Did you know that the average guy thinks about sex about every 20 seconds? Yep, it's a fact!

By the way is your astrology sign Cancer?

So, yeah, most guys will take whatever you will give them, regardless...although I'm sure your a very pretty girl- I want you to have more pride in yourself, just in case you aren't going by this method, please don't base most of your confidence on the fact that guys want to sleep with you....

I say this because, from experience, I know that if you concentrate on this only...then your confidence will shatter when some guy decides to be cruel to you (and it will happen sooner or later.) Oh yeah, they find your weaknesses when they want revenge!

I know this may sound rhetorical, but those old sayings, they stick around for a reason: they are true time after time! "Beauty is only skin deep"...so, for your own sake, always exude confidence on many different levels other than just your sexual attractiveness (your intelligence, your personality, etc)..not just because guys want to sleep with you...

sorry I went way off point, but I wanted to save you some pain down the road..no need to be a slut to have really good sex! IN FACT, spending time getting to know one guy intimately, gives you the opportunity to have SO SO much better, intimate and fun sex, rather than swapping partners often, because you won't be as anxious and will eventually be able to express your desires, even if it a whisper in his ear!!! Being a slut doesn't give you the opportunity to share yourself with a guy (not to mention becoming multi-orgasmic!).

It sounds to me that you are just a modest/shy/nervous person (like I was, and still sometimes am!) I was that way too- nervous and shy. Honestly, whenever I date(d) a guy and am I'm STILL this way most times..I have to feel completely comfortable with him before I can take that step without backing down. psst..the guys that are willing to get to know you (relationship or not) will actually help you overcome this fear!

I don't know exactly how your dating relationships come about or how long they last before you go in another direction, but I found that if I get a chance to know a guy better..hanging out, flirting, and just making out REALLY, really slowly- for extended lengths of time..*wow* and being good friends in the meantime, it was (and still is) much easier for me to overcome my nervousness because I feel so much more closer to them before jumping to the next step!

AND, this may sound bad, but if you seduce the guy into chasing you and romancing you, over at least a few weeks together, and get to know you- the nervousness seems to dissipate almost completely when you reach that highest heat of passion and desire!

Maybe instead, of chasing many guys, find a guy that you are really attracted to, then spend lots of time with him. Getting to know him much better. You will still get a little bit nervous, but you anxiety will be SO much less because you will feel much more comfortable with him! It's a great feeling to be able to tell your partner what you like and visa versa...just hanging out in bed ALL DAY, naked, taking turns exploring each other slowly....*hmmm...yep that's some of the best stuff*

Keep in mind that the first guy you set your eyes on may not fit the bill, so if he doesn't, don't fret! Like you said, there are plenty out there that are willing!

Oh, and I forgot to add, although I'm sure you don't need to be told this- ALWAYS use protection! *smile* Wrap that rascal!

Jasmine

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POST EDIT: April 7, 2008

Answer to "How did you know?"

I know because I have a few "gifts" that I've honed with practice. I'm not always perfect, no one is; but suffice to say: I've practiced for quite a long time so my "senses" have strengthened some over the years. *smile*

Hey, don't worry about it being long..I'm most always long winded. I'm sorry to hear that your parents fight so much!

AND, I'm sorry, I wish I had a wonderful cure for your situation, but, fact is, I don't. I can only give you advice on how to deal with it *frown* and try my best.

The one thing that you can really do to make a difference, because, as you said, talking to your parents isn't working..SO, maybe it's best to be there for your little sisters. Maybe you can distract them by playing with them while your parents fight? I KNOW this isn't the answer you needed, but along with what's following this- it's about all I got.

And unfortunately, you can't "fix" it. Your parents have obviously gotten used to this immature behavior and maybe they even use it like a drug = they may even fight to release natural endorphins.

I have a couple of ideas, but I cannot guarantee that they will work- or that it's in your best interest to use them. You know your family better than I do, and will know if it will work or not.

