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I am totally honest i tell it like it is and if you dont like it im sorry but im not going to sugar coat answers to make you feel better i want to tell people the truth and tell them what i think is right so if you find that what i say is mean or not helpful just give me a low rating and move on but please dont be rude after all i did answer you question even if its not what you wanna hear just take the time to appreciate. Feel free to message me thank you :) (L)
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So right after New-years I ended up in the hospital for a while, I had a kidney infection, an ovarian cyst, a UTI, and the flu. Basically all they did was pump me full of medicine and let me wait it out. Well I ran out of medicine the beginning of February and lately my bladder has been really week and I've been having pains in it, I also did not get my period in January I figure that's because of how sick I was, however this month my period only lasted 2 1/2 days instead of the usual 6-8 days for me. Not only that but I have constant cramping and pains. Is this normal, am I still recovering, or should I consult my Doctor? I have an OBGYN appointment coming up soon. (link)
i would probably consult a doctor before it gets really serious.


what if your webcam is on a laptop u cant return it or take it out (link)
Well you should take it back to the place your laptop from and get it fixed it might cost a bit of money but if you really want it to work you should or save that money and buy a seperate webcam.


I'm stuck between picking two people that I really care about. One is a guy I was in a relationship with for a year and a half and am madly in love with, but we've been broken up for almost 2 months. We broke up bc we had many problems in our relationship but the break up helped us realized how much we love each other, and will do anything to make it work. The other guy is one that I started dating after the break up. Normally I couldnt move on that fast, but something about this guy helped all the problems in the world fade away. I had an amazing month with him, and he's just like me. I know its probably bc its new and exciting but I stopped talking to him 2 weeks ago bc I wanted to make things work with my ex. Now that Im making things work with my ex I cant stop thinking about the other guy and it confuses me. I love my ex but I love what I had with this other guy. Im afraid if I got with this other guy things would be good but its nothing something that would last forever...I know if i stay with my ex it will last forever. This other guy brings out the best(confidence, fun, etc) in me while my ex brings out the worst(jealousy, insecurity, etc). What would you do? (link)
You dont know what will last forever and what wont. You should always date someone who brings out the best in you which in your case is the second guy not your ex. You may think things will last forever with you ex now but think about it how long did it last the first time. When you break up with someone its because something wasnt clicking between you two. Its obviously up to you but i would say stick with your future and not your past it will save you lots of heartache.


Every single summer i get sun spots on my shoulders that get a weird goose bumpey texture to them. Spring is around the corner and i want to be able to wear cute backless shirts without looking gross! How can i get rid of these or conceal them ?? (link)
You cant realy get rid of them but you can conceal them with make like long lasting foundation or concealer.


My aunt just died on December 11. She had a year long battle with stage 4 lung cancer. She was like a motherly figure to me and I was very close to her and my uncle. A few months after she was diagnosed the chemo was starting affect her and she had terrible headaches. She had a shunt placed in herhead to drain the spinal fluid that was causing the headaches. After that she started looking very different and frail. I had no idea what to say to her or how to talk to her. I stillloved her but I was very aquard arround her. My parents would always tell me to go sit with her in bed and talk, but like I said, I had no idea what to say. I could talk to her when other people werevin the room but not by myself. Well one day my mom told me that my aunt noticed how I was becoming distant and it made her feel bad. At the time I brusshed it away thinking "When she gets better I will talk to her and be more caring" Now that she passed away I feel so guilty and like I should burn in hell for what I did. I have also considered suicide a couple times. I have lots of friends and a wonderful boyfriend but I feel like I must put on a brave face for them so I act happy and carefree. So my questions are,
※How can I greive propperly?
※What should I say to my friends?
Thanks :'( (link)
Its hard to go through this but you have to remember its not your fault. No matter how distant you were towards the end of your aunts life that you still loved her.The reason you kept your distance is because you loved her too much to see her go through pain.Trust me your aunt understood so dont feel guilty because you did nothing wrong.I think the best way to get rid of this guilt is to talk to your family and friends and just tell them how you feel because they will help you grieve. Also just cry let everything out because you will feel better. Just remember that your aunt will always be watching over you and will always love you.Think of the good times you had and dont think about suicide do you think your aunt would be happy if you gave up your life because of her? no she wouldnt you need to be strong and live life in a way think of it as living for your aunt. Trust me with time things get easier.


i have a boyfriend. my boyfriend is very strict on me with other guys. i flirted with another guy a lot on vacation. i sat on his lap and kinda held his hand.. pretty much was a huge tease. if my bf knew we could very easily be over. i know i shouldn't have flirted but its too late now. the problem is that another kid who goes to my bf's school was on the vacation and knows that i was flirting with that guy. my bf is gonna meet that kid from his school because he's trying to join his frat. should i contact the kid from my boyfriends school and ask him not to say anything? or should i leave it alone and hope he doesnt mention it. i know that if my bf does leave me i probably deserve it, but that would really not be preferable. what do ya think i should do? (link)
The best thing to do would tell your bf yourself before someone else does. If you tell him yourself atleast your being honest and if someone else tells him hes going to think your untrustworthy and that your hiding things from him. However i do understand that you dont want to tell him but i do recommend you tell him i mean you could ask this kid not to tell but i mean eventually the truth will come out.


