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Hey! It's Megan. I'm usually the one on this account. I have a passion for helping people with their problems and giving advice. :D I plan to pursue this passion by going for Psychology. You can message me on AIM: Keeah5. :DD
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i just started dating my boyfriend about a month ago how soon is it to have sex with him i dont want to have sex with him to soon. (link)
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Too soon is just an opinion. You'll know when you should. :D
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do guys like virgins or is it a turn off. (link)
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It depends on the guy. Some guys like when girls are innocent, and some like girls that have more experience.
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I recently moved to NYC. I have only one friend here, and it's become shaky.. as explained in another question of mine.
I need friends.. I need people to talk to. I need people to hang out with and laugh and have fun with. I don't have any friends here. I'm totally new.
I've never been super sociable before, and I've never really known much about clubbing and going to bars and parties. I don't go to college just yet, and I only recently got a job.
How can I go out and make friends? I want to be around people with similar interests as myself (my job is totally unrelated to my interests), and if I'm lucky enough... find something romantic. I want to meet people, and have a social life.
What should I do? (link)
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It would probably help if you were to join some volunteer work to help people. There you could meet people who have similar interests and eventually work on becomeing friends. Another thing that you could do is simply start a conversation with your coworkers if you notice something that you have in common such as a dislike of a boss. Eventually you'll have a few friends.
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I really like these shoes: http://www.zappos.com/n/p/dp/43030075/c/15689.html
but I'm not comfortable paying for shoes at that price. Does anyone know of any similar ones? Available is size 6-7. Red. Black heel. (link)
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You could probably find similar ones in a shoe department, or possibly Jcpenny's or Macy's. I've seen some similar to them in those stores but it also depends on your area so if your lucky you may find a pair just like that.
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I have very sensitive skin. It's normal-dry mostly dry. At the end of days, its oily. I have acne on my forehead, chin, nose, and area around the nose. About 80% of the acne are those bumps that aren't big and red but the small under the skin bumps you can see and its really annoying. I've used sooo many acne products and nothing seems to work. It either dries out my face or makes things worse. I got Pro-Active about 5 months ago thinking that it would clear my skin, but it didn't. Its very harsh on my face and dries it out..i even got rashes on my lip from it. I need something that is soft on my skin, but hard on my acne. It can't dry out my face, it needs to leave it hydrated. Does anyone know ANYTHING that can work on my face?
p.s. brands like dermalogica, clean and clear, neutrogena, clearasil ect. don't work on me. I need something more medicated.. (link)
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I know from experience sometimes its best not to use brand name products but simply soap and a mostierizer such as clinique or any other preferable one. Don't wash your face more then once a day because that could irritate it and cause more achne. ITs better to wash your face before bed and if your skin is oily in the morning wash it gently with not much soap just to make it look a little more dry. Another thing that works is to use toothpaste like crest without floride that use to work for me too but only until you get rid of the acne. But the thing with toothpaste is it will burn a little but that just shows its working.
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Im not on a diet, But i jus lost a TREMENDOUS amount of weight, and im 13, I used to be on a diet, well not diet persay but not eating so much and excersize and happily, i like the way i am now, But i want to Maintain my weight, Not gain nor lose, can anyone tell me what i should eat, and how many times a day i should eat ,and i excersize 6 or 5 times a week on my treadmille Fer 2 miles and i workout for 30 miuntes running, thanks :) :)
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Keep your routine how it is now. Your metabolism wont go down or up then.
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So there's this guy, and he's my neighbor; but his sister's are bestfriend's with my brother. So it makes him a total no-no. But I just can't help myself but to like him. I'm in eighth grade, but he's in tenth. Everything about it's wrong. Do you think I like him because I know he's off limits ? What should I do ?! (link)
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Basically age doesn't matter. What you should do is try to stay good friends maybe now you and him won't work out. But eventually if its meant to be you may find your way together when your both are grown and more mature. Right now its the whole you want what you can't have. So listen to your heart and do what you think is right.
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Background info:
Ok so this guy is barely 17 and a member of a neo-nazi club, he basically lives in the ghetto, he blames EVERYTHING on the immigrants who live there (which makes no sense cause its a very immigrated area) and he thinks they're the reason that his town has so many troubles with crime and unemployment.. his dad was a police and got shot at a gangland shooting a bit less than 5 years ago and his brother is equally filled with hate.. he's actually in prison right now for a race crime. So the dude wrote an essay in his english literature class praising Hitler's Mein Kampf and got in soooo much trouble for it. He's becoming more and more aggressive and angry every day.. and everyone is afraid of where he's headed.