One thing you could do is break out the video camera..and tape them while they are unaware. And ONLY, and I do mean ONLY after they have made up and calmed down: show them what they say and do to each other and how it is affecting your sisters (videotape your sisters too). Hopefully, they will be shocked at their own behavior (most people do not realize what they do in the heat of an argument). If it works, maybe next time they will feel some guilt or other emotion that will trigger them NOT to fight, or at least, not to fight in you and your siblings presence!

Since, I don't know how strict (or emotionally abusive) your parents are, or your age...I don't know if this will work, but maybe when they fight you could just barge in, and I mean barge in on them, with your siblings in tow and chide them as if your the adult. Don't yell, but be sure to use emphasis on the capital words, use a pleading voice:

Say something like,.... "LOOK! Please LOOK what your doing to us! Don't you realize how this affects us? Don't you realize when you fight like this, that it makes me and my sisters cry and it upsets us to the point that it hurts us too, probably more than it hurts you?! Don't you want us to grow up and be successful and happy? How can we do that with all this emotional turmoil ruling our lives? How can my sisters learn anything different than how to argue?!
We love you!, please show us that YOU love us as much. PLEASE, PLEASE don't fight"

And in your most "adult voice". Maybe you could suggest this.."I understand that you are going through tough times. Maybe we could go live with relative "so and so" until you two can work this out.

I do hope I've helped at least a little. I took my best shot!
Blessings!

*might as well face it your addicted to love*~Robert Palmer *sorry was singin' wink*

Okay, I cannot call the kettle black, when I was young I tended to chase after the "bad boys" myself. I think it's a stage some of us go through to find excitement. Unfortunately, the guy really liked me back and I ended up heart-broken... Fortunately, I finally figured out that the "bad guys" WERE really "bad guys" and will likely make you miserable in the end.

You should shove this guy right out of your impending love life because, as you said, he obviously doesn't have any interest in you. AND being the Goddess/Diva that you are, you shouldn't waste your time chasing a guy that won't return your affection!

It sounds to me like your rushing things- there isn't any hard and fast rule that you MUST have a boyfriend at any age! Fact is, when the right guy comes along you'll know it, and you will forget this "mean guy" in two seconds. You'll be too busy with the butterflies in your tummy and trying not to tremble or look stupid. *laugh*

Stop trying so hard, and/or worrying about it. I've found, and this is another of life's ironies: that when your NOT looking..that is always the time that the right guy finds you! *smile*

Instead of chasing romance, why not take a bit of a break and find something else to occupy your mind? I know this sounds corny, but it works..find a hobby,get a job (you'll meet lots of new people doing that!) or something of that nature..and before ya know it, the guy of your dreams will be chasing YOU down and you will go together like "peas and carrots" *grin and laugh*.

Really though, give it some thought, you really deserve to love AND be loved!
Hope this helped some!
Jasmine Moon

Since it didn't say..I am assuming your a girl..please correct me if I'm wrong!

Sounds like she loves you, and needs you, but is a straight arrow. Keep in mind that most every study proves that all of us are at the very least "bi-curios" so that may be why you think she is sending you the wrong signals..additionally, from what I gather she truly does love you intimately (remember friends can be intimate!), but doesn't want anything sexual from you.

It could very well be that she has some passionate feelings for you but, as you know, society, even in this 21st century!, still has a stigma against those that are homosexual or bi-sexual *sigh* (we are working on it though- even as slowly as it is coming along!).

My advice to you is to remain close friends and don't push it, you don't want to mess up a great friendship! In the meantime, keep your closeness and be sure to tell her if your thinking about dating someone, etc. Because it is the intimacy that she wants from you, she is obviously a person that wants to be first in your life, and you will have to let her down easy if you find someone that you want to share your life with forever...she was obviously upset because you didn't let her know what was going on in your personal life...and it's also obvious that she needs you and feels that you are the one person that she can share confidences with.

Who knows what may come later, *shrug* maybe she'll discover (or uncloset) that she really is bi or gay! Does she go on dates with guys?

