bad eating is not going to mess you up.
or make you fat,
because your not
ex cerise it off don't go over board
-Sky-
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do any of you have rubber bands for your braces? if so do they hurt! please let me know i get them wednesday! (link)
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My best friend has them and she never seems to have problems and shes a big wimp so im sure your fine..
-Sky-
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Whenever I either jog outside or on a treadmill, my bottoms of my feet hurt really bad. After about 5-10 minutes of jogging, the bottoms of my feet just ache and feel sore and I have to stop because they begin to hurt so bad. Is this something that will get better the more I exercise or is it just normal? (link)
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maybe try getting a insert for your shoes,,
it may help.
-sky-
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i still like my ex-boyfriend.
we've gone out maybe 15 times in the last 3 years, its getting really old. im only 15, but i really really like him and care about him alot. i've known him for so long, but right now were not even on speaking terms and its so wierd. i just dont know what i should do because it never works out. any ideas? thankyou. (link)
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I know how you feel its hard,
but maybe you should attempt to talk to him because you cant just simple rush right back into a relationship,
You may find that being friend with him i sall you need,
maybe you two will go back out but it seems like its not worth the heartache.
Being friend is better than not laking at all
trust me you will feel better.
-Sky-
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well i really want to make a few changes...
first of all, i really want highlights. this is actually a possibility.. maybe. my parents used to say no because they thought it was too annoying to maintain and stuff. then i asked my mom again and she said maybe. any other ways i could help convince her?
also, i only have 2 piercings.. in my ears. i really want a double pierce, cartilage, and belly button pierce. my parents hate piercings a lot.. like maybe i could get a double but i have really slim chances of getting a cartilage or a belly button. a lot of girls in my grade are getting them and i really like them. any ideas to convince parents?
also.. if you keep your belly button ring or cartilage in for like yearsss and then take it out will the hole eventually close up because i dont want a piercing there when im a grandma. haha (link)
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highlights- they are a pain to maintain but ask your parents to just give you this chance and if they are to hard to maintain then you will just not do it again.
Piercings- Many parents don't like them but they do need to realize they will close up if they are completely hideous. I have my cartilage pierced and threes holes in my ear and i use to have more but i grew out of the them and just simple took them out after having them for a long time..and they closed
Go to them like a responsible adult and talk to them about it.
Parent like to see their children able to goo to them like a adult.
Good luck
-Sky-
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Alrighhhhht, my friend is in love with Monica. He is a freshmen, she is a sophmore. Thhey have hooked up and whatever but it didnt mean anything...to her. But now hes all upsetbecasue she doesnt want him. Is there anyway I can make him feel better? (link)
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You seem like a good friend,,
make him forget about monica ,
because if she didnt see how great of a person he is than she isnt worth it at all.
You just need to make him feel better.
theres a girl for him.
out here he just needs help right now to get back in the game.
-Sky
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is nail polish bad for your nails? why / why not? (link)
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-Painting nails can protect them from being damaged to a certain extent, you see colored nail polish blocks light from the nails which for some people would start the growth on fungi on their nails
\- if you use a acetone based remover thats not good for your nails because it may dry them out over time, so use a non acetone based product for removing nail polish.
If you take good care of your nails then painting them should not be a problem
-Sky-
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my boyfriend wears too much cologne but i don't know how to tell him! i do NOT want to come straight out and tell him "you wear too much" he just needs to know somehow. how can i let him know that? (link)
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It really not that big of deal.
Perhaps you should just come out and tell him.
Don't tell him in a impolite way.
Just tel; him when its you two.
I'm sure he will not get offended.
he will be happy that you can be open with him
-SKY-
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hey! yeah tomorrow i have a class with this guy and i want to look cute/hot at the same time.
i know im wearing the Lacoste Dress Below. when u actualyl wear it, it looks cute :] mines navy though.
http://i19.tinypic.com/3zghutw.jpg
I dont know else though.
what kind of hair? and makeup that matches this dress?
and what kind of jewerly?
i wanna stand out :D
Thanks in Advance (link)
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the dress is cute..
leave you hair down because guys like that.
Not to much make up because you want to look nice.
Look on some websites for more ideas like the girly fashon magzine websites.
