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im going to get a kitten
i live in huntington beach,near garden grove,cypress and cities like that
but i dont know where i can find one
i was a cute girl kitten,maybe a calico
Kijiji IS AWSOME! You can find anything there, and most important you'll be able to adopt a kitten from someone or find people arounf where you are who breed. Good Luck!
Hey i feel so embarrassed here but i really need your help... i am 19 years old 20 in December and i cant have sex...i have a boyfriend that is really understanding and helpful we are together nearly one year but i don't expect him to stay around and wait for me. Last year i was diagnosed with P.O.F(Premature Ovarian Failure). I feel that i am not normal but i really do try to have sex. The pain is unreal when we are about to have sex. I get totally embarrassed and just turn away i dont know what to do?
When i was 16 years of age i was forced to have sex with two older men. I am wondering could this be affecting me now??? I am to afraid to mention this to my doctor.
Please say you can give me a 'cure' i am cracking up now.
Thanks so much for reading this. XxX
Hi, it is best that you tell your doctor about what happened to you when you were 16. About having sex, have you tried different positions, or other things like foreplay. For some reason for like 6 months I would get this really strong pain around where my ovaries are everytime I had sex. this happened mostly during doggy style. I found that I got very tenses becasue I thought it would always hurt. If you can feel more relaxed and maybe even take it very slow for a while you can enjoy it. I don't know what it is like to have POF but I hope I helped. Have you asked your doctor if there is any type of position that will make it more comfortable for you. Also don't be afraid of talking to your doctor. Its there job and everything is confidential. Hope I helped, Good Luck!
OK, I have a question.
Do people flirt with the opposite sex even when they dont like them..?
Definately! Its just in some peoples personality. They do it because they are really outoing and friendly, and it just happends!
so me and my boyfriend are 17 and we have been dating for three years. I really love him and we both think it is time for the next step. I want to give him head, but do not know how. How do i give him a blow job, what is the process? I have a pretty small mouth, is that a problem?
First thing you MUST remember is ReLaX! if you are thinking about what you are doing, neither of you will enjoy it and its gonna suck. Just put it in your mouth and go with the flow. They do like it WET and they like when you use your tongue; not in any perticular way, just use it. don't think that you HAVE to have it in your mouth at all times. its ok if you switch it up and lick him or use your hands in between. Another thing is that if you are grossed out or do not think your ready, don't do it. You'll get uncomfortable and might be too afraid to do it again. So just rememeber, Be confortable and relax. Pretend its a popsicle-literally...good luck, and play safe...
17/f.
bf is 18
hi...i need some advice =].. my whole life i've let my mom intimidate me and control it... when she feels like she loses control of me she goes on a rampage.. a couple of months ago, my bf and my mom had an encounter... she was talking and he just walked out... from that day on she dOESNT want me with him. but i care for him alot.. we been through alot of things even though we've only been dating for 6 months... what should i do? i stood up to her, and told her i was still dating him... she was mighty pissed... but i cant let her run my life forever... any advice?
Well i'm with you, its your life and as long as your not doing anything stupid she should be able to trust you...unfortunately parents arent that easy. If she is stubborn she is going to keep insisting you break up with him. try to keep your relationship with your bf and your relationship with your mom. But do let her know that you care about him and want her to give him another chance on behalf of your happiness. as long as she knows in the back of her mind that you try to respect her as your mother she may still try to control you but in the end (it may take weeks or months) she will realise that you are happy and she is going to have to deal with it. I can't give you advice on how to make her less controlling, shes been doing it for 17 years a couple of words isn''t going to change her mind. But be strong and don't stress out. Just remember she is your mother she will always love you so she kinda has to accept your decisions. You just can't give up and continue to be respectful to her.
15/f
ive been trying to make more friends lately and..i suppose it's working. people are noticing me and i am talking more. however i have one BIG FEAR when it comes to talking 1 v 1...running out of things to say, and it seems to be so much harder to talk to people in high school because one day someone might be receptive, one day they aren't. or you might talk to someone who will turn around and start gossipping about you.
i feel like nobody talks about their interests anymore, it's always "she did this" and "he did that". and if there happens to be a (non-funny) convo about interests that dont involve gossipping (or the presidential elections..lol) the convo usually dies after like a minute or two.
i want to talk about something but at the same time..sound cool but not cool as in "im just passing time with you" but cool as in..not desperate for friends...help?