These things take time...and you may end up dating years from now. BUT in the meantime, she sounds like a very close and intimate friend and true friends don't come along very often (this I promise you-and remember I rarely promise), and I mean REAL friends, not "buddies" or "aquiantainces". Be happy with the relationship that you two have, be open and honest AND be happy for one another! Try to share your personal life with her as much as possible that way she doesn't feel left out, but as I said before, careful not to sound like your bragging.

Don't let this issue come between a great friendship that will likely last years and years! And who knows what else after that? That's one of the beauties of living...it is full of surprises (yep, some of them are bad surprises- but, fortunately, this one is not one of those *smile*).

Hugs and keep in touch!,
Jasmine

I think it's VERY possible, especially with the further information you gave. Heads up, don't take two pills at one time..if you miss one, just take the one as soon as you remember and then concentrate on getting back on schedule, as soon as possible, a little at a time, and get to where you can take it about the same time everyday (30 minutes doesn't make much difference, but half a day does!) If you miss pills you need to use additional birth control for the rest of that month.

BUT right now that ISN'T our biggest concern…

The sore breast is a sign (BUT your breasts CAN become sore just before your period also)

More importantly, and these are my BIG RED FLAGS:

The blood clots you've never had before and the fact that they are pink and stringy rather than red and “bubblish”.

You missed your pills (and from what I gather you missed many of them)

You've had bad cramps that you've never had before. (btw, it might help to take an over the counter pain reliever as directed for the pain.)

The fact that your clots are pinkish and stringy shows, from my experience (of 5 miscarriages) that, yes, (and I’m sorry for your pain but) you miscarried.

And you had what looked like milk production- the milk flow could be your body's way of expelling the milk production it was attempting to make. Were your breasts, in general, more swollen and tender? I'm sure they were.

If you haven’t already, stop taking the pill RIGHT now. You will need to wait until you have next month’s period before you can take them again. Your next cycle will likely be late, it will take about 4-6 weeks for your body to get back on track; no longer than 8. To help you remember to take them on time, try to associate the taking of them with something that you do every day...like take it right after you brush your teeth, or right before you go to bed, associating it with something that you do everyday at the same time will help you stay on track. Keep in mind that you will need to start a brand new pill pack after your next period and will need to wait an additional 2 weeks after beginning the pill again, before resuming your usual sex life. (It's actually easier to get pregnant right after a birth or miscarriage!)

I would like you to monitor your menstrual flow carefully. The heavy bleeding shouldn't last more than about 3-4 days. Make sure it doesn't remain heavy after that, and especially if you’re filling up pads too quickly right now, let me know. Just in case you aren’t, be sure to stick to using pads: DO NOT use tampons AT ALL. you need to let your body expel the embryo. You cannot do that by wearing tampons, in fact it could cause a serious infection!

Stay off your feet until your flow becomes light, and take it easy, to prevent hemorrhaging. (basically, your body would lose way too much blood and you could actually 'bleed to death'). SO, no jumping jacks for you *wink*! Remember, Just take it easy (no running, extreme sports, jumping, etc). And, as I said, NO sex either. After about 2 weeks your blood flow should cease, and when it has stopped, and you just feel like you have to have sex, you will need to use alternate forms of birth control until next month when you can begin to take your pills again. (I recommend a condom and an insert that kills sperm- be sure it’s one that is condom friendly!)

Also, see a physician (or emergency) immediately if your pain becomes worse anytime soon, you run a fever, or the bleeding doesn't ease up by 4 days! We don't want you to miss what could be a dangerous etopic pregnancy, an infection, or to bleed to death!

You shouldn't need to change your pad anymore often than approximately every 3-4 hours, AND your flow should ease up after about 3-4 days. If it doesn’t then we have cause for concern!

Even after the flow has stopped, if you still continue to have pain, or run a fever you will need to see your physician (or emergency room) immediately. Fever can implicate that you got an infection and/or that all the tissue did not pass as it normally does.

