Hello everyone! My name is Lisa, I'm 15. I'm a freshman and I go to public school. I love to sing, read, watch tv, and I'm a big fan of Harry Potter. Most of my freinds come to me for advice because they know that they can depend on me and just because I am young does not mean I cant answer questions from older people who seek advice so please ask away!
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Location: Pennsylvania, United States
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right i talked to the guy one on one and now a big group of people are bullying her iv alreary kicked the shit out of 5 of them but theres about 20 what should i do now:(? (link)
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Dear Reader,
Well, I'm glad you beat them up! But seriously, try finding out WHY she's getting bullied in the first place. Go talk to the guys that started it or whoever and ask why, go sit your girlfriend down and also ask her why, and when did it start. There's no reason for a bunch of random people to start picking on someone without a good reason. (did that make sense?) serously, go talk to them. and then if things dont get better, then perhaps you should tell the teacher or something. I know it's like the corniest move ever, but really, i dont want you or your girlfriend to get serverly hurt or in alot of trouble. So really, be a man, and
a) talk it out
and if that doenst work
b) go tell a teacher.
Let me know how things work out. :) Good Luck!
Sincerly,
Lisa xox
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i have a "friend" who continues to try to make me look bad in front of other people. i'm the vice president of a club, and she consistently complains about how disorganized it is in front of me and behind my back. whenever she talks to other people, she gets them to think that i never go to the meetings and don't do anything for the club. she always makes fun of me in front of other people and is sarcastic and makes it look like i'm freaking out over something when i'm not. how do i deal with her and restore my reputation? a lot of people believe her because she does it so discreetly and because she's so good at making it seem like the truth. i know she's not a good friend and that i shouldn't be friends with her, but that does nothing for my reputation. i want to be re-elected next year. help! (link)
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Dear Readers,
Well, dont be freinds with her. If its possible, dont talk to her. The key is to play it cool. Everytime she says something sarcastic or something dont start reacting to it the way she wants you to. Play it cool. ANd if she says how bad a club is or something, ask her to her face, in front of those people, "well, do you have any suggestions to make it better? because you could bringit up at our next meeting." and say it kindly and sincerly. And if people want to think that you dont go to ur meetings, that's their problem, you know that you do go and that you do your best, and for those who know that the things your "friend" is saying is false, then they will re-elect you next year. And i'm sure they'd stand up for youtoo. Good Luck! Let meknow how it goes!
Sincerly,
Lisa xox
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My best friend's brother just got out of a four year relationship on Friday. He immediatley jetted off with his buds for the weekend to clear his head because -she- dumped him.
I've been friends with his sister for about four years too and I've been attracted to him but I've told myself to leave it alone because he seemed so happy with his girl friend.
Now he's alone for the first time and I was wondering whether it was a good idea if I gave him a go? He's a genuinely nice guy and he's a girls dream because he's so sweet and dedicated.
One problem is his sister. She shares all her feelings about him with me (i.e. she was mad at him because he was a tight a-- or she was sick of him and she wanted him to move out) and she loves him but would it be too weird for her if we hooked up.
Secondly, I need to actually figure out if he's interested or not but I can't because I've treated him as a brother. I've never actually made a transition from friend to something else before. Usually, men are either platonic friends or hot male friends I want to get with, never both. So how can I start changing the way act around him without freaking his entire family out?
I don't want to approach the sister and ask for her permission if I don't even know if he's interested because she likes to hold on to things. At the same time, I don't want to get him interested and then have to ask her in case she rejects the idea of him and me.
Help? (link)
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Dear Reader,
Wow, quite a situation right there. If your best friend is really your best friend then she'd want yout to be happy. Talk to her about it and let her know how you feel. Second, signs of himliking you is when he's constantly smiling, or offering to do things, or if he's flirting back and stuff. And don't act strange, be yourself. Because if you change urself just so he'll be attracted to you, then they'd think that ur weird. Which you dont seem to be. Good luck and let me know how things turn out.