17/f. I have been straightening my hair for about 3 or so years but lately I've been straightening it every 3 or 4 days with occasional touch ups to my bangs, I have trampoline thick wavy hair and the only way it looks nice, is if it's straightened but I can't help but notice the gross smell of burnt I always have in my hair! Even when I get out of the shower, and I've just washed it, the back lower layers seem to smell the worst! How do I get the smell out? & I don't want a temporary fix like perfume, I really wanna get it out asap! I know one of the things guys love most is nice smelling hair! Help if you can :) (link)
Maybe try another shampoo or if you put heat protectant in before straightneing your hair.I recommend the treseme heat protectant its the best and it make your hair smell amazing.


I recently started dating a guy I met at a friend's party. The first night we met, we played tag together in the park, shot horrible pickup lines at each other, and had a few electrifying moments when our eyes met or our hands touched. He was sexy, seemed very confident, and was ultimately the exact kind of guy I was looking for. He also seemed to be okay with my quirky, Goth personality, which was a major plus!

To give you a good reference point, I'm a girl who likes men like Hannibal Lecter. No lie. I like them dark, yet charming. Sweet at times, but serious in others. I like the edge of mystery or danger about a guy; he doesn't have to be, like, a cannibal, but I like to think that he's keeping me on my toes. I basically like to be surprised, and I think a guy that has spontaneity is the most attractive thing -ever-.

Well, the first few days of our relationship (after he asked me out, about two weeks after we met and spent a little time together) were like that. I loved not knowing what to expect; he would randomly rush up behind me and pick me up n' spin me around, or he would send me a really random text in the middle of the night that would make me smile. He seemed to ooze confidence and defy all the usual geek standards; yes, while he was a pretty hardcore geek (video games, anime, you name it), he was sexy, and it seemed like he knew it.


But...well, it's been around a month. And I hate saying this, but I've started to get a little bored. Since the start of our relationship, we've gone on dates about four times, three of which were him coming over to my house to watch a movie we've both already seen. He hasn't asked me to go on an -actual date- with him yet. We did go to the movie theater, once, but it was more like ME taking HIM on the date, seeing as I drove and ended up paying for a majority of the stuff there.

I dunno. I guess when I met him, he seemed like the kind of guy that would sweep a girl off her feet, take her places, or at least make an attempt to see her outside of school. Speaking of which, when we're at school, he seems very awkward around me now, and often asks me what I "think of him". He makes a lot of comments about how uncomfortable he is with his body and, a week ago, has started going to a gym every night for a couple hours in order to get in shape (which means I barely see him at all now). He also hasn't made any strong moves in the physical department. We've kissed a bunch, but it's usually very soft and quiet, with barely any passion behind it...

Don't get me wrong, he -is- a great guy. But is he the guy for me? ...I'm not sure. I'm sick of puppy love and nothing but sugary-sweetness, which was my entire last relationship. I need a guy who's willing to take risks, try to impress me a little, or at least make an effort to be more than just a friend who kisses me.

What do you guys think? (link)
If you feel like hes not the guy for you then you should break up with him and move on sometimes what you think a relationship will be like isnt what it ends up being and the only way to fix that is to either talk to him and tell him how you feel or if you really just feel like he cant be the type of guy you want then just tell him its not working out and move on its better than continuing and hurting yourself and him.


ok well i switched to this new school about a month ago and at my old school i plannd on joinging the football team there but they didnt have it for my age.....So im saying do you think its wise for a chic to be on afootball team and im only 13 in seventh grade? Like some people say I shouldnt cause the guys would want to tackle me just because they normally cant and that I will get picked on alot but not like in the way were they make fun of you. What if they get "touchy" and if my parents found out no sports for me and that would suck. Im not the best at football but im not the worst for a girl I think im pretty good and very competitive...So im saying theres alot of pluses and miunuses and im confuesed on what to do so I need advice?!
Thank you so much,-Angie :) (link)
I think you should go for it girls can play sports too even football dont let people put you down if its something you really want to do then just do it. People will always have something to say about everything you do but that doesnt mean you shouldnt do it so ignore everyone else and just play it might be hard at first but eventually everything will get better just dont give up on something you really want because people can only put you down if you let them if you just focus on your game and ignore them they cant hurt you so just have fun and dont let others influence your decisions :)


I asked this before but only to one person. I need more advice please. I recently told my b/f I was raped. His reaction? Oh I'm sorry baby. He doesn't really like it when I need to talk about things, or when I freak out when he does things. I am not trying to upset him or anything, but when I get to the point where I don't want to be touched, he acts like it pisses him off. I feel like he uses it against me too. I mean he knows have had sex, but I feel like he uses that to get more and more out of me. I don't like soingd certain things because I see my rapist. I told him that once and he looked like I slapped him. How do I handle telling him tihngs in a nice or gentle way? Please help me if you can

Female/21 (link)
Well first of all think about what you want to say to him just take a minute to think about what you want from him and what he can do for you and just sit him down and tell him im sure if you really take the time to explain things to him he will eventually understand. :)


