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Q: I'm in high school, 15/f, a freshmen and it seems like everyone in my school besides me drinks and does drugs. I will NEVER drink or do drugs because it ruins your life...but at lunch one day, my friends were all talking about how they went to one of my friends house, let's call her A, and how A's mom was home and they still got away with drinking vodlka and beer and getting crunk together. Only one of my friends had a sip of vodkla and nothing else at the party but all of the sudden I was sooo mad. The day before the party, my friend who only had a sip of vodlka [lets call her F] was like, to A, "yeah, I'll have a drink, and I'll get close to drunk." and A was like, "F! I am sooooo proud of you! You don't know how proud I am of you that you are going to get drunkk!" and I got sooo mad at that I just bursted out and said to A, "Why is that something to be proud of?!" and A was like, "Because F swore off everything remotley related to drinking and drugs, so I am sooo proud of her that she even said that right now." and I was like, "well, I'm not going to drink and I'm not doing drugs." and everyone at the lunch table just looked at me except for my other friend, lets call her S, agreed with me. Then I didn't go to A's party and Monday I heard some pretty bad stories like of the people getting drunk and how they got it all on video...it like made me mad.
I'm mad, and I thought higher of my friends and now they all think I'm a loser, except for F and S, because I don't want to drink and do drugs. What should I do? any comments will be greatly appreciated and thanks ot all of you who read all of that because I know it was confusing and long.
I'm a junior in high school and I do not drink or do drugs. It's high school though. People are young, they want to experiment. Have I smoked pot before? Yes. Have I tasted alcohol before? Yes. Have I ever been drunk? No.(Don't worry, I am not condoning it at all. I'm just saying...) And I've found that you are going to have some friends that have different morals than you and will want to drink on the weekends or snort a few lines of cocaine. Guess what though? They don't remain your friends for long. It's going to create problems in the friendship down the line, and you are going to realize that it changes them. What should you do? I mean, do you really want to remain friends with people that jump for joy when someone wants to get drunk with them? That should answer your question. You just started high school, there are so many new people that you are going to meet that share your views and respect your morals. Really, you just have to wait until you find them. I promise though, it'll be worth it.

Q: I have a coupon to Baker's shoe store for $20 off a purchase of $50 or more. If i buy $55 worth of stuff from that store .. do I get the $20 right then? Making the bill $35?
Should be, plus tax of course.

Teeheehee, I have a feeling someone just read an issue of CosmoGIRL! :-)

Q: if i put on pressed powder.. does it cause freckles ?
Logic, once again tells us no. It's impossible for pressed powder to cause freckles. Only the sun can do that.

Q: can people instant message eachother if lets say, one has aim and the other has yahoo instant messager
Logic here tells us, uh, no.

Q: How would I properly say this sentence -

If I were you.
If I was you.

If I were you...

Yeah, it's one of those wierd exceptions, this is a perfect example of why English is the hardest language to learn. It's kinda like "How are you?" You is singular, but you don't say "How is you?", do you? Yeah, I didn't mean to give you a long english lesson. My apologies.

Q: Hey everyone. For Christmas, I got the Sims 2 Computer Game. I was just wondering, do any of you have cheat codes so I can get more money? That'd be great, thanks.

Merry Christmas!
Press...Ctrl+Shift+C

Then, enter in "motherlode." (Without the quotation marks, of course.)

It should get you $50,000 each time you do it.

Q: So i have been dating this guy for more than 3 months now and valentines day will be comming up in two mnths. What do guys like to get on Valentines day?
CDs. Beat the commercialized cards and chocolates shit. Seriously, pay close attention when he brings up bands he likes. Or casually go through his CD collection.

Q: i have a LG VX6100 picture phone from verizon wireless and i was wondering if you can downlad the pictures onto your computer from it, a few people i know said they could but im not sure if you have to buy a cable or something? and i dont know how to email it to myself if thats how you do it.
i have a iMac computer if that helps
thanks
Technically, you cannot download your pictures onto your computer. The only way you can get them on your computer is to transfer them by email. Which you mentioned you have no idea how to do. Well, that's why I am here. Now, I am assuming you know how to text. The process is very similar to texting. Although, most of my assumptions fuck me over...so...I'll pretend like you don't know how to text either. Now, I can't do step by step instructions, simply because I don't have your exact phone. I have the LGVX7100, I believe. But I have messed around with the VX6100 (my mother has it). And I remember a few of the features being slightly different. So please bear with me...Okay, first you are going to want to go to "Messaging" It might have a little envelope or mailbox for you. Then you are going to want to click on "New PIX Msg." From there, you put who you want to send it to. It'll probably be numbers in the bottom right hand cornor. Click that button and change it to #2. You will have to go back there for symbols eventually (for your @ and .) Type in your email address. Then you are going to want to add a picture to send. Arrow down to where it says "PIX or FLIX:" Then you are going to want to go to your gallery...so, just like you did with the letters, go to the opposite side. (The bottome left hand side) Select which picture you want in the message by pressing "OK." And from there, you should be safe to send it. (Click "OK" again.) Before you send it though, do double check the email address you entered. And, do keep in mind, each picture you send is (if I do remember correctly) $0.25. Yeah, technology's a bitch. :-P Have any problems or I really confused the fuck out of you, just leave me something in my inbox. :-D

