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Im fucked.....
Ok...so...My (only) best friend is starting to turn on me. shes being a bitch and now shes going out with my ex. she knows i still like him though....And i hate this one chick at school and me and marissa(only best friend) talk about her ALL the time. saying shes a whore and a bitch and shit. but now shes BEST friends with her. she can only have one friend. and she chose her over me. And i have this cutting problem. and shes MAD AT ME for cutting when shes the reason i did it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
any advice!? i rate high!!!!
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first of all, if she really is your friend she wouldn't have gone out with your ex when she knows full well that you still like him. That was wrong right there. That was a really bitchy thing for her to do to become best friends with this whore that you guys made fun of all the time and ditch you. She shouldn't be mad at you for cutting considering it was her fault you did it. I think you should try talking to her and tell her how what she did made you feel and that she is the reason you cut. I know how you feel because I cut too. I am friends with this girl who I have been friends with for ten years and I started hanging out with this other girl that I met at work and stuff and she was getting kind of jealous. Well she always used to tell me not to hang out with this girl and stuff like that which really pissed me off. Well, me and this other girl have been friends for about ten months. Melissa( the one I've been friends with for ten years) was getting close to my mom and doing things with her like going out to eat and talking on the phone and stuff and then she would go and say that it was my fault that our friendship was not like it used to be because I was hanging out with Carly alot. It pissed me off so much that I cut and melissa got pissed at me and shit. That is over now and they are friends now and I am still really good friends with both of them they are my two best friends. But anyway I definitely know how you feel.
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I wouldnt even bother with her anymore..shes not even worth being friends with.And dont cut..because i used to but i stopped because i knew there are better things in life to do than that.I kno you got angry over that and you probably usually cut over anger but try to find sumthin else to do than to cut!!
plz i dont like knoin that people cut because mabey one day they might cut to deep and end up dieing and i dont want that to happen to you.So try to find sumthin else to put your anger at other than cutting.And go and find a new best friend dont bother wit that biaotch!! lol
i hope i helped you out. luv ya
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I would not bother trying to help this ingrateful little girl. She does not realize that sometimes people like herself have to wake up and see what they did wrong to bring a situation on themselves. If you think swearing and being abusive to those trying to help is okay or tolerated guess agin. They ban you for that. I will not tolerate it either.
If someone is going to swear and be vulgar with you for advice why help her? Look at her attitude above and now to someone giving her help. Clear as day you can see where the problem lies can't you? Yes, it is with her and tunnel vision not seeing how she could in the least bit have sparked her own problems. GROW UP PLEASE.
And guess what? If you did not think that you would be given advice to challenge you or not what you wanted to hear then get with it. Sometimes you need to hear something you were not looking for about yourself. You are clouded on a lot of things.
You do as I said earlier seem to have a problem mentally with cutting and thinking it to be thr right way to solve your problem. I pray you see a mental health professional. If you cannot see it as a mnetal issue other people can. Seek help for it. Why even write us if you cannot take suggestions and a plea you get help you need?
I DO INDEED KNOW what I am talking about. I have seen at my age (27) a lot of young people like you working for Teen Advice Online, Teenhelp.org and other sites and going to college and entering a high stress atmosphere. There is always one girl like you who is vulnerable, naive and a mental wreck with the same problems you have. Do not let that stuff carry with you into adulthood. Drop your acid tongue, check your attitude at the door and fess up to the fact you need help here with socializing properly and cutting. If it does not look right to others no wonder they are talling you so and you are getting abusive back.
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Forget about your best friend because she's not being a very good friend. It's bad enough that she's going out with your ex and now she's being best friends with someone that you hate. You dont need her, you'll find better people out there that will care more about you. She should know that your cutting yourself over her, but you shouldn't be cutting yourself its not worth it. Move on dont even forgive your friend. Remember people change, things change, and you change.
-Manda
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ok first of all, Marissa would NOT be considered a good friend in my book. Friends DONT go out with their best friends exs'. (chicks over dicks)
The fact that she now hangs out with some1 you both didnt like says it all too.
Dont hurt yourself over some1 that doesnt care about you or your feelings.
If it already hasnt gotten around school what you are doing, it soon will. Kids can be very cruel.
Dont lower yourself, because you are hurt. Talk to some1, because you are worth more than that. You have to show them that YOU are strong! There are good ppl out there. You just need to look in the right places.
Good Luck!
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First of all, don't blame your mental instabilities on her. What she's doing is really shitty, but you are the one who makes your own choices. Unless she is literally dragging that razor across your skin, it is your choice to cut yourself because of your insecurities. Letting her know that you cut yourself is probably only pushing her away even more because knowing that you are making someone that upset is a big burden.
Drop her because all she is doing is making you miserable, and I'm sure sooner or later that guy will dump her and that other girl will start to annoy her, and then she'll come crawling back to you. What you do after that is also your choice, but I suggest for now you just need to avoid her and forget about her.
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dont cut yourself. Trust me, its bad. And shes probably mad at you for cutting because she cares about you. Im not really sure why she can only have one friend, but you should talk to her yourself. If your friend is friends with the girl you hate, maybe shes not that bad. You should try to hang out with them, and find out for yourself.
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