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13/m, insanely long story short, we were friends, over the summer I realized I liked her, I told her because it was driving me insane, she wasn't sure in what way she liked me. In other words, she felt sorry for me and didn't want to hurt my feelings by telling me she didn't like me as more than a friend but didn't want to lie by saying she did like me. Don't give me any of that "teenagers don't know love" crap. Even if we don't, infatuation is a vital phase in our lives, eh? So anyway, after a while, I started dreaming about her---I even dreamt that I asked her out successfully one time!---and everything started reminding me of her... the usual stuff. I tried asking her out in person. Didn't work. So I was over her for about 3 days. Then everything reminded me of her---even more!!! When school started, we found things too awkward to talk to each other. It was just... weird. Things have started getting better though. But it was weird for about a month or two. The only way we talked was over AIM.
Then last week I started playing guitar, using my dad's old electric one and one of his acoustics, depending on which one my sister (she was also trying to learn) was using. So I was IMing her (she plays acoustic) and then I said that I was trying to learn guitar, and that my next attempt to play a piece was Another One Bites The Dust. Her response? "thats totally hott!!!" So that was pretty cool. Then the next day I walked into school and she stopped me right in front of the science room. She had dreamt about me. Apparently, I started rocking on the electric guitar, and then she joined in on acoustic, and it was cool, and then we went to the moon. She's a spaz.
But anyway, does she finally like me? Everyone said she liked me last year. My friends, my family, they were all saying it. But we were both in denial. Like one time my best friend came up to us and said, "You know, *her name*, you look like *my name*'s boyfriend!" We both dismissed that thought and walked away. But she was like flirting with me all year. And as the class loser/nerd, I'm blind to anyone dropping hints or flirting with me.
Yesterday I IMed one of her best friends and asked if she had liked me last year. ("She" being the person I liked, not her best friend.) She logged out. Does that mean something? Or did she honestly not know?
Last night I dreamt that the friend IMed me back and sent me the URL of a blog about me. It was all about how much she liked me last year. It was really sweet! And then in science class that day someone put the Spamalot soundtrack into a CD player and the only 2 people who knew the words were her and me. So we did a duet of The Song That Goes Like This. It was cool.
So obviously she's taken over my life, if I honestly call this a "long story short" which it honestly is, surprisingly. I can't stop thinking about her. Everything reminds me of her. Roller coasters? We went to a carnival together. Egypt? She hugged me on the day I made a presentation on Egypt. The game Batik? It sounds like a Greek-ish name, she's from Greece. Obviously I'm obsessed. Is there any way to stop that apart from finding someone else? Because right now I've kinda got my mind set on her...
A few more questions. Does she like me? How can I find out? I think I had a few more but I forget what they are...
A few things not to say:
-There are other fish in the sea. I'm not really looking for others, first I have to either get her to like me or to get over her. Take life one step at a time.
-You could probably pick up any girl! Not really, most girls hate me, whether it's because I'm really nerdy, I'm a loser, I talk too much, or I don't really care about my looks and thus aren't hot.
-You've got the rest of your life to live! Well, yes, but first, I have to reach the rest of my life outside an insane asylum!
Yeah... I'm sorry, when I get started on her I just keep going and going and going... sorry... I should probably shut up now. Oh, and any responses violating the ToS will be reported without hesitation. That includes unhelpful advice. Thank you so much, you don't know how much this means to me!!!
P.S. For what it's worth, she's hugged me three times... every time I've rejected it for some unknown reason... like if you've ever read Flowers for Algernon, you know how whenever he got too close to Alice Kinnian he got scared and couldn't go through with it for some unknown reason? Yeah, it's like that. I'm still partially child and I guess half my mind is ready for this and half my mind is still saying that "girl are icky" or something like that.... (link)
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Welcome to the living Hell. You like her, you've struck out with her, you're trying to forget her, and something comes along that gives you hope and drags you back to step one.
