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I have this guy friend that i used to like. He's nice and all and we talk on email a lot. Then he said that my best friend (basically my "sister") and her (really cool) guy cousin sucked at hockey, were wimps, adn were on steriods because they talk funny. I was about to cuss him out but then i maintained control because they are two of my best friends. I really got pissed when he said that her guy cousin was on steriods. REALLY pissed. What should i do to this kid to teach him a lesson?
You don't have to "teach him a lesson".
Just say you didnt appreciate that at all and if he says anything more like it you will not talk to him anymore.
Just be mature about it. Being immature just makes things worse.
x-x Anjalynet x-x
Yesterday I told this girl. That I like one of her friends but she wasn't suppose to tell anyone because I am not ready for that drama yet. And today she called him and told asked him if he wanted to go with me. She told me he said yes but I dont believe her. And now everyone knows about the me and him thing and its kinda getting out of hand. Also the girl she said she was mad at the boy I like because he likes a girl like me. And by that I mean a normal girl. Did I mention hes the most popularest 7th grade boy int our whole entire school. Please help me what should I do?
Hmm, I remember back in my 7th grade year.
Just go up to him and be mature. Say, did you hear a rumor that I liked you?
If he says yes,
say "Well, I'd like to know if you like me"
and if he says no, then kick him (jk)
and if he says yes, then ride off into the sunset together.
x-x Anja x-x
what does it mean to be "pushy"?
It means your basically pushing your view/ your way/ what you think / what you want/ how you want it/ when you want it on other people. Bascially you need to back off a little bit.
I've just had my train track braces removed and been given a retainer. I didn't think to ask my orthodontist, but...if I wear my retainer more (like round the house after school as well instead of just at night), will it make my teeth more likely to stay in place or move quicker or whatever? Would wearing it more than just at night do more harm or good?
Thanks!
Wearing it all the time doesn't hurt.
Just make sure you take it out occasionally.
x-x Anja x-x
Everytime someone comes up and touches me, I get paranoid and start shaking violently. It's only when I don't know when someone is going to touch me. I get so freaked out, and I hate it. I always start shaking and I can't help it. I have to curl up when I'm shaking to try to control it. And after I stop shaking I end up getting paranoid for the rest of the day. I've always been like this, and I don't know whats going on. Any suggestions on what might help?
hey hon..
I know this is personal, but have you ever been molested or touched "that way" by a person you didn't want to be touched in that manner by?
If so, that's why your reacting this way. You're remembering your last traumatizing experience and trying to protect yourself from it again. Of course it scared you if it happened and you should hate it.
If you didn't, I'm not sure what would be the reason. Nerves maybe?
Either way you should go see a counseler about it, who can get you professional help. :o)
x-x anja x-x
I have this guy friend and we are like best friends no dout but I knida really like him and everyone thinks he kindof likes me. I dont know if I should go out with him or not because his guy best friend likes me too and I dont want to ruin thier friendship or our friendship
Please Help::f/13::I rate high
Okay Chickies--I've anwsered this question before for people...
DO NOT ASK HIM OUT UNLESS YOU ARE POSOTIVE THAT HE LIKES YOU AND IS UNATTACHED!!
Happened to me, matter of fact. And I went ahead without knowing his feelings and totally ruined our friendship.
It's a long trip down "Heart-break-repair" road, so please don't do it.
Just ask him how he feels about you. Have your friends joke around with him hinting questions that you two should go out. If he responds positivly, then move forward.
As far as the other guy? If he hasn't actually asked you out yet..then forget about him.
-luv-
Anja
Well here is the thing see im 14 m and i have never had a girlfriend is that weird or wrong or anything please help.
No its not weird. You might not be emotionally ready yet.
Try asking a girl out if you feel you are.. :)
Good luck! :o)
Anja
hiya.
My mom is being really awkward. We have this guinea pig, and it's hers, but she refuses to look after him!! I have to feed him and groom him (he's a long hair) and cover him up at night and handle him and clean him out and everything. I don't mind doing this but I think she should take some responsibility for him!! If I try and speak to her about it she just shouts at me and says 'he's not your pet, why should you care?' and then moans at me if I leave any of it for her to do!! She is a stay-at-home mom and I'm 11 and the youngest child, we have a cleaner and a gardner and my big sis Allie cooks so it's not like she doesn't have time!! What do I do?
