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Hi guys! I'm 16/female, and gave dirty blonde hair, and was wanting to use a trick I recently heard of to make it blonder, by adding lemon judge and water to my hair. From where I heard, they said to leave it in your hair and stay in the sun for 30-60 minutes, then condition out. Is the conditioning necuessary? Because if I get out in the sun, I would most likely be with friends, and not get the chance to condition out till the next morning modst likely. Would it still be good to use, or should I not do it? I don't really see why it has to be conditioned out in the first place. (link)
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I have tried this before and I have never conditioned out, I either rinsed it out with water or washed it out with shampoo, I believe that It'll still be good, but lemon juice can be really damaging on hair, I guess that is why you would condition it out. I say don't leave it in that long to prevent damaged hair, Good Luck on getting blonder hair!
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I am a 21 year old female university student and my parents really just won't leave me alone! I have a curfew of 12 o clock according to them, but if I ever go out they send me messages and call constantly asking when I'll be back, well before 12. I suppose the motivation behind this question goes back to an hour ago, I asked permission to go to the mall with my friends and my father said no that its too dangerous. I've spoken to them many times about this and at the time they agree that I would have some space but they never follow through. This is making me really miserable, and I just want them to understand that I'm an adult and want to have my own life. What could I do to make them let go? (link)
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I think you should talk to them about being less involved in your life. You should show them that you can take care of yourself. they are most likely only afraid of losing there little girl, and I'm sure that deep down inside your scared to live on your own and be without your parents. I think you should meet them half way. Talk to them and Good Luck!
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When I go to the doctor I want to know what they ask because if they are going to tell my mom I play with myself I am not going for any reason until I live on my own. Please help! (link)
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All the doctors I have went to have never asked that so I believe that you are safe. But most likely they are just gonna assume that you do, because most teens and adults do, so there isn't any shame if you do and people find out because most likely the doctor that is asking you also does. If they do you can tell them its none of their business. Go to the doctors because it will be good for you in the long run, and Good Luck!
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Hello I'm McKenzie and in the 5th Grade. I usually wear comfy clothes, laid back, ect. Which I don't mind wearing. Despite me having a ton of good dressy clothes. But every once in a while I want to look good and I guess care a little more. I'm a tomboy but I don't think it hurts too dress ok every once and a while. But the problem is if you wear comfy clothes at my school your expected to always wear them. If you wear dress clothes you are expected and so on.
And if not your mocked. I don't mind but I usually just wear my regular clothes because I get tired of hearing people say " What are you wearing "!?? .
Then laughing. Even if it was from W-Mart to Prada
Why do you think people laugh when you wear something fancier or more laid back depending?
Even if ITs for the better.? (link)
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You can make you walmart clothes work just match them properly and add different accesseries like scarfs and headbands. Also try looking through hand me downs that might fit you and tailor them a bit. I think mixing and matching is the key to fashion. Wear what you like and feel comfortable in no matter what anyone else thinks. Most of my clothes are from the thrift store and I'm a pretty fashionable person. You can also get inspiration from tv shows and magazines. I wish you good luck!
I think that people might not accept change at first, no one really does but what they think doesn't matter, no one should laugh at what you wear, so wear what you want!
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I am seeking suggestions for activities I can do around the house to keep myself entertained and stimulated. I am 23 years young. I will be 24 in May. Please and thank you :) (link)
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Here is a list of things you can do:
Clean your house
Redecorate you house
Take up blogging
Try some DIY's you may find on YouTube
Get a job, if you already have one get another one
Read a book
Write a story
Gardening
Visit friends and family
Babysit
Cook some new recipes
Organize
Go for a walk
Listen to music
Watch a movie or a tv series
I hope these are some helpful decisions for you, there are plenty more out there that you can do around the house, you have to just search for them.
