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My only bestfriend has been talking to this guy that I like alot lately. I really do like him, he's such a great guy. Well my friend and I were talking last night about her talking to him a little bit. Now talks to all the guys in our group A LOT. The problem isnt exactly that she talks to them alot. It's that they tell her so many things. Like when my friend,we'll call her A, and my other friend, we'll call him K, were going out K would tell my best friend things that he didnt even tell A. I dont know I just don't think that's right. It really bugs me that all the guys in our group talk to her and tell her things that they don't even tell their own girlfirends. I mean i'm glad that they can open up to her about things, but well I don't know it just really bugs me. My friend always does this, I say I like a guy and then she wants to talk to him all of a sudden. Not to mention the fact that she flirts with them. The guy that I really like, well she flirts with him constantly, she even told me she does, she also has a boyfriend so that definitely doesnt make sense to me. I just don't know what to do about it. She said she just gets along better with the guys, and I could have understood that, but the fact that she flirts with them, even though she knows that I really like them, I don't understand that. I don't know what to do. What do you think of this, what should I do. I'm just really scared of losing him to her. I really don't want that to happen. Plus I don't like her flirting with so many people even though she has a boyfriend. She even flirts with other guys in front of her boyfriend, and then if he gets the least bit upset about it she just tells him to stop being so jealous and that it's nothing. I don't know, help please. Any advice would be greatly appeciated. (link)
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You're not gonna like this but. Firstly this is why men cheat, because they can! Secondly, she can't steal nothing from you that you don't allow her to and really if he don't want you he will leave anyways. Question, are you a shy person? More reserved than you feel she is? Other guy hit it on the head! Granted she likes the attention, all women do! If the homeless man on the street says we look good we r smilin all day! Now what I know is your best friend is different different from you, maybe more outgoing than you but that's why you are friends because the traits she has, are traits you are attracted to because you don't have them or but you wish you did. And she could get along better with guys because she has experienced 5 other females that week that have said the same thing you are sayin now. But hopefully they are doing it to her face! So instead of callin friend A and K and Z. Realize while you are worried about who is talking to who, everyone else is getting their needs met having fun etc. And you're suffering when you could be out with your man having fun and being there for him to talk to or hanging with your BFF! Let it go!
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well i will go into more detail . i am 14 andso is he we met in grade 7 because he waas in my class.. that year we were friends but no really good friends.. i havent talk to him in a while and about in november i liked him and everyone found out and someone made up a rumor about me wanting him in a tub of pudding! and that was about a month ago and then i stopped liking him and while i stopped liking him i talked to him but now i like him again and every time i pass him in the hallway i get all nervous ... (btw hes sorta a pussy and he wont talk to me) and when i liked him before he told his friend hje doesnt really talk to me and he doesnt know me but now that i like him again only a couple people know .. so i how do i go and talk to him? do i come open and tell him i like him or hes attractive or do i give flirty hint or should i just talk? and how do i go up to him and start the convo because i think im gunna do it but when ever i see him i bail because im scared.. and hes not even intimidating hes like 5 foot 1' and im like 5 feet so its not that bad but its just how i feel.. and how do i start the convo??
thanks soooo much loveboys (link)
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Well firstly don't worry bout rumors. You always need haters to let you know you're doin something right! Now seeing as he is probably scared of talking to you to, you are now in controlof the situation. So honestly just walk up to him and say hi and give him a compliment a simple 1 and see what he says. Sounds simple but just try it! The worst thing he can say is no and then you can move on to another cute boy. But in any situation remember you are the prize!
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okay so all my boyfriend talks about is having sex with me and doing things with me. and i'm sooo not that type of girl...like ill do some things with him but not to the point of having sex with him... like thats just not who i am. but stupid stupid me went and said to him okay ill have sex with you!! i feel sooo stupid and i feel like im setting him up and getting him all excitted for it and im not even going to have sex with him... like this is allll he talks about and i guess im asking....how do i break it to him that im not who he thinks i am and i dont want to have sex with him?????
any questions about my question just ask.
any advicee is so GREATLY appreciatedd!!!!
please and thanks
-cuttechick26
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If he can't talk about anything other than sex then that's all he wants you for. I'm worried about his level of maturity (not sure on ages)since he can't formulate a thought that extends beyond sex. Just tell him no! You don't have to do anything you don't want to do with your body period!