On my first miscarriage at 19, I opted to have a D & C, where the physician knocked me out and cleaned out all the dead tissue...but all the ones after that (like 4 or 5), I just took it easy and watched for any signs that could be dangerous.

I was an emotional wreck after every one of my miscarriages whether I wanted the baby or not. Keep in mind that your hormones are way out of whack, so don’t be surprised if you find yourself crying at what you would normally consider “silly” things. It’s not only your physical body that has taken a toll, but your emotional one too!

The fact that you were in your first tri-mester, and your young, is a good sign that you likely won't have any serious problems. The pain your feeling is normal, it is there so that your body can clean itself out. BUT it shouldn't get any worse, or last beyond your heavy blood flow.

I'm SO thankful I could be here to help!

Again, if you have ANY (and I DO mean ANY) concerns or more questions, you are welcome to message me anytime, okay?

GREAT BIG HUGS and lotsa lotsa Blessings!,
Jasmine

I tend to go overboard *smile* I do love music!

How about "My Immortal" by Evanessance?

My fiancée just recently turned me on to a song I like:

"Hey There Delilah" by Plain White T's

"Lips of an Angel" by Hinder in acoustic

Jewel has some really good acoustic songs and

Alanis Morrisette made some too.

Matchbox 20 has a lot of acoustic songs- 3am, Push, Long Day..and they have songs ONLY in acoustic: Loss, Strain and Butterflies and "My Heart is Yours" *pretty one*

Sarah McLachlan "Arm of the Angels" also acoustic with Matchbox 20..you'll prob find it under "Angel" *very touching acoustic or not*

Eric Clapton's song "Heaven" is acoustic. Very sad, he wrote it after his toddler accidentally toddled out a three story window *sad*. He has a few more acoustic songs..he's one of the greats when it comes to guitarists..yep.

"Broken" by Seether featuring Amy Lee is the best one IMO

There is an acoustic version of "Hanging by a Moment" by Lifehouse

Pearl Jam does an acoustic of "Black"

Three Doors Down has several acoustic songs..

And because..well..I enjoy it so much:

Some Led Zeppelin! Most people's favorite is "Stairway to Heaven" and you can find it acoustic, but my personal favorite is "Going to California" (acoustic also or otherwise!!). But of course, they have dozens of timeless tunes!

Another oldie:

"Dust in the Wind" by Kansas

You can get an acoustic version of

"Imagine" by John Lennon *I can't help it..that song, especially in the original version, is the bomb..sigh*..and I also love "Woman" *..especially in the beginning, because he says "for the other half of the sky"..that's just beautiful*

"Tuesday's Gone" originally by Lynard Skynard..there are a couple of remakes out there. (Metallica for instance)

"Daniel" remake by Fuel acoustic; originally by Elton John. BTW, I love my Elton- at least his old ones, especially his non-acoustic "Hello"-I prefer the original "Daniel" by Elton.. really...because the real lyrics are: his eyes have "DIED" NOT "lied"..*sigh*..see Daniel was blind..dang Fuel for messin the song up!

One of my favorite bands Fleetwood Mac..and a song that isn't known by many:

"Never Going Back Again" by Fleetwood Mac

and my favorite by Stevie "Landslide" comes in an acoustic version..extremely pretty.

This isn't really classified as acoustic..but it comes close:

"Knights in White Satin" by the Moody Blues *gotta love the end where he says..*.."...cold hearted orb that rules the night... removes the colors from our site...but we decide which is right...and which IS an illusion.."

And since we are already going so far back, *sorry*--might as well go "there":

"Yesterday" by Paul McCartney


Wow..yeah I tend to overdue things most times *smile*

Hope you find some that you like!
Jasmine

I agree with below..I don't recommend just grabbin' any ole' guy up..it's likely to lead to something more and what if he doesn't come prepared, ya know?

