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They don't like me.
I'm having a lot of trouble at school. I'm really not happy. I think a lot of people at my school don't like me. It's mostly just the girls in my choir class.
I'm really shy.. and I don't really talk to people unless they talk to me first. But I've never been mean to anyone ever. And a lot of girls in my choir class are kind of snotty to me and I don't know why. I've never really talked to any of them because I'm so shy and they're all kind of friends with everyone else in the class but me. I always get the feeling that they don't like me.
I don't know what to do. It makes me really upset and I LOVE choir but I never feel like I'm even part of the class because no one ever talks to me. I don't think it's because they think I'm mean but I think it's because they think I'm ugly and that really hurts my feelings.
I need advice. I don't know what I'm asking for specifically but yeah ... and don't tell me to be more talkative and less shy because I've tried and I'm just shy. I can't not be shy you know? And whenever anybody talks to me, I'm always really nice... so I don't know what else to do!
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Dear Choir Member,
What a coincidence! I'm a choir memeber too!! (Alto 2) but that doesnt matter here. I think that you should keep singing and doing what you love most, dont think for one second of dropping out just cuz the girls dont like you. If the girls dont like you and they're being mean to you, then that's them. Go talk to the guys or something. And I cant tell you to be more talkative but i can tell you to be more confidident. You seem like a nice person so there's no reason why people wouldnt like you. Try getting to know people more and, yes, TALK to people. Be friendly and if they dont like you after you've opened up to them, then its their loss. Good luck and let me know how things turn out.
Sincerly,
Lisa xox
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Your mindset may be the reason that you feel the way you do towards these new people. I used to be shy, and I know....we tend to sit back and over analyize people that we observe. Perception is something that changes with age and time. You may become less shy as you get older...and look back on how you used to be and how you used to think.
Try to think you're part of the activities and don't worry about what your mind is anaylizing about people. Shy people can only 'know' people by observing people and their body language. Thinking that they think you're "ugly" and such is probably not true, you are just observing that their body language is snobbish, but it doesn't necessarily make them snobbish in personality.
Try to put yourself near them or in or near groups. You don't necessarily have to talk. Wait for them to talk to you, then answer how you would.
I hope this somewhat helps.
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They don't talk to you because they think you're ugly? Wow, that's gay. If that's why they don't talk to you, then they need mental help.
Anyways, that's what I do sometimes if I just don't feel like talking. I just wait until someone says something to me.
Just pick a few of them and when you walk in, smile at them and say, "Hi." And then walk to where you normally go.
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im pretty shy too, its alright to be shy. I have a few people in my class that i know are really, really nice but no one else knows. Its probably not that they think that your ugly but (im not tryin to be rude here and i know its a strange analogy) its like your an animal and because you dont talk, they think that you dont have as many feelings as they do, they ink your strange and weird because you dont talk. you dont have to talk more but i have too say that one of the nly ways you can get them to stop being mean to you is get involved in the choir group activities more and if they do talk to you then be cheerful and dont just say one or two words that makes them think your even worse, hope this helped :)
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