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I am 18/f. I am so attracted to my boyfriend, and I trust him with all of my heart. When we hook up, things get really heated, and I always feel like I'm restraining myself by not having sex with him. My body feels so ready, but I don't know if I am. I'm a virgin and I feel like my virginity is part of my identity and something I am proud of. How could I give it away? I don't know when I'll ever feel ready. How does one know? Should I have sex with my boyfriend? He is sexually experienced, but I know he's not pressuring me into anything. (link)
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I am glad to hear he is not pressuring you. Its a big decision. Women use sex to gain and express love while men can use love to get sex. Your virginity is something you can never get back and you want to be sure if you do this its with the right person. A person you are ok with being emotionally and physically attached to. If you get pregnant will he stay and support your decisions? You have your whole life to experience those feelings. Just make sure he deserves that special part of you!
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Basically last night my boyfriend stayed the night, and we didn't realise that my Dad was taking the day off work. So after my sister left the house we had sex, very loudly.
After we finished up my boyfriend checked my dad's room and he was 'asleep'
I don't know if he really was or not. I pretty much got dressed and ran to school way early.
How do I deal with this? What do I do if he mentions it? What do I do if he doesn't? (link)
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If he doesn't say anything DON'T bring it up! Now does he already know you're sexually active? If he does he probably won't say anything. I'm thinkin he didn't hear anything But you gots to be more careful! And use protection!
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Well me and this guy really like eachother
but we are not going out (John). He lives about 3hrs away. and theres this other guy who really wants to have sex, but me and that guy have no feelings for eachother what so ever(Alex).I wasnt going to tell John about Alex,but John was telling me about how his brother was blocking him from going up2 a girl.Obviously I got jealous and told him about Alex. Soo then John told me he didnt want me2have sex so I decided not to have sex with alex, but people are telling me i shouldnt care about what john wants because we are not dating.
What do you think i should do?
P.S.
I know its not the best to have sex with sumone that i have no feelings for but i just wanna know if i should care about what John wants?..and should i base my decision on someone who im not with?
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Sounds like you might be scared of being close to John maybe something you're not sure of. Maybe the distance between you two. Now I understand people have needs. But as a woman I know we are very loyal and we only do things like this when there is a certain aspect of the relationship we currently have that we are not happy with. So you have 2 choices 1. Cowgirl up tell that man how you really feel about him, tell him what you need and be consistant and make it happen or be honest about your feelings tell him what's bothering you, give him an opportunity to change it if he doesn't walk away. Always respect others and yourself. Karma is alive and kickin! Just don't play youreself for 20% if you found a good solid 80%!
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do you believe in soul mates? why or why not? (link)
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Heck Yes I believe there are multiple soul mates for people mainly because as you cahnge throughout your life, your requests from a relationship will also change. But keep in mind a soul mate relationship any relationship requires devotion and committment! The why is simply because those people that are lucky enough to find their soulmate were meant to have that partner and their destinies are combined together! People need people type deal
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Ok well the Raj(ex) problem still stands at the moment .BUt now also my other ex is makin me feel so pressured and depressed.He wants me back but i enjoy being ONLY this ones friend.we get along better and he keeps bein so childish and overdramatic and idk wat to do bout it.
Also my supposed "bestfriend" has been ignoring me or not even bothering to call or txt me. a message nothing! it makes me so mad because i have done alot for him.He is gay and I was the person he came out to and I helped him be comfortable with it and he is alot happier now.We have been bestfriends for two years but the past couple months he has been pullin this shit..idk what to do bout it.I feel kinda used ya know? (link)
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I'm not sure of the full situation but it is sooo important to not let anyone control how YOU feel about YOU! Life is too short and there can be pressured from all directions so the people that attempt to make you feel bad because they do have an issue and that issue is not your's so don't own it! Much Love!
