Hey, im 16f.
You know how when you have a best friend and you tell eachother you will never let a guy come between your friendship? Well, what if your 'friend' totally dumped you as a friend for a guy... and on top of that, this guy she dumped you for is your brother! .. :/ What would you do? Obviously she never was my friend to begin with if she would do this.
i can understand your sitution but let it go she will start talking to you soon.
keepin it real
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okay my bf broke up with me not even a month ago. i was devastated and under the circumstances that he was telling me i shoulda said fuck you, but i stayed around and i messed around with him even though he had another gf already. bc he said he 'still loved me' B.S. right? i didnt know whether it was or not. his best friend tyler begain talking to me after he broke up with me. he told me that he has had a crush on me. i told my ex and he got really pissed (the purpose of telling him). but as i talked to tyler i learned he cheated on me 3 tiems while we were datng and he is tellling me all theis stuff about my ex that i didnt know and it pissed me off. do you think he maybe exagerateing bc he likes m e or telling me the truth. im kind of in the middle because i don't really know/.
okay if you two have broke up then why are you telling him what other people is saying? and then your ex bestg friend got an thing for you so on that sitution you need to follow your heart on that.
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Hi! ok so i'll just get to it.. i had my period from sunday dec. 21 until fri. dec 26. and ok so that was that. and now its dec 31. and all of a sudden i have started bleeding again.. not a lot but a little and im having cramps too. i dont know if its normal for that to be happening.. its never happened before. and im not sure why it is.. any thoughts on what could be happening? should i go see a doctor? i figured i didnt need to see a doctor if it stopped . and its only been 1 day.. but still not sure whats really going on.. any ideas? thanks!
that happens sometimes when your cycle changes so there really nothing to worry about unless you are sexual active then it can be that you are pregnact but before you get scare wait tell next month and see if you come down okay.
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My boyfriend doesnt call me when I ask him too. He always yells at me about something. He hurts my feelings 24/7 and expects me to wait on him hand and foot. I do everything for him and yet that still isnt enough. everything he has iv bought it. I feel worthless and I get stressed out with him and we get into screaming fights because he wont let me do what I want but I have to let him do what he wants. He used to be friends with this guy and I cheated on my boyfriend with him like 2 years ago. I know it was wrong and I admitted it but this "friend" of his keeps lying to him. and everyone thinks im the liar. What should I do?
jirst of all i am going to keep it real ,straigtht to the ?????? point
get the ???? away from him , now its mentallly. then physically, i been there done that LEAVE
there are aways other guys for you , you don't need that from anyone....
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Here is my situation ok here I am finally in a relationship with a great guy who is always there for me and we have been going out for four and a half months we have known each other ever since high school and found each other again on myspace. So far things are going good. Then there is this ohter guy a guy I have known since the 3rd grade and have liked since then we went to high school together too. We lost touch after we graduated which was 2000. Found him just last year on Myspace we were getting along until his wife didn't want us to be friends anymore and after she got involved he didn't have a myspace account anymore but tonight I found out he has one again and requested to be his friend again. What should I do I'm stuck between two guys the one I'm seeing and the other guy. The other guy that I've known since 3rd grade is now married and has a kid but on his profile says he is single. Please help me any advice would be appreciated.
okay my best advice for this is to leave him alone
when you see him its and hi and bi thing, RESPECT
his WIFE, do not break up an happy home ,i understand you want to befriends with him but leave him alone and be lover and friends with your man
Keepin it real
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Lets say you were intoxicated to a point where you ended up blanking out and dont remember every detail of the night, and someone tried to get you to have sex with them by touching you where they shouldnt but you you managed to tell them no you cant do it so you didnt have sex, didnt kiss them, or touch them back. Would you consider that cheating??
PS: drinking is only ok in moderation and I dont think I will be touching any for a long time. That could have turned to a dangerous situation and I am aware of that.
no it does not consist of cheating because you stop and went yourway.
