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Q: i gotta cutting problem im 15 and a gurl and a few of my friends are getting mad at me for it. ITs so hard not to cut though like when im cuttin i dont even care cuz im so mad and its gotton really bad. Like im afraid that one of these times im gonna get so madd im gonna end up killing myself cuz its like i just dont care but the next day i really regret doin it. I'v tried everything i could think of to stop but nothing works. SO my question is does anybody know ways to stop cutting

My friend had the same problem we tried to help her but you cant do it on your own. you need to get real help like from a psychatrist. Yout family and friends should be there to help you 110%!!i really hope you get better!

mucho love

Q: there is this song i have been searching for everywhere but i dont know the name only bits and pieces of it.

it says..

"even when your hustlin baby... and all those gold diggen women"

i know not much of a help!

Must Be Nice by Lyfe Jennings

Q: I've been having suicidel thoughts leatly, I think it's because I came to a conclusion that I'm a worthless nobody, I'm not good at anything and that I really have no reason to live ,no goal in life or will living.
Please give me some advice how to get this thoughts out of my head...

18 year old male

My friend used to have the same thoughts. She had these thoughts because at the time (we didnt know) she had depression. She was getting ready to hang herself until we finally realized that she needed help. I think thats what you should do, get help and dont kill yourself at all!!

much ♥
LiLA

Q: I've been trying to model for some time now and I just cant find any modeling companies!!! do u know of any websites of good modeling companies???? i rate high!!!

Oh my gosh!!you are going to have so much fun modeling!!((especially doing runway!!))

ok some websites are:
http://www.modelandactindetroit.com
(^^if you live in Michigan^^)

http://www.casting-call.us

http://exploretalent.com/

http://emodeling.com

http://proscout.com

I really hope i helped you!!and good luck!!

mucho love
LiLA

Q: So I posted a couple recent posts about what happend. And I think it's best if he and I go our seperate ways. I mean I love him and want to stay with him. But we are two different. We have different views on religion, and kids and hes younger, so we're really not on the same maturity level. Mom read some of our conversations and shes like Britt he's crazy. You need out of this. So I'm going to post some stuff and I want to know if he is.

[22:30] My Baby: k but i just got in a fight with grandma
[22:30] x_withoutu_x: what over?
[22:31] My Baby: religion
[22:31] My Baby: and i told her i would prolly kill myself before i turned 18
[22:32] x_withoutu_x: what did she say?
[22:32] My Baby: she thinks im kidding ill show her
[22:33] My Baby: im an athiast
[22:34] My Baby: there is no god
[22:35] My Baby: the bible is just a book nothing more than Harry Potter
[22:35] My Baby: are you reading this
[22:36] My Baby:
[22:36] x_withoutu_x: yes
[22:37] My Baby: what do you think
[22:37] My Baby: whats your opinon
[22:38] x_withoutu_x: I don't want to talk about it because we disagree and that would just cause an argument.
[22:38] My Baby: well id rather you stand up and talk instead sit there and let it go on
[22:39] My Baby: i think your leaving me
[22:39] My Baby: i know your trying to
[22:10] My Baby: im considering suicide
[22:12] x_withoutu_x: im back im gonna eat..trae stop it i love you
[22:13] x_withoutu_x: brb
[22:15] My Baby: i love you and im serious
[22:15] My Baby: i was about to stab myself last night
[22:28] My Baby: back yet

theirs some. If you need more just tell me.

you need to leave him. he seems like he dosent even care if you die..and you should be with someone who DOES care about him hes practically ignoring you..LEAVE HIM!before u get hurt even more then you are!

much love
Lila

Q: i don't mean to be nosey at all (you don't have to answer the question if you don't want to) but how long did your sister use that method of weight loss? like i said, i know it isn't the best route...but if i only did it for a little while and then ate regularly would my body be able to reaadjust?