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16/f
lately i have been thinking about what career i want.i want to something that helps others, to tell you the truth, money doesn't concern me too much.That point of view may change as i get older, but i don't really think so.i've never really been in things for just the money. but aNyWaY... what i have been motivated to do is help people in other countries.one night i just thought about it and looked up some pictures and, the pictures actually made me cry.these situations that people in other countries are in for some reason really get to me and touch me in a way that nothing ever has before. to think that i am so fortunate to take a hot shower at night, or go out for dinner and party when these people can't even feel safe where they live because their back yard is a battlefield makes me feel so angry.I know people can only do so much to help, but i have decided that i want to be one who tries.I would like to become a form of nurse,then eventually put in an application to "Doctors without Borders". I know i have a hell of a long way before this actaully happens, so i wanted to know what others think about this plan.I want to do it, and i know if i try it will happen. the only thing my home.My dad can barely take it if i'm more than a couple hours away from home, hell, if i ever went somewhere like Africa for a year I honestly think he would get sick while i was gone.NO JOKE.Part of me wants to do this for the lives of others, the other part can't bare the thought of family worrying over me. I feel soo tied down. i know this is probably way over the top because this hasen't even happend yet and i'm only 16, but i've just been thinking about it lately. what do you think? (link)
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Thank you in advance for changing the world! I believe you can do it! All great world changers began right where you are now! Your dad is more scared for him than you. He loves you and would probably break down if sumthing happened to you or if you got hurt. But he would also be really proud of you if you go whereever and are apart of bettering lives!now there is a rather large difference between USA and Africa so do your research! Look up different countries get in contact with the right people and ask every single question you have to make sure its something you want then talk to Dad and let him know you actually put some thought into it and hell come around.
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whats some good songs to smoke to?
I know it's bad, don't lecture.
thanks. (link)
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If you're a hip hop fan, try Bone Thugs in harmony Buddah Lovahs, Bud Smokahs only. Mr Pookie, just smoke (legalize marijuana) Blueberry yum yum by Ludacris. Email for more
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help!! i want to talk to my crush but whenever i see him i get all nervous and scared how do i work up the nerve to approach him? and what do i talk about when i do talk to him?
thnks so much im so desperate for advice (link)
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I want to help but more info like age and where you guys met would help! But firstly if you're nervous, find some do it fluid! Meaning find something that you confident talking to him about and go up and say hi! He could be feelin you to. But for a better answer email me with more info and ill help ya!
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Well me and my ex recently just got back together. he just doesnt want to let anybody know that we're even "talking" like about to date. so i have to act like im his friend and i cant even kiss him or hold hands. but then again, me and him talk hour after hour on the phone we're even planning on moving in together in a year or two.. but i dont want to keep our relationship a secret anymore... it just hurts because i really love him alot. even though i was the one who left him. what do i do? (link)
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He's playin a game! Mostly because he doesn't know what he wants and I wonder if he did, would he have the courage to do something about it. You know a man loves you when he professes it. To let all the other guys that were gonna try to get with you to back up. But here's what it is. Is this the kind of person/relationship you deserve? If not why waste your time? Take a look at yourself find out what's good about you that's all that matters. Funny how guys change their mind when all of a sudden your not chasing them! *hint*
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Hi I'm Hailey and I'm 17
I've been dating my boyfriend for two months after talkign for 4 years. We are in love and I don't know what i would do without him. Usually i ditch a guy before the first month is up but with him its different. But the only problem is i cheeted on him wiht an ex boyfriend the first week we went out before he really meant much to me. the other night when he slept over he read my diary entry about how i cheeted and was very upset. he eventually go over it and realizes that our love is to strong to throw away over one mistake. is this normal? and should i be mad for him reaind my diary?
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Let this show you no matter what the truth will always come to light. No he shouldn't be going through your things, the fact he did tells me he knew something was up and wouldve found out anyways. Although I worry about you being so attached at this age, understand Real Love is not a garuntee, its 2 be respected. People kill over broken hearts and feelings so respect the relationship espcially if you want it to work. And above all respect your temple! Its the only one you have!
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Ok so I just broke up with my boyfriend this weekend. We're both 16 and it had been a 3 month relationship. I told him we couldn't keep being together because I don't treat him the way I should. I would always act distant towards him and never very enthusiastic. At first I didn't but gradually the feelings began to fade and the attraction wasn't there anymore. It all seemed very routine to me but I couldn't bare to let him go. We've become extremely close in the past months. But I finally did the deed, and now at school he's all alone. I was the person he would hang out with everyday but I guess he doesn't want to do that anymore. Every time I see him it really hurts to know that it's really over and that it's because of me. And it doesn't help that I know that he is extremely upset about the whole thing. I spoke to him today but only briefly because I saw him at our locker. We both agreed to still be best friends but that isn't happening at the moment. I know we probably need time away from eachother now, but I don't know what is the best way to handle this situation. This is my first real lengthy relationship so I've never been in this situation before. But I care so deeply about him and I just want us to both be happy. :/ (link)
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Get ready! This is not the first or last time you will encounter this situation. And sometimes it will be you in his shoes. Main thing is respect his feelings which you did and be honest with him which you were all while bein true 2 your feelings. You did the right thing! Just remember the more positive energy you release more comes back 2 you! It'll be ok!
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