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13/F
Okay, last night i had two dreams. & i need help because i have no idea what they mean.
The first dream:
I was at a school fun fair. I was there with my best mate Beth, we was lining up to go on Twister [both of our favorite fun fair ride] and her brother Adam [who is 16] was in front of us. He took his t-shirt of. I looked at him & he smiled at me. Then, after that i kept checking him out. When we got on the ride the one me & beth was in, flew off the ride and just landed on the grass. Then the guy in charge of the ride shouted out 'And thats the red car off'. Then, Adam winked at me.
The second dream:
Me, my mum, & my brother were all sitting down in the living room, crying. My mum opened & held out a locket and said we should of put a picture of Jason in here [i don't know anyone called jason].
Then it turned out that we were crying because my little sister had died of cancer [i don't have a sister just one brother].
Sorry it's long, but thanks in advance =].
I dont think the dreams particularly mean anything. People have dreams all the time that dont mean nothing. I wouldn't put to much thought into these dreams, im sure they are just wierd dreams people have all the time =] x x
I had been going with this one guy for say 7 or 8 months and we did everything together, he would proceed to see me from 1 to 3 times a week and always told me from the start of our relationship that we were only friends and when he bought me things he also told me not to take it wrong as we were only friends so after about a 3 months relationship, I decided to test his feelings for me and told him that I got an offer to go to eat with someone and that was when he stopped seeing me for a couple of weeks, so after calling him repeatedly without an answer, I was almost ready to give up on us when I tried one more call and he anwered and came by to repair some stuff for me so our relationship continued for another 4 or 5 months and I did not see anyone else but I have to say I was getting bored as we did nothing for fun, he was more or less a handyman during this time, he still would not relate to me how he felt, although when I had relativies from out of state he initiated the meeting at his place and it went well. but still no talk of how he felt about me except friendship came up alot and it was not long after that I decided to test his feelings for me again and I had the chance to date someone else and we danced but that was all as I still have strong feelings for my ex- boyfriend, he always said to go have fun as he could not keep up with me and wanted me to find someone that I could have fun with and that would make me happy, but when he found out that I had gone out with someone new they drove me there, he then told me bye over the phone and that was the end of our relationship, I still think of him and miss him to no end. Can anyone tell me how I can make this right and get him to forgive me. I did not know his feelings about me at all and I found out the hard way. Oh yes I am a female and I am over 50 yrs.
Ok firstly, he cannot forgive you because you have done nothing wrong! He told you to go out with other people and you did. He is just jelous. It isn't your fault he didn't tell you how he felt in the first place!
If i were you, i would just lay low for a while. Act as if your not missing him and you dont need him etc. Play hard to get ;) This might make him realise that he wants you! Because its obvious that he does, he might just not realise it properly yet.If this does not work and he doesn't try to call you or anything then give him a call and ask him to go for a drink or something and then just talk to him and tell him how you feel. I know this proberbly what everybody says but im sure your both old enough to act mature about it. Anyways if he still acts the same as he does now after you have spoke to him, then im sure he is jus another one of those guys who is a dick and you can do better! Hope i helped =] Good Luck x x
How can i get a guy to know that i want him? But without saying it unless of course he asks.
Without actually telling him alls you can do really is flirt. But make sure you dont flirt to much and which will make you look desperate =] x x
Can someone just reassure me that getting over true love is possible because right now I'm not so sure..
Is it possible? Have you done it?
It is totally possible!! I does take ages because it took me long enough but trust me, eventually you will be over it! Ino that its really hard but and it seems that you will love him/her for ever but you wont;) Just keep telling yourself that it is possible x x
I really had no idea where to put this q, so yeah.I was wondering....
How do braces(for teeth) get taken off and does it hurt at all? I've asked my dentist but he never answers me... If you could help that would be great cause i am kinda scared to get them off.
Nope it doesn't hurt at all =] It jus feels kinda wierd because you have had them on for so long haha but theres no pain what-so-ever =] x x
okay so im 16/f & im in this driver's ed class & there's this guy i there with me that i like alott. & i started talking to him. & he looks at me sometimes & smiles at me & sometimes he teases me. but like he's really cool. and i asked him for his number & he gave it to me. well driver's ed class ends on saturday but im leaving on friday so should i just tell him on thursday cuz thats my last day that i like him before i leave to go on vacation? im not sure if i should im scared too.
Yep i think you should definatly tell him! From what your saying it sounds like he likes you too. But if not, whats the worst that could happen ? You tell him you like him, he might not like you, you get over it lol =] So go tell him ;) x x
Ok So... I just spent 9 days with my bf, Daniel, straight and... well... it wasn't what I expected. He is wonderful. He truly is. He is a nice guy, but... I just don't know how far things could really get with he and I and... that bothers me.
