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Self Confidence issues.
Hello.
I need some advice on my lack of self confidence... That line doesn't sound to great but I don't have another way to phrase it. Anyways to the point.
I have major self-confidence issues. I wear hoodies and jeans all times of the year including summer. Although it only gets to about 30-ish degrees on a hot day it's still hot and puts me at a risk of heat stroke. But I just can't bring myself to wear anything, I'm just to uncomfortable. This has gone on since I was child.
I hate when people compliment me. I feel I stand out and I don't like it. I don't wear bright colors for the same reason. My hair is always down, Again fear of standing out which really doesn't make sense seeing as though everyone wheres their hair up.
I hate being touched as well. I don't hug people, my best friends, my family.
I could go on and on about little things that impact my life in a big way because of the confidence issues.
Not sure if this has anything to do with it but I have this terrible fear of getting raped. I mean I'm sure no one like fantasizes about it, well, who knows. But I have nightmares about it almost every night and it's getting rather irritating and scary.
I really don't know what to do anymore.
Advice? Help? What should I do? Why am I like this?
In advance sorry for the typos it's late and I should be studying. Also, sorry about the length.
Oh, and if it helps I am a female and am fourteen, almost fifteen.
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The other columnist is right in that it might be anxiety. It's very possible and maybe you should consider seeking help or someone to talk to about this.
However, part of being a teenager isn't feeling comfortable in your own skin- until you realize who you are as a person. It could be that you're not sure of yourself and you still have some things to figure out. But in the mean time, talk to someone and get some things straight.
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As for the question you asked, I have talked to a Psychologist, BUT not for anxiety. The reason I went to him though went along with my anxiety issues. I would totally recommend seeing someone if you have parents who are willing to pay for that and such. Living with anxiety sucks =/ Pretty much controls your whole life day by day. Like how you ALWAYS wear sweat shirts.
Which reminds me. You don't by any chance sweat under your arms and that's a reason for the sweat shirt thing, is it? That's a sign of anxiety if you do. I was just wondering :)
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I can relate to some things you mentioned such as hugging people and feeling just plain uncomfortable a lot of the time. Mine is due to anxiety. I basically just care too much about how other people are perceiving me.
I could totally try to help you out and talk about this. We can talk through message on here if you'd like. Just send me a person message, it's still anonymous :)
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