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Hi, I'm just really out in life to have some fun, trying to keep homework, my life, my friends, my pets and school under control. I wouldn't call me the average teenager because I am quite different with my personal circumstances. But I can honestly say I wouldn't have it any other way (well maybe some changes). I have learnt good and bad things the hard way and watched friends get hurt- I haven't been through it all but I'm working on it. Help you? I'm not sure but lets see how well this advice column goes. Ask Shaylee :)advice
Okay I have this guy friend who is one if my best friend's boyfriend and i was talking to her today. She said she wanted to dump him and said she wants to be single again. I know he will be heartbroken. How do I help him through his hard times without completely dumping one of my best girlfriend's?
Well firstly tell your friend to make the break up as minimal as she can. Some can be absolutely ugly as and it becomes a sticky situation. But it would be better if she does it gently and maybe over time so he might see it coming.
Now if it does turn ugly don't tell either one what one says. Also don't say any of your own. I'm pretty sure your friend won't consider it a betrayal as long as you don't bitch about her or judge her in any way. Just be there for both of them and it will help on both sides. But don't be surprised if the guy turns really bitchy about your friend. Its to be expected if he likes her as much as you say he does.
Gosh, how can I make myself STOP procrastinating??? I mean I've got it bad. I come home from school and don't even start my homework till' about ten at night or after. I get on the computer...eat...clean my room...shower...anything but do homework, and it's making my grades suffer. If I would just start studying for tests a few hours earlier, I would do so much better. Any tips?
You sound like me. Make yourself a timetable and stick to it. Not only will you get it all done but you'll have all this free time as well. Like as soon as you get home give yourself a 30 minute break then do one hour of work then another 30 minute break and another hour of work. Then if you still haven't finished it then give yourself an hour break then do some more then.
Stupid work I hate it so much- hope you get it all done
At school I was in the locker room and I was taking a shower and then a brat came by whe nI got out and told me she wanted to show me something and I only had 5 minutes before the next class so I just was like fine so when I went to see what it was she got about 3 of her friends to take off my towel and pushed me out side with all the other people and then the classes where changing and the locker room was locked and every one say me naked I mean butt naked and now ever one makes fun of me saying I should be a striper and all
the bitch... tell the teacher straight away. That will wipe the smile off the little bitch's face- Seriously I used to think it was bad but seriously just tell on her and she will get whats coming for her. She's a little bitch and needs to be put into line. I'm sure her parents of them invovled wouldn't be to happy to find out what she's been doing. No-one has the right to do that kind of shit to you and if they do then you have to stop them in their tracks. Hope she gets in a whole lot of shit
i dont eat breakfast or lunch (only on school days). i dont because at lunch i dont feel comfortable eating around other people. like im afraid my crush will walk by and see me eating. but when i get home i make up for the missed meals. i'll have like an equivalent to lunch, then later dinner, then sometime after maybe some fruit and chips or something else. since im still getting the nutrition for each day, is this wrong?
Everyone has a different eating pattern but its more the fact that you don't want other people seeing you eat. Why is that? I htink its gross when people don't have any table manors and thats a put off but if you eat properly that problem is gone straight away, it sounds like you are getting enough nutrition but you do have a slight problem with that. Also lets see what your crush would think
'OMG ITS THAT GIRL I LIKE SHES, EWK, EATING HOW GROSS' yeah im sure thats whats running through his head. You are seriously imagining what he would think and honestly if he didn't like because you ate... well firstly he's pretty damn weird, secondly hes not worth dating and thirdly... what he doesnt eat?
