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My best friend is a guy and nobody understands why we aren't more.
Hello, I am a female, 18 year old college freshman. My best friend is an 19 year old guy. I have known him since 3rd grade. I love him but not in that way. I had a big bio exam today, he is majoring in molecular biology, so I have been talking to him a lot lately so he can help me out with studying. We video chat and he wrote things out for me and everything and would not move on until he knew I understood what he was saying, since he knows me so well, he knows when I seem confused or confident in what I'm doing. He also showed his face on video chat, saying he normally doesn't but for me he'll make an exception. He usually goes to bed at 11, he stayed up for the past three nights texting me or video chatting me helping me study until 2 in the morning. Aside from helping me study, we like to get frozen yogurt together, he comes to my house to pick me up and we go to our froyo place, eat and then just stay there and talk for hours. That's the weird thing about us, we can be anywhere and have fun just talking. We don't hang out all the time, he's usually busy with work and such or we're both at school but I think that's what makes it so much more special when we do hang out because we don't see each other so much. When we do hang out, though, we do really chill things, watch movies, make food together, get froyo. We know everything about each other, I know that I can trust him with whatever I have to tel him and vice versa. Even over texting, he can tell if something is wrong and he will not let me talk about anything else until I tell him what's wrong. I was on video chat with him last night doing last minute review, when he was about ready to go to get ready for his three hour lab, he got all motivational telling me that if I study the rest of the night and get at least four hours of sleep, I'll be okay. When we hung up, my roommate looked at me funny and I asked her what was up and she said "you guys are basically married without the sex" and I asked her what she meant by that and she said it's cute how we are together, she wishes her and her boyfriend would be half as cute as me and my friend. She said she thinks that the idea of us being together would be so good but we push it to the back of our minds so we don't ruin what we already have. It's funny that she said it like that because all of our friends in high school said "everybody knows you two are each other's soul mates, except you two!"
I guess this whole speel was painting out our friendship to you so that you can tell me what you think of us. I know everybody thinks that guys and girls can't be friends but we have been friends for eleven years, we barely talk to the other kids we went to elementary school with yet we still talk almost everyday. But we've been friends for eleven years and nothing has happened yet. Nonetheless, what do you think?
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You and your friend have such a sweet and strong relationship and if you are both happy with it then don't feel like you have to do anything about it. If you both only think of each other has friends then just stay friends and don't worry about what other people are saying. If one day you do want to take it a step forward and be with him in that way then do it. Just follow your heart and do what you want and don't worry about it now if youre not ready or if you dont feel anything romantic towards him. If you do then talk to him about it and ask him what he wants to do. If you two just wanna be friends then just be friends. Nothing needs to happen if you guys don't want it to, and its not weird. Just enjoy yourselves and do what you wanna do. And yeah. Hope that helped!
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