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my question is how can you tell that guy is a virgin or not girl you can tell pop cherry but what about guys do they have some sign taht they are virgin? thx (link)
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The answer is you cannot tell just by looking at a guy or a girl how much sex they had, are having, or never had period. You cannot sniff out a virgin. It is plain and simple you will not know such personal things about someone unless they tell you. As far as girls go it is the same thing. A stretched hymen means nothing these days about virginity. These days masturbation and tampon use stretches it so you cannot tell either from male or female genitals if someone had sex--unless a gynaecologist.
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I a suffering from:
Chronic depression, social anxiety disorder, generalized anxiety disorder, panic attacks, an eating disorder, obsessive complusive disorder, and anger/low self worth problems. I don't see how I am still living. Could any illness occur from all these, I have heard you can deveop tumors and other various things from so many mental illnesses? (link)
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From someone who knows a lot about mental health issues you cannot be suffering from all of those illnesses at once. Sure, one or two in conjunction but not all of those hun. I think you probably took your problems, magnified them and went yupp I have all of those mental illnesses put together. Fact is probably not.
Depression is an all the time thing. There is mild depression which mean intermitently and not a constant. If you have depression and it's a constant issue make sure you always communicate with your doctor exactly how you have been feeling and get medication adjusted as it's the only way to feel well.
If they do not fine tune your medication like they would oil in a car each visit you are indeed going to feel bloody awful. I know I have been there with BiPolar.
Panic attacks may be called a mental illness but really are not in the strictest sense. It boils down to your biggest fears be it irrational or rational scaring you ie crowds etc and you feel dizzy and all of that--been there too.
You can make yourself feel better by putting your head between your knees and breathing in and then getting out of the enviornment bringing them on. There is medication for it but for the love of GOD do not go on PAXIL. That drug nearly killed me and wrecked my life for 6 months.
Obsessive compulsive I know not much of anything about. Again, what you call obsessive compulsive to me or anyone in that filed (mental health) might tell you there's no way that's obsessive compulsive til you see who is on the ward and the length they have to.
A lot of people THINK they know the definitions of mental illness and what they do but that's not so obsessive compulsive, depressed, anxiety disorders etc are way BIGGER than anyone in here will write to you about.
The only thing that can cause an illness or premature death here is the eating disorder. See someone in mental health about that and your fears you may have all of the above illnesses too. They will get you help for the eating disorders and whatever else is mentally troubling to you.
Can mental illness spawn other illnesses absolutely one hundered per cent NO. Do not worry. Can it cause tumours? HELL NO. Half of the people you know would have tumours and be dying if that is so. FACT 1 in 10 people you know will have a mental illness--very common--people just do not talk about it. If you want send me a feedback note and I'll show you 1,000 celebrities in the same boat as you are living, enjoying life, acting and surviving.
If you have a mental problem I'll try to steer you through with more guidance and e-mails if you so desire. I have been there scared, angry, upset, pissed off, confused as you are and seen the worst you can go to in a hospital setting. But man will those people and doctor's repair you and build you up stronger than anyone else.
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My dad smokes and im really worried about him. I really want him to stop, but i dont know what to say and i dont want him to get mad at me...what should i do? thanks in advance *i do rate8 (link)
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Let him handle it seriously! He is an adult and this is a very adult issue to deal with. This is totally why kids should never start smoking is harder to stop than Heroin is plain and simple. Everyone who is hooked wants to stop and or knows they cannot or won't try. It's a hard and aggrivating process when they do start let alone fail.
You know that he knows all the doom this can cause. Leave it in his hands. When he decides to quit is his decision and you really should not say anything. Mark Twain wrote "It's easy to quit smoking I have done it hunderds of times." Just like alcholism this is hard to lick if ever. He will do it in time and knows all the methods used to stop and to seek support. Do not worry though he will one day make a decision on his own. There are a lot of elderly smokers too...Either rate it's his decision and choices to make. Just be the best daughter you can and understand regardless. He's not going anywhere right now.