Stress less eat your lunch n get over your silly thoughts, it will make your life a whole lot better if you stop thinking about what other people think.
omg my mother is a clean freak im not a clean freak but not lazy she hates stacking (i stack my papers) every weekend i say and wanna be organized but im always so busy and of course i cant on weekdays can someone give me adive
Organising is pretty hard to do. You really need some time you set apart where you will just sit down and do it. No excuses what so ever. You can't put it off because your shows on or someone invites you out. That time you have to go and sit down and just organise it. Also its best to do a little bit every day rather then putting it off later. STart this weekend do one hour of sorting everything out. Do it first thing in the morning and you'll get it done no problems. If you think that you are running out of time then make a time table and leave anythings you don't have to do off the list. Remember to have fun. Just dont let that fun go on for more then two hours. Good luck
There is this kid at my school how likes me.. And I think I like him to and I want to ask him out But He is a freak not like nose rings and all I mean like a nerd kind of But I am afraid that every one will make fun of me.. And please dont tell me its doesnt matter what other people think and stuff like that I just want to know If I should get over it or something.. Will some one else like me I mean I am a lil bit pretty I think but my guy friends say I'm FINE but if so why doesnt the guy I like ask me out
Well the reason he hasn't asked you out is because he doesn't sound like he's part of your group at all. Maybe he's afraid that you think he is a freak- I mean you did say that yourself, which means thats what your friends say. If you go for it is your decision but I bet you'll have a total blast if you did. So if you want to- you ask him out. Take a chance you can always go back if you want to
my boyfriend and i have been dating for almost a year. i have no idea wat to get him for the holidays. i dont have too much money but im definatly not going to give him anything cheap. i love him a lot and want to get him something special. thanks!
The best present is something they want or something about their personality which will suit them. Because then not only will they get what they want but it'll tug at the heart strings when they get it. So really we can't tell you if you want to get the best gift.
So to make the present look like its more make it suit his personality- does he play any sports? Is he into computer games? What's his favourite food? Or maybe just organise a special evening for him- with his favourite movie and his favourite food, make it sweet and I'm sure he'll love it.
Posted Monday December 06 2004, 9:44 pm
I need some help on this one...
My dad has been really depressed lately and i dont know what to do about it. He keeps on tlaking about how he is going to kill himself and everything and how there is no God and God just wants to be left alone. He also gets mad at stupid things and jsut tells me that i am worthless and that i will turn out to be just a worthless as he is no matter how hard i try. I try and put it aside and remember that it isnt my problem or just try to walk away or ask him to stop talking like that, but he doesnt listen, or he just comes back at me 10 times worse! I would file something on him or try to get him help, but he is my only parent/ family left thats in this country that i know...what do i do?
~Lost
It sounds seriously like he has depression, don't worry its a passing thing but you really really need so get some help for it.
The best way to go about it would be to talk to some responsible adult about it pretty fast. Some good people would be a school consellor, a teacher or just someone who can do something about it. Even a doctor. Your dad sounds like he has some issues and you shouldn't have to deal with it at all. I really can't get you any numbers for you to call unless you tell me what country you are in. But you do need to get soem help for him.
Every body at my school has a boyfriend ir girlfriend.. I act myself and every thing.. What I am getting to is What do Guys look for in a girl!! and plz nothing Gross
If we could could sum up what they look for in a few words then damn wouldn't everyone look the same? But theres more to it, some guys don't know what they want either. Like my friends and I tested this out, see James thought he was only interested in red heads- it was red head this red head that. So I just asked my stunning brunnette friend along a while ago and they end up hooking up later on.
The moral to this story is they don't know what they want. Just like us. We can't sum up what we find attractive all in one go girls and guys are attracted to a whole range of features. My favourite line is this "the number one thing girls say they look in for in guys is a sense of humour... but hey I'm a comedian and I got none".
So be yourself maybe the thing that will help is being a bit more social- getting out there because you already have what they like- you. So just go out there and have some fun. But there is life after boyfriends so don't sweat it if you don't but above all be confident with who you are with or who you aren't with. Confidence just makes people pay attention to you. Good luck
is it just plain wrong for a 15 year old straight male to babysit?
Where did you get that idea?? That's the funniest thing I've heard all night. Well... lets see if it was wrong... well yes my brothers wouldn't do it.
I guess its one of those things which are generall left to us chicks (face it we do .. just joking). Its just to do with stupid sterotyping hundreds of years ago and basically what roles we play today. If you want to then go for it, if anyone gives you a hard time for it- show them the money you make while sitting around baby sitting.
