Hey Guys! My name is Laci, I'm 18 years old. If you send me a question I will try and answer it ASAP :-)
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I'm a great advice columnist but i guess every advice person needs some advice as well.
Ok so about a month ago my sister and my brother in law came to visit us and i was sleeping (it was night time) and I remember waking up for my brother inlaw touching my leg. I didnt think much of it but after that I kept on thinking about it. Well i was at their house and last night he said he was sorry, and i didnt know what he was talking about and i was like for what and hes like I touched you in a place that you shouldnt have been touched by me (higher than my legs) I dont know what to do! because I mean I dont think he was doing it for more than a sec cuz i think i woke up right away but I dont want to tell my mom and dad because my dad would kill him and they would say something to my sister and then my sister and him would probably get a devorice and my sisters really happy. I mean that was the first time but I still cry about it like i feel so violated and i dont know what to do. I cant sleep cuz i think about it. All I do is cry about it. Please help me please!
I promise i'll rate a 5 no matter what! Atleast your trying to help me. (link)
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You have to tell your parents and your sister. If he's doing it to you, chances are he has or is going to do it to someone else. Regardless, if he is married to your sister or not. You got touched when you were not aware of that, thats wrong and against the law. You will feel better after you tell them!
*Laci
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ok..i've just started talking to this guy on the internet and my friends have told me good (: things about him and im really starting to like him..but he has a grl friend and shes younger than me..how do i give him hints that i like him but i still want him to know i respect that he has a grl friend? (link)
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Just come straight out and tell him you like him but you respect that he has a girlfriend. That's the best way to do it, because he might not get the hints if you give them. Some people get flirted with a lot and dont know when someone is being seirous or not.
*Laci
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i cut myself..badly..the underside of my left arm is alomst completley scard and my left upper thigh is wicked bad..my mom knows i did* it but she thinks i stopped i promised my ex-best friend i would stop but shes dumb ne way..my boyfriend hates it but he said he cant stop me..ive already been to therapy..they THOUGHT it helped..yea rite..but i found a new friend..lets call her Babee C..well she cuts..worse then me..she carves like long poems into her..all my friends arent talking to me because of it besides her..and the truth is i miss them all..i used to be wicked happy untill my dad got lung cancer..i loved him..and i was his baby..i really want to stop but everytime i see blood ne where..it makes me want to..i think i should just keep my head up and rmember my dad how he was before..but its gonna be hard..if ne one has any ideas of what else i can do to stop please help me..i cant keep livin this way..thanx xX mandie Xx (link)
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I'm sorry to hear that about your dad. My boyfriends friends dad just died of lungcancer that spread into brain cancer. That's no fun:-( Anyways, on to your question...
Now why would you wanna scar your body like that? I'm sure your a beautiful girl, that doesn't need scars all over her left extremities. You should tell your mom that you started doing it again or that you have never stopped. Why do you want your boyfriend to hate some of your actions? You should go back to therapy, if you didnt like the last place you went for it you can always try a new place maybe with a therapist that specializes in it. Your friend *Babee C* should get help to. Don't compare your cutting to who is worse then who it is both bad and needs to be taking care of. You dont wanna lose your friends so you need to stop. Im sure that your dad wouldnt want to see you this way at all!!!! When you cut yourself your risking getting an infection.
I know you want to stop, ask your friends and your mom for help. And while you are trying to stop you should not hang around with Babee C because when you see her scars and her cuts your going to want to do it too.
Hope this helped
*Laci
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my family is very racist and very controlling when it comes to mixed relationships and recently i started goin ot wit an 18 year purtirican/black guy. i am italian/mexican and im 14 my family stilll does not no and i dont no what i should do bout this i wanna be with him but i dont want my family to disown me at all. what should i do ? (link)
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You should sit down and talk to them. They might hvae a problem with his age because he is 4 years older than you and probably very mature and wanting to try things you ahvent done yet. Don't get pressured into doing them only because you want to be with him. Your family needs to understand that its unfair to be racist on someone that they dont even know. If they don't approve then tell them you are going to do it anyway, if then they ay they are going to disown you. Your goign to have to pick but I doubt they will disown you. They proabbly will just have to get to know him so hang around the house for a while!
Hope this helped!
*Laci
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why do i cough after i eat (link)
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Some of the food is getting down into your air passage.