Well, good friendships are ones that do not have "awkward silences" Meaning if everything is quiet it isn't weird its just normal. I always found it hard to talk about my interests because they were different then others. But when you do find a topic that two people agree on it should be easy to just Talk about it. If you are talking about things you don't like or don't kow much about obviously it won't last long. And, its alwasy easy to talk about other people, or teachers, or the classess you guys are taking together or next semester, or grades. Don't talk about others if it isn't someone you trust, but when you do find a good group of friends who have things in common with you, you'll feel comfortable and talking will be easy. It's highschool and its good that you are trying to open up, just be yourself and by the way. its better to have a couple of REALLY good friends (who will stick by you) than have a bunch of friends who you don't really know and won't stick by you during those awkward silences. Hope I helped and if I didn't Im sorry!
hi well this is about me & my boyfriend.. we both have trust issues..but weve been dating 7 months so we trust each other with everything..but im very paranoid bout him going thru my phone..bc, well my parents split up & now my mom & i are dirt poor, & i cant afford my phone. so, im REALLLY not proud of this, but i send this guy..pictures..& he pays my bills. so he text me last night saying "hey sunshine" & my bf saw it..& he kept asking who that text was from & i was drunk so i said idk then i deleted it. & then he saw i deleted it..& now he says he doesnt trust me anymore bc of me not telling him (he doesnt know about the pics..) & i feel so hurt bc he doesnt trust me anymore (but i would feel the same if the roles were reversed) but i dont have any money and i dont consider it cheating bc idk this person, theyre on another coast, & i have NO feelings for him. but it kills me inside whenever i do it & i want to regain my bfs trust but i just dont know what to do..about any of it..please help??
If you and your boyfriend hae been dating for 7 months and you trust him, you should be comfortable enough to let him know that you are and your mom are not doing the best financially. He is not going to trust you until you tell him the truth about what happened. Unless he forgets about it, and if I were him i couldnt forget about something like that. If he gets angry at you, tell him you were desperate, but if he forgives you but asks you not to take more pictures, JUST DON"T. your cell isnt THAT important. My parents split up in January, my dad left us with a $20,000 visa to pay, the car and more. And he doesnt help us with a cent. I am now putting my studies behind because of how much things change financially. Sh!T happends and its unfortunate and it sucks but all you can do is make the best of it. Be thankful that you still have a roof over your head, internet and food on the table. just be considerate and don't keep things from the person you are with because all it will do is cause problems. Be truthful! Hope I helped. And Sorry if I didn't. I wish you all the best!!!
BeLLe!
hi everyone!!!!!
next week our school is having a costume day.
i have to wear either a dress or skirt that goes to my knees.
any ideas on costumes? i dont want to wear a costumey costume, but like one with regular clothes and ears or a hat.
if anyone knows where i could get skirts that would go with a costume it would be great.
thanx so much!
xox
how about a referee....black skirt, striped top...and any black books or knee highs will do...
can my pussy get screwed up after fingering? please help me know.
the only way to "screw up" your privates would be if he were rough and hurt you, or used something on his fingers that created an infection. Basicly if anything got in that isnt supposed to be there it can cause an infection, and if he were rough and hurting you you should of stopped him, other than that you will be "looser" as you continue to be engaged in any type of vaginal intercourse but nothing that is abnormal should be happening. (a little bleeding if it was your first time MAYBE) i hope everything is okay, and i hope i helped
OK. this is kinda long, BUT I NEED HELP!!! I've had this gf for about two months now and we've had sex and all, but shes kinda 'picky' i guess you could say.