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Is there another company besides Edible Arrangements, that makes fruit baskets made to look like flowers? Or anything similar. I want to get my mom somethng cool for the holiday season that can be delivered. I only want things that are edible...like nuts or fruit or something. Thank you.
your mom seems like she will like an gourment basket my friend me one it was wonderful, she gave me eveything i love to eat right along an gourment candle that look and smell like an hot apple pie when my company came they was looking for the apple pie. she had nuts ,peanuts chocolate
candy and the hot apple pie candle it cast her $30.
if you like you can go to www.sinsational.scent-team.com and click on contact info.
i hope this help
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my boyfriend broke up with me bc he said im 2 down on my self he was like were done. he also said i put 2 much emotional baggage on him.. i am rlly saddd.. but is it right for a guy to break up bc of me being too down on myself..im really sad
first of all you need to love yourself , which means stop being so down on yourself , look into the mirror and you will see that you are beautiful
all Gods creatures are beautiful so stop being like that, secondly if he can't comfront you in your time of needs then forget him., you don't need noone that going to make you feel worst then you are already feel, take and hot bubble bath imagine candles around you and take a deep breathe
and say i'm BEAUTIFUL,
Keepin it real
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I am a girl in high school and I need some major advice concerning boys. . . I'm ussually ok but I don't know how to act around boys that I really like, I always freak out and it is super embarassing :( See I have this friend, lets call him Joe, so "Joe" and I just started hanging out and we are pretty cool together but I only talk to him once in a while in math but I love talking to him, he's just so sweet and nice. He's not like drop dead gorgeous or anything, hes cute, but in an innocent way :) I really want to get to know him better but I don't know how, do I ask him to hang out? do I talk to him more in class? Do I just leave things the way they are now? What do I do??????? How do I persue this, to see if there really is anything to persue, without freaking him out?
if you want to talk to him then you are going to have to build up courage and take an deep breathe
and ask him out never know he might accept just ask him to go to the movies with no strings attach
what ever happens just happens
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I've had sex with my boyfriend and i love him more than anything but i don't like the thought of giving him oral. I have gave oral to another guy before i started going out with my recent boyfriend so he never really lets me live that one down. Now i'm kind of easing up and would want to give him a bj but if he cums does that not mean we can't have sex? like i wouldn't want to give him one and it be done with. When i done oral for the first time the guy warned me when he was going to sum so he didn't do it in my mouth which i was so relieved about. Also if i have my mouth down there and then we have sex i don't think he'd want to kiss me which is also kind of offputting. Is there a happy/medium anywhere lol
I think my question is alot of questions in itself so answers to any would be grateful.
if you are uncomfrontable then don't do it and as far as him cumming doing bj or hj get him back on hard and have fun,.
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(I'm 16 female and the boy's 17)
So during the summer, I met this boy who was everything I ever wanted. We both did the same activities, we watched the same tv shows, we both thought the same things were funny. Plus he was probably the sweetest guy I've ever met, he's so nice. He was perfect for me and I was so amazed that I found him. So he asked me out when school started and from then till probably late November, things couldn't have gotten better. We were in love, we lost our virginity to each other and it was just so amazing being with him, he meant everything to me.
So here's the bad part, he lives probably like 30 minutes away from me and he is the busiest boy ever. His schedule is so jam-packed, it's like he's a business man, not a high school student. And during early December, it started getting really rough. He would get up do homework go to school go to rehearsal (we're both theater people), go to another rehearsal, get back at like 10, do homework and then he was just so tired that he would fall asleep after that. He never answered his phone. He only called me once per day and it was in between car rides. And our conversations would last 5 minutes. I had to drop whatever I was doing when he called me because I knew that's the only phone call I would get. And he was texting me less and less.