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I've been a straight A student all my life but have gotten Bs on my social studies report card 3 times. People all talk about my grades and rub it in my face that i got a single B. People have said that I'm a dumb wast of air. Although I'm smart and get good grades most of the time, I'm made fun of for 89s in social studies. I pay attention in class and study but I cant get an A. Help? (link)
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Most of the people that are making fun of you most likely have never seen you get this low of a grade. They also rather focus on yours because their grades are probably worse than yours. If you are serious about getting that grade up try to get get from the teacher or get a tutor. My honest opinion is that you shouldn't worry about it, it's only an 89 and its not going to ruin you chances on getting into a good college, unless it continues to drop, but they seems very unlikely. You seem like a very smart girl and you most certainly get very far in life and become very successful. Don't let what other people say bother you, most likely they are just jealous of how smart you really are, and Good Luck!!
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I've cut my daily calorie intake from 4000 to 1500, I'm drinking lots of water and green tea every day (they're the only beverages I drink now), I've cut out crisps, chocolate, cakes, and all forms of junk food. I exercise for 30 minutes a day. I've been doing this for 10 days so why haven't I lost any weight? (link)
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If you are really serious on losing weight then start eating lots of fruits and vegetables. Exercise at least an hour a day. Try this for multiple weeks to a month and you should see some weight loss happen. Good luck!
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hi! im 19 years of age and i am a girl.I truly love my boyfriend more than anything else in this world.i love spending time with him.i spend most of my time everyday with him.we are always together.is it healthy to spend too much time with your boyfriend making love and etc? should I give him some space? (link)
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I think that you should ask him what he thinks about how much time you spend together. I have a similar relationship, we live together, I'm 17 while he is 19. I'm a very independent person while he is extremely dependent on me, we both understand that in each other. We find things we enjoy and have some time a part every day. You have to ask yourself if you feel like spending too much time with your boyfriend is a problem for you. Just remember during your relationship don't ignore your friends and family spend time with them just as well as your boyfriend. Also I do thing spending every waking moment with someone can make a person sick of being around them and they end up getting in lots of fights and they end up breaking up. I don't knowe how long you guys have been together but we have been together for over 6 months. Give him a little bit of space and hang out with some friends it'll be good for the both of you. Good luck!
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hey, so I met this girl a few months ago, and we've been dating. the only problem is, we live about 2 hours away. I love making her happy, so I was wondering something I could text her to make her day, that would make us love each other even more (kind of impossible though) I'm 14 and I'm a guy, so i would mind a girl around my age's advice please :) (link)
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I'm 17. I think that you should just tell her how much you love her. Send her cute pictures, and poems, best if you are the creating them but any will work. To be honest, you are fourteen and you met this girl a few months ago and even though you may think that she is your soul mate, if she breaks up with you don't take it so hard because there will be plenty of heartbreaks to come, I think the best thing, with a guy your age is to keep the girl as a friend and maybe you can rekindle the relationship later down the road. I know this was more than you asked for but I hope that I have made some sort of a difference in your life, Good luck with you girlfriend and I hope that you guys will stay together through all of the rough times!
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im 18 and his 30. hes married and soon going to be a father too. hes my college teacher. 2 months ago we started talking. and we talk like best best friends. recently he started saying i loveyou. even i say it.but for me its in a best friend manner. i like him. every girl in college does. we flirt too but its just for fun. he has dropped me home twice. yesterday we went for a long drive and while coming he held my hand for about 3-4 mins as he was driving. he dropped me home. and later he texted me saying that "i wanted to hug u". and his next message was im not sure whether its right or not. then later while coming back home we were quiet fr sumtym. so he texted me sayn that "i think we were quiet because we both wanted to come close to each other. i may be wrong also" i replied saying i dnt think that this is the reason for the silence.he then was like im eally sorry for that msg. im feeling bad. im feeling akward and so on. i dont know wether i shud trust him or not.i dont know whats goin on in his head. please help (link)
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I don't think you should trust him, because most likely he doesn't have any actual feelings for you. I feel that he may be scared on what is coming and he doesn't know how to face it. I may also be wrong, haha, I'm only human. I think that you should be more of a helping hand to where he should or wants to be in his new family. You should also get to know his a little bit more to find out what his intentinos are in his new family and friendship with you. He could be cheating on his wife and maybe he just wishes he was single because he doesn't want responsablity. Tell him to be careful If his wife catches him cheating he might lose her and his baby, also he might be turned into the police for being a petaphile if people get the wrong idea, unless that is his intention to begin with, then maybe you should stay away from him. Please consider my advice and good luck!