Unfortunately, I can't tell you if she likes you, women are far too complicated for me to decide with the information provided. I can tell you how to find out though. Don't ask for a bit and don't worry so much, for a start. Realize that if she likes you, it's because of how good of a friend you are, and it's because of how you act. Because of this, don't change how you've always been, just be yourself and be a good friend.
VERY IMPORTANT: You've got to stop denying the hugs, or any other signs of affection. You didn't say anything about her response to the rejection, but I doubt she enjoyed it. Stop letting yourself get nervous about it, she wants to hug you, so you don't have to worry about rejection, and trust me, you'll like it.
I'm sorry, but that's all that I can say for now, as I have provided almost all that I can from the information and I also have some place I need to be. If you think that I could help you further, then please feel free to e-mail me at Leatherneck89@hotmail.com or instant message me (AIM) at Leatherneck71189.
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15/sophmore/female.
I have been with my boyfriend since feb. 2nd 2004. yes, 2004, not a typo. He has always gotten, uneasy (i guess thats the word) when i talk to or hang out with other guys. Me and my boyfriend go to different schools. Well I talk to this guy from my summer job, and he is 21, and in college. My boyfriend is 17, and i am 15. And my boyfriend is on drumline, and so I am so used to him not getting home until 6:00. I get home around 3:30. well, he doesnt have drumline anymore, so he was home today. and i didnt call him. so when I did, he didnt sounded, not mad, but upset, i cant describe it. and he asked if i was online, and i said yes. and then he asked if i was "talking to that twenty year old " and i said yes, and i was talking to Elise too. And he said "I'll call you later" and i asked why. and then i cant remeber the rest, it was really short, and then he hung up. and didnt say bye. so i called back, no answer. i called his cell, no answer, so i texted him saying that im sorry and that he cant get mad at me for talking with my friends and that i love him (being my boyfriend) in a way that i could never love anyone else.
My boyfriend and i do have silly fights alot. but this one is stupid, i mean, this guy is 6years older than me. I would never date him. He is a good friend,sorta like a brother to me.
did i do anything wrong?
My boyfriend and i just got over the whole "cant hug the opposite sex" thing. he used to get upset when i did that. keep that in mind.
What should I do? What should i say? should i call my boyfriend? text him?
any advice is welcome.
if you need more info, just ask for it. thank you.
-Kelsey- (link)
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You have a territorial boyfriend, that's all there is to it. I'm this same way, so I think I can tell you that it's gonna be really difficult for him to stop being jealous, but he should be able to supress it enough that it's not a problem in the relationship.
It doesn't matter if you consider him like your brother, that doesn't remove him from being a threat to your boyfriend. Your boyfriend probably knows that he's been friends with a girl before who considered him to be 'like her brother', but he liked her anyway. He just sees it as you two are really close and that makes him a problem.
What this really comes down to is if he can trust you. If he can't trust you, he's never going to be able to handle you having guy friends or even being around other guys when he's not there. If he can trust you though, then he should be able to let you go off and do your own thing, even if you're going to be around that guy, and not worry much.
You did not do a single thing wrong. You should be allowed to have close guy friends, you should be allowed to hug guys, you should be allowed to talk to guys. If he's jealous about that, then he just needs to tough it out.
About what you can do about it, there's not too terribly much. Just stress to him how much he means to you, that you're more attracted to him and you enjoy his company more than any other guys. You just have to make him realize that you would never cheat on him or leave him for some other guy. You just need to talk to him, tell him how you really feel, get him to tell you how he really feels, and the two of you work it out together.
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How can I be sweeter or a better girlfriend? (link)
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That's an incredibly broad question. Your asking this question shows that you're already a good girlfriend, so you deserve a good boyfriend. Your boyfriend should be your own personal hero, and if he's not, then things aren't as good as you deserve. For a broad question, you get a broad answer. If you want to be a sweeter girlfriend, then make it obvious that he's your hero. Stress the point. If he doesn't think he's your hero, make him believe it. Even if he does know he's your hero, show him how much it means to you. If you want more specific advice, you'll have to give a more specific question.