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There is this boy and he sits behind me in home and careers, reading and writing and he sits across from me in math and social studies.
He annoys me so much and I'm not allowd to change seats.
What should I do??
He curses me out all the time I just want to strangle him or my self. (link)
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He may have more social, mental, physical or emotional pain and issues than you would ever know. Try to be nice to him even when he is not to you. That may be the problem he could have a syndrome where saying abusive things every few minutes without knowing it and making uncontrollable noises is the norm. The teacher will know. Talk to them in private over what happens and the fact you would like your seat changed.
You may learn a lot more than sheds light on what is happening and how everyone can get along and be happy. Nobody said you had to like this boy but at least be civil. It may be all that is needed--an understanding and being civil when he is not. Sometimes you might just have to cuk it up not to offend and look the other way on someone's issues.
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Hey everyone! I want to host a New Year's party, but I need serious help. It should obviously be a sleepover, but should I make it coed and have the guys just leave at midnight and then the girls would sleep over? What could we do? I don't want it to be boring, and I have a huge backyard. I am a girl, and I want the party to be of about 40 people. I would want 25 girls and 15 guys, because I know more girls. Can you help me? (link)
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All that is different in one of these parties is the damn date and the fact everyone is too hammered to even realize it when it comes around. All you really need to do is the standard party idea. Just buy enough food, pretzels, chips and doritoes and the stupid party souvineers like the 2006 glasses, streamers, noise makers. Bottom line--you will rember it and they won't being loaded. I do hope you consider a no booze policy--you are in trouble if they get into trouble at the party or outside of it. Keep beer off your premiseses and shoot for a manageable number of people. 50 people out of control drunk is a bad scenario to be in.
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Okay so I have my period but the blood is like black is this normal or should I get checked out...I dont have a sex life..but I dint know where to put this..THANKS...I give 5's!!! (link)
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The flow could be heavy and yes it can look dark or lumpy to some or coffee grain color. If this however, looks black like sludge or totally gross I would tell your mother. She would have a good idea as a woman of what is not supposed to come out of a vagina from menstrual blood to discharge. If both of you wind up concerned you might as well see a gyanecologist and get used to going to be sure your reproductive system is healthy and also later on in life needing one when it comes to pregnancy. This doctor will tell you what is wrong with your reproductive system, vagina etc and what is good and bad discharge or colors.
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im going on a field trip
and i really like this guy thats going to be there
i really really really REALLY wanna ask him out on the bus or something on the way
but im like one ofthose "shy people in the school"
how can i just ask him but like
yeah you people know over come shyness (link)
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You want to ask someone out on a crowded bus? You must have more guts or insanity then most teenage girls ;) DON'T DO IT THAT WAY. Everyone on the bus will know your business and if he turns you down how would you feel all day? If you want to go out with him ask him privately. If he turns you down that way you are not humiliated and in his case same thing on the bus when he feels pressure to say yes to something he does not want to do. People hate pressure especially from a hundred eyes on them. This is totally not the right idea for conducting initimate business.
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hi im thirteen and my moms been having really bad neck pain, i was just wondering if this could be a problem like a deadly thing because shes been getting headaches and she has been really tired lately and she doesnt seem very comfortable. but my main question is: is this serious? (link)
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I do not think she will die. I do have a feeling though there is a problem. I cannot and will not alarm you and nor do I know what. Neck pain along with headaches does not sound right. She is a responsible adult and hopefully see a doctor. In the meantime stop getting yourself upset. The problem could be minor and either way it is not good adding more fear into the picture than is there.
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my school is having a fall festival, and every class either has to sing a song, or do a play. we have 5 girls in my class so a song is out of the question, because the boys are just too good to sing with us. anyway, if anyone knows a good play we can do, can you please tell me were i can find a script or something for it? thanks alot! (link)
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Do something orginal with spark and creativity. The five of you can do this no sweat. Teachers are really not looking for students to take the easy route and grab the first song written by someone else or script. You would go over much better if the five of you actually thought to yourselves what's funny? What's controversial that needs addressed?, "What do we all have in common? etc etc. and write out some decent sketches or ideas and get your own 5-10 minute script or play out of it.