Personal Issue/Questions:
Now I'm supposed to help, but I don't even UNDERSTAND! What's the cause of his situation?? Like is he racis simply because of what happened to his dad, or is that just an un-related coincidence?? What should he do, or what can I do for him, to change his behaviour and mind-set?? Why is he in that racist organization and how is it affecting him and would he be "cured" if he just got out?? How do I explain to him what his future will look like if he continues to where he's headed?
General Issue/Question:
I'm so mad at our society for letting organizations like these exist. They turn innocent people who just don't know how to deal with their anger into criminals. What can we as a society do to deal with people like him, and prevent this from happening? How can I open the eyes of other people in my community to what's going on? (link)
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I don't think that you can change him. People can't be changed if they wont accept it. People who are racist are often very closed minded about everything. They think everything is what they think, and they have been known to argue their point, even if it makes no sense. I'm sure something happened to him as a child, maybe the way he was raised. Sometimes you can't teach old dogs new tricks, but all you can do is hope when they get hit by the car, that they wont go back into the street. Just talk to him, get on his good side, and try helping him out slowly. Show him how to become more open minded. Teach him what his parents have forgot to. Show him compassion. You should tell him this: Everyone's life is hard. No matter how rich, how poor. It doesn't matter what color, what sexuality. We're all in this struggle together. There's no need to worry about others beliefs or their differences. We're all the same in some odd way, so we should all try to put differences aside, and try to find the good in not only eachother, but life itself. :D
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16/f
Okay, well i went to a party last night and the guy that i am "talking" to was there to. We have been "talking" for about a month now. We talk on the phone every night and we see eachother in school and say hi and stuff. Well last night, he was like "come on, let's go outside for a while." so i was like "okay." Before he said this my friend came up to me and said she talked to him and he said that he might ask me out tonight. So, we were walking around outside by ourselves and he said "i think we should go out." Then i said "yea." After that he said "Sound good?" and then i said "yes!" and he was like "alright" and he gave me a hug. Was this asking me out? I mean, my friend told me that he was gonna do it so i figured it was even though he never really used the words "will you go out with me?" So, i just wanted to know what you all thought. His name is brandon and mine is renee. Thanks! (link)
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Yesss. Haha. He did ask you, silly. Same thing happened to me before. He basically told you his opinion on it, you agreed, and it basically certified you're going out. So congrats. :D
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My name is Rayelle I'm 13 and in the 8th grade. This is my story. My best friend has gone out with this guy, Dylan, about 10 times and it only lasts about a week or two, but this time she was going out with him and she started to like this other guy Jon and told Jon that she would go out with him, so basically she cheated on Dylan 4 about 3 days and then dumped Dylan. I was going out with Cody at the time, and the next day there was a football game at the HS and I met up with Cody, and Mak (my other friend). Dylan was there and Tucker too. At the game I hung out with Dylan. We talked and stuff about Alivia and everything that happened. After the game was over I walked with Tucker and Dylan to Dylan's house. When we got there we hung outside for a while then Tucker left and Dylan and me just sat and talked and really made a connection and stuff. When I had to go home Dylan walked me to main street and then said "we should go out, because im really lonely." I was almost in shock. I said "ok, I was going to dump Cody anyway, he's a perv." and I gave him a hug and kiss on the cheek and walked home to dump Cody. When I got home Alivia called me and I ended up telling her that I was going out with Dylan. She was pissed! "But you dumped him", I said. She’s like "But I talked to Dylan and stuff and I really like him still." All I was thinking at the time was, OMG! Shut up! Get over it, it’s your fault you dumped him. Dylan and I only went out for 2 weeks and then he dumped me and I asked him why he did and he said he didn’t know (LIE!). The same night he asked out Alivia again and of course she said yes to get back at me. They have been going out for a week now, but Dylan has told 3 ppl that he doesn't like Alivia really anymore and I think he likes me! And I really really like Dylan still and want him back. What do I do? What do I say? (link)
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Apparently he's really co-dependant. I've delt with almost the same kind of guy. All I can say is, move on from him, because he just wants someone, not you in particular. And since him and your friend can't last very long, it shows that he doesn't want to be with the same person very long. And this also goes with the, you want what you can't have. Him seeing you as unavailable got him interested, and also because he was single, and needed someone to cling to. So, moving on and finding someone else would probably make him interested again. But, you don't need him to make you happy. :] You seem like a smart girl who can go without someone like him. ;D
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I met a girl a while back, and we started out being good friends. We got along perfectly. We were such good friends. We didn't fight or argue or anything. Well, we started going further with the relationship, and we fell in love.. sorta. Well, I did at least. We were everything except officially bf/gf. We even slept together.
Then she said no. She told me that she didn't want to date me because I have bad communication skills. I told her I would still be friends, because we made good friends. But now, after all this.. we've been fighting more, and arguing. I still want to date her, in a small way. Not so much though now.