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Hey, well im gonna go to a 'party' on friday well i wouldnt call it a party cause my friend is haveing me and 2 other girls spend the night and her brother is haveing 4 freshman spending the night to.... me and my friends are 13 and 14 and him and his friends are 14 and 15...Well two of my friends already have 'dibs' on two of the guys..... so ive never met any of theses guys soo i dont know witch one ill 'click' with.... but like my friends are telling me ill like this one kid because we are both alike.... but thier telling me that he is 'sexually active' so like i dotn want to get like to close to him cause i have to sleep there.... so should i even go to the party and have fun but possibly do something i might regret or should i stay home and miss a great party and just being pariniod(sp)over nothing
thanks soo much!!!
p.s. im 13 and the guy their telling me i like is 15 (link)
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I would say stay home. I can guarentee you that as soon as the guy finds out that you have an interest in him, he's gonna be pushing you to go as far as you can go. You're both there all night, and it's evenly paired, he's expecting something. I don't want to make you feel young or anything (I'm only 16), but if you did go and you did something you wouldn't normally do, you'd be regretting it for a long time. My advice is not to go. That's just a recipe for disaster.
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what is up with a guy that always refers to his gf as his "best friend"? (link)
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That sounds like a guy that is afraid to say things, or doesn't know how to say things about how much he loves her, or he doesn't know how to express himself romantically. He probably just says 'best friend' because it shows a close relationship without using words like 'love' or 'soul mate.'
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ok so i like this guy and for once a guy is taller than me hes 6 foot and im 5'8 so im thrilled anyways i have 2 classes with him and one of the classes i have lunch in and he eats with me and ill still his seat or he'll give me his cookies bc he knos i like them and he always gets to english before me on purpose bc he knows it bugs me only problem hes kinda shy and so am i thats why i think he might like me but i dunno i want him to ask me out does he like me as just a friend or is this flirting? should i give up or not? im not the kind of person to make a first move so i want him to someone please help! i just want to know what is going on if what im doing is right if i need to flirt more or whatever so yea help me somebody please! thanx bunches! (link)
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I would say that yes, he likes you. He's flirting a lot, toying with you, he obviously enjoys being around you. If you really want him to make the first move, all you can really do is just flirt more. Eventually he should come around and ask you out.
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is it bad to take pain relief pills everyday? (link)
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You have to be very careful taking any drug, especially pain relievers, as they are generally highly addictive. If you take them too often, you will become adicted. Because the pain relievers are chemicals, your body treats it somewhat similar to a poison while processing it through your body. The danger of these drugs is that they are very damaging to your body, so with prolonged use, you will have irreparable damage done to some of your internal organs. This could potentially lead to several debilitating diseases or even death.
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hi some one ne one please answer this. ill rate 5s to ne good suggestions. well i have liked this guy for about 4 or 5 months now. ive never talked to him b4 or ne thing. im very shy around guys. not that shy but when i get around them alot im not shy. ne wys i see him staring at me alot. now when he sees me hell stare at me or show off for me. i really like him but i dont know how to start talking to him. i can tell he wants to talk to me cause hell stand around by me and stuff but i dont know how to start talking to him.i really wanna get to know him b4 i ask him out or ne thing. ne suggestions would help. thanxs (link)
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Start with an introduction. Start with what you know, ask his name, give him yours, ask him questions about himself, hopefully he'll take the cue to ask you questions about you. Just approach him and talk. I know it may sound hard, but it's simple. He obviously likes you, and you like him, so just connect the two. If you can make yourself start talking, then things should pick up and carry along just fine.
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wondering...
what do guys really think about having boners during class...&& while holding someones hands && while you guys around "girls"
thanks alot hope its not confusing... (link)
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Mike, you're an ass. I hope you're in an accident causing you to loose the penis that you don't seem to deserve.
That said, it's generally just kind of awkward.