Q: Are weed and pot the same thing?
Yup. There's about 489357934750934 names for marijuana.

Q: There's this guy from work, and I'm pretty sure he likes me and/or is somewhat attracted to me... we're going to go and see The Corpse Bride about two weeks from now.. and he kissed me.. I just want to know how I can make this not just a 'friends with benefits' type of thing. How do I get him to officially ask me out, or tell me his feelings for me (whatever the heck they are..)?

15/f. (He's 16.. if that matters..)
Believe it or not, I was actually in that situation the other day. The only way you're going to be able to make something happen, is by talking about it. Yeah, it'll be akward, and it takes some guts, but it's quite worth it. Make sure you two are alone, and either bring it up in a conversation, or ask randomly..."What are we?" And he'll either say A)"Friends with benefits." B)"I dunno, what are we?" C)"Uhhhh..."
or if he is a smartass, D)"Human." To which you can reply...A)"Yeeeah, and I kinda want to be more than that." B)"The way I would label it would be friends with benefits, and I kinda want more than that." C)If he gives you that response, umm, it doesn't look too promising. D)"No shit. I mean us, as in what are we doing?" (Then you can probably insert a little of "B" in there.)

I'm not saying for you to say any of these things. They are just suggestions for whichever path you happen to take. I am, however, telling you to talk about it with him though. If you don't, he'll think that you are okay with just being friends with benefits. And, from how you put it, you want more, so tell him that.

Q: Are there any other dancers out there on this site? Especially ballet, but other types would be helpful too. I'd love to discuss dance technique and performance stuff etc. with anyone willing to discuss it with me! I know this isn't techinically a question, but if this si you, respond and I'll add you to my friends list and give you my im name. Thanx so much!
I'm a dancer. Ummm...10th year...shit,or is it 11th year in ballet? (It's one of those. But the number is still kinda up there.) 5th year in pointe. I took tap for like 8 years. Tried lyrical for 2 years. And Character for 1 year. I'd be happy to answer any of your questions or anything.

Q: I'm coming over but it never was enough
I thought it through and my worst brings out the best in you
"A Decade Under the Influence" by Taking Back Sunday. (No comment on band.)

Ummm...I'll let you in on a little secret...song lyrics, you can easily look them up. Either on Google...or most any lyrics site will tell you them. (Just for future reference.)

Q: yyeah okay i have to write a paragraph on my favorite music group and im doing fall out boy. but i need 3 reasons why other people should like them too and like i can't think of any. well i have like they're like unique like they're just them and like they have really good music and i needa support each one! please help and dont just be like do your own work. i know i should be but i'm just having trouble
I'm not going to knock on Fall Out Boy but uhhh...unique? Wow. Um, I could find you about a million unsigned bands that sound just like them. But they're on MTV now, I underdtand that that makes them cool now. Being since this IS for school. You can bullshit it slightly, such as...
-"I can really relate to their lyrics..." (I suggest using a few direct quotes.)

-"Very catchy tunes..."

-Ehhh...and I cannot think of a third one. Being since your teacher will not know any better, go with the "unique" idea. Say they sound like nothing you have ever heard before. (:-D hahaha)

Supporting details for these reasons are kinda self explanatory. Or at least I hope they are...

Q: hey! I love to read! Im a sophmore, female! I Love a great book! the kinds that you cannot put down! I
I liked Freaky Green Eyes, I read it last summer. Um...books to recommend...I actually finished a book this morning at about 4 a.m. that I rather enjoyed called "Zig Zag" by Ellen Wittlinger. Hmmm...but my personal favorites are:
-"The Perks of Being a Wallflower" by Stephen Chbosky
-"Smack" by Melvin Burgess(which was already mentioned.)
-"The Exes" by Pagan Kennedy
-"Beauty Queen" by Linda Glovach
-"Survivor" by Chuck Palahniuk
-"Beijing Doll" by Chun Sue (The book was banned in China. :-D Niiiice.)