Sorry, but your mom is being a prick.
Tell her she expects you to do get good grades in school and do your chores, right?
Tell her that the little guy is her responsibility and she is right. You really shouldn't care because he ISNT your pet.
Put your foot down and tell her you won't take care of it anymore because it isn't yours and you never wanted it, and you have other things to do, like your homework.
You don't have to be rude, but if she yells at you, then just stop doing your chores all together. Tell her, well, you aren't doing your responsibilities, and your supposed to be my example?? Well...? :) Always works.
LUV-
Anja
well im 16 and started my periods when i was 13 and i havent told my mom yet!! (ive been gettin away with it through usin loadsa toilet paper n stealin pads off her n buyin them at school, if your wonderin). the thing is i cant tell her because shes really mean and honestly does hate me and wants to put me in care - she has told me herself that she only lets me stay here still cause she gets paid in child benefits. she would laugh at me if i told her...how do i tell her that i have started without her laughing?
please dont tell me she wont or shes been through it too or whatever because i know this woman and you dont. i know she will laugh its what she does.
besides shouldnt a good mom have asked her 16 yr old daughter if shes started her periods yet anyway??
Hey...thats a weird situation.
You're right, we dont know this woman like you do.
But the saying proves true. "She's been there just like you have at one time."
Write her a note and say, Don't think I'm silly, but I've been embaressed to tell you that I've started my period. I just wanted to let you know that we might be needing more pads then normally.
You can also get a job -- buy some with extra money you might get.
Yes a good mother should have asked her daughter that, but you'll just have to go to plan B now.
Besides, .. you only have two years anyways with her, so endure it for a little longer and then you'll be free as a bird.
love x-x
Anja
I want to know what is the best picture album out there? I've heard of picturetrail..and fotki..and stuff but I want a really good one!
try Ofoto.com
Its really awesome.
i have a fever and my throat feels like its bleeding and when i swallow it hurts really badly, my mouth also produces thick spit which is kinda nasty... if any of you have any advice as to how i can get rid of this please help. thanks
It could be tonsilitious. I thought a case like mine was like that untill I had a blood-test and found out it was Mono. It could be! Have your doctor check it out.
my family owes the bank alot of money and i wanna help them. i'm only 13 so what can i do to help them get money? please help, this is important
I was in that situation once. Your a little young to find a job, .. but as the others said, baby sitting, house sitting, dog walking, house cleaning, mowing lawns, helping the elderly, etc. They all make money. Post a sign saying you do odds and ends, and chances are a elderly person that can't do everything anymore will call you.
If you can find a consession stand or a personally owned shop, they might hire you, and pay you under-the-counter. Hey it works.
Alrighty. There's this guy Adam, and him and my friend Michael came up to me a few days ago, and Michael said Adam thought I was cute and he was going to ask me out. Adam ran away. Adam's getting closer and closer to asking me, but always chickens. I want him to ask me out...what do I do?
Hmm...he seems immature if he just ran away..
Try having a talk. One on one. The whole "Middle" person isn't cool.
When it comes down to you and Adam, The Middle dude is just going to create problems. Intentions might be good, .. but.. its always good to just talk it over with the person.
My Dad's soon to be ex-wife has been harrassing us and stalking the house. Today, she told the police that I have been slandering her name at my high school. I never talk about the woman. Why would I want to talk about someone who is making my life a living hell? When I am at school, it is my relief from all the stress of home and I try to enjoy the time with my boyfriend and my best friends. I have had four of my friends come up to me and tell me that she has come to her house and said a bunch of stuff to her parents about Dad and about me. This is four different people that their parents would rather them have nothing to do with me. Do you have any advice on how I can improve my name, or at least deal with the stress of someone trying to ruin my life? (Although she says that I am ruining hers. Yeah, funny how that works out...)
Thanks!
Stressed...
Ooh. Thats a tricky situation. Well, my suggestion is writting the parents of those she has gone to and explain the situation. Have your dad read it and maybe write a note.
If she doesn't stop, maybe go to your school counseler and see if there is anything she can do.
