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Hi i am a 13 year old girl and i have acne, who doesn't at this age! does anybody know how to calm it down or get rid of it? i have very sensitive skin and can only use certain creams and stuff on it so i find it quite hard to find anything. if anybody knows let e know, thanks x (link)
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You can put rubbing alcohol, peroxide or some sort of astringent on your face many time throughout the day with a cottonball. With peroxide u really need to soak your whole face with it so it works. If its really serious you should probably go to a doctor but the rubbing alcohol etc really works if your consistent with it. So try that.
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i am scared of losing my virginity, but then i am scared i will never get to have sex. what do i do?
i am 13 (link)
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First of all, you are waaaayyy too young to be thinking about having sex. You have plenty of time for that. When you meet someone you truly love or care about or get married to is when you should have sex. Cause to be honest , boys who aren't willing to commit to you, and committ to you for a decent amount of time , then they probably don't really care about you and just want the sex. And that's not good at all. So when you meet someone you truly care about and they truly care about you and youve been in a relationship long enough (years probably) is when you should do it. You should never let anyone pressure you into something if youre not comfortable , do it when your ready and comfortable. Im sure youll lose your virginity one day but you really shouldnt be thinking or worrying about that now. Just have fun with kissing and dating and leave the serious stuff for when youre more comfortable and mature. Okay? Hope that helped
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Im really tired of people being so fake. And I try to be cool about but but it's pissing me off. I want to ditch my friends who are fake without any drama or any fighting. If u have any ideas I would love that. Also I feel like sometimes I'm not being myself either. But I don't know how to be myself sometimes when I'm around people, like friends and stuff. I also I'm scared to be myself cause there are this kids that say their my friend( I didn't believe them) but never talk to me or anything and they talk behind my back. What should I do about theses things??? (link)
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Just stop talking to them less and less and slowly and quietly drift away from them. If they do notice and make a big deal out of it then just refuse to be bothered with it. Don't answer their texts , and just ignore them. Don't even say anything, just stay out of it and eventually theyll take the hint and go away. I had to do this last year with a fake friend, the closer u were to them the hard it probably will be. However itll work, just cut them off completely. And if u HAVE to talk or work with them then don't seem overfriendly. Just make it vague and er..businesslike I guess, so they don't get the impression you guys are still friends. Just continue to ignore them and eventually they wont bother you anymore. As for being yourself..well you shouldn't be afraid to be yourself. If you be someone your not then youre just wasting time and trying to impress people that arent even good enough to get the real you. If they make you feel uncomfortable about you being yourself then maybe you should look for other friends. You don't deserve to be bothered with fakeness and people stabbing you in the back. Just get away from all that. Get to know other people who seem genuine and accepting. But be careful people could be deceiving. Just try making new friends, being yourself and all that and see how they react or if theyre fake and talk behind your back..and if they do, go on to someone else. And don't ever feel lonely, just because these people are fake doesnt mean everyone is and it doesnt mean you wont find a true friend. Just keep trying, be yourself and dont settle for less than a good friend who accepts you for you. Hope that helped
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i need a boyfriend,but im so fucking picky,i like strange boys,dont give a fuck about the looks that much,i like weirdos and sad people,i myself am very weird :) but i like that,but its soo hard to find someone strange,should i lower my expectations or something?
ghostgirl7 (link)
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Yeah ik lol. But dont worry you have time, itll be worth the wait.
no, just wait and you'll find someone eventually. Focus on something else but in the meantime you can go out and mingle and all that.
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I know , it kinda does but am just,disappointed :( (link)
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I know I'm sorry :/ but even if something did happen, don't worry. Maybe it was supposed to happen for you to see who your real friends are or if you should move on to other people who wont do this to you...but remember you still don't know what happened , it could be innocent. But ya never know.
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Thank you! I think something happened, am just going to talk to him about it. She knows i like him and everything. I just dont understand why she dont want me telling him,about it :( if she tapp kiss him while dancing omg.o.o (link)
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Yeah thatd be an effed up thing to do. But if she did why did she mention anything in the first place? I dont get this, it just seems sketchy. Unless im reading into it too much but idk.
