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Lost my virginity to someone I meant nothing to... how do I feel better now?
A few monthes ago me and my ex had sex. It was both of our first time and it only happened once. (I wasn't sleeping with him to get him back or anything). The whole thing just kind of happened, but I felt good about it.
A few nights ago I was talking to him and he said sleeping with me meant nothing to him and I got really depressed about it, and started regretting the whole thing.
How can I make myself feel better about this whole thing?
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okay i don't know how old you are but you sound like you are still an teenager, i have 2 girls that's into there teen years and i tells them to tell me when they are ready to be grown so we can make the right decisions, but in your case you made that decision already, the best thing i can tell you is don't sweat it what happen ,happen love yourself no matter what and
when you find the next person you will remeber what happen to keep it from happening again and the person you choose will be special to you as you will be special to him.
hope you be alright
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ok this is just one of the great affects of having sex i guess what you can do is just talk about your situation with someone close to you or a councler i know it sounds dumb but it could work theres nothing really you can do to fix the emotions or regret becuase you cant go back in time to change what you have done. whats done is done at the time you did it becuase well you wanted to and it felt right so i guess you can look at it everytime you feel regretful.
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hey!
well first of all everything happens for a reason so don't regret it.and why would you wanna be with some one who dont want to be with you.and who knows of hes telling the truth you know?he could of loved it and it lying to you.there's a million souls in the world and all you need is one.dont let this boy phase you.
-hope i helped!
sarah.
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im going to be completely honest with you, loosing your virginity is something that you dont get over too quickly being a girl, some girls just wont admit it. i understand you said you didnt want to get back with him, but for you to choose him as your first there has to be some history behind you guys. But what does help you is not feeling guilty about sleeping with him, it all starts with you not blaming yourself and stop thinking why does he not care, why did it mean nothing to him? what you have to do is just stop thinking about what happened and do something about the here and now, which is try and move past what happened. You know something guys brains function differently when they have sex its perceived as pleasure, they dont even put it into the same category as love (normally) Its hard still i understand, but just think no one else can ever take that away from you and once you move past this you grow so much stronger, i know i matured so much and realized what a man thinks of me is not important or even if they enjoyed having sex or even if it meant something because if it didn't then im only one step closer to finding that person who it does mean something to.
so to wrap this up, just remember to not blame yourself, dont worry about what he thinks because he is no longer that important aspect in your life (even though thats hard because of what happened.) once you start to realize these things and become okay with it you will truly become a stronger woman.
if there is anything else i can answer for you please ask
Brittni.
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