Sincerly,
Lisa xox
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16/m
I'm so sick of being alive. Everything is so hard. I can't stand it. It's like I'm doing something wrong. I have few friends, but it doesn't matter because I don't like them. I don't like any one. People don't meet my standards and they never will. And when it comes to girls I have no idea what I'm doing. It's like there's some secret technique that every one but me seems to understand. My problems with girls contribute the most to my loneliness and depression. I'm unmotivated in school, because I care more about trying to find a place I belong, trying to find some one who understands me. I can hardly sleep because I'm always worrying about all this. I'm scared I'll never have friends. I'm scared I'll never have a good job. I'm scared I'll never have my first kiss or have sex, and if I do it will be with some one I don't want to do it with. Somewhere between now and the next few years I 100% sure I'll be dead. I can't take it anymore. I've been to therapy and they even locked me up like a criminal in a mental health ward, but to no avail. I hate life. I hate myself. I hate every one, especially if they're happy. I don't see things ever getting better. Please help me. And don't post anything about God, Jesus, or religion of any kind, it will be an automatic 1 on your rating. (link)
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Dear Reader,
Please dont do anything stupid to yourself. Everyone has bad days, I'm going through one right now myself. I'm not going to bring religion into this because its just stupid. Why dont you find new freinds? Or join a few clubs, or start one of ur intrest? that way you meet people like you. And that whole girl thing, dont even worry about it. Girls at this age are like, dizey. I dont get this whole guy thing either, so you are most definitly not alone when it comes down to this whole kissing, dating crap. All i can say, is take life one day at a time. and just dont do anything bad cuz karma goes around. and in time everything will fall in place. Good Luck and please let me know if there's anything else I can do to help and if you have any other problems you'd like to discuss leave one on my homepage. (:
Sincerly,
Lisa xox
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A lot of people have this problem but I can't figure out what to do.
My personality changes around guys. It's sort of like I'm trying to impress them, mold myself to who they want me to be, hoping I'll get a boyfriend. The thing is, it's never worked out that way, I've never gotten a boyfriend.
I really want to be able to relax and be myself around guys. T
his is harder than you think, so if anyone's gone through this, how did you manage it? (link)
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Dear Poser and Hating It,
I understand what you mean because I've gone through it myself. But really, be yourself. If you're trying to impress a guy, it means your changing from your origial personalitly, and believe it or not, guys are acutally more attracted to girls who are themselves and not trying to impress them. I hope this helped, let me know how things went. Good Luck!
Sincerly,
Lisa xox
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15/f. sometimes my friends always talk to me about these guys that they hung out with or these guys that they were talking to, and i think they are doing it just to brag about it. but then if i saw something like, "oh i was talking to *john* on the field trip and...." they will be like oh you like him. it gets so annoying! what can i do?
also i'd like to have more guy friends, but whenever i start talking to a guy a lot and start becoming friends with him people always think that i like him. what can i do so people don't think that all the time?
thanks =] (link)
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Dear Reader,
I think that you should keep talking to him, and people at this age are always assuming things. In school if i talk to some kid i like, they all get "ohh sou like him?" if your freinds accuse you of liking a guy and you dont, tell them that you dont, and lay it out on the line and give them reasons why you dont. ANd as for people you dont know who think that, let them assume things then.
Becuase when you assume. you make an ass out of "u" and "me".
I hope this helped. let me know how things turn out. Good luck!
Sincerly,
Lisa xox
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ohkay well i was in a clique last year but now the rest of the clique has grown apart from me because i joined a new clique but now i miss the old clique. i mean i still sit at the same lunch table with them, and i talk to them but im never invited to hang out. once i asked if i could go with them but they got kinda pissed because they said "i was inviting myself." i wanna have the same relationship with them as last year. and dont tell me to find new friends because i have a ton of friends besides them and i hang out with my other friends a whole lot, but ive known this crew my whole life since kindergarten and i love them to death. they are NOT bitchy and they arent leaving me out on purpose, ive just kinda grown apart from them since i joined a new clique and they said i betrayed them. i wanna be a member of the clique again and you know how hard it is to get back into it. i wanna be invited to the mall or for a sleepover. i want to be in their aim profile again and see my name in it. i miss the old times and i still wanna hang with my other friends but im truly sure i want my old clique back. what can i do so they will include me again? (link)
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Dear Reader,
If you really want to be back in the old clique again, do things you used to do when they had your loyalty. Make yourself their friend again. Do things you used to do when you were apart of them. Why dont you have a sleepover and invite them instead? and then do the things you all used to do? The key is old happy memories and in no time you'll be apart of them again! Let me know how things go. Good Luck!
Sincerly,
Lisa xox
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okay well im 15 and i have a boyfriend named tom... and tom's female friend ashley ..that i dont trust ATALL she is a back stabber..she invited us to go to a party. and the girl that is hosting the party is my BEST friend hayleys WORST enemy. i dont want my best friend hayley to hate me for going. and i know there is going to be alcohol there because i saw the girl that was hosting the party talking about it on myspace to the backstabber ashley. oh yeha did i mention that ashley is also one of hayleys WORST enimies?
but on the other hand... i love parties,i wanna hangout with my boyfriend somewhere different, ive actually have been wanting to go to a party for a long time and i know every party since i got into 9th grade was gonna have alcohol,some of my friends might be there that dont drink also.
i really dont know what to do....
