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come out of my shell
ive only had sex once.
and i know this is not something to brag about, but if i wanted, i could be a slut. meaning i could be having sex with a lot of guys.
but the thing is, everytime im alone with one, i get too nervious and i never go pass kissing.
im old enough to be having sex btw. im 19 years old.
i dont want to be a whore, but i do want to ahve some fun with these guys, but i dont know how to come out of my shell.
what can i do?
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you have to trust who you are with and stop acting "shy". now a slut is having sex with a guy you only known for 2 or 3 months. make sure the guy you do this with is the one for that moment. make sure you know his name, age, where he stay ect. the most important thing is to make sure you known him more then a few months. you never know a person untill u give it up to them remember that.
hope i helped
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Did you know that the average guy thinks about sex about every 20 seconds? Yep, it's a fact!
By the way is your astrology sign Cancer?
So, yeah, most guys will take whatever you will give them, regardless...although I'm sure your a very pretty girl- I want you to have more pride in yourself, just in case you aren't going by this method, please don't base most of your confidence on the fact that guys want to sleep with you....
I say this because, from experience, I know that if you concentrate on this only...then your confidence will shatter when some guy decides to be cruel to you (and it will happen sooner or later.) Oh yeah, they find your weaknesses when they want revenge!
I know this may sound rhetorical, but those old sayings, they stick around for a reason: they are true time after time! "Beauty is only skin deep"...so, for your own sake, always exude confidence on many different levels other than just your sexual attractiveness (your intelligence, your personality, etc)..not just because guys want to sleep with you...
sorry I went way off point, but I wanted to save you some pain down the road..no need to be a slut to have really good sex! IN FACT, spending time getting to know one guy intimately, gives you the opportunity to have SO SO much better, intimate and fun sex, rather than swapping partners often, because you won't be as anxious and will eventually be able to express your desires, even if it a whisper in his ear!!! Being a slut doesn't give you the opportunity to share yourself with a guy (not to mention becoming multi-orgasmic!).
It sounds to me that you are just a modest/shy/nervous person (like I was, and still sometimes am!) I was that way too- nervous and shy. Honestly, whenever I date(d) a guy and am I'm STILL this way most times..I have to feel completely comfortable with him before I can take that step without backing down. psst..the guys that are willing to get to know you (relationship or not) will actually help you overcome this fear!
I don't know exactly how your dating relationships come about or how long they last before you go in another direction, but I found that if I get a chance to know a guy better..hanging out, flirting, and just making out REALLY, really slowly- for extended lengths of time..*wow* and being good friends in the meantime, it was (and still is) much easier for me to overcome my nervousness because I feel so much more closer to them before jumping to the next step!
AND, this may sound bad, but if you seduce the guy into chasing you and romancing you, over at least a few weeks together, and get to know you- the nervousness seems to dissipate almost completely when you reach that highest heat of passion and desire!
Maybe instead, of chasing many guys, find a guy that you are really attracted to, then spend lots of time with him. Getting to know him much better. You will still get a little bit nervous, but you anxiety will be SO much less because you will feel much more comfortable with him! It's a great feeling to be able to tell your partner what you like and visa versa...just hanging out in bed ALL DAY, naked, taking turns exploring each other slowly....*hmmm...yep that's some of the best stuff*
Keep in mind that the first guy you set your eyes on may not fit the bill, so if he doesn't, don't fret! Like you said, there are plenty out there that are willing!
Oh, and I forgot to add, although I'm sure you don't need to be told this- ALWAYS use protection! *smile* Wrap that rascal!
Jasmine
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POST EDIT: April 7, 2008
Answer to "How did you know?"
I know because I have a few "gifts" that I've honed with practice. I'm not always perfect, no one is; but suffice to say: I've practiced for quite a long time so my "senses" have strengthened some over the years. *smile*
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