Some of my boyfriends friends i really hate , normaly i could handle people i hate but if me and my bf are hanging out alone they always come by us and idk what to do about them. (link)
talk to your bf and ask him if it would be okay to hang out alone sometimes and not have his friends around but if they do only come around once in awhile i think you should just learn to deal with them the best you can because im sure he would appreciate that and who knows maybe if you hang out with them enough you might start getting along with them just give it a chance for your bf. :)



Its burned the hell out of my face , my face was throbbing but I heard it helps with acne. It made my face a little red, but I heard that happens sometimes. Does it get rid of scars and acne? (link)
I dont know where you heard that but its not true baking soda is an acid and just like any other acid it will ruin your skin not help it i suggest you put some ice on your face for now and hopefully you havent done to much damage the truth is you cant actually get rid of acne scaring any product that says otherwise is just a fake any product made out there for acne scaring is just going to make the scars less visiable but not going to help them go away never try anything on your skin without doing full research on it first or consulting a doctor because you could seriously ruin your skin.


I'm a 13 year old girl, almost 14 and I haven't had my first kiss yet. I've had boy friends and guys Ive liked that have liked me but I haven't had my first kiss yet. I like a guy a lot, he's really close to me and a great friend! We talk all the time and I can tell him almost anything. The thing is, he doesn't know I like him. He's kissed a girl before gut regrets it and he once told me he'd rather it was me for his first kiss. I want it to be but I haven't seen him in a while, so when I do I feel like I'll be shy. And if he doesn't how do I make the first move? And how do I get more into a comfort zone with some one you like? (link)
shyness is really hard to just get rid of and getting into a comfort zone even harder but what i have found helps is just to take a deep breath completely stop my mind from thinking about what could happen and just do it the more you think about a situation the harder it gets to actually face it especially for a person who is very shy trust me it works just to do it and not think twice about it im a very shy person but once you just get out of your comfort zone a little you will start being less shy.


I can't become famous over night or by just sitting here. So I need help. I'm a 13 almost 14 yearold girl who lives in Massachusetts, I'm not bragging but im pretty and I have a good body and I'm pretty good at acting. I wanna get out there and be famous. So if anyone knows anyone I can contact that are the real deal or any official or real websites. If anyone knows any actresses or actors can you ask them for advice? I really wanna be famous and I think I good. (link)
Well now in days whats happeneing is directors and producers are going around to places and setting up auditions in like malls and stuff so maybe you should look at your local newspaper for ads or ask your local radio or check out the disney channel family.ca go to contact us and contact them they always have openings thats pretty much where most successful young actor of today have started out.


just lately i have been weckless i hooked up with an ex bf a few weeks ago and in the past few days i have been feeling sick none stop but not being sick, my mood swings are up and down rapidly. i havent been able to do a test yet as i have no money, my parents arent around at the min way on business and i have no one to turn to. Am i being paranoed or is there something to quirey? (link)
I think since your not actually getting sick you should be fine but just to make sure maybe you should go see a doctor or contact your parents and tell them your not feeling well im sure they can help you out.


Can you get ink poising getting stabbed by a pen (link)
No pen ink isnt poisonous if it was pens would be so available especially to kids the only ink that could at all be poisionous would be the toxic kind and even then you would have to have cut yourself because thats the only way ink could seep through your skin and mix with your blood so basically no stabbing yourself with a pen is not going to give you ink posioning.


i always fight with my mom and i cant take it anymore... there was this fight we had about something stupid then i ran in my room and cyed ... i saw started to cut myself it wasnt take bad but i still have the marks on my wrist.. im 16.. then an other time i took kots of pills i wanted to go sleep and not wake up but that didnt happen.. i just felt like throwin up & i felt high.. no one knew & we had a family party that day too... i want to tell my grandma but how ??? (link)
Just sit down with a friend or family member and tell them what your going through the sooner you tell someone the better it will be for you atleast you will get the help you need it seems you might be dealing with depression so tell someone just sit them down and tell them how you feel and what youve been doing to yourself they love you and will want to help you.


im 13/f and i really wanna know what the styles are for summer this year for teens thanks! (link)
check out forever 21 they have all the latest trends also 17 magazine and other youth magazine have awesome ideas for the summer or google it im sure theres lots of stuff on the internet about the latest trends.


I think i might be pregnant, im only 14 & im scared, but i dont know how to tell my family? (link)
Just sit them down and tell them its better they here it from you then someone else later and also better if they know about it now so they can help you throughout your pregnancy trust me its the best way to handle this situation although they may be upset at first they will understand and help you because at the end of the day there your family and they love you. :)


Thank you for your time with helping me. I've tried to listen to my heart, but I don't really know what its saying.

I'm afraid if I leave the one I love, that me and Jesse will only last for a couple of months and I'm going to always wonder if me and RIley would have made it through it. I don't want to make a wrong decision. I don't want regrets either. Plus; rileys family loves me; and im afraid jesse family wont. plus of a lot of other issues. (link)
I know its hard to decide but it all depends on you and what you want nobody else can really help you the only advice i can really give you is go with the one that treats you right and makes you feel good and the one you trust more.




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