So I started confronting him about it. I didn't want to because I know it's not his fault that his schedule is so busy, that's just his life but I mean I had to tell him what was on my mind. I told him that I felt like we were drifting apart, and I didn't want to because I loved him. I told him that i know he was busy but if he could please spare like one weekend where maybe I could drive up and see him. And then he would get defensive that I was blaming him for something that wasn't his fault, but I really didn't mean for it to be that way, I just really badly wanted to see him or talk to him for maybe more than 10 minutes. It felt like I had to take a number to tell him about my day or something. It felt like I was just apart of his busy schedule and not a priority in his life.
It was getting worse and worse because our conversations were becoming less happy and goofy like they always were. One time we were on the phone and I said "I love you." and then he said "Aw thank you!" Thank you?! After that, I knew we were heading downhill.
So, a couple of days ago he broke up with me because he said that he didn't have time for me and I deserved someone who would have time to be with me. I knew the break up was coming, but I didn't want it to. I loved him, and I still do. I told him, how can you break up with me if you love me? And do you know what he said? He said I love you like a best friend. WHAT?! When did that happen? What did I do that made your love for me disappear?! That hurt my feelings so bad, I can still hear it in my head. Anyways, he said that he really liked talking to me and that he wants to keep in touch with me like call me every once in awhile to see how I am. And I said no, I can't do that. How can I become buddy buddy with someone who I feel more than buddy buddy with? I hate it that we're not talking now but I feel that's it's the best choice for me to get over him.
So now that you guys know the WHOLE story, what comments/advice do you have for me? Please I need help because I'm so confused. Do you think I made the right choice?
it sound like it was an match in heavan, that went to hell when ( a new girl came along), that how i see it , he didn't want to spend time with you ,he call every blue moon, and the break up line let's be friends not lovers i have an 17 year old daughter and she just went through the same thing but a little differeny her boyfriend broke up with her at prom last year, so believe me when i tell you ( LET IT GO, HIS LOST), take you and hot bubble bath and drink you some grape juice in an flute glass and imagine an circle of candles and take an deep breathe and 9IT IS SOOO OVER) and you will feel better and ready to hit the mall and find someone else.
you will be alright
keep it real
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Is it ok to be a virgin at an age of 17?
Yes it.s okay i truely believe you should save yoourself for that special person ex. Husband when he comes i do understand the peer pressure
but stay strong ,like my mom use to tell me and i now tell my girls " if he likeor love you can can wait til you are ready" and be careful for the guys favorite line " baby you know i love you or you the only one for me" tell him as beyonce say's
" IF YOU LIKE IT PUT AN RING ON IT!!"
Keepin' it real
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I think that my boss is signing me up for a lot of bogus email and mail information. Every day my mailbox is stuffed and my email box if filled with spam. He denies it (of course) but I know it's him.
How do I handle this?
if you think its him you have 2 choices
don't open it or send it back to sender
hope this work
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this guy and i went out for about a year...we broke up about four months ago, and signs are showing that he wants me back....his girlfriend cheated on him, and its sad and everything. I love him so much. for the past few months i've been with a guy, and all i could do was think about him....but now that i'm about to have that chance to be with him, i don't want to take it because he's hurt me before, and i don't want it to happen again. a part of me feels like he is only running to me because his girlfriend is not there anymore, so he wants to use me to forget about her. I'm just so confused. I don't know what to do or if i'm making the right decision, what do you guys think? thank you!:D
i understand you can't stand to see him in pain but ask yourself this is it worth breaking up an
happy home , you say you are seeing someone do you won't to leave him for your ex? how do your current treat you? my advice for you is leave the ex where he's at and stay with the current once an person hurt you they can always do it again.
Love yourself first
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Can you get pregnant on your period?