It's kind of embarassing when somebody realizes the bulge in your pants, but once you get used to it, it's not such a thing anymore(it really doesn't bother me much anymore, even when somebody does notice, I don't normally even say much more than "Oops, my bad."). Personally, when holding a girl's hand I'll try to prevent her from noticing just because holding hands isn't generally a sexual activity, so I don't want to ruin a sweet moment with something like that.
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is it unusial for a guy 2 cry over his girl (link)
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(I think I'm the only guy that's answered so far)Unusual, I'd say so. Bad, not at all. It's perfectly alright to cry over your girl, but try to keep it somewhat controlled. You don't want to be sobbing about every little thing, cause that's when it stops being 'sweet' and 'sensitive' and turns into a loss of manliness, which isn't very attractive I'd imagine.
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Sooo along time ago i like this boy jack a whollle lot!!! And now... a year later... me and him started going out.... I dont do any drugs or smoke or anything. Andi knew he smoked cigs.. but i can deal...and then i find out he smokes weed.... once again i can deal...just as long as he dont do it around me. But now im seeing that hes a lil too obsessed with weed ...and now i find out he does dip. I DONT WANNA KISS THAT!!
I really loves him and ive waited so long for this , but the dip and stuff crossed the line .... I dont know if i wanna break up with him, cus i love him ...but it seems a little out of control. PLEASE HELP! (link)
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Don't just break up with him over it. Talk to him and tell him that you don't approve of his habits and that he needs to stop. Those are really all bad habits, I just wouldn't say it's worth just throwing him away over it.
I do have to say though, that he shouldn't be keeping things like that a secret from you. If he keeps secrets, then that means he's doing things that he knows you don't approve of, and I'd say that's grounds for a possible break-up.
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well i'm goin out with this one girl. i love her to death. but she cheated on me awhile back. so i forgave her and we started goin out again.well the past few days she has acted like she don't want nothin to do with me, and she seems more "interested in this other dude". so wat do i do? should i break up with her? or wat. HELP A POOR BROTHER OUT!!!! (link)
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Don't just drop her. Find out if she's really interested in him or not, talk to her about it, talk to him about it, talk to everybody you know that knows something about it. If she's cheating on you again, then tell her it's over. If she's just been showing some interest in the other guy, tell her it's him or you, if she picks you, then she obviously loves you enough to stay with you. Don't get violent or angry about it. Have dignity and pride, it'll show you to be the better man in any case.
Don't just dump her cause she cheated on you once. Things happen, people mess up. I cheated once, and I've always regretted it. I knew what I did was wrong, and I still don't know exactly why I did it. Thank God, my girlfriend gave me another chance, and I've never even thought about doing something so stupid again, and I assure the other commenters that I love her with all my heart. Just cause she cheated on you once doesn't mean she doesn't love you man. But you've gotta decide if she does, and you've gotta find out.
I hope I helped and I hope things work out for you. Good luck man.
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Hey for all the guys out here i have a question.. what would you say as dressing hott to dressing trashy? like give examples of things that you think is hott or just plain trashy in genral well thanks! (link)
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That may vary from guy to guy. General rule is: Skin is hot. Personally, it's a lot more attractive if there's some skin showing, but not the whole package. Leave a little to the imagination. When it comes to trashy, try to follow what I just said, but if you have something to brag about, then brag. If you have any really good features, then let them shine. Wear a shirt that clings to your tight abs, or wear pants that show off muscular legs. Just find clothing that accentuates your good features and stick with that.
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im a younge girl turning 16 in march the 1 and i been going out whith this guy for 9months now but the only diffrence is hes 21 a five year gape i dont see nothing wronge whith it but some people do im really in love whith him and he says he loves me and wants me 2 be hes 4 a enternity hes in jail at a moment but 4 somthing his friend done and i dont want eny one else to be his girl sep me can i hear what yous got to say plz (link)
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Though I don't think 5 years is too big of a gap, at this age it matters. Despite how good of a guy he is or how good yalls intentions are, it's illegal. If you really love each other, then you can wait 2 years and then it won't be illegal, but be aware, words are cheap. He can say a lot of things that aren't true and if he's a good liar, he can make you believe anything he wants, so be careful. Considering the fact that I don't know anything else about your situation, I really can't comment on anything else.
