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I'm a nineteen year old girl whos dreams are to help the world. But for now, I'll start on Advicenators :)

I can't say I can relate to every question that comes my way (probably most though!), but I guarantee I'll understand. And sometimes that's all you need...a little understanding :)

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me and my boyfriend have been dating 6 months. befor we were dating, he was i guess u cud say a man whore haha he jus had sex wit alot of girls. he has depression and is going through a really hard time right now with family and stuff so he is stresesd. wel while we were dating for 6 months i am a virgin so he has gone without sex for 6 months. yesterday, he was going to take my virginity but he couldnt get hard. i was naked on his bed and he said he wanted to have sex with me so bad but he couldnt keep an erection. at one point he had one and then he was about to go in and it went away. he said he was embarassed and didnt know why it was happeneing but today we were lightly kissing in his bed and he got hard. i dont get it. it haappens at all the wrong times haha whats wrong with him?

My boyfriend and I were literally in the same exact situation! 6 months and everything haha

After waiting for so long, the fact that it was so surreal and was going to happen was pretty much too good to be true to them. Think of it as getting a little too excited, literally and instead of all the attention being down there, all the mental enjoyment was going on up in his head probably thinking "OH MY GOD YESS IT'S FINALLY GOING TO HAPPEN!" and then it's like oh shit...I forgot to work think with my other head =(

haha get it?

any ideas of what I should get done next?

I already have a belly button piercing.
and I dislike nose and eyebrow piercings.

Industrial?
Lip?

ok so i had sex for the first time a few days ago and he popped my cherry, it is still lightly bleeding, but im supossed to get my period soon. does popping your cherry have anything to do with when you get your period? and when is it supossed to stop bleeding?!

It should be fine in a few days. If your period should be here in a few days as well, then if anything happens after 7 days from the day you start your period, then that boy was too rough for your first time! haha

When your cherry gets popped, the whole bleeding thing doesn't last that long. I have however had one friend who bled longer than you should BUT that was because the guy was too rough for her first time. Like way WAY too rough.

Ok this is going to sound really weird but like im 17 female and like since summer started i have been sweating a lot. I mean a lot. I put on a shirt and within 1 hour the armpit part of my shirt is wet. I'm a skiny girl and I dont no why this happens to me! Sometimes it makes my shirts by the armpits turn like yellowish brown and its disguesting. Ive tried wearing different kinds of deodorants but nothing works! Any advice?

I have that same problem, but worse. I've suffered for it since the end of 4th grade. I was CONSTANTLY on the internet searching up things to stop it, but there really is nothing. I have seen LOADS of doctors about it, too and their all dumb founded. UGH doctors piss me off haha

SO I did a little more research, confronted my dermatologist with my findings, and he prescribed me a pill. This pill however, is not for sweating, its instead an antidepressant. I obviously don't take it for depression though.

How this pill helps sweating:

See, although no oneeeee who's around me can tell, I have SEVERE anxiety issues because I'm constantly worrying about what people are thinking about me. So, I sweat under my armpits like mad crazy.

So, the anti-depressant calms me down, my hormones aren't all over the darn place which use to unbalance everything and make me sweat. So, when I take the pills, I'm fine. I'm calm, and don't sweat. BUT I'm drowsy. VERY VERY sleepy.

The pill is called Doxepin

If there's anything else you think I should know about you that might determine something else, let me know. I'm pretty good and medical stuff.

Have you tried deoderants you put on at night? Their sold at Walgreens and other common places. Things called certain dri and stuff. The issues I had with these though are they irritated me after a couples uses. If it doesn't irritate your skin, I would put it on at bed time like this:

Without having your shirt on, lay in bed and apply the certain dri deoderant. Have a fan ready and let it blow on your arm pits until their dry THEM add lotion to them.

Before doing the pill idea, find certain dri and do that for a week first! Them reply back to me and let me know how everything went :)

Hope I want helpful!

Hello.
I need some advice on my lack of self confidence... That line doesn't sound to great but I don't have another way to phrase it. Anyways to the point.
I have major self-confidence issues. I wear hoodies and jeans all times of the year including summer. Although it only gets to about 30-ish degrees on a hot day it's still hot and puts me at a risk of heat stroke. But I just can't bring myself to wear anything, I'm just to uncomfortable. This has gone on since I was child.
I hate when people compliment me. I feel I stand out and I don't like it. I don't wear bright colors for the same reason. My hair is always down, Again fear of standing out which really doesn't make sense seeing as though everyone wheres their hair up.
I hate being touched as well. I don't hug people, my best friends, my family.
I could go on and on about little things that impact my life in a big way because of the confidence issues.
Not sure if this has anything to do with it but I have this terrible fear of getting raped. I mean I'm sure no one like fantasizes about it, well, who knows. But I have nightmares about it almost every night and it's getting rather irritating and scary.
I really don't know what to do anymore.
Advice? Help? What should I do? Why am I like this?
In advance sorry for the typos it's late and I should be studying. Also, sorry about the length.
Oh, and if it helps I am a female and am fourteen, almost fifteen.