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My girlfriend wants me to finger her, but I don't know how to transition from kissing to start touching her. (link)
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I think you should ask yourself if you really want to do this. Then ask her if you guys can take thinks slow. Start off small and work your way to the bigger things. If you are feel uncomfortable with something then stop and go to a smaller thing or stop and try again later. Being honest with you girlfriend is the key to your relationship, so you should talk to her about it. Ask her how she feels about things as well. A relationship is for two people not just one you have to meet them half way. Try your best to do what she wants without feeling too uncomfortable. Start to kiss her in other places, and while you kiss her caress her face and arm, ect. I hope I have helped you, and if not I tried my best to do so. I wish you goodluck!
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(Not quite sure if i put this in the right category, sorry!)
Okay so this past summer, i became close with an older guy, he was 18 and graduated and i was 14 and getting ready to enter high school. He began asking me inappropriate things, such as if i touch myself, and if i've ever thought about being with a guy sexually, etc. I was (and still am) a very anxious person, and was too afraid to tell him that he was making me uncomfortable, and played along instead. He began getting more and more inappropriate as the weeks went on, admitting to liking me in a more than a friend way (which i usually wouldn't have had a problem with, had he behaved differently) and in the heat of the moment in a conversation about bsdm, he offered that if i was ever curious about that, he'd be glad to try it with me, and even tried to kiss me once (note that since i had a problem with telling him no, he had asked me the day before if i would be okay with it, and i had agreed to it) and said that he wanted to go father than just a kiss, saying things like "If i get to do what i want tomorrow, i bet you won't be able to keep quiet ;)" and "We can start small, and see where that takes us" and also keep in mind that while i was against all of this, he had no idea and thought that i was okay with it. The few people that i've told about this have said that he was still behaving inappropriately, as he is a grown man and i am a minor who is much younger than him, and that he shouldn't have made those sexual advances to begin with, but i still think that it was really my fault for allowing him to keep going, and that it makes what he did okay. What do you guys think? (note that he never touched me, only spoke of it and told me he was going to, but he left for the army before he could do so. He did try to kiss me but stopped when my mom came back inside the house) (link)
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I think that the only reason why he's talking to you is because he wants sex. I think you should have told him to back off and threatened to call the police. It is illegal to be in a romantic relationship with someone under the age of sixteen and until both parties are eighteen or old they can only be a year a part. What he was doing was only considered sexual harassment unless you guys were in a relationship, if he did anything to you he then he could have been convicted as a pedophile, if he had raped you, then a rapist. I think that you should tell you parents about this, because he could still go to jail for this, with the proper lawyer. I had went through something similar to this. I was also fourteen, but the guy was twenty one. He was hitting on my former friend that was a year or two younger, and my sister a year and a half older than I. My sister won't stand up for herself so she ended up giving the guy my cell number. I don't like telling people off but I did a little but it never did anything to stop any of it so I just ignored his texts. He still continued to text me. I got fearious and yelled at my sister and told my mother. Later that week our phone were taken into private investigation for a year, but then the case was dropped because my mother didn't want it to take as long as it had. So my advice to you is to talk to you parents and a therapist about this, I hope my knowledge has kept you better informed, and take my other advice if you come into this situation again, and goodluck!
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I have a question about Christianity my religion or how people react.