First off, he wasn't very physically attractive... and I thought that I was someone who didn't care about that crap, yet... I am. *Sigh*. I hate it. I feel so shallow. That bothers the HELL out of me TO NO END. But, I can't help it if I am not physically attracted to someone. Ya know?
All week I found that we had NO CHEMISTRY when is came to kissing and things like that. Actually, when it comes to him NOT GETTING SEX, he is kinda a jerk.... or well.. WAS. I kinda snapped him out of that real quick. I wasn't ready to have sex. Why is it that he was ok with it? Ya know? I even thought of my ex, Kyle, once while I was making out with Daniel... *Sigh*. Im such an asshole. I swear. I hate this.
I am also worried about losing Daniel as a friend. He is such a great person and a wonderful friend. *Sigh*
Bottom line. The week wasnt what I expected and... in fact... something else happened that week that was un-expected as well. WITH MY EX BOYFRIEND KYLE. My ex whom I still care about to the end of the world and ALWAYS will. Lol. He is a US Marine and I miss him SO MUCH. He is in Florida. *Sigh*.
Kyle got jealous as HELL you all when he found out that I was up there w/ Daniel. He was worried about me and kept calling me CONSTANTLY to make sure that I was ok and everything was going alright. He says that he wants to be with me WHEN I AM READY. But... when is that going to be?
I am scared to be with Kyle... and yet... I do love him. I just... am scared to admit that and allow myself to love him the way that I used to. He hurt me SO BAD... SO MANY TIMES in the past. Ya know? It would take BOOKS for me to explain all that this kid has put me through.
This past weekend Daniel and I went to see "Liscence To Wed" in the movie theater. Ya know, the one with Mandy Moore? Anyway, it made me think.
Daniel is someone who is only showing me his "good" side. I don't know him that well. And Kyle... well... I know him better than he knows himself. Hahaha. I want to marry someone who I know well enough to know that I can tolerate them for the rest of my life. I don't want someone who is gonna change and show their real colors years down the road. Your gonna fight in relationships, and its never going to be perfect. Thats what makes Kyle and I SO SPECIAL and the movie (believe it or not) made me realize that.
If I haven't gotten completely tired of shit after nearly 7 years... THATS LOVE... no matter who you are... you can't deny that. Especially considering all that he has put me through.
So, anyway, I am just confused, you all. Really. I duuno what to do. Daniel is a great guy and I have NO REASON to want to leave him at all. But... where is my heart, truly? I would have to say that right now... I don't know.
Firstly, its not a bad thing not finding someone attracive, and its not a bad thing to be bothered about looks. Of course looks arent everything, but they are a big part of the relationship. So dont feel bad about it!
Secondly, from what you said it sounds to me like kyle is the one you want to be with. Yes maybe he did hurt you really badly but if he keeps calling you etc. then he must want you badly lol.
Plus you said Daniel is a great guy, so you dont wanna hurt him right? But just think, you would be hurting him more by staying with him if you love someone else.
So to me it sounds like you heart is with kyle. Hope i helped =] x x
does anyone have any ideas on how to get my parents trust back?
My mum stopped trusting me at one point (long story), ino it sounds childish bu all i did was jus be good for a while, e.g. do as she says, be in on time etc. Thers nothing else you can really do =] Hope I Helped x x x
OK, so we know what lust and love is.. but is it bad to just be in 'lust' with somebody rather than 'love' even though you're like really good friends with the person?
Of course its not bad. Who says you have to be in love to have a relationship ? Sometimes lust is alot better than love..you can't get hurt as much =] x x
15/f my boyfriend talks to other girls i got on his myspace and a lot of them were telling him they liked him and stuff.
"and he said i have a girlfriend friendships are a lot better anyways. and they last longer.=]"
what do i do?
it made me sad..
Well to me it sounds like your bf is faithfull ;) If he really did want to cheat on you then he wouldnt tell the girls that he has a girlfriend would he =] If i were you hun i wouldnt worry about it x x
well, this is kind of an embaressing question but ok, i am pretty sure i have some kind of vaginal infection, i have hd it for about 5 days, i have been aplying cream for it that my mother got me, it has only beed one day since i have been using the cream, but i see no improvement... i cant go to te doctors for atleast another 4 or 5 days maybe a little longer like 7 days or so because my mom went away on a buinsess trip... and so i am kind of worried, i dont want it to et worse and it is really irritating me.. but ironically it is more irritating when i put the cream on it.. is there anything i could do to makeit better, make it o away.. i dont know if the cream i am usin is the right kind, is there anything else i could to help the healin proccess or actually identify what exactly it is that i have? and i canty call a doctor either because i live in a country that is not my own country and i cannot speak the language yet... any ideas? help me please... i am desperate....
To me is sounds like you have thrush. If so then keep using the cream because it wont work effectivly after only one day =] x x
My best friend fucked my brother when i asked her not to. Do i have a right to be mad at her? Or am i over reacting?