*Laci
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Laci, I just wanted to say thank you for the advice. I really am going to take it and confront her. Thank you again (link)
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No problem! I'm alway glad to help people out!! :-D Hope my adivce will work for you! Goodluck
*Laci
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Okai will my friend she asked me about her clothes like she can NEVER find any store that has clothes that will fit her n shes skinney and around the world we have the same kinda stores so shes about 5'1 and she wears like size 0 in pants n like xs in shirts so if you can help me with that like if you knwo where she can get clothes that fit her! The other thing is her hair she has black hair n red streaks which are fading away now n her hairs medium length n if you know how she can cut her hair so it looks cute on her lol n plus she has a babi face n I was thinking like layer but would that look good? (link)
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I only know about the stores that I shop at. Im positive you can get your size at them. They are Abercrombie & Fitch, Gap, American Eagle, Gadzooks, Hollister, Aeropostale, and Weathervane but it's going out of business. If you have one near you, you should go ASAP while they still ahve thigns in the store!
I think for her hair if its naturally dark keep it dark if its not go back to it. A bob might look good in her hair. I can't really tell ya what will look good without seeing what she looks like.
Hope this helped!
*Laci
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ok i live in baton rouge louisiana...and at the mall we have rainbows by paulette (great place!) and this past year just about at every school and everywhere else all the girls all ages where bows (ive got about 12 from there) big, color ones! soo...i was just wandering if this was just a think in baton rouge...PLEASE tell me (link)
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I haven't seen anyone wearing any bows in Mass. yet!
*Laci
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My toes are hairy.. what should i do about that? (im a chick) (link)
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I shave my toes because the blond hair glistens in the sun when I'm wearing flip flops! You could try shaving it if it really bothers you, if it doesn't then dont bother!
*Laci
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i bought a thong but it's really uncomfortable! Do you have to get used to them? any tips? (link)
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Ya, I remember when I first wore a thong. I kept picking my wedgie. I got use to it though and only wear thongs. When I wear regular underwear to go to a physical at the doctors I get the biggest wedgies. Hope this helped!
*Laci
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I have been doing crunches regularly for a while now and I only see little results of a six pack. Do you know of any other ways I can get a six pack a little bit quicker?
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I don't know about getting a six pack quicker. I asked a question like this a few months back. My answer was to run to lose the fat thats over the muscle. Even if you dont have rolls you still will have a small layer of fat covering the muscles. So running helps that. Also, situps work the lower part of your stomache. I heard crunched mostly do the top part under the breasts.
Hope this helped!
*Laci
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ok so i have been doing gymnastics for liek 2 years, i have always wanted to be on the high schools team but i have never competed before so im kinda scared, and the girls on the team are really intimidating and rude!! help me!! (link)
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Give it a shot! What do you got to lose. If you make it wonderful and congrats. Just don't turn out to be rude like them. And if you don't make it then atleast you tried and you wount be playing the what-if game in the future. I say go for it and don't worry about what those rude girls say!
*Laci
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im addicted to soda . is this bad (link)
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It's not bad. Almost everyone likes soda. Your probably addicted to the caffeine in soda. Most people become addicted to it. If you go without it for a dya and you get a headache and your hands shake and your heart beats faster, then that means your addicted ot the caffeine!
Hope this helped!
*Laci
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ok , can you die from drinking soda a lot of times!!!??? omg im so scared . please help me!! (link)
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No, I haven't heard of any cases of people dying because they drink soda a lot. Don't worry bout it!
*Laci
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does anyone know like a technique to quit ciggaretes without money...im not legaly old enough to buy anything with nicotine and i really wanna quit but its a bitch..anyone know nething?? thanks for your time (link)
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My bestfriend tried quitting because me and a couple of friends convinced her to. What she did was, throw out all the cigs you have now, empty out ashtrays in your car (if you drive) and try to stay around people who don't like to smoke. Try to realize how much money you are losing with every pack that you buy, especially seeing your not old enough to buy them, the tip you give the person who does buy for you. Everytime you feel like you need to have a cig drink a glass of water, or take a few deep breathes. Most the time people only smoke to relieve stress so your going to need to find a new stress reliever like the water or the deep breathes. You could also try doing crunches or situps for every cig you want to smoke. If you do end up smoking a cig do pushups as a punishment or something that you really dont like to do so you will be tempted not to smoke them again. DONT do anything bad bad like cutting yourself, or hitting yourself. Do something maybe even like puttin a dollar in a jar, something that you really dont want to do.