To personally message someone go to their advice column and click ask question :)

As for the question you asked, I have talked to a Psychologist, BUT not for anxiety. The reason I went to him though went along with my anxiety issues. I would totally recommend seeing someone if you have parents who are willing to pay for that and such. Living with anxiety sucks =/ Pretty much controls your whole life day by day. Like how you ALWAYS wear sweat shirts.

Which reminds me. You don't by any chance sweat under your arms and that's a reason for the sweat shirt thing, is it? That's a sign of anxiety if you do. I was just wondering :)

Any more questions, just use the little ask question button on my column :)

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I can relate to some things you mentioned such as hugging people and feeling just plain uncomfortable a lot of the time. Mine is due to anxiety. I basically just care too much about how other people are perceiving me.

I could totally try to help you out and talk about this. We can talk through message on here if you'd like. Just send me a person message, it's still anonymous :)

Thanks for your response to my "Relationship with an older woman" Question. How do I go about repairing things? I have taken some time away from her and we have not spoken in a few days. It just hurts being without her, and I was afraid that by talking to her during this time would make it worse, for me and her. I just want her to know that I am sincere and I don't want her to think that this is setting her up for dissapointment and pain later. Thanks Again.

So what your saying is you DO want to get back with her and have a family?

hmm. Well, think of a romantic way to get your point across. Your lucky its only been a few days ;) I personally would love if a guy did something like this!:

Write a beautiful sincere note explaining everything. How you feel about her, everything you've realized through this break up, just everything.

Do you have a key to her place? Set up a romantic dinner when she's not home, leave a note on the door though so when she walks in and sees you, well her first reaction won't be to call the police! lol Have it read something like "Your True Love Awaits For You Inside

i can't stop thinking about my x but he hrut me and other girl and now he got a wifey and i don't know how to get over it cause the girl he go out with is a girl that hate me and i hate her

He has a wifey? He's MARRIED?! Oh honey. You need to get over that guy.

17/f

ok, so had sex with my boyfriend and after that i went to the toilet, to urinate.. and while i was and after, i think, i was like discharging a lot, it kinda get coming, lol. it was clear-ish white-ish (don't really remember), think mainly clear, and it was kinda sticky and a little thick. what is it? later on, after a couple more rounds of sex, we realised one of the condoms broke, don't worry.. i took the plan b thing, and my period came like two days later, even though we had sex a day after my period finished, hope you get what i mean.
but anyway, my question mainly is, what was that discharge after the sex? could air have gotten into my vagina during the sex that made that happen or what? im so confused. and thanks a bunch!!

Normal. You know how a guy cums? Girls can too. That's what that was.

basically a few months back,

I had 2 auditions to get into 2 different performing schools

I remember on the opening day, there was this really goregous guy ( I am not usually like this)
and he wore a hoodie which said dance on the back of it, :) So I was happy, because Iove to dance too....

That was about december.
Then in February...When I Had My Audition, He Turned Up - He had his on the same day!! :)
I am a very confident person, so during our audtion there were about 30 people with us. I spoke to everybody, so did he. Apart from eachother. I never usually judge a guy by his image, but he was soo nicee :) Maybe I was excited at the fact he was attractive and shared the same interests as me.

During the auditions...we kept making eye contact and smiling..haha sounds pathetic
And when everybody was given a chance to interact with eachother...we did we everybody.
Then I went over to stand next to him because I wanted to see if he spoke to me.
Both of us looked at eachother, leaned against the wall in silence. Didn't say anything.

At the end, I went up to tell him I thought he was an amazing ballet dancer..but I couldnt find him...I never usually like someine, especially when I dont even know him...But I dont know..I liked him...I kind of forgot about him

Then In March, at my second audtion, I walked through the hall way...and he was there. OMG.
I was like wooowww :) Destiny or what? I mean same time, and everything - different town!
When he saw me, he came over and waved at me, smiling meekly. I thought he didnt even really notice me that much. We made small talk..you know..and it was really good. There were a few people along with us..I asked for everyones number, excpet his. Because he was called to do his dance piece so I was gutted - even his parents and mine were getting on.