If they expect a long play, the more you come up with the more material you can use. Ie each do a monologue, some blackouts (one liners leading into fade outs) and put it all together. Going to a bookstore or library also to cheat with having to do so much writing of your own and using monologues from young actors books could work.
Be original though. Think quirky material that others have not come up with. Be sure to look if near you at Second City and sketch comedy and see what you yourselves can develop. You womn't be as good as Second City but find the inspiration within you to wow them.
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ok me and my boyfriend have been going out for a month and 1 week he wants to have sex im 14 hes 15 have we been going out long enough (link)
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It is not about how long people have been dating. It always about being responsible, knowing how to protect yourself and doing it because you want to. Boys at this age will promise you anything to the first person into your pants. If he is applying pressure on you to do this then DON'T. Knowing someone for only a month means you do not really know them. Odds are he's the get sex and dump her type. You can also get pregnant here. If you are asking question such as do I know him long enough? Odds are you know the answer is no and it is not time to form a sexual relationship. Why give it up to someone so easily that you knew for a month and have no idea how sincere? THINK!
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okay what i do to masturbate i dont figure myself i just put my finger at the top of down there and wiggle it back and forth really fast. what are other ways i can masturabate to feel really good? im not really comfortable with putting anything inside of me but anything to make my breasts feel good or my vagina? i will rate 5s!!! (link)
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Okay here we go again folks. Do not be naive. This person is likely an adult maybe for all we know a man or a pedophile. Do not ask for how to sex tips in here as it gets you banned. The same goes double for giving how to answers or links that describe all this off site. There are young people in here, parents and unfortunately idiots who wish to louse it up and cause trouble or get sick kicks. Think about it must teens are not looking to know how to masturbate or tips or share that info. They know it is private and half are embarassed to admit anywhere let alone a public forum they do. GET WISE AND REPORT THIS WHEN SEEN. I AM FLAGGING IT NOW.
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Is there such a thing as to many orgasms? Can it harm u if u do have one to much? (link)
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If it were truly physically harmful nobody would masturbate and or have sex silly. As it is not harmful and the entire world engages in it or almost if you believe stats. you are fine. The only way this is not okay is if you would rather spend all day doing it than socializing or living. That is harmful. Also harmful is a child who chronically does it or teen etc who uses it as comfort or too hide feelings or abuse or one that was taught through abuse. That is harmful. Otherwise be as you were and enjoy yourself.
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my boy friend wants to finger me and im gonna let him because im ready and i love him but what if something goes wrong .. like is it possible for his finger not to go up? (link)
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It sounds as though you are not ready for this kind of experience yet. If you are fearful and asking too many questions such as will this hurt? Will something go wrong? etc you are not ready. You need to read more about this and masturbation from books on sexuality and reliable sources first. If the idea grabs you as something that may hurt or be afraid of doing wait. After all you need to feel comfortable in these situations or the whole point is lost. We cannot give how to info on the right or wrong ways of doing this activity. Just know there is no right nor wrong way each girl's response to it is different.
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Ok...so...My (only) best friend is starting to turn on me. shes being a bitch and now shes going out with my ex. she knows i still like him though....And i hate this one chick at school and me and marissa(only best friend) talk about her ALL the time. saying shes a whore and a bitch and shit. but now shes BEST friends with her. she can only have one friend. and she chose her over me. And i have this cutting problem. and shes MAD AT ME for cutting when shes the reason i did it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
any advice!? i rate high!!!! (link)
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I would not bother trying to help this ingrateful little girl. She does not realize that sometimes people like herself have to wake up and see what they did wrong to bring a situation on themselves. If you think swearing and being abusive to those trying to help is okay or tolerated guess agin. They ban you for that. I will not tolerate it either.
