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hes just not that into you
okay so im having an issue debating what to do. my bf who is older than me by 8 years has some serious issues with women. and we've only been together for 3 months and already hes not the same as the was in the beginning. and hes not giving me the treatment that i believe i deserve, or even the same great treatment i give him! not that he treats me bad but i know that when a man loves a woman (as he says he does), he shows her more attention and care and love than he shows me. now i know hes paranoid to show too much affection because of his past, but that's not really fair to me... and im trying to decide if hes distant because of his issues (which is what he told me) or because maybe hes just not that into me. i dont know which one it is because he randomly does the sweetest things and promises hes gonna try to be more affectionate and open up more, but then he closes back up and treats me whatever again. so at one point i think he really does love me at another i think maybe he just doesnt. What should i do? if hes not into me i could just end it. but it could be because of the other girl that messed him up a few years ago, so should i give him another chance and wait to see if he will eventually open up? he says its hard for him to but i see progress sometimes...idk? should i just let go? help?
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So he had problems in the past. At least he is trying sometimes. Honestly, if whatever happened to him, happened to you, I think you might act the same way. He is telling you the reason. Obviously, he still cares for you, or else he wouldn't be with you. If he does the sweetest things once in awhile. It shows he is trying. Its just mostly if you want to end it you can. Its if you want to go on with this. He still cares so that's good. Just talk to him about it and how he opens up more but then closes again. He's obviously into you, so don't worry about that. Good luck and hopefully everything works out.
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He's into you. Guys who aren't into you, don't act like it EVER. At least he does sometimes. Now your question is "Do I feel like this could really be something? Should I stay and work through this?"
That's for you to decide.
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