At first she didnt over-do it and she would do it every other day and then it became more excessivly and did it every day..and then she would eat a bite of a NutriGrain bar and sometimes would eat nothing (this happened this year) and she still has trouble with it...your body would suffer if you do this on and off..so just think about like..excersise if you want to lose weight..i cant make you do anything you dont want to but..its safer..oh yeah and to answer your question she did it for 1 month then 3 months and then 6 months then got help..and by then she was 5'3 at 71LBS.
mucho love
if you have any more questions just ask!!
LiLA

Q: i've asked a lot of question about weight loss
but did anyone see the wrestling true life on mtv? not exactly what the title actually was, but with the kid that tricked his body into thinking that he was having three full meals, by having a piece of a power bar every few hours. does that actually work? i know it's not the healthiest route, but that if you starve yourself your body will go into starvation mode, and your metabolism slows down, etc, etc. would tricking your metabolism help you lose a ton of weight without like... dying?

thank you.

it does work..and i love that show!! but my sister did that after seeing that show...and i recomend not to do it..she was put in a rehabilitation center for weight problems..she became severly skinny and i dont think you should resort to this..get some help if you need to!!

hopess i helpedd!!

__lila

Q: i have a problem with a family member of mine and i'm thinking moving out, but im onli 15. i hate it wen people tells me that i shouldnt move out or that i should be put into foster care or something, i rather just handle everything on my own. but the problem is i dont have money to pay rent every month. i dont wanna drop out of school so i would realli appriciated if somebody can suggest a good job that i can work to help me move out, pay rent, and still be able to buy food and evrything else

first, i really dont think you should drop out of highschool my sister did and her life is a mess and its not worth it but if you are seriousley considering it then a lot of grocery stores and drug stores..there isnt much you can do with out a highschool education...i really hope i helped and i wish u lots of luck!!!

mucho ♥

lils

Q: I dont know what's wrong with me. To start off, all my life I've had this majorly bad anxiety problem. When I was around 2-3 years old, I stopped speaking to my dad completely. Looking back on it, I assumed it was because he had a bad temper, and I was just afraid...because after I stopped talking to him and he realized that I stopped talking to ONLY him, he threw me against a wall and shook me and screamed at me .. I dont know. Thats all I know. I have a mom, 2 sisters, and 2 brothers, all older than me. Everybody in my family knows what happened, but I dont remember what happened. I only remember up to the part where he picked me up and started shaking me. And its like I blocked out the rest of it or something... because I cant remember it at all.. and I know I was young but how come I remembered everything up to that point? It's like I blocked out the most traumatizing part... and i dont know why...

But after all that happened it took awhile for me to start speaking to my dad again, I went to counseling... my parents tried to use sympathy, bribary, forcefullness.. just to get me to speak to him, but nothing worked...and I was only a little kid...but then it started progressing. I started to be silent around not only my dad, but my entire dad's side of the family. Within a year or two, I began to speak to my dad again... but I still was silent with my dad's side of the family, and then I slowly started to stop talking to my mom's side of relatives...
Well, this problem still effects me today. I'm so quiet. With my friends it will take me a while to warm up, and with new people its difficult to get words out. I'm doing so much better, especially with people outside my family... but its still hard to live with.

so.. to get to the point...I'm 16 now... and what happened still affects me, even if I dont remember it. It's like I know exactly what happened but I'm blind to it. I cant explain it. I'll be distant from people. I talk okay to my dad now, everything is completely average in my home life. My dad's worked on his temper so everythings good. But yesterday at easter dinner at my grandmothers I was thinking about something. I'm still SO silent around that side of the family. I'll joke and laugh with them at times... but when it comes to my uncle on my dad's side, he kinda scares me, and i dont know why. He gets really close... and its not like my other uncles on my moms side who laugh and joke around with me. My dad's brother is just really strange...he'll hug me... but not normally... and he wont let go, and he'll hold me and play with my hair if he's standing behind me... so today after all these years of noticing this, I got up the courage and talked to my oldest sister about it all. She said she feels the same way around him and she wishes she could remember if something happened, and she told me that my other sister has said something about it before too. I asked her if anything had ever happened to them with him and she seemed hesitant... but she's like "i really cant remember..." and it felt weird because ... I don't know if something happened between me and my uncle. All my life I've been terrified of older men. That's one reason why I wonder. Another reason is why I went through years without talking... why I isolated myself from everyone but my mom, my brothers, and my sisters for the longest time... and that can't just be because of my father. Something had to have happened to make me stop talking to my dad's entire side of the family. Also, I never used to be silent around my dad's side...I used to talk non stop, like any other kid would. Then I just stopped. No one knew why... and I still don't know to this day why.