Like:
She dont like me too look at her
She dont want it from behind (just front)
She dont like me to take off her clothes
She dont want me fingering her/eating her out
She dont like being on top.
plus some more....
but im an extrememly slow typer, and this isnt working out for me. lol.
but yeah
i guess my question is,
why is she like that? and how do you get her to like new things? She says she doesnt like to feel uncomfortable, but i wanna know how to tell her to more things with me. I was a virgin until i went out with her, and i wanna try new things.
I dont wanna sound like a jerk, but she was raped not too long ago at a party, and i was wondering...could that be why?
I definatly think the rape is adding to the problem. She sounds to me like she isnt confortable. If she wants to move slower with the relationship support her and do things she may like, like cuddling or kissing her. If she just doesnt want to do certain things just give her time, when she comes out and becomes more confortable with you things will change. She needs to know that you are having sex with her because your really care about her not because you just want to. the @$$hole who raped her did it out of selfishness and needs to know that sex is not just for the guy, do things that she will enjoy like kissing her while having sex and holding her and caressing her. Also if she ever says i don't what to do this, don't be afraid to ask why and try to understand her point of view, also don't be afraid to try new things that may help her situation. For example having sex doggie style feels good and its from behind so you dont need to look at her.
What is the difference between having you penis circumcised and uncircumcised? And why is it done?
Many times it is a tradition in the family or religiously like Jewish people, but some people do it becuase once a boy is circumsized the forskin of the penis is removed. This is cleaner for the boy becuase if he is not circumsized he needs to pull back the forskin and clean everywhere when he is in the shower, and circumsizing the penis just keeps it cleaner.
Well, my parents never flat out explain things... so I'm hoping you can help.
1. I know guys can be horny..can girls?
2. What does it mean for a girl to "get wet"?
3. Is it actually normal for guys to get horny? If so.. is it a daily thing, or only for someone/sometime special?
4. Hold old are most guys when they start getting wet dreams?
5. How common is masturbating? Do girls masturbate too?
Girls also get horny
When a girl becomes horny she will discharge ALOT and lubricate her vagina, kind of like a guy ejaculating but women don't have seamen just the slimy stuff
Guys get horny and its common, sometimes a guy will wakeup and his penis will be hard, they just have a really large sex drive.
Young
Yes everyone has atleast tried it and apparently it is healthy to masturbate atleast a couple a times a week.
well i guess this isnt really sex, but it was close enough haha.
alright so recently i got fingered for the first time by my boyfriend that i realllly like a lot, but the problem is i dont see wht the big deal is. like i dont really seem to enjoy it. It feels weird, even. like it doesnt feel good, like people say it does. i dont know if its because its the first time ive ever done anything like that and i need to just get used to it, or if hes doing something wrong.
and im really like sexually attracted to him, so thats not the problem
please please help, i would really appreciate it :)
14/f
Because it was your first time you probably were nervous or a little uncomfortable making your body tense. Just relax, also if he is to rough don't be afraid to guide him and show him what you like, experament yourself so you know what you like. Also don't think you have to rush into anything, first become comfortable with yourself and take your time, if you rush into thinks you might find yourself bored, have fun with the little things like kissing and touching and when you move into a step like fingering you will be much more comfortable.
when my boyfriend feels me up sometimes i get cold and you know what happens. well do guys like that? or do they find it unattractive.thanks
Your nipples get hard when you are cold or turned on, so its totally fine, your guy will probably get even more excited cuz your body is telling him that hes doing something right.
so i shave my "down below" because i hate hair. and i do but there is still like little black ones that you can see and it grows back in like two seconds. is there anyway that you can get the hair all the way off and keep it that way longer? thankss
I Totally agree... Waxing is the best thing, it hurts when you start but then you get used to it and it lasts longer and looks cleaner unlike shaving.
my boyfriend of 2 years and i recently just started having sex. we bought condoms, and he still pulls out before he comes to be extra careful. however, i'm still paranoid. i want to go on birth control but i DO NOT want to tell my mom. she would freak out and probably forbid me from seeing my boyfriend. (my whole family has waited until marriage) so i was wondering how i could get birth control without actually going through my mom who would in turn go through my doctor. also, are there any other options besides the actual pill? i've been told it costs about $35 dollars through planned parenthood .. thanks!