He was just such a lovley person. He said out of the 2 schools (A AND B) he's go to A. Same as me. But unforutnatly I didnt get in..so I am going to B. I said to him, I knew I wouldnt get into A so I KNOW I was going B.....
Well a friend of mine got into A...I love her to bits - but she isnt that amazing(sounds kind of unfair..I'm just weighing up the facts)..but he was - so my guess is he got into A...

So I'm in B..but I am sure he is in A.
It's june now...and I still think about him- because I know there is a small chance that he will be there in september...

Also my friend that got into A said you are allowed to bring someone on campus every week - so even if he doesnt go to my school, I can come over with her...and he could be there...

I'm really attracted to him,
and I dont know what to do. Its pathetic of me really to be sort of like this..but I just dont knw?
Is it ok to think about someone I only knew for 2 days?
If he doesnt go to my school, he'll be at the one my friend is at - i know..I could see him if I visited one day. If you want something..you need to go out and get it - and I could get it.
There is a chance, but I look at myself and I think its a little obessive isnt it?
Maybe I am overwhelmed we have so many interests.
What should I do, what are your views?

I am never usually like this...never.

lol child chillll! Obsessive? I personally wouldn't consider it obsessive. I look at it as a guy sparked your attention which apparently is hard to do according to you, you kept seeing him at all these dance try out things, so you sorta took it as a sign of destiny and such...I mean, I would totally think the same thing!

You know where to find him, go for it! ;)

Hi, I'm in desperate need of some advice. I am a 26 year old man who has been dating a 36 year old woman for about 5 months.I am very concerned about the age difference and what that will mean for us down the road. Just last week we broke up and it has been killing me. I really like this girl and I want to be with her, but the age thing is just a 24/7 nagging issue in the back of my mind. We split up because she is wanting to be in a relationship with someone that will in a few years materialize into a family and having kids. I am terrified of this. I want a family and kids, but i'm 26 and thinking about that happening in the next couple of years scares the hell out of me. On the other hand, I really do not want to lose her, she is wonderful in every way, and though we are 10 years apart we are on most of the same playing fields, intellectually, physically, professionally, etc. I have been in only 3 relationships that have lasted more than a few months, and have dated many girls, and this is the first one that has ever meant something to me, the short of it is, I have fallen for her and I have been down and out since we split up. I need some objective advice. Do I try to get her back or do I just move on and accept that our age difference is just to much to overcome. Thanks in advance for the advice.

I'm one of those people who believe age really is just a number. And well, you really can't help who you fall in love with.

But do you want the same things out of life? She's wanting a family. She's 36. She wants a family ASAP because her time clock is TICK-N!

Sit and think about this. This is when "adult" decisions come in and you have the pick between two really tough choices. Is this REALLY the woman you want to spend the rest of your life with? And you just aren't ready to let her go? If so, are you ready to start a family with HER, NOW? That's choice one. Choice two, you really just don't want a family now, soon, maybe even ever! And although you might love her, hey, you just didn't want the same things. Fun while it lasted, but its over now.

It's all about happiness babyyy. Where are ya most happy? ;)

I have a problem...im 14/f and my boyfriend is 17/m. We have been together awhile and we do a lot of foreplay but we have talke and he knows im not ready for sex and wont be for awhile. I hvae given him bjs though. The problem is....HE WONT CUM! I think he enjoys it because he moans a lot and his toes curl and he looks like hes into it but tonight i tried and i went at it for 50 MINUTES. My jaw is aching and he wouldnt come. eventually he just pulled me up and started kissing me. I don't undrestand. Is it me or do some guys just not cum? Thank you.. :(

DAY-UM 15 minutes you worked at a BJ?!

Here's 2 tips:

1) For some reason some guys are afraid to cum, so they don't allow themselves. Their like embarrassed. The fact he curls his toes can be him stopping himself from cumming. SO I would talk to him about that first and reassure him you want him to cum. Talk about if you'd swallow or not because that's always in the back of their mind.

2) Suck really hard.

I had an emergency appendix surgery almost three years ago, due to a ruptured appendix. The infection had spread, and a laporoscopy (sp?) surgery was performed--the infection was cleared out at the time, through a large amount of rinsing with some sort of solution.

I recently read that a ruptured appendix and/or abdominal surgery increases the odds of infertility in women. I am not thinking of getting pregnant now, but hope to have children some day...

