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best friend has a boyfriend.
ever since one of my best friends got her boyfriend almost a year ago, things haven't been the same between us. first off, she's been to third base, and she told me this about three to four months after, which really pissed me off. and every few days, she complains about her stress causers and then feels badly and asks what's new with me and i just say nothing because she couldn't trust me enough to tell me about the things she's done with her boyfriend even though she told other people. it's not his fault, but he's really affected our friendship. i constantly feel pressured to get a boyfriend and all she ever talks about is him and i feel like having a boyfriend would be stressful because you'd have to think of cute gifts and i'm not a creative person. i want advice on how to not feel this way. i feel better now that i've stopped including her in a lot of my major life problems and i'm proud of myself for that because all she does is cause me stress in life. she doesn't mean to, but she's better than me in every way and i don't want to end up like her in one aspect: i don't want to go to third base my sophomore year. i'm not prude, but i KNOW i would get emotionally attached and then he'd dump me, and i wouldn't want that to be one of my stress-causers because i already have enough pressure with school.
can someone please make me feel better? i don't like talking to her anymore and yes i am aware of her major life problems but i don't feel like i can relate to her anymore nor can she help me with my problems. i talk to her and hang out with her but i feel like she's more of a burden than a friend now :( i feel horrible about this but it's true. she works herself mad getting good grades, and last year she caused me much stress because of this and i would cry myself to sleep each night. i just really hate this.
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I know what you mean completely. But if she's your best friend, I think you should support her, even if you don't agree with her. And if you feel uncomftorable with what she's telling you, address the subject to her. :D
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Once girls start dating their friendships
just aren't the same anymore. Its can be
sad if you let it get to you, but its also
normal.
You need to let her know that their are some
things she needs to keep private. I think it
is pretty tacky to tell your friends you
have been to third base. Most girls don't
want guys gossiping about them, yet some do
the same thing themselves. That should be
a private thing. Just between her and him.
So tell her you don't want to hear details
about her romance. You can talk about anything
else, just not that.
Do not feel pressured to get a boyfriend
just to be like everyone else. When the time
is right for you, you'll find someone. You
have it right that it is easy for a
relationship to take over the life of a person.
If you don't think your ready for the drama,
you're smart to wait!
The truth of it is that 9 times out of 10,
anyone you date in high school will not still
be around after high school. Some do make it,
most will not.
Just hang in there. Talk about other things
with her. Your relationship is going through
one of those changes all relationships go
through. You will stay friends but it won't
be the same as it was when you were younger.
Its all normal. Don't stress over it. :)
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