Yep, self gratification..that's the way you should go. Take care of your own needs and you'll be al'right *smile*..in fact, at this point, it will probably be more satisfying...really..cause you know what you need much more than a stranger would!

Just dim the lights, crawl under the covers and get lost in your imagination.

I'm with Razhie on this one *grins at Razhie*

Just how mean is he to you? AND how old are you?

It's funny, it's like there is an age of "crossing over" from being "mean" to show a girl that he likes her to being "nice"..

Then again, and this applies no matter what age you are: "There is a thin line between love and hate". I've seen so many people that seem to hate each other end up together! *shakes head..weirdos lol*

It means that you and your very good friend decide to have consensual and intimate relations without a life-long commitment.

Actually had that a few years ago, great if your both single, in need, and don't wanna go around sleeping with just anyone randomly, which if done, can be SO VERY dangerous (ie. STDs).

Much safer to pick a partner that's a really good friend and "have benefits" until one or both of you find something more permanent.

I want to clarify, though, that some single people still have sexual relations with others while they "reap the benefits". In my opinion though, it kinda defeats the purpose...but *sigh* I am woman *smile*..(hear me roar? *lol*)

Jasmine

I know you all probably don't want to hear this...so don't hate me, but (every girl needs to know this):

No matter what the media presents, there is no "quick fix" to losing weight that isn't seriously dangerous to your health.

It sounds as if you are already aware of this. The average person loses about 5 pds a month if they eat right and exercise daily.

But, as you said yourself, you are not far off from your "healthy" weight, so stop beating yourself up. Most Americans are overweight, and most models are underweight *ahhh the irony*...and how twisted is our society? *rolls eyes*

The healthy weight for your age and height is 136 pounds.

IF your doctor says it's okay, you could increase your energy by taking Vitamin B-12. You only need to lose a few pounds so the running will be great for that- but walking fast or using a bicycle (stationary or not) for about 10-20 mins a day is better because it doesn't "jolt" your body and hurt your knees. Along with this routine, I would include some toning exercises. Turn that cellulite into muscle *sexy!*

The bicycle and walking fast will help enable you to run.

Toning exercises:

http://myjellybean.com/special/spring/shape.htm

Also, a great tip, if ya don't already know. When your tanned it gives the illusion that you are a lot skinnier! So, getcha a tanning membership somewhere!

Hope I've helped without being too blah,
Jasmine

Uhum..yeah that was my major. You really need to love this job, because as a school counselor you won't become a millionaire by far (but the time off and benefits aren't shabby). I would think that the median wage is about 40K a year.

If our looking to make a lot of money in this field, you would need to get your PHD = many years of college; and go into private practice.

I'm down south, so I can't help you with the second half of your question.

Well..this is a bit of a tough one.

I can only make some suggestions and hope they help:

Maybe at first you can just sit in the car and listen to some music that helps you relax. While your just sitting there play around with all the car gadgets: turn signals, radio, mirrors, etc. This is to help you feel like the car is a comfy, "meant to be" place for you rather than a "scary" place.

Then...try driving on some "backroads", places where you know that hardly anyone at all will be, and drive slowly so you can get used to it. Play around with all the gadgets while your driving (since no one is on this road you won't look stupid). Ex. Use the blinkers (even if your not turning! *lol*) Cruise control if your car has it, etc. Again, play your relaxing music, even play with the radio while driving really slow.

Do this a few times until you can do it driving the speed limit.

Then, maybe you can try driving in an area that has a few cars. If you get nervous when someone is coming in you direction, concentrate on the "line" on the right side of the road (this works really well at night, too, when people blind you when they are coming in your direction!).

Then, hopefully, you can move onto the more busier streets. If you use your relaxing music each time, it will help enable you to associate relaxation with driving! *Mind over matter*

Hope this helps!
Jasmine Moon

Your very, very welcome! If I can help you in any way again- let me know! If you'd like, just message me!

Blessings and keep in touch!
Jasmine

Well, I'm sure the positives out way the negatives on this one.

