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About a year ago I met the man of my dreams (guy #1) and we love each other dearly, but he lives in Central America and I live in California. The thing is that three months ago I met a wonderful guy (guy #2) that really loves me a lot. And I’m going on a trip to Central America where the other guy (guy #1) is and he’s expecting me to see him. My recent boyfriend (guy #2) has a really bad temper and the other guy (guy #2) is miles away and I love the guy #1 more that than the guy #2 but I know it won’t work out. The question is should I see the other guy and maybe be something again at least for a short while or should I stay with guy (guy#2) and try to deal with his hot temper?
Hmm .. this is tough. There's pros and cons to both, I guess.
* Guy # 1 *
- distance issue
- you both
this slimy clear (sometimes milky) stuff is comming out of my vigina and i think its cum but i dont know. is it? and how do i make this stuff stop comming!!!????PLEASE HELP! SOMETIMES SO MUCH COMES OUT THAT MY PANTS GET WET SO IT LOOKS LIKE I PEED IN MY PANTS! :(
It's *not* cum. And if it's making you look like you pee your pants, you should probably see a docter, because as far as I know, that is definately not normal. But, um, you could try wearing pantiliners for now.
xo .
What is cum? what does it mean? what if you are a girl, can u still cum? if so, are you abnormal?
"Cum" is just a word often used to mean orgasm or ejaculate .. Yes to the second question, and no to the third.
xo .
how do u get people to ask you for advice? where can i put my advice column where its safe, no one can do any harm to me, and where i can get a lot of questions? where do u put your advice column?
I'm not sure what you're asking. If you want people to ask you for advice, you have to start answering other questions + if other people like your advice, they'll start asking you questions :o). You don't really "put" your advice column anywhere .. you don't have to do anything to it if you don't want, the questions you answer'll show up in it no matter what.
xo .
What do you all think about people posting up a "question" for people to check out their column and ask them questions? I don't really like it, but it's not like there's a rule against it or anything that I remember. Just askn for your opinions...
Yeah, it's kind of annoying, but it's not like I let it get to me or anything .. this is just as pointless of a question as those, so .. yeah [[ i don't want to sound rude, but .. yeeeeeeeah ]].
xo .
my best friend and i were spray painting our bikes. Her father comes out in a rage. He starts hitting her and she was screaming for him to stop. She used a bit of foul language towards him, but he was really hitting her. the mom had to try and calm him down.SHould I get help, tell someone or just leave it alone? I don't want it to seem like i'm in their family's business, then again that is my best friend she was crying histerically but i couldn't see her because he told me to leave.
Well, first I think you need to talk to your friend about it and see how often it happens, how long it's been going on, etc. Then talk to an adult you trust, whether it's your mom or a family friend or something, and tell them what's been going on. It might seem like you're in their business or something, but it doesn't sound like your friend is in a very safe situation, and something probably needs to be done about it. Good luck + I hope she's alright! :o)
xo .
ive got 3 yrs left @ school nd i wna make it go as quick as possible, how can i deal w/ name calling?
Ahw, I'm sorry about the name calling + such .. some people are so immature. Just ignore it and don't let it get to you, and most people will stop after a bit. Other than that, make the most out of the three years you have left. High school goes by SO fast [[ you don't realize it at the time, but, yeah, now when i look back, it does NOT seem like the summer before my freshman year was three years ago ]]. But anyways, try to make the most out of your time in high school, and I hope the name calling stops!
xo .
im startin a job in like a week and im waitressing and bussing and im really nervous howdo i get ova it?
I think it's completely normal to be nervous when you're starting anything new :o). I've never had a job, so I don't know if I can really tell you anything else. Your first day or so will probably all be training // orientation, so it's not like you're just going to be thrown into it all at once. Good luck!
xo .
Hey...
This is an awkward question...but when do you start to shave"down there..?" Everyone says its not necessary but ..I am joining swim team this year as a freshman..and idk.....thanks.....(oh and im 14 gonna be 15 in october)
There's not really a "right" time .. and it's not necessary .. some people would rather shave, and some would rather not. Buuut, if you're joining the swim team, it might be a good idea to shave [[ if you don't want to shave all of it, at least shave what could end up showing ]]. If you do decide to, make sure to use shaving cream / gel + a fairly new razor, and shave in the direction that the hair grows, because it'll decrease the chances of it becoming irritated.
xo .
ok well my friend and i always have liked the same guyz pritty much and then shes always able to go out and tell them and she ends up going out with them and i get all sad n stuff and then after they brake up i dont like that guy anymore and then we end up liking the same guy again ((cuz we tell eachother who we like)) and she did the same thing again and then now she likes one guy and i like another guy and she flirts with the guy that i like but shes always saying that she doesnt like him and the guy that i like is the guy that ive felt best about so far and then he might like her but im not shur and i really want to be her friend still its just im pissed off about the fact that she keeps stealing the guyz that i like and thats why my friends keep making fun of me that i still dont have a boyfriend yet and i dont know wut to do? wut should i do?
Well, you could just stop telling her who you like .. or get the guy before she has the chance to take him. :o)
But I think you need to talk to her about what she's doing and let her know that it's really bothering you and you wish she'd stop doing it.
xo .
My guy friend *Peter always fights with his group of guy friends. We are more friends with *peter then his friends but still wanna stay close with his firendds....what do we do?????