YES any time of the months you can get pregnant
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bottom line:
he calls or texts me maybe twice a week if im lucky
we hang out once a month
and i only see him at school between classes for two minutes once a day
we have been together almost 3 months
but liked each other for over a year
every time i talk to him about how we arent close he gets mad and tells me to end it
what should i do?
you know my slogan is KEEP IT REAL!
so i am going to keep it real with you
he's not trying to hear what you hav to say,he not trying to spend no time with you, you see him
once an month give an time you see him at school
you have express yourself to him and ALL he say is END IT!, then honey tell him to BOUNCE, BOUNCE, BOUNCE AND dust your shoulders off
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i work at a day care and there is a little girl who is five and is special needs and there are also problems at home she always comes to the day care stinking like her parents never give her a bath and she is a huge bully to the other kids she hits them pushes them kicks them throws things at them i just dont know how to handle it any ideas
As an Daycare Provider i do understand how you feel but the problem you have now is obseverving
you see how the child is treated and how she reacts to other peers gain her trust and she will tell you what the problem is and you need to schedule an parent conference with the childs parents to talk about her behavior and then follow your heart.
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I just moved to a new area (for my job). All of my friends and family are a great distance away from me now. A coworker here has invited me to a New Years Eve party that she is throwing. I don't want to show up alone but it seems like that's my only option if I am going to show up (which I do want to go to her New Year's Eve party as a friendly gesture).
I'm not dating anyone and have no male friends that would be suitable for a party of this sort that live nearby. I want to make a good impression at the party but I'm not sure if having a date (or not) influences that.
Do you think it's tacky (or pitiful/sad/overall bad) to go to a local New Year's Eve event by myself? I mean, can I go to a New Year's Eve party alone?
Thanks for your input!
GIRL plan and simple Hell, No
you go to that party enjoy yourself and you might find that special person to bring the new year in with have fun.
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A few monthes ago me and my ex had sex. It was both of our first time and it only happened once. (I wasn't sleeping with him to get him back or anything). The whole thing just kind of happened, but I felt good about it.
A few nights ago I was talking to him and he said sleeping with me meant nothing to him and I got really depressed about it, and started regretting the whole thing.
How can I make myself feel better about this whole thing?
okay i don't know how old you are but you sound like you are still an teenager, i have 2 girls that's into there teen years and i tells them to tell me when they are ready to be grown so we can make the right decisions, but in your case you made that decision already, the best thing i can tell you is don't sweat it what happen ,happen love yourself no matter what and
when you find the next person you will remeber what happen to keep it from happening again and the person you choose will be special to you as you will be special to him.
hope you be alright
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ok so there's this guy that I like ! & I thought he was the greatest thing that ever happened to me(relationship wise) because I never trusted anyone as quickly as I gave my trust to him . he made me believe him when he said that he would never cheat on me! I felt that I had my guards up for too long and that I really wanted to be in a relationship where I was cared for/loved . was I wrong for wanting that? so it was thanksgiving when I met him . we exchanged numbers and he called me later that night . we just talked and stuff . & I absolutely loved his voice . wellllll . 7 days later he asked me out and I said yeah . then my mom brought me to her sister's house (he lives by her) and I was outside with him and his friends . his friends were trying to talk to me and kept askin me if I thought they were cute (which one of them was) and he was like "chill out" and we were just like cuddling and stuff . then I kissed him and it just felt like it was my first kiss ever (which it was not) .
then my parents and grandparents and stepparent started to not like how he was . because he dresses in "thug"ish clothing . & I started to like him more (i don't know if as an act of rebellion)but the more I started to like him the more it seemed like he didn't realize how much I did and didn't seem to care. ohhhh and did I mention there's a girl who claims that she's his girlfriend (she messaged me on myspace) but he told me no . so I looked at his myspace and she was first on his tops. so I asked him about it and he said it was old and that he had to change it but out of all the times he signed on the only thing he changed was that big pic of her on his page(she's still on his tops)i cried sooooooo hard last night and I couldn't stop for anythinggg . I don't want anyone elseeeee BUT him . & I really mean it . I want him to want me back
what's wronggggg ! =(
first of all if he said he will never cheat on you
and all of an sudden this girl popups, then we have an communication problem .sound like you really dig this guy but he don,t dig you, so my advice will be (LET HIM AND HIS MYSPACE CHICK GO!)
there are other fish in the pound, so no more crying find someone who will givve you that attention you deserve.
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