Course you have a right to be pissed..you did tell her no to! But what are the reasons that you didnt want her to sleep with him, i mean if ther not really that big then maybe you should think about how she feels. Imagine if you really liked someone but somebody else told you not to do anything with him, imagine how you would feel. Im not saying she did the right thing because i think she should have spoke to you first, all im saying is look at it from her point of view =] x x x
0kay so ive been with my boyfriend for 2 years but this year hes qoinq away to colleqe .. not like away away but he`ll be an hour & a half away & hes qonna live in the dorms there i quess but im still qonna be here in hiqh school and i know we wont really see eachother that often =/ & its qonna be such a biq chanqe & he'll be really busy & so will I..does anybodyy think it`ll still work or we should break up or whatt? =/
Well if you 2 really want to be together then you will both make it work..no matter what =] and if in the end you stayed with him but you never see each other or whatever..then you can break up with him. Theres no reason to end it first without trying..you never no, things could go great =] Hope i helped x x x
There is a guy I met at a camp I went to. It was a church camp so I know he's a christian and i really like him. He's nicer than any guy i know except my brother and...he's my twin so it doesn't count. my best freind is trying to get us together and she told me that he told her he really likes and and he wants to ask me out but he's scared. I really like him and i would ask him out but in my family it's kinda disrespestful to ask the guy out. and I'm really scared he'll say no. I've never likes a guy so much when i see him or tlk to him or thinkabout him i get so happy and my stomach feels like it has butterflys in it and it's like he's the only person in the world tome. I really like him and would apreciate the advice thank you for the help
Jenn
Aww that sounds really sweat lol =p My advice to you would be to wait for a while..by the sounds of it this lad really likes you so im sure he will ask you out soon. If not though..you said hes scared to ask you out..wel why dont you get your friend to talk to him and let him know that you feel the way he does. That way he would be pretty sure you would say yes if he asked you..and would therefore not be as scared =]Hope I Helped =] x x
Well there's this boy who lives in Florida and I have been in love with him for 10 years last year. He's a total hottie and he's going on 16. I'm going on 14. I'm not sure a long distance relationship is going to work. I'm almost sure he has feelings for me and he knows I have big ones for him. I want to have my first kiss with him but I can't if he lives all the way in Florida! What do I do I really need some help asap!
Well if you where older then i would say of course it could work..people have lon distance relationships all the time. But because your only 14 its not as if you can go to visit him or anything is it ? :/ Also..i am not saying you dont love him because you might do but have you never thought that you might just think you love him because you have never really spent time with him..so to you he just seems perfect. You have not spent time with him to be able to see his flaws. If u get me ? :S I know its really hard if you think or you do love someone i have been in a similar situation to you) but my advice to you is that i think you should maybe try to find someone who lives a litle closer. Plus you and this guy could always stay friends =] Hope I Helped x x x
Sorry it might be long but please someone read and help me?
I am just wondering, am I living in a fantasy land? Well I am 16/f and I turn 17 in december. (about to be junior in highschool) The thing is, I have been going out with my bf for 3 month and half, about. I am really great it worked out like that because he's been my best friend for about a year eversince my 10th grade year started. We were just acquaintences at the beginning of my 10th grade (he was senior and now he graduated) and we just became really good friends.
When we were just friends, I realized i liked him as more than a friend but I didnt want to admit that because I wasnt sure if he liked me because he is nice to everyone (he was voted most friendliest...) so i was even in denial that i liked him and i went out with couple guys and i always confided in him about guy stuff. I know... not a good idea to talk about a guy with another guy. but he was only one i could really trust and i know he gives me a solid truth. And we both knew i had some "committment issue" yet when it came down, he still didn't judge me differently and asked me out.
Well that's really great because he is such a great guy and he's my best friend and my boyfriend. I truly believe there is no one wonderful like him (even though that is totally my biased opinion :D) We can and do talk on the phone for hours everynight and there's never and dull moment. We can make fun of eachother like crazy and have fun. We have very similar hobbies and its all good.
However nothing can be this perfect. I am not allow to date anybody until i graduate from high school. We are different race and both of our parents dont really want that. He's already graduated (taking off 1 year before going to any college) and I am about to start my junior year.
But I told him I loved him because I do. I really do love him even if some people may say how can a 16 year old girl know. His response was that he believes that you only love one person and only that person in your whole life so when he tells me, that would be tied up with him asking me to marry me. I respect his decision and opinions so no big deal. But lately we've been talking about marrying and all that and everything but the thing is, is there a even chance that this will actually work out? I mean nothing would make me happy if it all worked out like we planned (yes we even planned on where and when to get married... how wonderful..) or is it just a childish fantasy?