Hope this helped!!
*Laci
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Someone told me i was..well to put it nicely..really fat and..i havent eaten for 6 hours and my stomach is killing me and ive been pressuring myself to get tons of exercise and it hurts...but i donno what to do! and i really need help! (link)
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NO NO NO, don't starve yourself. You can't go from eating to not eating. That doesn't make you lose weight at all. All ti does it slow down your metabolism because your body isnt used to not having food and it is trying to saver the food that is in it. If you really want to lose weight then try running, or walking at a medium pace, swimming laps, situps, cruches, or any kind of machine that just makes you move. Eating healthy will help your metabolism because it will keep it going and the healthy food will be burned away faster because its less calories and fat.
*Laci
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hey i have this problem with one of my friends because whenever i ask her to sleepover she says ya i can and then like 30 minutes later shes like i cant go anymore my dad said that we have to do family things and then the next day i find out that she is at someone elses house and she always almost always does this to me and she ditched me on my birthday and she always makes up an excuse and it always sounds so convincing so i just say ok but inside it bugs me and i dont really know what to do should i stay friends with her and see how it goes or should i not be friends with her anymore?
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Thats unfair of what your friend is doing. Your ebst bet is to sit down with her and confront her of her actions. Tell her that it really bothers you that you ask her to do things and shes says ok and plans are made but then she breaks them with an excuse and goes over someone else's house. Ask her why she is making up excuses, or why she doesn't want to sleep over your house.
*Laci
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ok well there is ths girl and i have liked her for a while and i finally told my best friedn that and then he went and asked her out and now the girl found out what happened and how my best friend did that and now she is askin me stuff like would i ever get wit her if they broke up im jus confused as hell
some 1 please tell me wut 2 do (link)
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Depending on your age, some girls will say yes to a boy when they ask her out just so she can ahve a boyfriend. Or she might of liked you but didnt think she had a chance with you. So when your friend asked her out she might of said yes to get closer to you. I'm not sure I dont know that for a fact though.
I think your best bet would be to talk to your friend about that after you think about it yourself. Would you want to be with someone that was wiht your bestfriend? Would your bestfriend get mad? How good of a girlfriend is she? etc.
Hope this helped!
*Laci
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Is it ok to have a make-out buddy? I mean, not a sex buddy, we're not having sex...but we're only making out once in a while. We dont like eachother, but is it still ok? Does it make me a slut? (link)
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It's ok just as long as you don't have a boyfriend and he doesn't have a girlfriend or dating anyone. Just make sure that he doesn't have any feelings at all because if he did that would be basically leading him on. And ofcourse it does NOT make you a slut. People call other people sluts when they are insecure about themselves. You could be a virgin and never even touched a boy and people could be calling you a slut. It's basically nothing personal.
Hope this helped!
*Laci
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THanks.
I will tell him when he get home from his camping trip.. him and I go camping one night and talk. thing is he did had gf for 3 year and now once of while we together we get this feeling when we make out. becouse we miss eather and stuff... He did told me that I need go out other guys.. But thing is something bout me be hard for me find a guy. becouse of my deafness and disblitty..
I kinda have another advice.. I um did something frist of summer this guy I use had little crush on after my brake up with traivis i gusse i took my slef to serlousy. well i send him mail ask why drop out of school and stuff i didnt mean to but i say something rude if he didnt tell me.. I not mean to. he wrote back and say he getting married nad having kid and saying that he will charge me hassment him i not do anything. he bad guy and jerk to. I like know how i make my senior year the best becouse I have no delire be deppress becouse i am happy person get little hyper people think i need clam down but i just happy that all... nobody would want see me mad i would be if people put me down..
Amanda sorry lot to say right now i miss all my freinds they away vactaine and camp.. i gusse i bored and have lot on my mind.. i sould be getting job some day.. I dont like boredness i like doing things...
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That's ok that you didn't mean to send him an e-mail being mean. It was probably just a misunderstanding or miscomunication. Don't sweat it.
Yaaa its not fun when your friends are all away on vacation or camping. Its boring.
Hope this helped!
*Laci
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