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what's the difference between a blunt and a bowl? (link)
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A blunt is a cingle marijuana cigarette, a bowl is a larger amount(I'm not sure exactly how much).
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ok i only date aboriginal maori or ti or amercains so i only date darker boyz like my bf is aboriginal but when white boyz ask me out and i say no they say im racist cause there never seen me whith a white man im not racist i just dont find them very hot i like them as friends thats it and how can i be racist if my dads family is white and my mothers family is black thats not racist a (link)
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It's who you're attracted to, it doesn't make you racist. Doesn't make you shallow either, you're just not proud and foolish enough to state that you don't care at all about looks. You know what you want, that's a good thing.
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ok this is my dilemma.there is this guy called rick in both my english and history clases.he looks at me a lot.and when i say something in class.he at times smiles at me like his proud of me or something.its wierd cause now am thinking about him A LOT.him and me as a couple and am not really sure if i even like him.DO I LIKE HIM OR DO I JUST LIKE THE ATTENTION HIS GIVING ME OR BOTH./AND DOES HE LIKE ME ANYWAY
i am so confused.help me out here guys.
i rate 5 (link)
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I would say that yes, you like him(but that's really for you to determine). I would also say that you definitely like the attention that he is giving you. Lastly, I believe that the looks and smiles are his attempt to let you know that he's interested in you.
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There's this one guy named john in 2 of my classes and i dont sit near him in any of them. He's really cute and i want to get to know him. The only problem is that ive never really talked to him..i'm to afraid to. does anybody have any ideas on how to start a conversation with him?
and i dont feel comfortable with just going up to him randomly and saying something to him. i feel like that would be weird; just coming up to a guy that u have never talked to and just introducing myself.
any other ideas?? please help..
thanx
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I'm going to refer back to what one of the people before me said. Smile at him and try to catch eyes with him. Things like that will let him know that you're interested in him. Don't stare though... that might be kinda creepy.
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Question for guys: If you were married to a woman that you could barely stand, was mean to you and had nothing in common with, why would you stay? Oh yeah, and you had no kids together. I'm asking because I know a guy in this situation, he admitted the relationship has been dead for two years and he still stays with her. (link)
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If not for religious reasons, then maybe he is afraid of being alone, or maybe he just doesn't want to go through divorce. Or it's even possible that he just has something against divorce, and doesn't want to become one of the many many people who have been divorced.
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Ok. this year I am trying to be friends with everyone. there is this one girl i had a crush on 7 years ago and when everyone found out they made fun of her. Part of my conscience says she hates me now. I would like to start over just as friends, but, she's avoiding me and I am too nervous to talk to her.
What should I do?
I will give you five stars if you try. (link)
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First off, I wouldn't recommend being friends with everybody. It's way harder than it's worth. Be friends with the people who deserve it and who are willing to put equal effort into maintaining a friendship.
About the girl, you've gotta temporarily suppress the nerves. As soon as you talk to her and it's out of the way, then you'll realize how easy it was and the nerves will disappear. But you've gotta do it. She's definitely not going to approach you about it, so if you want to talk to her, you've got to make the first move.
Just boost your confidence, and show it in your movements. You won't get far if people can see that you don't even believe in your self. Walk up to her and just be upfront and honest. Tell her you're sorry, tell her that you'd like to make it up to her, say that you'd like to start over from the beginning, as acquaintances, and then hopefully friends. Make sure that she really was just nervous, and she doesn't hate you. If she does hate you, forget everything I said. At that point, tell her you're sorry and that you'll leave her in peace now, walk away, and hope that she comes to her sences and comes back to you later(that's actually how I got with my current gf; she hated me about a year ago).
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