Some people say that if you put toothpaste on a pimple overnight than it will go away. Does anyone know if this is true? Has anyone tried it?
It won't go away completely. Sometimes it works, sometiemes it doesn't. I'm a real skin-freak so what I've found works for me is completely wash my skin, and clean it with rubbing alchohol. It will sting, but it generally starts to dry it out. If you put toothpaste on it every few hours, I think yes it will work. But putting it on just once doesn't really "do" anything major.
my mom works at the same school i go 2. there is a dance and i want to go with this guy. i don't know if my mom would approve. what should i do?
Well- myself, I would try to explore all the options of doing it without her finding out. If you find some sort of hole in the plan, then you should definatly sit down with her and say, Look. I really want to go to this dance with a guy. I didn't know if you would approve, but I want to give him a chance. So, are you cool with us two going?
Good luck.
-x- Anja -x-
hi...sorry if this is long.
well ages ago i met a guy and fell instantly in love with him. he liked me 2 but i didnt have the courage to tell me and now hes moved on. were like best friends now; we bonded alot when i was living back at home in america. i never got on with my mom and he understood that an kinda helped me through it.
my mom hated me a lot and blamed me for her and my dads divorce. we argued too much and she was always tellin me she wishes i was dead. this guy, lets call him adrian, helped me thru it and always made me feel lots better.
i moved to england to be with him (as a friend) and now my mom is ill and wants me to go back to america to look after her. i realy resent her and dont think i could look after her properly. im also scared that if i go, 'adrian' will meet someone while im away and fall in love...and i will never have a chance to tell him how i feel.
what should i do?
btw i had planned on tellin him how i feel just as i left on the plane...but that would be mean although it would give him time to think bout everythin. what do you think?
rose, 18
aww. That sucks. I know how you feel. I was in a situation just like that.
Telling him how you feel puts yourself out on a limb and possibly sets you up for rejection and heartbreak. That's what happened to me.
But on the other hand, he could be really happy and you guys could have a happy ending.
My advise to you before you unburden yourself of this platitude, is before you do anything
1) Make sure he is completely free, isn't connected w/ any other girl, doesn't have a fling, or so called 'best-friends' with any other girls.
2) Ask him how he feels bout you. If its anywhere near the way you feel, go ahead and tell him.
3) Long distance relationships really suck. I know you don't want to hear this, but they really do. You have no idea what your SO is doing even if you ARE going out. And they are so hard! They may seem honest and sweet but remember, guys are guys.
4) Don't set yourself up for heartbreak. If he's involved in ANY way with any other girl or even a guy, (weird, yo)..DON'T tell him. It will weird him out and you'll be compltely devestated.
5) Are you ready for a relationship? Can you handle your Mom's anger with you liking this boy AND go out with him?
If you keep all that in mind before you unburden yourself, you'll be good to go.
Good luck, hun.
Anja
okay this is a little weird but my friend (who will remain anonymus!) have a real laughing problem. every time something funny happens, and everyone laughs, we laugh the hardest. whatever, right? but even 20 minutes after everyoine calmed down already, we're still laughing!we've gotten in so much trouble at school for this.we'll even talk about it for days. get this: when we're angry with each other, we have even TRIED to fight, but we throw 2 insults at each other and we both burst out laughing! all of our friends think we're psychos, and we agree... then we start laughing again. what the hell can we do about this problem?!?!?!?!
- MaRi (Lil Giggles)
(psycho, and proud of it.)
Well, I used to be like that. Especially when I shouldn't laugh, I would laugh. For no reasons! My friend Renee and I had horrible problems like that.
Just because you laugh alot doesn't mean anything. But here is what helped me. When I would go to laugh, I would think about the worst possible incident in my life that made me so mad that I wanted to kill someone. THAT, my friend always helped me stop laughing.
Try it--it works.
good luck-
Anja
girls say they love you, but they dont show it why is that?
She may not know how you feel about her, and doesn't want to risk putting more of her affection on the line and have you possibly reject her.
If she loves you, you should love her back (if ya'll like each other) or else that's just not fair to her.
If you don't , sit her down and as nice as you can tell her you value her friendship, but you just don't feel the same way about her.