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found out that my BFF had gotten her period over night. Oh God-I've never had a period myself so I don't know what to do. My friend is crying on her sleeping bag trying to figure out what to do. She says her sister has pads in her bathroom, but she's scared to use them, even more scared of the concept of a tampon and telling her mom. Do we tell her mom or sister? How long to periods last? Will she get it at school? What if she gets hers at school, and what will happen if I ever get mine at school (or any public place?)? Does this mean she gets to get out of gym class (some of our other friends have gotten out of gym by giving the lady gym teacher an accused note)? There's a dance in about two weeks, and she's scared that her period might come up again like while she's dancing with her boyfriend or something, or that she won't even be able to go at all. What do we do? Oh yeah, she's a twelve year old girl (one year younger than me) and I'm asking this question since she don't have an Advincinators account. Any information will help, we go back to school tomorrow. Thanks! (link)
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Whoa guys you need to calm down it's okay. Just tell her to change her underwear if they're ruined and then just put on a pad if she still doesn't feel comfortable with tampons. And yes she should tell her mom or her sister if she has any questions or needs them to get pads or tampons. For at school, what I do is I have a little pouch thing where I put pads in and then depending on how heavy it is that day I just go to my locker every few class periods and wait till the hall is empty and then shove it in my pocket and go to the bathroom. If you forget pads or tampons that day don't worry you can always just go to the nurse for some. Periods usually come every 28 days so I doubt in two weeks your friend will get her period again.. unless she does but that's okay its normal to have irregular periods for a while but if it goes on for more than a few years you should ask about it. Anyway just make you mark down when your period starts and ends on a calender so you can keep track of it and know when to be prepared for the next one. And don't worry if you have a pad or tampon on and you change it when you need to you won't have to worry about it. You can do pretty much anything when you have a period so you can still go to your dance and you can still do gym. If you have any cramps just take an advil or tylenol and you should be fine. It can be uncomfortable sometimes but it'll be okay. If you have anymore questions about this you can always ask me. Good luck! And don't cry this is normal! You'll be fine!
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Hello. Well one one my friends went to a club in friday night. That night the guy i like and do things with was in that club aa well. My friend already knows who he is. Well saturday comes and,she texted me and told me ima send you a pic not to good and not to bad. She send me a pic of him sort of like dancing. Am like "ok"? Then in the night i was with her and i asked her "What was he doin in that pic"? Shes like "idont know i think dancing"..then she tells me i danced with him because a guy was bothering me trying to pull me to dance and he saw it so he pretended he was my.man & we danced o.o am just there.like jumm ok , so then i told her we stopped talking. After i left her house that saturday night i text her and told her i was gping to his house, she asked me" he called you" i said "yes" even tho it,was,a lie. Then,she,goes Yoo dont telll him i told u i was dancing with him..i asked her whyyy dancing its nothing and she tells me , yes i know but you know how guys are, they get mad over anything. This is weird idont know what to think :( (link)
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Uh well I don't know what's up with your friend. Either she's lying or something else happened that she's not telling you? And if all they did was dance then I don't understand why she's just making a big deal out of it. You should talk to her about it and ask why it's such a big deal and why she told you in the first place. Or you should just talk to the guy about it and asked what happened that night. If it really was just dancing and you believe that then maybe your friend is just a drama queen or something..but if something else happened and your friend knows you like this person then you should make her tell you what the eff happened and tell her off for betraying you like that. I hope that helps!