I have a boyfriend too, of course I was a little hesitant when we started to do sexual things. We've never had sex before but we've been together for almost a year on and off, and he still hasn't got me to orgasm. Im wondering. If I was molested when I was younger...[which im still trying to figure out] is it possible that me not orgasming with my boyfriend has something to do with that? I can orgasm fine on my own, but whenever I'm with him it doesnt work... we've tried.. and tried... and nothing works. Even if I blocked out what happened, do you think being molested would still affect me like this? EVen if I couldnt remember anything at all? I know something happened to me when I was younger... and its more than my dad throwing me against a wall. Its affecting me... and i blocked it out, just like I blocked it out when my dad beat me. I cant explain it.. I just know theres something about my past I dont know.

So please.. someone help if you have any information.
Is there any possible way I could have blocked it out?
Also, is there any way it can have an effect on my sexual life, since I havent orgasmed? He told me he got all his ex's off before...so its not him whose the problem... its me. Whats wrong with me?

im sorry this was so long.
ill rate. ill do anything. please just help me with this all.

i can relate, its funny because i have blocked out memories then out of no where ill remember it piece by piece..and i think you should talk to someone about your uncle..like your mom or brothers..they might know somthing..i think the attention thing was that you didnt want people to know what you thought..or atleast thats what happened to me..my parents were about to put me in a psychiatric (mental house) ward because i wouldnt talk...and my mom (shrink) said that being molested could affect your sexual life..i mean i cant even trust guys anymore..(yah, i was rapped 2times) but i hope things turn up for you:-) mucho love

LiLA

Q: My family and I own, 3 dogs. None of them have ever bothered this woman, nor her animals. Our past dogs might have, but not these.

A few minutes ago I herd someone shooting. So I walked out on porch and sure enough there she was aiming at our dogs or at least trying to scare them away. This has happened numerous times and since we live in a very rural area, there is no animal control. Nor, do the police care.

I went back in the house and told my parents. After that I walked back out on the porch and herd her say, "Next time you come in my yard, you'll be a dead dog!!". I mean, this woman is in her 70's. She has about two dozen cats and god knows that our dogs would NEVER bother them.

The last real problem we had out of her (or at least suspected her) was 4 of our dogs died. They were antifreeze poisoned and we strongly believed and still believe that it was her. This is beginning to be a problem and I, myself, can't solve it. Does anyone have any suggestions? It would be much appreciated.

Also- The gun she was shooting with was not a BB-gun.

WOW!
im soo sorry:-\ but i can relate..we had this psycho neighbor who did the same thing and my dad went and talked to her and it turned out she had issues and needed help so we called this mental place and they got her outta there..so i would recomend talking to her and if she dosent do anything then i would deffinatly call the police, i mean you say they dont care but they might actually care..

mucho love
lila

Q: How come your not supposed to pluck your eyebrows from the top part?

Never pluck the top of your eyebrows because as you get older, eyelids droop and you’ll need those hairs on top a few years from now.

http://www.centsofstyle.org/beautybootcamp.aspx

^^GOOD SITE=)^^

mucho lovee
lila

Q: What are some things that happen if you are pregnant within the first month or 2 that would tell you that you are pregnant?

Some of the first signs would be::
Tender or swollen breasts,fatigue, implantation bleeding, throwing up (blehh!),increased sensitivity to odors, food aversions, frequent urination, a missed period, your body tempurature will be like- incresedd, and youd probably want to take a pregnancy test to know for sure.

hopee i helped!!

mucho love
lila

Q: does any one know when laguna beach season 2 is gonna come out on dvd?

I L O V E T H A T S H O W ! !

yeah its supposed to come out july 20-somthing..i think the 24th ishh!! [[i cannot wait for itt!!]]

mucho love
lila

Q: Everytime I ask a question i get about 3 answeres and then at the bottom of the question this gets put:

Note:This question was deleted and will not be shown on general search pages.
If there is a reason entered by the moderator it will appear here:
This question was given the lowest rating by at least five level I moderators.