***EDIT*** I FOUND A NEW FAVORTIE BOOK! "Hairstyles of the Damned" by Joe Meno

If you need any more recommendations, I'm here for you.

Q: ok...on Noggin (aka The-N) there's the show called Instant Star. I really like the music and was wondering if there was a soundtrack or if Alexz Johnson had a CD or if anyone knew of a site where i can get the lyrics to the songs thank you!
Hahaha, I have a guilty pleasure for Instant Star. I love it. Ummm...here's the link to Amazon for the CD, you are going to pay a pretty penny for it because it is an import. But beyond Amazon, I don't know anywhere else besides Ebay, but that is not a definite buy. Amazon would be a definite buy... http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/B00091SMFU/qid%3D1124520579/sr%3D11-1/ref%3Dsr%5F11%5F1/104-1857571-2139121
Ummm...lyrics...the link that girl below gave you is decent...and seems to be exactly what you need. If it doesn't work out for you though... I'll go on a wild search for you. :-)

Q: i've got that eyeshadow from hot topic. i put it on but my skin color shows up in the middle and applying more makes it very hard to see. (bright green) is there anything i could do to make it bright and stay? All it does is fall over my eyelashes. I heard putting concealer works... does it?
You do have to realize that Hot Topic is not known for their makeup. In otherwords, it is not top quality. I personally recommend going to somewhere that is just for makeup, like Sephora, to get eye makeup. It'll cost you, but it'll be worth it. And they do have bright green, I know that because I own some from there. :-D From experience though...mostly every eyeshadow creases in the center.(Which I believe is what you are talking about.)I, myself have never put concealer on my eye lids. But, it would make sense to, because it should absorb some amonut of the natural oils on your eye lids. (Which is why your eyeshadow does this.)Um, what I have tried though, and found to work is...putting loose powder on your eye lids or you can buy a special product called "Eye Base" by Tony&Tina (located at Sephora), which is made for exactly what you want.

Q: who sings the song that goes like :

cuz i got one hand in my pocket..


and what is the name of the song?
"Hand In My Pocket" by Alanis Morissette.

Q: ok so i'm going to a green day concert in october and i dont know what to wear. have any ideas anyone?
*ill rate high*
Whatever you do, please do NOT wear a Green Day T-shirt. Every other person there will be doing the exact same thing. I know this as an experienced onlooker. It's actually quite funny to watch. Wear something you feel comfortable in. And it all depends on what kind of look you are going for. If you want to blend in...wear the Green Day band tee, pyramid stud belt, black Chuck Taylors, and jeans with commercialized holes in them. If you are one to stand out I like the layering idea that the girl below left. Jeans and a fun t-shirt would be fine. Keep in mind it IS a concert, you are going to get hot and sweaty, and you'll be with a bunch of people in tight quarters. Wear waterproof mascara :-D.

Q: Anyone know any good ska bands? or punk band?
I'll give you a few for each...if that isn't enough, just ask me for more. Most are personal preference.

Ska(None are really "traditonal ska"):
-Big D & The Kids Table
-Bandits of the Acoustic Revolution
-Flaming Tsunamis
-Reel Big Fish (:-D of course)
-Highschool Football Heroes (saw them the other day :-D)
-Catch 22
-Streetlight Manifesto
-Forces of Evil

Now, you have to understand that the genre "punk" has been very distorted in the last few years. When I think punk, I automatically think...
-Ramones
-the Clash
-Sex Pistols
Then again, there were your originaters of the punk genre.
Depends though, I mean look at some of the answers you have recieved. The All American Rejects? I will jump off a cliff the day they are considered "punk." I mean, don't get me wrong, I like the All American Rejects, and Tyson Ritter is one of the most gorgeous guys I have ever laid eyes on. But do you see where I am going with this distortion of genre thing?

It's kinda like the whole "emo" thing. The genre "emo" got blown out of the fucking water. Now it's like, "OMG that guy is singing about being in pain, or cutting his wrists, this must be emo." I don't even know how I switched subjects that quickly, I apologize. I could speil forever.

To get back to my main point...it depends on what kind of punk you are looking for. Are you just looking for lesser known punk bands?

Q: (FOR THE LADIES)
What could a guy do to get your attention and make you feel like the most special girl in the world?
Pull out a guitar and start serenading me with "I Wanna Be Your Boyfriend" by the Ramones.

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AquamarineRose
Ok I am not going to bore you with my whole life story.Or describe myself.Or tell you how "great" I am at giving advice.It's pointless.You'll pick up things about me in the advice I give.So go ahead ask away...



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