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Ok, so. I'm having a rough time with love. I'm always depressed or crying because I'm so lonely. I guess you could say I'm deperate.How do you know when a guy likes you? My good guy friend flirts with me, sent nudes (didnt ask him to), alot of stuff..he knows I like him & he says that he doesn't wanna ruin our friendship. Could he be lying? I'm so curious..could he be the one? (link)
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okay well first off, you need to just relax. Theres someone out there for everyone and the reason you havent found anyone yet is just because it isnt your time yet. You shouldnt be sad! You should be enjoying your life & focusing on your work& friends & family. If you wanna meet someone then go out & mingle & talk to guys & just be yourself, relaxed & just have fun. No one wants someone thats desperate. You WILL find someone , dont be miserable cause you havent yet. & with your friend you need to tell him straight & to stop fucking with your feelings. Tell him that if he doesnt want to be with you then to cut the crap & stop sending you pics & stop playing w/ your feelings & just be ur friend. & that if he does wanna be with you then that he should just say it& instead of this crap. Okay? Stay strong youll find someone!
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So, my friend wants me to hangout with her tomorrow (Friday). She says that we were gonna tell her parents that were going to the movies (lieing), and have some boy pick us up..idk what to do. She said were gonna drink. Were 15 years old..I just dont feel comforable. What should i do? (link)
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Just tell her you dont want to and suggest you do something else instead, like actually going to the movies. And if she doesnt want to then just cancel and do something else. She should understand if you dont feel comfortable with it. &Don't let her pressure you into anything you dont wanna do.
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I hate myself and have wanted to die for many many years now, can anyone help me accomplish this? do NOT lecture me or try to scare me or talk me out of it. PLEASE I only want help, suggestions, know success, etc. so I can proceed now. The sooner the better, ive put this off for way too long. I have made attempts and have obviously failed. Please help me to finally successfully end my useless life. I am an organ donor and would prefer to help anyone I can with what I have, I do not need it. I only need 1 thing, and that is death, this life means nothing. I do not help anyone or anything, I am lost, lonely, confused, yet absolutely DONE. Being here could be hell. (link)
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no! I know how miserable life can be, but you shouldnt end it. Please, do you at least wanna talk about it?
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So there' these guys I like,but I don't know which I should chose.
Guy # 1- I know he's odler than me,but age doesn't matter.He had a girlfriend,they used to be togethr all the time.But now,they are never together,so I don't think they go out.I've never talked to him before,but I like him.When we pass in the hallway ,our eyes catch before one of us looks away.
Guy # 2 - He's also older than me,but I like him also.I know he has a girlfriend,but there's just something about him that I can't get over.It seems like everywhere I go in school,he's there.We have no classes togeter or anything,but we always cross paths.I feel like he doesn't know I exist.But he stops and talks to my friends if they talk to him,and he'll cast a glance at me.
Which guy should I choose?How can I start a conversation with them,since I'm shy?Do either of them seem like they like me back?Is it wishful thinking?Should I give up? (link)
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Yeah of course! I'm here if you ever need me.
Well before you choose, try getting to know each of them better. When they go to talk to your friends, try joining in the conversation and talking to them. If your friends are friends with him then have them invite him to things & that could be a way for you to talk to him more & get to know him better. If you see them everywhere, try bumping into them or make up an exuse to talk to them. Like asking for a pencil or asking them if they know where a teacher is or something. I don't know if they like you, but even if they don't thats okay cause they dont even know you! Once you get to know each of them better you can decide which one you like better, and take it from there.So Good luck! Hope I could help.
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I'm sick if her. She was a really good friend to me. But then, she started showing me her true colors and being a bitch. She manipulated people then back-stabbed them, but everyone still falls fall her tricks. I tried telling some of my friends what she really did to them but in the end they still believed her and called me a liar and a bad-mouth-er. I saw it with my own eyes how mean she was and how selfish she was. She expected everyone to go her way and always pushed the blame to someone else when she did something wrong. Just because she's cute and popular everyone sticks to her. I'm sick of all these and I just want to let everyone know what an ass she is. But I'm afraid history will repeat itself. What should I do? Or should I just stay low and let them have their own retribution? I feel sad when I see them being tricked by her. I'm in a dilemma so HELPPPPPP!! :( (link)
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I know exactly what you're going through. The same thing happened to me and it's horrible seeing good people get screwed over by her and fall for her tricks. But ya know what if they won't listen, then they'll just have to learn for themselves. You could try explaining things she did to you again and how she hurt you but if they won't listen , they won't listen. & be careful cause the people u warned and r still friends with her anyway might not be very good friends either. Cause theyre not considering your feelings or listening to what your saying & if my friend said someone hurt her & not to trust them then id listen and be careful, not blow it off and call them names ya know? Well anyway u could try again but its up to them & if they wont listen then just let it go.