ANY ADVICE?
i wasnt sure what category to put this question under--sorry if i put it under a bad one. (link)
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Dear Party Lover,
I think that you should talk to your best freind and your boyfriend about it. If it is your best friend's worst enemey I suggest you not go. And since you want to hang out w/ your boyfreind, why dont you talk to him and come up with an alternative instead? Alocholic parties can be dangerous, considering the fact that its a teen party, better be careful if you do go. Good luck and let me know how things turn out.
Sincerly,
Lisa xox
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I'm having a lot of trouble at school. I'm really not happy. I think a lot of people at my school don't like me. It's mostly just the girls in my choir class.
I'm really shy.. and I don't really talk to people unless they talk to me first. But I've never been mean to anyone ever. And a lot of girls in my choir class are kind of snotty to me and I don't know why. I've never really talked to any of them because I'm so shy and they're all kind of friends with everyone else in the class but me. I always get the feeling that they don't like me.
I don't know what to do. It makes me really upset and I LOVE choir but I never feel like I'm even part of the class because no one ever talks to me. I don't think it's because they think I'm mean but I think it's because they think I'm ugly and that really hurts my feelings.
I need advice. I don't know what I'm asking for specifically but yeah ... and don't tell me to be more talkative and less shy because I've tried and I'm just shy. I can't not be shy you know? And whenever anybody talks to me, I'm always really nice... so I don't know what else to do! (link)
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Dear Choir Member,
What a coincidence! I'm a choir memeber too!! (Alto 2) but that doesnt matter here. I think that you should keep singing and doing what you love most, dont think for one second of dropping out just cuz the girls dont like you. If the girls dont like you and they're being mean to you, then that's them. Go talk to the guys or something. And I cant tell you to be more talkative but i can tell you to be more confidident. You seem like a nice person so there's no reason why people wouldnt like you. Try getting to know people more and, yes, TALK to people. Be friendly and if they dont like you after you've opened up to them, then its their loss. Good luck and let me know how things turn out.
Sincerly,
Lisa xox
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i am 15 and for the past 3 weeks i've been straightening my hair and i've got mixed responses
to it and i just wanted to know should i keep straightening my hair? (link)
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Dear Straighten Hair,
The question you should ask yourself is, Do I like my hair straighted? if the answer is yes then keep straightening your hair. Who cares what other people think, as long as you're happy and think it looks good keep doing it then. I hope it helped. Good Luck and let me know how things turn out.
Sincerly,
Lisa xox
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Does anyone know any special stuff I have to download to make backgrounds.Like if you look on
www.mariahlambsunited.net and then click on their wallpapers they're amazing - How can I make things like that??
Here is a link
http://www.mariahlambsunited.net/mariahlambs.htm (link)
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Dear Reader,
There's this one program it's called Adobe Photoshop CS2. But it's really advance web design and stuff. The download trial is only 30 days, If you want the acutally thing its gonna cost like $650. Try the 30 day trial first. It's not bad. I dont have the link off the top of my head but go to google and type in "Adobe Photoshop CS2". Another program is Paint Shop Pro (aka. PSP). I hoped I helped :)
Sincerly,
Lisa xox
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i'm thinking i want to read something funny...i've already read like all of the onion collections...they rock...i want something that rocks around as hard...if not funny i'd like to read something on a really cool kinda weird subject, por ejemplo, i read stiff, that book about the life of cadavers a while ago and thought that was pretty sweet...now that i've narrowed things down forget that i've narrowed things down and suggest anything you think is really worthwile, but now re-narrow things down and take into consideration the kind of person you think i am based on what i think i want to read...hopefully accompanied by a review and a how it's changed your life which your living as a new you article...help would be greatly appreciated!!!!!!! : )
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Dear Reader,
There was this one book I read and it's sorta sci-fi and it's called Peeps by Scott Westerfield. If you're into sci-fi stuff try Uglies, Pretties, and Specials also by Scott Westerfield. If you like teen romances and stuff try Avalon High by Meg Cabot and also by her is Teen Idol and How To Be Popular. I hope I helped. Happy reading days!
