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my family is very racist and very controlling when it comes to mixed relationships and recently i started goin ot wit an 18 year purtirican/black guy. i am italian/mexican and im 14 my family stilll does not no and i dont no what i should do bout this i wanna be with him but i dont want my family to disown me at all. what should i do ?
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You should sit down and talk to them. They might hvae a problem with his age because he is 4 years older than you and probably very mature and wanting to try things you ahvent done yet. Don't get pressured into doing them only because you want to be with him. Your family needs to understand that its unfair to be racist on someone that they dont even know. If they don't approve then tell them you are going to do it anyway, if then they ay they are going to disown you. Your goign to have to pick but I doubt they will disown you. They proabbly will just have to get to know him so hang around the house for a while!
Hope this helped!
*Laci
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Well point out that you guys are mixed and they may not be just about the mix but the age.. it is 4 yrs apart.. just have them meet him and tell him to act his very best and be good about it all and hopefully your family will except him-trix
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Parents sometimes make no sense when it comes to race. How can they be racists if they are mixed too? Strange. All you can do is what you think is right, and pray for the rest. When and if you have children, teach them not to be racists.
Now he's 18. He is way too mature for you right now. If he has sex with you, its statutory rape and he goes to jail. He has had experiences in life that you do not understand yet. Find someone closer to your age. In the future, he may be able to go out with you, but right now you have to grow up a little.
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if you care about this guy, your family cannot stop you. they are not going to disown you. u dont even have 2 tell them b/c i doubt it will be leading to marrige. and if ur not gonna marry him they will not disown you. racism sucks .. and people need 2 get over it. the color of your skin shouldnt affect your social position and things like that. talk 2 ur family about it. hopefully, they will understand.
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ok .. my family is a litl racist too .. i mean evrywhere we go they talk about people who rnt "white" so i fell u on that one .. bt i think u should tell them they might b angry at first but ur family loves u and they will get over it .. nothing can replace a familys love and u wont loose it * hOpE i HeLpEd gOoD lUcK
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ok well its sad that there are racist ppl in this worlds but there are and we have to deal with it. i have ppl in my family who r racist, i am half black half white. well i just ignore them. but since its ur mom and dad and stuff u cant really ignore them. i dont think u should c him tho because he is 18 and ur only 14. that makes it illegal for u guys to do anything because he is 18. so if u dont want him to go to jail then u better stop seeing him. and also dont hide different ethnicities of ppl from ur family. i think, and this is my personal opinion, the more u expose them to it the more they will have to learn to except it. if they disown u then they r really dumb and i think ud b better off sumwhere else anyways.
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This guy is also way too old for you. He's gunna want sex soon and you're not ready for that shit. When you're 14,you still have to pretty much play by their rules. When you get older,if you want to go out with a guy of a dfferent race,if you're family is too racist to except it,hell with them. They'll get over it.
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Well i say that you tell them how they would feel if you were to have a boyfriend like that...my friend has a boyfriend who is 18 and she is 14, but her parents arent going with the ages so i dont know if you should tell them right away.
Give it time to see if the relationship works out n if not then you don't gotta tell them.
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My family used to be the same way. My aunt is white and my uncle is black. Well I think you should talk to your parents about it and tell them that you are dating him. Ask them to just give him a chance and thats all you can really do. It will probably take them a long time to get used to this but they will get used to it. You shoulnt not date someone cause of what your family thinks cause this guy could be a very good person for you. Hope I helped. Good luck!
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I think you should just tell your parents like it is...If you have feelings for this guy then tell them and if they have a problem w/ it then thats too bad because ya kno this isn't the 1800's we get to pick our boyfriends and stuff..I hope I helped...GOOD LUCK!!
*much love* *~tasha~*
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