I'm Christian and I always will be, a lot of people say gay is a sin. I believe otherwise. I try to explain that is isn't or even if it was God can forgive you. But it just hasn't helped they don't accept gays, some call me gay which I'm not because
I acaccept them. Which I put it aside if they hate them and move on. Some people say I'm not christian because I support homosexuals. Or becuase our beliefs differ.
Ok ivde heard that the bible says homosexuals are sins.
What verse is this supposedly in. I know it doesn't say its wrong just wanna see where people think it says it. So maybe I can retranslate it to what it was supposed to be interpreted (link)
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Hey, I am also a Christian and I will always be. I have different beliefs than what is taught at church and I don't really go because they are always judging me. If they are really Christians then they should not judge, because God is the only person that should be judging. They shouldn't be judging what others have done in the past. If they are judging others or accusing you of being Gay then it doesn't look like they are doing their past as Christians. You could take a stand and preach what you believe or you can find another church and Christian friend that aren't going to judge you and support what you preach. I am a lone Christian, which means I practice my beliefs my own way. Try some of those things and I hope I have helped you! :)
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I have a HUGE crush on this guy at my school. He asked out my best friend and he asked her out twice. I really want him to ask me out instead even though she is my besty. what should I do? Thanks for your help! (link)
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I think you should get to know him better as a friend before you actually get into a relationship with him or ask him out. Find out if he likes you, and who he likes. Also try to get to know his friends, because if you guys are going to be dating you will have to get along with their friend as well as yours. Make sure he is a trust worthy guy that isn't going to flirt with your best friend while you guys are dating. If you are a shy person most likely you will have to make a bold statement, try to impress him and get his attention. Also, find things in common with the guy first. Even if he doesn't see you as girlfriend material at first, later down the road he might, if you keep the guy close to you in your life. I hope that my advice will help you, and I hope for the best, good luck!
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ive been pretty depressed for a while... i got my first bf in feb. 2014 and we broke up last week. also my frinds started fighting and hating eachother. i lost my only 5 frinds that i had made since 1rst grade. i started getting bad grades on my report cards and im getting made fun of for it. im just 10 years old but i cut myself and hav suicidal thoughts... please give me advice. (link)
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You are ten years old and have a long life ahead of you and you should not be having suicidal thoughts. In my life, I have noticed that friends will come and go and as you get old most of your friend will turn against you, sad to say. But there is a way for you to get you friends back. I don't know what you have done to have lost them or if anything at all. You should talk to them and ask them why they left you. If you haven't done anything wrong that you know of then tell them, but if you don't talk to them you will not know why they aren't talking to you. You could be sending a vide that doesn't quite fit with them, be more open. Your friend could just need a little bit of space as well. You should try to make new friends. You will have a ton of break ups in your life so don't let your first break up get in down. Just think about how great it'll feel when you have finally found the one that you are going to marry, 10, 20, years down the road. Don't let your bullies get the best of you, ignore them and understand that what other people say to you shouldn't matter, it only matters what you think of yourself. If the bullying get way out of hand then you should tell a teacher or the principal and if they are doing their job correctly then it should be taken care of. Your depression can make every small problem turn into a big one, and most likely the cause of your bad grades. Prove to everyone how smart you are. You are beautiful inside and out, don't let you depression strike you down, rise above all the bad things that has happened in your life and prove to everyone how much of a strong person you can be and how you can become successful even though you've has a rough life. The thing that might help is joining group or club at school, get more involved in your school. Find something that interests you and just do it. Make goals in your life big and small, and then try you best to complete them. I think you should talk to your parents more about what is going on, even though you might think that they don't understand, they do and they care a lot about you, and most importantly they do help. Spend more time with your family members as well, being with others that care about you will help your mood a lot. I think also that you should talk to a therapist if you are having bad suicidal thoughts. You are worth more than you know and just know that I care about you and don't want you to be suffering or do anything stupid. I hope my advice can help you and I will keep you in my prayers! :)
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