I have closely monitored my periods since the surgery, and they have been normal- (28-30 days usually, and last for 5-6 days on average). I am still worried that the surgery and infection may have caused adhesions on the ovaries or fallopian tubes, or possible fallopian tube blockage.

Anyone have any information on the chances of infertility following abdominal surgery or ruptured appendix? It would be great if someone in a similar situation could explain it too...

Considering it was an emergency surgery, they caught it in time. Your periods running perfect.

I'm not a doctor, but for some odd reason I've always had an infatuation with this medical stuff so with the knowledge I know about appendix issues, I'm going to say your fine BUT I would also personally go to a doctor and get all your girlie stuff checked out :)

I'm not sexually active but my vagina is always wet what can I do about it and what is causing it. i want to get married and want to please my husband

First, is there a nasty smell that comes with this wetness?

REPLY back

how do i make my own lip plumper

http://www.ehow.com/how_2091449_own-lip-plumper.html

im 17 years old and 5 weeks pregnant.

my boyfriends family wants me to get an abortion.
my family doesnt want me to get an abortion.
i don't want an abortion.
my boyfriends family are saying if i keep the baby then he has to move out and there disowning him.
i feel guilty.
i dont know what to do.
adoption ISNT an option.
hes scared and doesnt think were ready, i don't either but happened.
he's worried hes going to have to sell everything and not have a life or go to any parties anymore.
How do i convince him that he can still have a life? and how do i convince him that abortion isnt the right option? how can i make him see that there is a life, part of him inside me and we shouldn't kill it just because we made a mistake?

FIRST thing first. Next time you plan on having sex with someone, discuss what you would do if you were to get pregnant BEFORE hand.

You have a baby inside of you. YOUR CHILD. You know what to do.

And hey, I bet your family would support you through all this. Screw that guy AND his family.

Okay well I am 15/f and I have had sex before but he never busted inside of me. Well here recently my period was supposed to start on the tenth and it didn't. It started around the 15th. I still took a pregnancy test and it showed positive. I am still on my period so what is up? Am I pregnant. And if so, how do I tell my mom, because she has no idea that I have ever had sex, and my dad would flip out if he knew. Help Please.!

=( That might not have been your period...

You could of had a miscarriage. Take another pregnancy test in a few days and see what it says.

But I honestly would see a doctor =/

okay..so yesterday..maybe during the middle of the day..my phone could receive text..and then at night..and still the next day..it stopped.

just stopped..i didnt have texting taken off..i can still send them..people tell me they get them..but i cant receive them. last night me and my friend were on facebook..he would send me a text..it sent..i wouldnt get it. but he would get the text that i sent to him.

what's wrong with my phone?!?

Wait a day. Sometimes this happens. If the problem persist, call your phone company.

okay so im having an issue debating what to do. my bf who is older than me by 8 years has some serious issues with women. and we've only been together for 3 months and already hes not the same as the was in the beginning. and hes not giving me the treatment that i believe i deserve, or even the same great treatment i give him! not that he treats me bad but i know that when a man loves a woman (as he says he does), he shows her more attention and care and love than he shows me. now i know hes paranoid to show too much affection because of his past, but that's not really fair to me... and im trying to decide if hes distant because of his issues (which is what he told me) or because maybe hes just not that into me. i dont know which one it is because he randomly does the sweetest things and promises hes gonna try to be more affectionate and open up more, but then he closes back up and treats me whatever again. so at one point i think he really does love me at another i think maybe he just doesnt. What should i do? if hes not into me i could just end it. but it could be because of the other girl that messed him up a few years ago, so should i give him another chance and wait to see if he will eventually open up? he says its hard for him to but i see progress sometimes...idk? should i just let go? help?

He's into you. Guys who aren't into you, don't act like it EVER. At least he does sometimes. Now your question is "Do I feel like this could really be something? Should I stay and work through this?"

That's for you to decide.

female,14
ok so i saw this guy that i thought was cute.he asked for my name.we see each other every day and i can tell he wants to reach out to me..i keep dreamng about him. how can i just make the first move without suprising him or getting rejected?Hes kind of quiet so something kind of calm too.

Write him a note and pass it to him when you see him ;)

So, I would like to get a nipple piercing, however, my nipples don't look like any of the female nipples I've seen(not in a perverted way, I've just been looking at pictures on www.bmezine.com of the piercing)

The areola is quite big..I'm just not sure..
I'm just concerned that the piercer will think "wtf" :/

LOL

Trust me don't worry about that. You want your nipple pierced, you get it done!

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