But I can understand why your mom is concerned, a lot times when the FDA approves a new medication (or vaccine) and puts it on the market, a few years later they discover some nasty side effects that don't show up until years later.

A good example would be the Norplant that was introduced many years ago. The birth control was inserted in your arm, it contained silicone and made a lot of people sick..same with silicone breast implants, a lot of people have become deformed because of that. Very saddening. And that diet pill that was such a rage awhile ago..ended up causing many heart problems.

But, in this case, as I said, It's my opinion that the benefits out way the consequences. (no silicone here fortunately) Cancer is a terrible, terrible disease that I wouldn't cast on my worst enemy! All in all, you really won't know until some years from now- and if you get some negative side effects that aren't listed..you can always join a class action suit. Although most of those don't receive much money in the end...*sigh*

I truly don't mean to scare you. Actually, most all medications turn out JUST FINE: I only want you to be informed as much as possible! *and understand why your mom is so concerned*- knowledge is power!

Blessings!
Jasmine

Sounds like you've got all the answers you need, but if your still skittish about changing the time frame, you could do it slowly.

Say, Begin taking them for a few days at 10:45, then a few days at 11:00, then a few at 11:15..you get the picture.

By summertime you'll be right on track!

And they are right, it only takes about 20-40 minutes for medication to dissolve in your tummy (time frame depending on how long ago you've eaten). So, yeah your okay in that department.

And just because...if something happens, say you drop one down the sink (I've done it!)...take the next one anyway. Your period will come a little earlier but it's better than getting pregnant if your sexually active. BUT you shouldn't take two at once to make up for forgetting. If you forget just take it as soon as you remember to.

Hugs,
Jasmine

Ahh, the years of teenhood.. yep hormone hell as I said before..but..I wouldn't trade my teenage years for anything. Believe it or not, I have no regrets, and A LOT of fond memories.

I think that those years bring about a lot of changes in a short time (for about half of us) than any part of your life besides babyhood.

Case in point, when I was 15, I was considered a "party girl". I wore mostly black, hid behind my hair and was pretty shy and I dated a guy that played in a metal band for quite awhile...then about 16 1/2 I got a job as a department store cashier, I permed my hair and slowly began wearing more "preppy" pastel colored clothes..lol..but still occasionally partied..then as I approached 17..I gave up "smokin' left hand cigarettes" completely. (still smoke those coffin nails ugh- don't start and you won't have to worry about quitting!) and didn't go out "partying" as much..*shrug*

Those years are difficult because your still trying to figure out so many things..including "who you are". Very confusing, yet, if you let it, can also be very fun.

I suppose you could slowly change your image, that way you don't just show up completely changed one day.

My biggest question is this..why do you cry all the time? Do you think it could be just because of all the hormonal changes your going through? It's not unusual.

I know when I was about 15..I would go outside where I had a rope swing rigged up in the yard, and swing for hours, listening to music and just thinking..my mom actually became concerned and ventured out there to see if I was okay. Of course, I told her I was fine: fact is, I was just haven't trouble with my teenage life.

Hope this helps!
Jasmine

Yeah, we always called it a "shotgun" or a "supercharge".

NO, He's NOT worth it. Just paint a capital "L" on this guys forehead!

ANY guy (or girl for that matter) that wants your relationship to be a "secret" doesn't care a fig about you...he's obviously just using you for something else!

As far as what happened while you were drunk, well, when "we" overindulge in alcohol..we take the chance of getting out of control.

The best thing is to straight up apologize to those that were present (I wouldn't worry about what you said to him, he probably deserved it!) when you acted this way. Be sincere, and be sure to tell them that you didn't mean to drink that much or say the things that you said like that!

And if I were in you shoes, I would add that he deserved to be cussed out that way because he's a jerk, and a cheater, but that you would have chosen to do in a more ladylike manner..it's just that you were fed up and had too much to drink.