I regret sleeping with her, and I wish that the love thing never happened. Last night, we had a big blowout... and I almost called the relationship off totally. What should I do? (link)
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Okay, well it seems like she just used you, but maybe she really didn't mean it. Maybe she actually did like you, but more as a friend, and just assumed you were okay with being friends with benifits. As I always thought, love was a strange and difficult thing to sort out. I'm sure you were hurt by the whole thing.. and I'm really sorry. But hey, it's the past! You can't change it, so might as well move on from it and forget it. Stay friends, because you've been through so much, but just don't let take advantage of your feelings like that. You seem like a really sweet guy, and I'd bet all my money on you finding a beautiful girl. So keep your head up, and stay optimistic.
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Ok so I've been dating this guy for a little over a year now.Recently something happened that i thought never would..his friend started flirting with me.Well to save some typing here me and him ended up liking each other. he told me he would go out with me if i broke off things with my current boyfriend.so i did. wasnt a good idea because the whole plan crashed and burned. my boyfriend that i broke up with found out that i had been planning this thing and his friend screwed me over and showed him all the text messages i sent him about how much i liked him. so long story short me and my boyfriend that i broke up with are going back out and i havent talked to his friend in awhile but just last night we started talking and he was drunk and he was telling me how he was going to go have sex with this girl and all this and it made me mad..i dont know why but it did. i still like him and he still likes me and i know i have a boyfriend but i just dont know what to do about how much this bothers me..anything i can do? (link)
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This just goes into the whole idea, you want what you can't have. You wanted his friend because you knew that you had someone, and that it'd be difficult to ever get together. Right now, you should just really think this out. Think about who you really love. Think about what each of you have in common. Dating his other friend, that'd just start everything from new. And you already have been in a relationship for over a year, so there had to be a reason you were with him, right? And his friend, how long so you think it'd really last? And it seems like he was trying to turn your boyfriend against you. Again, just think things out thoroughly before you make anymore choices.
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So we had a dog two years ago but died. So my cat abby was alone and had our full attention on it and it was a good cat!Just recently my moms boyfriend(for a long time) got a dog named Apollo(2 yrs old) and it seems like Abby's changed since then. He doesn't get all the attention now. And now he won't eat his food, he'll only eat stuff off the counter like spagetti, cookies, and more. He won't drink water and he eats out of the garbage when were not home. Could it be because of Apollo or is he getting old(we think es either 8 or 9?) (link)
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I think most older cats go through this. She's just attention starved. Try giving her more attention. I'm sure she'll get over it
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How do you personally deal with stress? I have no idea how to. I usually get stressed from school/ working and not having enough time for homework. I try to manage time as best I can, but like, for example, if I don't understand my math homework, I sit there and freak out, and don't get it done. I have so many other things to do then just my math homework..
Also, how do you deal when you're upset/angry? I know some people run, but it's getting cold and our treadmill is broken. I hate just going to my room. I feel like it just makes things worse.
Since school started, I feel like I ALWAYS have something to do. I work about 25 hours a week and go to school (high school, junior). I know I probably should cut down on work hours, but I need the money. I have almost the whole weekend off, so any suggestions as to what to do to kind of "start over" and just feel better? I thought about just sitting at home and watching movies all weekend by myself, but at the same time, I want to hang out with friends. What's your opinion?
Any suggestions? Thanks! (link)
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Well, there's different ways to deal with stress. For example, I try staying completely optimistic, I draw, write poetry, write in a journal, listen to music. There's so many things you could do. My one thing I'd say you should try to do, is just stay optimistic. Just keep in the now, and be happy of what you have, and realize things will always get better. And did you try writing in a journal? It's always easier to deal with stress if you can just write it all out, no secrets, and just read it over, and decide for yourself what you should do.
As for weekends, well, maybe one day you could hang out with friends, other day to rest. It's always good to have time to yourself. 8D
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15/f
(sorry it’s so long but please help)
So I was dating the starting quarterback for my highschool football team and he had gotten a concussion a couple of weeks a go. He was diagnose with post concussion syndrom that made him depressed for a while. I told him that I will always be here for him if he needed me to be. And that I love him unconditionally. He said he loves me too and that no matter how it didn’t seem like it at the moment he did. A week later he breaks up with me saying that his concussion messed up his emotions so much that he can only see me as a friend now. I didn’t believe it because he seemed super happy after the break up. So I gave him a second chance to tell me the truth. I walked up to him and said I needed closure and just needed to hear the real reason why he broke up with me. He blamed the concussion again.