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im a 13 year old girl me and my best friend have been bffs since 4th grade and she knows that i say stupid things without thinking like alot but she still gets really mad like i kissed her boyfriend pissed off at me when it has happened so many times before she sohuld know that i dont mean it why is she still getting mad after all these years (link)
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Well it mightve been cute in 4th grade, but as your getting older shes probably starting to realize that its not cool anymore and she doesnt want you to do it anymore. If she gets mad about it now, instead of questioning why she's getting mad all of a sudden , you should be considering her feelings and not do it anymore. You shouldnt kiss your friends boyfriend anyway, thats just messed up, even if its a joke. And with saying stupid stuff, just think before you say it or talk to her about it and let her know youre just joking and if she still doesnt like it then just try to stop.
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Hello, I am a female, 18 year old college freshman. My best friend is an 19 year old guy. I have known him since 3rd grade. I love him but not in that way. I had a big bio exam today, he is majoring in molecular biology, so I have been talking to him a lot lately so he can help me out with studying. We video chat and he wrote things out for me and everything and would not move on until he knew I understood what he was saying, since he knows me so well, he knows when I seem confused or confident in what I'm doing. He also showed his face on video chat, saying he normally doesn't but for me he'll make an exception. He usually goes to bed at 11, he stayed up for the past three nights texting me or video chatting me helping me study until 2 in the morning. Aside from helping me study, we like to get frozen yogurt together, he comes to my house to pick me up and we go to our froyo place, eat and then just stay there and talk for hours. That's the weird thing about us, we can be anywhere and have fun just talking. We don't hang out all the time, he's usually busy with work and such or we're both at school but I think that's what makes it so much more special when we do hang out because we don't see each other so much. When we do hang out, though, we do really chill things, watch movies, make food together, get froyo. We know everything about each other, I know that I can trust him with whatever I have to tel him and vice versa. Even over texting, he can tell if something is wrong and he will not let me talk about anything else until I tell him what's wrong. I was on video chat with him last night doing last minute review, when he was about ready to go to get ready for his three hour lab, he got all motivational telling me that if I study the rest of the night and get at least four hours of sleep, I'll be okay. When we hung up, my roommate looked at me funny and I asked her what was up and she said "you guys are basically married without the sex" and I asked her what she meant by that and she said it's cute how we are together, she wishes her and her boyfriend would be half as cute as me and my friend. She said she thinks that the idea of us being together would be so good but we push it to the back of our minds so we don't ruin what we already have. It's funny that she said it like that because all of our friends in high school said "everybody knows you two are each other's soul mates, except you two!"
I guess this whole speel was painting out our friendship to you so that you can tell me what you think of us. I know everybody thinks that guys and girls can't be friends but we have been friends for eleven years, we barely talk to the other kids we went to elementary school with yet we still talk almost everyday. But we've been friends for eleven years and nothing has happened yet. Nonetheless, what do you think? (link)
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You and your friend have such a sweet and strong relationship and if you are both happy with it then don't feel like you have to do anything about it. If you both only think of each other has friends then just stay friends and don't worry about what other people are saying. If one day you do want to take it a step forward and be with him in that way then do it. Just follow your heart and do what you want and don't worry about it now if youre not ready or if you dont feel anything romantic towards him. If you do then talk to him about it and ask him what he wants to do. If you two just wanna be friends then just be friends. Nothing needs to happen if you guys don't want it to, and its not weird. Just enjoy yourselves and do what you wanna do. And yeah. Hope that helped!
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