And..next time try to monitor your usage better...so that doesn't happen *smile*. It does take time to figure out what "your personal limit" is when drinking. It's best, especially if your the type that "loses control" when drinking to drink slowly: once you've drank too much you cannot go back, but, if your okay, you can always make yourself another drink...but drinking too much just causes you to embarrass yourself, and/or throw up *yuck*! Won't find any boyfriends that way...trust me from experience. *lol*

Get this loser out of your head, heart, and life and find someone that will cherish your attention and care!

Jasmine

I don't have any tips on how to make the smell go away other than purchasing new rocks..

BUT, you should never use soap while cleaning anything your fish use. I can kill them.

Anyway, your fish probably doesn't mind that it's rocks smell fishy *wink*

Well..

I don't know how long you've been having your period for one. BUT, if your taking a good birth control pill, every day, AT THE SAME TIME EVERYDAY (if your sexually active it's VERY important you do that-SAME TIME, every day!), then you should be pretty regulated. Just because you take it everyday does not mean you are immune to pregnancy, there is still that .1% chance. And that chance increases if you don't take it at the same time everyday.

It's unusual for someone your age to develop blood clots (that's what that chunky stuff is)..that usually happens as you get older, don't know why, but.. *shrug*. Not to say that younger girls don't get them, but it's rarer for some reason. I could be as simple as "breakthrough bleeding" which is not unusual when women first begin to take the pill.

Spotting is just that, a very light "spotty" bleeding that tends to stop and go... Blood clots are had by everyone sooner or later, where you actually pass "chunks" of blood during your period.

Have you been having menstrual cramps that are MUCH more painful than usual?

I ask because it's possible that you WERE pregnant..did you know that you can have a period while your pregnant?

Yep, and usually you just have just the one and would be a bit spotty..so it's possible that you could have been 6-8 weeks, having a period during that time that was spotty and light. And then miscarried, that would explain the strange color, the heaviness, and the unusual clotting.

Apparently, you've never had clotting before, so I am a bit concerned.

The main difference between regular blood clots and "miscarriage" blood clots is..well..this is a bit gross but when you pass the clot, examine it on the tissue paper if it is very red and breaks up easily, almost like a "bubble of blood", it's likely just that: a blood clot. If it is red with some pink stuff that looks ...um...kinda stringy or meaty, then it's likely embryonic tissue (miscarriage). I've had enough miscarriages and enough periods that I can tell immediately by looking..wish I were there to help you tell the difference!

For your health's sake, if it gets too heavy...for instance if your filling up a menstrual pad in 2 hrs or less, and/or the pain in your abdomen increases (more than a normal period): you need to consult your physician immediately, as that could be a sign of hemorrhaging or ectopic pregnancy (a pregnancy that is caught in your tubes); both are very serious conditions.

On the other hand, if your last "period" was a spotty one..this could be your actual period.

Are you keeping track of when your period is due?

Did you have your last period when you took the last row of your birth control pills?

It's been awhile since I've taken "the pill" (unfortunately, not recommended for those of us over 35 that smoke *smile* so I must resort to other contraceptive methods) but my last row of "period pills" were usually green, but they come in all colors. In a round pack it's the ones in the middle, if you are using a square package then it's the last row on the bottom.

Also, if your taking the pill, and everything IS okay, then this bleeding shouldn't last more than 3-4 days if it does, and remains heavy..again, consult your physician.

If you need ANY extra advice on this please feel free to send a message to my inbox so that I can help you!

Blessings!
Jasmine Moon

I'm a 36 year old mom who has too much life experience. I realize that, no matter your age, life throws some crazy curve balls at you when you least expect it. I know in my heart that absolutely no one is perfect..and we all make wrong decisions at one time or another; and sometimes we just need someone to help us out without being judgmental! Furthermore, I think that the only stupid question is the one that you don't ask...knowledge is power.

One of my favorite sayings:
"If you live in a glass house, don't throw stones."

Well folks, we ALL live in glass houses at one time or another!

Never say never,
Jasmine

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