I will be truthful that it would probabley be harder as mothers usually trust girls more then guys... I have no idea why, they just do. It would probabley be the same if the father was choosing someone to watch his precious possession more likely to trust a guy. But there is absolutely nothing wrong with a guy baby sitting... i mean what do you think fathers do?
Hey all! Well our school has a dance every month. and everybody "freak" dances(like dirty dances)and like i know i can (i guess) but i just dont want to becuz ppl with think im a slut and im embarrased. . .any tips? thx
Freak dances... ie. slow dancers
They are the same thing, just go for it. Screw what everyone else thinks you are there to have a good time not to live up to other people's expectations. If they think you are a slut cos you danced with a guy.... YES LOVELY FRIENDS LOVE THEM ALREADY. Life is too short to care about what other people think, you really just need to get out there and do what you want.
Tips... well if you are still afraid of what people might think. Don't just do the moves because you can do them because they go with the music. Listen to that and move with it, that way it will look more like a dance then.
AND enjoy it, theres no point dancing if you think its all for show... go out and dance for the sake of dancing. It will be worth it I assure you and that way you will have a ball live it up while you can- I hope you have a blast
how can i stop excess sweating under my arms? Everyday when i go to school, i always have huge wet circles under my arms by first period. I usually have to wear sweatshirts or something thicker than a regular t;shirt or long sleeve shirt.Every deodorant or anti-perspirant I use it doesn't work at all!!! Please help me!?
Well firstly are you wearing an antiperspirant?- that could help.
http://www.jeez-ca.com/
This website shows stuff you can wear under your clothes to stop the sweat from coming through
Another alternative would be to see your doctor if things are really bad, which would be good because if it is bad then they can give you something that will stop it being as bad.
There actually devices that will stop you sweating- sounds nice doesn't it but remember sweat is good just not too much of it, as far as I know it is called a drionic or something. It reduces the amount of sweat under your arm so you can make the anti-perspirerants work but say the underarm device, if you use it a couple times a week then you will have no sweat for six weeks.
You might want to do some research about it to see the different choices you have
but hey- don't sweat it... (sorry lame attempt)
I have sung since I was about 6 or 7 years old. I have never been too bad at it but I have always lacked in confidence. I can sing fine on my own when no one is around to hear me, but when it comes to singing in front of people, I can't. My friend and I have to sing a verse from a song together for a christmas concert. My friend always has a sore throat so she is generally out of tune and she tends to start laughing. I then have to stop singing because I am too nervous to sing alone. How can I over come this fear of singing in front of people, so that if my friend laughs in the concert, I can just carry on?
Well have you ever heard the saying dance like theres no one watching??
soo true
Anyway I love to perform but I too was scared once... guess how I got over it... I didn't see the audience NOW THAT IS THE BEST WAY. Are you on a big stage with lots of lights? Are you singing with a mike or music in front of you?? Have you noticed that singers don't really care about who they are singing to just singing it. They might walk up to peopel in the audience but the people are just like props to make the song better- to make the singer more in the mood. So basically no matter what you are doing. You aren't there for them you are there for the dance, song, play, character- you are there for a job so get involved and sing your heart out
Seriously... no-one's watching- only the song
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I'm going to be a Senior next year, which means I need to start thinking about colleges, majors and such. Even though I've only done 1 play in my life, I was in show choir for one year, and when I was little I was always in chorus in church musicals, I really want to study theatre. When I was little I hated performing, but as I got older, I've just been more interested in the whole acting thing. I've taken an acting class (for television, not for theatre) and even though it was two hours of notes and some acting, I LOVED it. I loved learning the techniques and its something I'm interested in. I'm a shy person when you first get to know me. The second day of class we had to cry in front of the class and I was able to do it, and I loved it. That was probably one of the best moments of my life. The whole class was silent (I was the youngest one. Second to the youngest, was probably a 20 year old), watching me and when I was done, the teacher said I was the best one.