Nobosy can say if this would work out or not because like the other person said nobody knows whats going to happen..but i wouldn't have second thoughts about your relationship just because there is a chance it wont work out. My best mates mum and dad have been together since they were 13 and now they are married with 4 children. Just shows that it can work out. As for your mum and dad not wanted ou to be with him..its not their decision is it? Your the one dating him not them =] Anyways Hope I Helped x x x
ok so i just found out a couple days ago that the guy i have lliked for 2 year is not interested in me...i mean it sux but i am getting over it...there is this other guy though who i have known for a while and i have liked him before and he likes me now...i dont know if i like him now because i just found out about the other guy....thats not even the worst part its tat my best friend who i would usually go to for this kinda of advice likes him too...so i dont know what to do i mean he keeps asking to hang out and stuff but i want my friend to be there with me so its not awkward just the 2 of us but that would make it even more awkward cuz she likes him...please help...i dont know what to do and its so new to me because i have never had a boyfriend before or had a guy i like like me back ya i know that is pathetic but whatever...please help me
Ok i was in a situation once where me and my best friend liked the same guy. Trust me..it is not a good thing! I think its better if none of you have him..that way it's fair for both of you. Also, it sounds to me that you only like this guy because u found out the other guy doesnt like you lol..i don't now maybe you do like him but thats what it sounds like =] So m advice to you is stay away! Hope I Helped =] x x x
My ex got a summer job at the same camp I'm working at. Last week was our first week working together and he kept flirting and said to me "you know you want me back" right in front of other counselors. He's been calling me at night but I've been avoiding his calls until I figure out what to do. I like him so much. We were together eight months and we broke up in March. We met at this camp last summer. He knows I go out with someone else now and he keeps asking me what he can do to make me like him as much as I like my current boyfriend. So far I've just smiled and gone on about my work. The guy I go out with now is great!!!! Almost too good to be true. We don't argue and he treats me like a princess. Life with my ex was drama filled. My current boyfriend knows we are working together and he has no problem with it. Should I stay with this guy that is wonderful? or should I follow my heart because my heart is telling me to get back with my ex? Either way the rest of the summer is going to be hard...seeing him everyday. Yesterday he started flirting with some other girl but made sure I was around to see it. It hurt so bad but I didn't let on like I cared. What should I do? How do I sort this out?
Follow your heart!! If you ex is what you truly want then its not fair on your current bf to stay with him. And as for your ex flirting with the other girl..obv he was only doing it to make you jelous lol :P Good Luck x x x
17/f
I've been dating this guy for about two weeks. He is my first real boyfriend. On our first date, I kissed him. Actually, he kissed me and it was sort of like a mini make-out session more than a kiss. I met him on MySpace and he goes to another school close to mine. I talked to him online and then on the phone for a few days and he asked me out. The day before the date we met at a public place to sort of break the ice so it wasn't awkward before the date. So, in other words, I kissed him the day after we met.
In the past two weeks after the date, we've made out, grinded, fondled each other, I've given him a handjob and even a blow job (not to orgasm, but I don't think that matters). He recently left for vacation in another state and before he left he told me he loved me. It's all going to fast and I like him A LOT...like crazy like him, but I have a problem.
Before I got a boyfriend I always thought those girls that were giving their boyfriend's blowjobs and handjobs and told me about it were just slutty. And girls who were like "I love him!" after only weeks were just naive and immature. I feel like a skank and a hypocrite for doing the things that I always thought was so slutty.
I don't brag like some girls do about what I've done. Only one other person knows everything I've done with him. And I told go around saying I love him all the time. I'm just going with the flow with him. I feel comfortable doing these things, and he's not forcing me (he knows sex isn't coming for a while), but I can't help but feel like a hypocrite.
Any opinions/advice?
Dont feel like a hypocrite..you probably just didnt understand situations before you did those things and now you have done them..you see it all differently. Dont worry bout it..im sure that feeling will pass eventually =) x x x
14/f
her name is christy.. and shes my bestestestestestest friend in the whole word... and she told me what was bothering her, my other friend, shes also my bestfriend but we're not as close as me and christy, but shes like my sister.. her name is amerie. and christy told me that she HATES my sister amerie, and that she thinks shes usin` me.. she says that she has a "bad vibe" from her. and amerie doesnt say anything about christy, and they both tell me everything.. so i dont think that amerie has anything against christy either. christy also thinks that i ditch her for mary, but i havent seen mary for so long either after she had gotten into a car accident. but then christy understands why now... and we worked out the ditching part.. but i dont understand why is she against her.. >.< idk what to do. HELP ME PLEASE.
Mary
It sounds to me like christy is just jelous of Amerie because you are close to her aswell as Christy.She is probably sacred that she might lose you to Amerie. I think you should just explain to Christy that you are friends with both of them and theres no need for her to worry. Good Luck =) x x x