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To Keep, or to Pass?
I recently started dating a guy I met at a friend's party. The first night we met, we played tag together in the park, shot horrible pickup lines at each other, and had a few electrifying moments when our eyes met or our hands touched. He was sexy, seemed very confident, and was ultimately the exact kind of guy I was looking for. He also seemed to be okay with my quirky, Goth personality, which was a major plus!
To give you a good reference point, I'm a girl who likes men like Hannibal Lecter. No lie. I like them dark, yet charming. Sweet at times, but serious in others. I like the edge of mystery or danger about a guy; he doesn't have to be, like, a cannibal, but I like to think that he's keeping me on my toes. I basically like to be surprised, and I think a guy that has spontaneity is the most attractive thing -ever-.
Well, the first few days of our relationship (after he asked me out, about two weeks after we met and spent a little time together) were like that. I loved not knowing what to expect; he would randomly rush up behind me and pick me up n' spin me around, or he would send me a really random text in the middle of the night that would make me smile. He seemed to ooze confidence and defy all the usual geek standards; yes, while he was a pretty hardcore geek (video games, anime, you name it), he was sexy, and it seemed like he knew it.
But...well, it's been around a month. And I hate saying this, but I've started to get a little bored. Since the start of our relationship, we've gone on dates about four times, three of which were him coming over to my house to watch a movie we've both already seen. He hasn't asked me to go on an -actual date- with him yet. We did go to the movie theater, once, but it was more like ME taking HIM on the date, seeing as I drove and ended up paying for a majority of the stuff there.
I dunno. I guess when I met him, he seemed like the kind of guy that would sweep a girl off her feet, take her places, or at least make an attempt to see her outside of school. Speaking of which, when we're at school, he seems very awkward around me now, and often asks me what I "think of him". He makes a lot of comments about how uncomfortable he is with his body and, a week ago, has started going to a gym every night for a couple hours in order to get in shape (which means I barely see him at all now). He also hasn't made any strong moves in the physical department. We've kissed a bunch, but it's usually very soft and quiet, with barely any passion behind it...
Don't get me wrong, he -is- a great guy. But is he the guy for me? ...I'm not sure. I'm sick of puppy love and nothing but sugary-sweetness, which was my entire last relationship. I need a guy who's willing to take risks, try to impress me a little, or at least make an effort to be more than just a friend who kisses me.
What do you guys think?
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If you feel like hes not the guy for you then you should break up with him and move on sometimes what you think a relationship will be like isnt what it ends up being and the only way to fix that is to either talk to him and tell him how you feel or if you really just feel like he cant be the type of guy you want then just tell him its not working out and move on its better than continuing and hurting yourself and him.
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