There are actual places that basically just cell Birth control, you should still go through your doctor and get a pap test done yearly now since you are sexually active. The birth control centers are very affordable and your doctor will probably be able to recommend a specific brand and a place where you can buy it. Your doctor has to keep your business confidential, she cannot call your mother and tell her what is going on. Call and book an appointment for yourself your doctor will FOR SURE be able to give you the specifics. By the way im really glad to hear you guys waited a while before having sex and just becuase you might go on birth control doesnt mean your 100% safe, he should still always use a condom!
im 17/f and i was wondering how i could tell if my boyfriend was curcumsized like becuase i give him head and stuff, i was wondering how can i tell?
If he had a forskin, which is basically skin that overlaps the tip of the penis he is not circumsized. When he is hard his skin is pulled back and the tip of his penis is exposed but when he is not hard you can tell becuase his tip will always be exposed.
is it possible that i'm pregnant? me and my boyfriend always have safe sex. the condom NEVER breaks and we always check if it broke or not. but yesterday night, when we were doing it. the condom broke. it didn't break when it was inside of me, it broke near my vagina. when he hit my lip.. well i call it "lips" cause it looks like it, it hit my lip, then i broke. but he told me he did cum or anything, not even a little bit. he told me not to worry because he's positive that i'm not pregnant and because he's a safe boyfriend. but i HAVE to make sure.. am i pregnant? what should i do?
Everybody discharges sometimes, even guys, he may of pre-ejaculated and so there could be some traces of seamen near your vagina and there is a slight chance that some slipped inside of you and made its way all the way up to your ovaries (not very likely though) you are right for being concerned, but don't stress yourself because stress may cause your period to be late and give you a big scare. if you are due for your period in a week or two just wait for it and you will most likely not be prregnant, now if you just came off your period i would just buy a pregnancy test in a week or two and find out for myself. A good thing to do after sex is to pee, it cleans you out of something, point is, if you cleaned yourself and peed after you had sex there is a good chance that you cleaned away any discharge that may of leaked near your vagina. Just stay clean and don't worry yourself. I had a bad scare once and it made my period VERY late, so stay calm because you probably arent pregnant.
Ok, so about a month ago, my boyfriend was fingering me, and it was good, he didn't do it too hard or anything, but, since then, it sometimes hurts to go to the bathroom, and it smells really weird. I wash alot and stuff, but, I don't know what it is, or if it is even from that. I can't just tell my mom. I'd be screwed. But, a little before that, I went to the doctors, and I have an ovarian cyst, and I was wondering if that might have something to do with it. Thanks :]
I don't think it has anything to do with your boyfriend. After you have any sexual relation with someone you should use the washroom and clean up. Especialy if there was vaginal stimulation, most women find that they have to pee, if you didnt feel this way, its okay go to washroom anyway. It is said that peeing is a good thing to do afterwards. Don't be afraid to tell your mother, she doesnt need to know what happened with your boyfriend, also if you are alone with your doctor and feel it is important to tell her/him, your doctor has to keep it confidetial. So don't be afraid just take care of yourself and don't be afradi of telling your doctor or mother. Its better you find out whats wrong and get it fixed then to not find out and it become worse.
okay so last night i gave this guy a blow job and he didn't skeet? did i do it wrong? and also he fingered me a lot and it hurt so bad and didn't feel good at all .. is this normal?
So I'm going to start off by telling you that if the guy knows what he is doing, geting fingered should NOT hurt, he may of been too rough or doing something your not comfortable with. The best way to know what you like is experimenting yourself and next time you can lead him. Don't be afraid of telling him what you like or dont like. About the blowjob, I agree with the other peoples advice. He may of not wanted to go in your mouth or he doesnt get SUPER off on it. If you really are worried that you werent good at it try different techniques. Being gentle goes a long way, don't be too rough and use your tongue, also the more saliva the slippier and the smootehr it is, meaning they like it more. Anotehr tip would be use your hand while your giving him head. I hope I helped, stay safe!