I left it alone for a couple of days then asked him when did he realize he didn’t want to be with me anymore. He said a couple of days after the concussion. He said that it just kept progressing because of the concussion. So I just left it as that. I thought I had gotten my closure he stayed with the same story and I felt I was ok with that.
Then one of my friends calls me the same day and tells me that he actually confessed that the concussion was just an excuse. He had just gotten bored of me. I really do appriciate the truth no matter how much it may hurt. I gave him 3 chances to tell me the truth and he hadn’t. that’s what bugs me the most and we had a really close relationship when we were together. He said he really wants to stay friends but why if he lied about the break up? I know there’s that possibility that he thought if he told the truth that we wouldn’t stay friends but he confessed to one of my closest friends so obviously it would have gotten back to me you know?
I just would like to hear what other people think about this. (link)
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Apperently you may have loved him but hes a complete jerk you should tell him off and stay a bit angry.
Or you could talk it out, that may be best but sometimes its best to keep distance and show your anger for awhile. So he knows the mistake he made, if he really wants to be friends he'll eventually try to talk to you about it.
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A lot of people probably wont understand this. But I fell in love with someone on the internet. Like REALLY fell in love, for the first time in my life. He wants to talk on the phone and you know...but I'm worried about what I will sound like and I've never had "phone sex" so I don't want to sound bad or embarrass myself. I dont think he will, but what if he starts calling me all the time? Any comments/suggestions are greatly appreciated :] (link)
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I understand online love, most of my friends don't. But yeah, maybe you should just stick to cybering instead of phone sex. Haha. I can imagine how akward that would be. So my advice is, just tell him you'd feel weird doing that, but would talk on the phone. ;D
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ever since one of my best friends got her boyfriend almost a year ago, things haven't been the same between us. first off, she's been to third base, and she told me this about three to four months after, which really pissed me off. and every few days, she complains about her stress causers and then feels badly and asks what's new with me and i just say nothing because she couldn't trust me enough to tell me about the things she's done with her boyfriend even though she told other people. it's not his fault, but he's really affected our friendship. i constantly feel pressured to get a boyfriend and all she ever talks about is him and i feel like having a boyfriend would be stressful because you'd have to think of cute gifts and i'm not a creative person. i want advice on how to not feel this way. i feel better now that i've stopped including her in a lot of my major life problems and i'm proud of myself for that because all she does is cause me stress in life. she doesn't mean to, but she's better than me in every way and i don't want to end up like her in one aspect: i don't want to go to third base my sophomore year. i'm not prude, but i KNOW i would get emotionally attached and then he'd dump me, and i wouldn't want that to be one of my stress-causers because i already have enough pressure with school.
can someone please make me feel better? i don't like talking to her anymore and yes i am aware of her major life problems but i don't feel like i can relate to her anymore nor can she help me with my problems. i talk to her and hang out with her but i feel like she's more of a burden than a friend now :( i feel horrible about this but it's true. she works herself mad getting good grades, and last year she caused me much stress because of this and i would cry myself to sleep each night. i just really hate this. (link)
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I know what you mean completely. But if she's your best friend, I think you should support her, even if you don't agree with her. And if you feel uncomftorable with what she's telling you, address the subject to her. :D
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Hey, just to let you know this will be long...sorry i am a 13 year old. girl
Okay, his name is Matt..he is in my 3 period gym class and he is AMAZING he is number 2 on the football team AND quarter back. In, gym class their
is 7th grade girls(me) and 8th grade boys (Matt) Well, he is an 8th grader but...we are the same age ..13... He is so cute. I have been writing him notes lately ( 2 ) and he hasn't wrote back...the first one I didn't tell him to write back...but the second note i did. I didn't say anything wrong in the letters...i just told him that he was cute...and if he new me...is anything wrong with that...? The second letter i asked him if he new who i was yet...and I described what i was wearing in gym class..and he still didn't know who I was..!! I told him my name. In, gym yesterday...(that's the day I wrote the second note) we played a game wear we stand in the middle and try to get balls in a trash can(i know dumb). He stood beside me so many times during the game...and he still didn't know who the hell I was!!! I also was wearing my necklace in big letters that said my name... and he didn't know who I was... :( The first day i wrote him the note.. at the end of the day i saw him come down the hallway..behind me!!! I put the side of my lunch box that said my name straight behind me so
he can see my name...apparently he is not to bright...he still didn't know who I was!!! Do you think he knows who i am and just doesn't want me to get my hopes up ? Or, does he not know who i am. Please...help ....I like Matt so much...please any advice...and please tell me what to do to catch his attention.. Thanks so much for reading !!!
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I honestly think you should just stop playing games, and just go up and introduce yourself. Confidence is something guys really like, and it will prolly impress him. Having him guess will only put more stress on you, so I just think you should go for it. :]
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