The problem is, is that I'm never in the school plays, or musicals (even though i was in show choir--singing and dancing--musicals aren't my thing, I'm more into acting) because the director picks and already has his favorites and he is so wierd in a freaky way... Anyways, even though I LOVE acting, going to movie sets (I was an extra in a movie) I haven't used my talent at all except for the little things I listed above. If I want to major in theatre, is it bad that I haven't done much yet? If I study it in college, I know that I'll most likely be very active in it (I'm a good liar--which is like acting...so I kind of have a little natural talent). I mainly want to do television/commercial. I've been to plays as well as numerous of movie/tv sets and I think I would love commercial acting better. Is it something I should go for?
Okay, well firstly the performing arts is a hard industry to get into- as you probabley know, so you really can't be picking and choosing what things you are doing when you are really just getting them for experience. Experience of course being the more you get the better. Now try out for a couple of things. I know say for the dance world its hard REALLY HARD so people are starting to teach themselves to sing so they can get work. The main caterogories beinging singing, dancing and acting. Imagine all three- triple threat.
So just throw yourself into everything you can and you will get further its the experience in the actual theatre that counts not really the type it is- perform your heart out, if its something you want GO FOR IT, don't stop at anything but be realistic in what you have to do to get there. But if you love it dance your feet off, sing your heart out and act like you have a multiple personna problem
live your dreams
Ok like i am 14 and i am a guy and i have had a crush on this one guy since 7th grade nd now i am really haveing serious feelings for him,he's in my grade also, and he gives me these weird signals. I really like this guy and wanna have a relationship with him.
Please Help
Well I suggest you keep those signals for a while... see if he asks you out. Then after a while if he still doesn't ask you out cos he's shy (awww) well then tell your friends about it. See thou I love my friends.. well some of them would well give some hints to the guy I like make it more obvious. So that could help.
Another way would be try to get alone with him somehow- just make your friendship deeper by talking more or something. That could also trigger him to make a move.
Finally if that don't work you tell him you like him... either physical or verbally. I prefer physical much much more subtle just hug him too long or hold his hand. Or just eye contact all the time- even just a peck on the lips (by accident course)- or verbally. "im bored i wanna see a movie.. do you know of any?? would you like to come..."
Thats what Simon pulled on me- i was omg... anyway
Well good luck on it and he will probabley will turn out fine. GOOD LUCK
ok i know this is stupid.But i have a boyfriend and im scared to tell my parents. They wont get mad at me or anything for having a boyfriend the thing is i just dont know how to tell them. How should i tell them??
Okay well since you are nervous about it how don't you do it slowly. I mean don't go... "school was fun... I have a boyfriend... and maths is..." Bring it up slowly. First maybe when they something about your friends just go there is a guy you like. Talk about him a bit over time. Then they will probabley just assume he is your boyfriend. Parents usually do, just like sisters. The direct approach usually isn't good if you are afraid how they will react or the questions it might bring up but you have to tell them and best to do it slowly so make them suspect it before you tell them so that way they don't seem so surprised about it. Don't worry not many parents would kill their kids boyfriends... well some parents I know.. but well they would rather know then not know- good luck with it
I am a 15 year old female, and I have a 17 year old boyfriend. He has been a total jerk lately. The other night, my best friend really needed me so I walked to her house (about 3 miles) and he told me not to go cause I was going to get more sick and he got mad when I did go. I called him when I got there and told him I was comming to his house (another mile) and he told me not to come cause he didn`t feel like getting out of bed to drive me home when he could see me tomorrow. :-( so I started on my walk home and about half way there some old guy grabbed my arm, and I got lose and ran so fast. He said "I`m comming after you". I was never more scared. So when I got home, I called him to tell him the shocking news and he just said "maybe one day you`ll listen to me" he didn`t say sorry or anything. I love him so much and can`t leave him, what else can I do besides talking to him cause I already have?
Well he was worried right from the start. He did sound like a jerk a bit but he was just being practicle seriously. Don't walk home because its dangerous. Don't come over because I dont have time to drop you back. He does care for you why do you think he looks ahead to these stuff. Its just that he said something would happen and it did. Obviously he was just annoyed.