If someone is going to swear and be vulgar with you for advice why help her? Look at her attitude above and now to someone giving her help. Clear as day you can see where the problem lies can't you? Yes, it is with her and tunnel vision not seeing how she could in the least bit have sparked her own problems. GROW UP PLEASE.
And guess what? If you did not think that you would be given advice to challenge you or not what you wanted to hear then get with it. Sometimes you need to hear something you were not looking for about yourself. You are clouded on a lot of things.
You do as I said earlier seem to have a problem mentally with cutting and thinking it to be thr right way to solve your problem. I pray you see a mental health professional. If you cannot see it as a mnetal issue other people can. Seek help for it. Why even write us if you cannot take suggestions and a plea you get help you need?
I DO INDEED KNOW what I am talking about. I have seen at my age (27) a lot of young people like you working for Teen Advice Online, Teenhelp.org and other sites and going to college and entering a high stress atmosphere. There is always one girl like you who is vulnerable, naive and a mental wreck with the same problems you have. Do not let that stuff carry with you into adulthood. Drop your acid tongue, check your attitude at the door and fess up to the fact you need help here with socializing properly and cutting. If it does not look right to others no wonder they are talling you so and you are getting abusive back.
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The guy that I like and I are friends. I thought it was pretty easy to see that but today when we were talking he wanted to know who i liked. So I just told him so he wouldn't keep bugging me. I knew he didn't like me back, but he said "i don't know if we can hook up right now cause I like...whatever her name is." And I think its a little bit weird talking to him know just because. Is there anything I can do to get him to like me more than a friend or for it not to be weird to talk to him?
ps. the girl he likes likes him back but doesnt want a boyfriend right now. and they just went to the movies together with some other friends. so i don't know what to do and it really sucks. someone help me please! (link)
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It does not have to be weird now. He made it weird for you. Why the hell would he ask who you like if he knew the answer? Also, why would he ask if he knew what he would say to you about the other girl? Someone wants you to feel bad so do not go there. If the girl denies going out with him or wanting him as her boyfriend that is fine they can lie. Just tell them if they bother you that you just do not care or have time for this shit. Move on hun, find a nice guy who values you and be happy. Let these two settle their stuff out. Neither seems worth the time.
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You all probably deal with the same thing I am about to say. But here is the thing my mom and I get along but most of the time we are arguing about stupid things like chores I do around the house and stuff like that she doesn't like how I do so she complains constatly no matte what I do it's never enough for her. My dad and I sometimes get into arguements to because whenever I am arguing with my mom he always plans it on me even if I didn't start it. Most of the time we don't get along either. They also get into arguements too and try to get us involve if we don't they get mad but if you do they always want us to pick sides and that's why we don't want to get involved. Do you have any advice. (link)
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Well we all know one thing their trying to suck you into an argument is wrong. Leave the house, go out and tell them "I will no longer be pulled into your arguments and do not use me as a scape goat." Get out after that and spend several hours on your own and come back. Make sure they know it is wrong and behavior you cannot live with. Hun, to be honest here the roles have been reversed. You are the adult in the situation and they are the kids. It is hard for a kid to parent their own parents.
As far as arguements over chores go curb it by actually doing all of them. Once the chores are done there is not much an argument can be made out of. Involving too many people in one argument is stupid. If it starts up just say "I'm not going to be dragged into this" and as always leave the situation. They will get it eventually.
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If your vagina isn't used to a lot of things wouldn't it be common sense if it got irrated, like from toooooooooo much perfume, soap and things like that? (link)
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Bubble Bath two words and do not use it. My cousin when little was forever back and forth from the doctor for creams. Her mother could not figure out the bubble bath caused her infections. Once they figured it out all was fine. If you want infections use it if not do not. They thought it was her getting red from doing too much self-exploration at first. She got scolded for that a lot when it was bubble bath.
Soaps with perfume are out for sure and use only IVORY or DOVE. You should be fine but yes, I know from health classes as well as personal experience that you never use perfume soap etc if you are a woman or with female children. Infections will start for sure.