Why does it do that? What does it mean.?

5's for anything.

well i think this happenes because either you use bad language (lol swearing) or it gets rated bad..or atleast thats why one of mine got deleted!!

mucho love

lila

Q: Okay, So I need pics for simple fun hair styles. I'm sick of teh normal up, down, or curly!! Dont tell me to google it becuase i know i can do that but i want pics. uhhh I'm a 14 female if that helps any.

go to these links of pics:

http://www.short-hair-care.com/terrymediumshortsexy.jpg
(the one above is one link)

http://www.hair-styles.org/imageTTN.JPG

http://i.ivillage.com/17/_img_/beauty/hairguide/32tips/ai_be_bsc_32hair.jpg
(one link)

http://www.oliviahussey.com/images0004/funstuff/hairstyles/olivia11.jpg
(one link)

http://www.beautyriot.com/stuff/images/articles/approve/1920_1618_Alba-Jessica-120703-02-400-lo.jpg
(one link)

http://www.salondaily.com/image/us/trends/hairstyles/arrojo_falltrend05d.jpg
(one link)

http://www.hothair.co.uk/imgs_main/hothair_human_hair_extensions.jpg
(one link)

Q: Okay I really want to model and I need some advice on how I convince my mom ... I'd like to talk to her about it tomorrow sometime -- perferablly in the morning so I need advice NOWW!! Please just tell me the positives of it. Thanks so muchh =]

Wow! we can compare!

ok just be like mom:
i want to be a model, its my dream and i hope you can support it. and moms are usualy understanding so you should be good!!

muchooo loveee

lila

Q: I have always thought it would be a cool idea to have a movie theater that ran only horror movies. It would play new ones, old ones, all the classics (such as Rocky Horror Picture Show). I am just wondering what other people thought of this. Would anyone out there be interested in going to a horror theme theater

i think that is an amazingly brilliant idea!! i would for sure go to a movie theatre like that!
much love

lil

Q: Hey Im almost 14 and I still havent gotten my period yet. Is this normal?

yes it is! my sister didnt start getting hers until she was 16! everyone is different and its normal but dont freak out about it! youll get it soon enough!

Q: Ok so here's the story:
My grandma had a stroke about 4 months ago and recently went to hospital ffor gastritis. After she had the stroke for about 2 months she had to stay in a nursing home and then she came home. Now the problem is tonight her sugar is relly high but someone went for strong insulin so it'll go down.
Now here's the deal:
My uncle wants to put her back in a nursing home but I k now my grandma wouldn't want to be there. My mum, me, my aunt and everyone else in our family and relatives don't think it's a good idea because he's the only son, got all her wealth(which is alot) and now he doesn't want to take care of her. The problem is right...he doesn't take care of her...me and my mum and the babysitter takes care of her full time. We don't do it for money and we pay the babysitter to take care of the baby and her.
I don't know if it's a good idea for her to go in a place she doesn't like and now she's catchin back her senses and I don't want her to think we neglected her cause she look care of me and the baby as well as her kids and it will b e totally wrong. But on the other hand she might get better help and iff she gets sick they will have doctors and stuff! But I'm relly puzzled because I like her alot and I don't want her to stay there long!!!! I'm relly scared and confused! I duno if my uncle will leve her there forever or iff it's just to rejuvinate her? So if you can help me to make this decision and I'm sooooo sorry it's soooo long!!!!

Thanks for any help,
Trubled and confuzed!

DONT LET HIM DO IT!
my grandpa, was in the middle stage of developing alzheimers desise and my family thought it would be best for him. when we went to see him there was a big bruise on his head because he fell and no one was waching him. and before that we went to visit him and his diaper was full (he forgot how to use the bathroom) and we took him out of there, hired a personal nurse and he lived 3 months longer in our care then what the nursing home had said.

so i hope i gave you an idea of nursing homes. there not always the best desicion.

much love
lila

Q: i guess this goes in here.. but what are some good places to take like not exactly modeling but good pictures at?

Outside. Outside there is good lighting and a nice scene, like by trees and bodies of rivers, or (if you are a model..?), you could get professional pictures, they have different backrounds you can chose from!

good luck!!

much love
lila