You obviously too haven't been watching the OC in Aus either... you'd would've seen Ryan get pissed for exactly the same reason why only a few episodes ago
I think you to stop thinking there is a problem.. if there is then tell us... HE DOESN'T CARE ENOUGH or HE'S BEING INSENSITIVE. Basically maybe you are just drifting apart a little bit. You can get closer by talking more but you can't get him to change- unless he's not being himself... is he? Well to fix closeness jsut do a few gestures to show that you care. Something small but nice for him it will cheer him up and show that you care about what he thinks and says. Good luck with it
I don't know what I want to "be" when I'm older. I have no idea what I'm going to study, or anything! My friend makes me think about this, because she's my age, and she knows what she's doing. She's going to be a chef and she's already practicing at home! It makes me think like I am behind. I don't really need 1 thing I am going to be, I just want an idea, or like a couple of occupations for me. When I was little, I always wanted to be a teacher. I played school all the time. But I'm not sure if I still want to. There's no other jobs that I'd specifically want to do, but I'll tell you some of my hobbies. I'm not much of a sports person. I like to write, but I'm not very good. I like to work with kids..I'm thinking maybe a daycare? If you have anything, please share your ideas or thoughts.
How old are you?? That could help explain a few things. Also take this into consideration- my brother is half way through his law degree and he still has no idea what he's going to do. Pretty impressive huh
So lets see, looking ahead and making plans is good, its damn right encouraged enough with the parent's favourite line "soo... what are your plans after school..." stupid line. Anyway so what they want is you to decide what you're going to do so you can have goals and do stuff with your life. But if you don't have some then the world won't fall apart.
Decide firstly what you enjoy and I can almost guarantee their will be a job opportunity. If all else fails you can always take a year off for travelling and decide them ... (ooo me me).
For what you described the first thing I think of is a children's book writer... oo im good. These are pretty easy to write- hard to get published. But I helped my mum write some and it was fun. No technical language what so ever 30 WORDS A PAGE BABY!! I have no idea what you might like to do but don't narrow it down too fast explore your options and look into them. Do some work experience at a day care and see how you like it. Nothing is set just explore your options before you decide. Good luck
Ok i need a lot of help. My parents think i am a complete lunatic. They know i am better then average and so do i. My grades in school suck cuz i just dont get geometry, IPC or English and i dont know Wat the hell to do!! please help me cuz i wanna go to a real good college!!!
Okay well firstly start paying attention in class. I know this is hard but just do it and if you don't get something- then put your hand up and ask. That is what the teacher is for, if you are shy then go up after class. The teacher likes it when students come up and want to learn what they are teaching ITS BECAUSE THEY LOVE US!!! (no its because it doesn't hurt their ego and reflects well on them if their students don't fail).
So study- spend 30 minutes a day (at least I don't know what grade you are in) revising what you did that day. Do your homework and have a quick overview of the work you did in class. If you don't do this you will just forget it all. Seriously its easy to learn... hard to remember. Work on tihs and then you can get the highest mark available.
Remember its not the smartest person who gets the best score- its the person who studies the hardest that gets the best score. Good luck
I'm a 14 year old girl and i have a guy problem. ok I have been liking this guy for a little over a year now, and he likes me too but we havent dated. he said he is scared he is going to hurt me again but not on purpose, and I dont deserve that, I deserve better. but he said he really likes me a lot, but idk why he cant just ask me to date him. WE'll never know unless we try, can you help?!
Okay when he gives you stupid answers like that just ignore them, better yet turn them back on him. For instance if he says- "but I'll hurt you" go "but you're hurting me now by not going out with me". You can always turn it back on them- I don't know why but my boyfriend has just stopped doing that now.
Also you make the first move, don't let him say no- he obviously likes you so why don't you just lean over and give him a little kiss- or just a hug that goes on for too long. Something physical or not even that you could just talk to him a lot open up and tell him more stuff.
He won't ask you- he's annoying but you start it, then it will go along just fine he will get the message and will stop trying to fight you- hopefully anyway- I mean it couldn't hurt could it. Good Luck