Sincerly,
Lisa xox
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sorry if it's a little long, but i'm freaking out
ok so the other day me and my bf were supposed to go on a date *it was our 3month*, but he didn't pick me up...instead he called me from where he was and was like "yeah i'm here" so i'm thinking "ok am i supposed to drive MYSELF to my own date? whats next...i pay too? i mean come on" so i was going to *though i wasn't too happy* and my family and friends were mad that he was to lazy to come get me. so my older, very strong brother *who my bf is intimidated by* called him up and basically told him he needs to treat me right and that since i'm his gf he should have the courtesy to pick me up and that if he treats me like garbage, there's gunna be a problem. and i was upset at both him and my brother and since then, my bf hasn't called or tried to get in contact with me. i've texted him but he's been short with me or just doesn't respond and i called him today and he was with his best friend so i said "ok well do you wanna call me back when you get home" and he was like "yeah i guess?" which just about made me cry *i've been all emotional this weekend*. is my bf really that mad at ME even though it was something HE did...or rather DIDN'T do?? does he just need time to cool off? i'm determined to not let something so stupid break us up, but idk if he'll realize how dumb this is and will just end things. i feel stupid for asking this, but i really care about him and don't want to lose him over something so small, and i really need some advice. (link)
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Dear Confused,
I really think that he just needs sometime to cool off and also, I know that your brother is trying to protect you but really, tell him to bug off. I'm going to be honest with you, if I had a boyfriend and he didnt pick me up for our three month, I'd be fuming furious. I do think that your brother is right for telling him off and telling him that he needs to treat you right, because he does! You seem very nice and you should be treated with respect. If he isnt willing to spare some gas for you, you need to tell him to get his proitories straight. I really think that you should talk to him and let him blow off some steam. You seem really stressed out, I suggest a nice bubble bath with aromatherapy candles. That should help! :) I hope I helped and I hope everything goes well. Good Luck! Let me know how things turn out.
Sincerly,
Lisa xox
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Well there is this guy and I am totally starting to crush on him and I was just wondering if there is a for sure way to tell if he likes me back!! He is in two of my classes and i am a freshman in high school. Well anyways it seems like he is flirting with me, for instance he usually takes something from me and then he expects me to chase him around to get it back so i dont know if that is a sign because he does it in a sort of flirtacous. Sometimes when i glance over during class to check the clock or something and i will see him quickly glance away when i make eye contact with him when i see him looking my way. In our english class he was also mad because we have to change seats every six weeks and we use to sit next to eachother so he was mad because we werent by eachother anymore. I just really need to know if we have a chance even though we dont really talk outside of english and biology because we dont really see eachother. I really want him to be the one to ask me out or to just hang out so what should I do for him to know I like him back besides just flirting? I am also kind of shy unless u know me pretty well then i am extremly outgoing!haha! Last year I wasnt outgoing around guys but this year i am more chill around them and myself so I really hope that is a good thing. Well anyways i would really appreciate it if u could help me out because i am at a major loss! (link)
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Dear Crushed,
AWWW that is soo cute. Lol, what a coincidence, I'm a freshman in high school too. I really think that he likes you if he's doing this stuff, I also really think that you should most definitly flirt back. And if you don't have his screenname already, GET IT! and get to know him more! And if you get brave enough, you should ask him to hang out, like go to the movies or something. Don't sit around and just let him take your pencil from you, go and do something about it. Next time he does that, you should give him a peice of paper with that pencil so he could give you his number ;). Good Luck! Most DEFINITLY let me know how things turn out.
Sincerly,
Lisa xox
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right some guy is bullying my gf the way i found out was i found a pic at her house. so we were play fighting over it and then i saw it n she ran out of the room .i went after her and sed why did you run out she said because i dont like it and i dont no why he drew it it was a really mean picture. so about 20 minits ago i phoned this guy up who was drawin things about my girlfreind and he told me to go hang my self. what could i do??? (link)
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Dear Boyfriend,
Um, thats an easy one. GO BEAT THE SHIT OUT OF HIM! You're the boyfriend and that's what boyfreinds do. They beat the shit out of anyone who messes with their girl. But first I suggest you talk to him first and warn him. And I suggest it be one on one. And if anything gets physical, then you need to do what you need to do! I hope this helped, let me know how it goes. Good Luck!
Sincerly,
Lisa xox
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whats really good hair straightener that is less than $25? i used to have this one:
http://www.conair-beauty-products.com/images/conair-hair-straightener03.jpg
but i want one that clamps like this:
http://images.amazon.com/images/P/B0009V1YR8.01.LZZZZZZZ.jpg
not nessessarily that kind but i want a straigtener like that, does anyone know which brands straighten hair really well and will stay straight? (link)
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Dear Straight Hair,
A really good hair strightener would be conair. I didnt look at your pictures, but where i live its like, 19.95. Or if not that you could always by straightning shampoo. I hope I helped.
