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19 year old girl. Cant have SEX......
Hey i feel so embarrassed here but i really need your help... i am 19 years old 20 in December and i cant have sex...i have a boyfriend that is really understanding and helpful we are together nearly one year but i don't expect him to stay around and wait for me. Last year i was diagnosed with P.O.F(Premature Ovarian Failure). I feel that i am not normal but i really do try to have sex. The pain is unreal when we are about to have sex. I get totally embarrassed and just turn away i dont know what to do?
When i was 16 years of age i was forced to have sex with two older men. I am wondering could this be affecting me now??? I am to afraid to mention this to my doctor.
Please say you can give me a 'cure' i am cracking up now.
Thanks so much for reading this. XxX
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Thank you so much for your help. I think i am over what happened to me when i was 16. Well i keep telling myself i am over it. I hope i can overcome this not because im dying to have sex. I really just want to be normal and have a good life and feel good about myself.Thanks so much. If anyone has any more info please post it. XxX
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Yes you deffinitly need to talk to your doctor about this although you might not want to but he could have a way of letting you be able to have sex if he knows whats going on. It obviously affected you mentally and physically as well. So if you really want to have sex with your boyfriend I would talk to your doctor about what happened in your past. Or maybe a psychologist could help.
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Although what happened to you is a tragedy, and may have affected you mentally, I don't think the physical pain has anything to do with it. Talk to your doctor about any type of pain medication you can use so that you can have sex. I know it seems a little extreme but if it is something you want to do, you should look into it. Also, have you tried oral sex? You and your boy friend can "give" and "receive" and nothing has to actually enter your vaginal track. Oral sexual stimulation can all be achieved around the clitoris area.
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Hi, it is best that you tell your doctor about what happened to you when you were 16. About having sex, have you tried different positions, or other things like foreplay. For some reason for like 6 months I would get this really strong pain around where my ovaries are everytime I had sex. this happened mostly during doggy style. I found that I got very tenses becasue I thought it would always hurt. If you can feel more relaxed and maybe even take it very slow for a while you can enjoy it. I don't know what it is like to have POF but I hope I helped. Have you asked your doctor if there is any type of position that will make it more comfortable for you. Also don't be afraid of talking to your doctor. Its there job and everything is confidential. Hope I helped, Good Luck!
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I am afraid I cannot give you a cure. I am very sorry for what happened to you when you were young, and you really should tell your doctor about it. If that does have something to do with what you are feeling now, then perhaps a psychologist will be able to help you. However, you said your boyfriend is understanding, if he does leave just because of this, then he is obviously not understanding, and is not the right person for you. There are plenty of things that couples can do together that do not involve sex, sexual or not. But none of those should be the focus of a relationship. If there isn't something deeper there, that can survive a lack of sex, then it probably would not be able to survive real hardship.
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