Good Luck
-Sky-
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I would gladly go for a run on weekends or again after my sports practice but I have a medical condition (which I hate with a burning passion, it holds me back from being the athlete I wish I was) that makes it difficult for me to do so much cardio. Thalassemia, it's a type of anemia, I have the minor one, doesn't usually show symptoms, but unfortunately I do. I can usually last fro running about a mile at a jog and then I have to take a break. My doctor said it's like having a 25-30% handicap. I hate it, and a lot of why I hate it is because people don't realize the problem I have and just assume I'm not trying, but keeping up with them is so hard, so I'm trying very hard. Sorry for the rant, I know I shouldn't complain about it - it's not like it rules my life and it could be tons worse, but I get so mad at myself because I actually am a decent athlete it's just this keeping me from having the endurance I need. Not to mention my doctor also thinks I may have asthma so I also use an inhaler.
Anyway, if I'm working on losing weight, and I'm trying to eat right, getting exercise is going to be harder for me.
My question here is does it matter how quickly you run? If I'm still going for a mile will it have the same effect as someone who runs a mile in 7 minutes? (My mile time is generally around 9 minutes and 20 seconds when I try my hardest, and I probably won't get much better because of my condition, I've already come a long way.)
Thanks! (link)
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Seriously i suggest you ask health care professional they would know better then me or anyone.
-SKy-
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i need more dogs at my doggy daycare but i don't know if i should tell the whole world. What should i do? (link)
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The key to any business is advertising...
Take on the World only if you can handle world...
good luck
-sky-
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my mom and dad like to yell at me all time, but when it come to my sister and bother they at all, it like every think i do is wrong, every thing i say is wrong. i try 2 make them happy and proud of me,but it seems to fell every time. WHAT DO I DO TO MAKE THEM HAPPY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! (link)
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I know how you feel im the same way..
I have come to realize that its not them you want to make happy but yourself..
Strive to make yourself happy..
and eventually everything will be right...
Just remember that everything you do int wrong and as long as your happy thats what matters.
The Sooner you learn this the easier things will be
-SKY-
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My only strengths in school are English and History. So for college, which is two years away, I suppose I'd go with an English major. My worry though, is what exactly can I do with that. I don't want to be constrained to just writing articles all the time.
What else can be done with an English major? (link)
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you can do many tings,,,
perhaps becoming a teacher...
journalist too,...
research it online...
and you have two years you have some time dont stress
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I had a baby 5 months ago by C-section and finally had sex again . I started to bleed during sex.Is that normal??? (link)
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Talk to a health care professional..
because they may have a better answer then what i or anyone can give..
Did you get cleared to start having sex again
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So this is for anyone in richmond or vancouver, bc. I'm looking for a fancy restuarant to go to for my 16th birthday. I want it to be nice enough to wear a dress but not 2 expensive. (link)
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i don't live there but have you tried just simple Google searching...
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my address bar disapeared how do i get it to come back? (link)
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Well Just hit all the random buttons..
that was a joke
But seriously on my computer i just press F11
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Does anyone know of any good volunteer organization in (or close to) Westchester NY?? I'm looking for something to commit t...and to get really involved in (I'm 16 years old). I would love to do something involving kids...but i'm open to ANYTHING.
Thanks so much in advanced!!! (link)
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Do you know of any hospitals near by.
Volunteer at hospitals is a great thing to get committed too..
Also there is a program called club Rec they may have it at a elementary school which is working with kids..
Also ask around at preschools or daycare..
they alway can use a extra hand.
Have you thought of maybe developing your own volunteer program that maybe evolves kids.
For example theres a program that involves teenage kids going to school and reading to kids or going to hospitals and reading to patients.
\Perhaps a referee for youth sports.
Or take your favorite sport and develop a group for kids who want to play and that is also volunteering..
hope i helped
-Sky-
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This morning when I woke up, I had this strange pain all over my chest. It sort of throbs to my heartbeat, and hurts very badly when I breath. When I lay down, it's even difficult to breath. It's lasted out the whole day. I took one Advil, but felt no effect.
Obviously, I'm not looking for a diagnosis, because if I have this tomorrow I'm going to the doctor. But if anyone has experienced something like it, I would appreciate a response. (link)
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Even if you don't have this tomorrow i suggest you go see the doctor anyway...
It may be serious then again it may be not....
better safe then sorry
right?
-SKY-
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