Sincerly,
Lisa xox
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So my boyfriend & I decided that we were going to make each other things for christmas instead of buying them. I'm moving right after christmas so it has to be really special. Some ideas I had were making him PJ bottoms or a scrapbook. (maybe just collages with pics of us?). problem is, his mom is a seamstress and has a lot of experience with scrapbooking. I don't want to have to live up to her expectations. Also, I don't to spend a lot of money.. 10-20$ is good. something cost more to make than buy made. any thoughts or other ideas? thanks! (link)
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I think you should make like a scrapbook, not so much fully blown up details, like a picture of you two, then a sentence or a funny qoute you remember from that day. Sorta like a memorbeilia. I hope this helps. And congrats!
Sincerly,
Lisa xox
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i like this boy. and i'm pretty sure that he likes me too. My friends think i should ask him out. But i've never asked out a guy before. And i dont want to ruin our friendship we have now. So should i ask him out? and how?! please help
thankss! (link)
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I think you should find out FOR SURE if he likes you or not. And then, when you know FOR SURE you should ask him out. If you're freindship is as good as you say it is, then not much will change other than the kissing, hand holding, and whatever else. If you do decide to ask him out, do it face to face, DONT get a freind to do it or write him a note or anything. Ask him face to face, and make sure you two are alone, no friends or anyone, that way its more private and you feel more comfortable without the huge mobs of people. Let me know how it works out. Good luck!
Sincerly,
Lisa xox
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I am 20 years old and have been in a relationship for 5 years. I have been telling him for years that I really want to marry him. I knew he wasn't ready so I just kept telling him that I wanted a ring and we could have a long engagement. I was really hung up on getting a ring until recently when I realized I could wait and told him that I'd rather he just start saving so when we are ready it wouldn't be such a financial strain. I told him for our upcoming anniversary the only gift I would like is a receipt from the bank showing he deposited money in his savings account.
We just celebrated our 5 year anniversary with dinner at home in our pajamas. It was very casual so we were just going to watch a movie after dinner when he surprised me with a ring. I was shocked, to say the least. I didn't say anything at first and then just started saying oh my god over and over again. I said yes but didn't feel comfortable really. Then I thought about telling people and I got really uncomfortable, and he could tell. Long story short, we decided that I would keep the ring and when I'm ready I'll ask him to put it on me.
Here is my dilemma: I have watched my mother go through three divorces and has since settled with a man whom I don't believe she is truly happy with. I'm wondering if I'm destined to be like her. Will I end up divorced like her? Will I never find true happiness? Do I already have true happiness and not really realize it?
The other side of this is my father. He has been making comments for the past year about whether I'm missing out on a lot by being in a long term relationship so young. I'm worried that down the road I will regret it.
Do I have a great thing and I'm just spending too much time worrying about the what-ifs?
I feel horrible for pressuring him into this and then making a big mess out of it all.
I've only told my mother and my priest because I don't want others to know this- it's personal.
I'd appreciate any advice or input on the situation. (link)
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Dear Lucky Girl,
I'm calling you Lucky because you dont know how lucky you are to find someone you love at such a young age. If you are truely happy with this person and that you seriously want to spend the rest of your life with him, and that you cant imagine it with anyone else, then you've made the right choice. Your mom may have gone through tough times, but that doesnt mean you will. You both lead seperate lives, made different mistakes and maybe she just hasnt learned from them. You on the other hand are lucky, and believe it because you are. Your dad is just concerned for you, but really, if you love this guy that you're with, then really, you arent missing out on anything because everything is right in front of you. Marriage is a big step, only take it if you really think and know that your ready for it. Because if you only think that you're ready, you may end up like your mom.
But really, I dont think that you're destined to be like her. I really dont.
Let me know how things turn out. Good luck and happy days.
Sincerly,
Lisa xox
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well i do indoor track and i've always been fast. but it seems like girls always seem to get infront of me. i was wondering if anyone had good ideas and advice on what shoes i should wear, like flats? i heard they really help. and like what brand and where i could find them.
also, if anyone has any tips of how i should run and use my arms. any input would be great! (link)
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Dear Track Runner,
I really think that you should wear sneakers. Like running shoes, perferably nike or Adidis (thats spelled wrong) and make sure you go to the "running" section of their store. They may cost a big but they're most definitly worth it because comforable shoes makes you worry less about your feet and more about your compition. Also, I suggest you buy them in you size, not 1/2 bigger or smaller, you exact size because if its too small your toes are going to be squeezed and uncomfortable and if its too big then you have a chance of tripping over them. I suggest you have your arms as if you were power walking, you know how you have them bent at a 90 degree angle in front of you, and move them back and forth. (if you have no idea what im talking about considering the arm-movements, ask someone who knows how to power walk) I hope I helped. Let me know how things turn out. Good luck!
Sincerly,
Lisa xox
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