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im gay and i want to tell my perants that im gay i know my dad would accept it but my mom would beat my @SS so what can i do to get my mom to accept me?? (link)
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You unfortunately cannot make anyone accept you or behave how you want. If they will not accept you it is their problem. You are their son and in the end that matters and will bring them around. Understand that yes, this is a lifestyle most people feel strongly about and some against. It takes time for them to adjust. You may hear a ton of hurtful things but in the end the bond between parents and yourself ought not nor ever break.
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ok im a virgin and i am 18 and my boyfreind / fiance is 22 and he has had 4 partners prior to me. also he has told me he is pretty big down there (normal sized condoms wont fit him) i havent actually seen it yet, but i am a virgin. i havent had any kind of contact in a sexual way at all and i want to have sex with him because we are so in love and getting married soon and all, but im afraid he will be too big and it will hurt alot. is there anything that the two of us can do to make our first time togheter (and my first time ever) more pleasurable and less painful for us? (link)
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Back the bus up missy. You obviously do not know a bullshiter when you see one. This guy has you wrapped around his finger so you will do anything for and with him. You might be in love but I am not so sure about him.
You are 18-years-old get your head on straight here. He is 22. While a few years younger his world mentally and physically is different from yours. At 18-years-old I am sorry you do not know beans about being married. An 18-year-old girl cannot handle marraige or making a life long commitment. Pull yourself together. you may love him but the whole Oh I'll marry you, fix this and that, I'll help if you get pregnant is BS right now.
I hate to say this but he wants sex more than you do. If you have no idea how to engage in it or to feel comfortable even and have questions, fears of pain etc DO NOT DO IT. If he sticks around maybe down the road. I have a feeling here that he wants sex and would bail or would bail if you didn't. Do not do it just to hang on to a guy.
Put it to you this way when you look back on it you might go I wished I did this with someone else than him. Also, another thing if they promise to stay with you if you got knocked up etc. Tell that to my 17-year-old cousin who now has a baby and nobody helping here. Be wise to the lies all guys tell. Don't have sex to please him. YOU ARE NOT READY AND WE CAN TELL.
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Okay, there's this guy in my science class who likes me and i used to like him but now anymore. so now i don't know how to make it clear to him that i'm not interested without majorly hurting his feelings.
and another problem. there's this other guy that i've liked for about 4 months. he's dated a lot of my friends and he knew i liked him so he's been acting all....well he acted like he didn't want to be around me. so i told him that i didn't like him anymore even tho i did. i like everything about him and i don't know how to get completely over him.
please help! no smartasses (sillyrob)!!! i will report. i rate high if i see that you're trying to help
thanks!
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I do not think you get it fully when it comes to how males work on a mental, intellectual level. If you tell us point blank you do not like us we think you mean it. Most human beings would think you meant it. Then if you came back at us and said "I LOVE you only kidding about hating you will you date me? We are likely going to die of a heart attack, be cconfused or tell you to screw off.
This kind of thing will piss people off and there is no way he will go out and or be friends with you. Why? You bruised his ego, hurt him, rejected him and when he knows it was all a trick he will want to kill you.
The guy from science class sounds interesting. He must see something in you that you do not. Sometimes, guys are like him and overdo liking someone or showing it. They assume you just do not get them. I would tell him in private "Stop trying too hard with girls." and "Sorry, I am not interested you are a nice guy etc."
The problem I have with your behavior is you seem to be in a candy shop mentality here with I like this one, uh, this guy is better, hate this one, no wait who do I like? YOU DO NOT EVEN KNOW and that is what we call being a TEENAGE GIRL. Figure out hun, what you want before you go shopping for it or you may not get what you hoped for.
If I were you as you liked the science guy give him one date and see how it goes. How can you be so sure he's awful if you never dated him when you did in fact like him? He may be a catch who is devoted to you. TRY IT. A few little dates will let you know and at least help him become confident and less in your face. Tell him what turns girls off privately. Evidently he has not a clue.
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