If it really bothers you, just tell them to knock it off! I don't see why you couldn't be friends with all of them even if they aren't friends with each other, though .. ?
xo .
i like this one guy a lot but he doesnt know about it and im friends with most of his friends and hes friends with most of my friends and of course were pretty good friends and i dont know how to tell him that i like him because im afraid he will take it the wrong way and wont want to be friends with me anymore and ive kept this a secret for about a year and i havent really gone out with a lot of people and hes only gone out with 1 person which was my friend.. i mean i want him to know that i like him but then again i dont what should i do?
If you want him to know, now is probably the best time to tell him. You don't want someone else to snatch him up first, do you? Just tell him that you have feelings for him, but make it clear that if he doesn't feel the same way, you don't want it to ruin your friendship! Good luck :o)
xo .
i always cum in my unda wear (im a girl 13). and im still a virgin, idk why. i feel like there must be sumthin rong with me. cuz i heard its hard for a gurl to sum in sex. but i havnt even had sex but i still cum. why do u think so0o.
help me. plz
Yeah, I doubt that it's "cum" .. it's probably just discharge, which is completely normal. Unless it's huge amounts or it has an odd color // smell, I wouldn't worry about it.
xo .
Alright, I'm kind of torn on this issue. My mom and I are really close and we always have been.
There's just a little background info.
My boyfriend and I are planning on getting an apartment together when we graduate. I kind of want to tell my mom because he's away, earning money to put towards our apartment. She always says "If he loves you, then he shouldn't have gone." and I always want to say "Hey, he's doing this for us," and tell her about the whole apartment thing.
Thing is, she's never been crazy about the idea of two people not married living together. I hate to keep secrets from her, though. She's like a friend sometimes more than a mom.
Another issue is...
Yeah, I'm not a virgin. I haven't been since...april? and my mom keeps asking in this accusatory tone of voice "You haven't been having sex, have you?" (this is where she turns into my mom) and I've been saying "What? No. I told you, we're waiting..." or whatever
But I've seriously been considering telling her. She told me when she took me to get the pill that I could tell her if/when I had sex if I wanted to. She left the option open. I've been tempted to tell her recently.
Thing about THIS is, she hates liars. Like, a lot. If I were to tell her now, I'd have to admit that I've been lying since, like, april.
So what do you guys think? Should I tell her about both? One? The other? None?
I'm just looking for an opinion here, mostly out of curiosity. The final decision will obviously be mine. Thanks!
Alright, if you plan on moving in with your boyfriend after you graduate [[ which I assume will be in the next year or so? ]], and you're positive that's what you want to do, you're going to have to tell her eventually, and the sooner is probably the better, because you'll have more time to convince her that it's the right thing for you guys to do.
Aaand, about the whole sex thing .. she's going to find out eventually, I mean, how long are you going to want to put up with her asking all the time, right? So if you decide to tell her, and she gets angry, chances are she's only going to be mad for a little while + I'm sure she'll get over it. Um, I guess if you really wanted to, you could tell her you started more recently?
As you said, the final decision is yours, so do what you think is right :o) Good luck!
xo .
Im 5"7 and i weigh 165 pounds... thats fat right? how do i lose that weight to get to a helathy one?
Yeah, technically you're just a little bit overweight. [[ only 6 pounds ]]. It could be because you're really muscular, but yeah, if you think it's fat, you can / should try to lose a little weight. Do you exercise regularily? If not, just adding in a few hours of exercise a week could do it. You could also try cutting back on soda, fatty foods, etc, or start eating smaller meals // less snacks. If you manage to burn more calories than you take in, you'll lose weight. If you're curious about how many calories you've consumed // burned off, you can check all of that on www.fitday.com .. it calculates [[ approximately ]] how many calories you burn just living according to your lifestyle, and you can input what you've eaten, your workouts, etc. Good luck! :o).
xo .
can anyone tell me what they did for their room to make it look nice, some ideas they wish they did or are going to do.. maybe an idea about how to decorate a picture frame or make one ,, things like that!! please help!!!
Well a bulletin board is always a good idea :o) .. you can pin up pictures of friends, souveneirs, whatever you want, and you can usually get ones with wood frames, which you can paint or glue stuff onto. Um, if you wanted, you could staple fabric onto it, also, to give it a different backdrop. If you had a wide-ish picture frame, you could decorate it by glueing movie tickets // other small items onto it, kind of like a scrapbook-ish thing, except on the picture frame [[ i've never done this so i don't know how it would look, but .. yeeeah ]], or you could glue a thin-ish strip of boa-ish stuff around the edge // front of the frame [[ i don't know if you know what i'm talking about, but it's like a boa, but thinner, and it's not like, actual feathers, it's just little .. fuzzy things ]], or get cute ribbon and glue it on [[ you can use just one strip all the way around or use a few different colors and make it kind of striped ]]. I've never done any of this, sooo .. yeah, but I'm just trying to think of ideas. :o). Go to a craft store and just look around, I'm sure you'll find something that'll look cute!
xo .
ok well theres this girl that i've been inlove with since like 7th grade now im goin into 11th well we r friends now and we've gone through so much 2gether and we almost went out so many times but something always gets in the way she said she liked me a number of times but shes confused and she said she doesnt want to ruin our friendship she has gone out with 2 of my friends n both times i warned her about them and told her she would get hurt but she wouldnt listen and both times she ended up getting hurt i really like her alot and i would do anything 4 her i've tryed everything and im good friends with all of her friends, we always have fun when we hang out and stuff and she invites me over sometimes 4 dinner and stuff and i hang out with her and her family her mom and everyone loves me but still she wont go out with me what can i do i dont uunderstand why she wont go out with me she even said she liked me im so confused
Maybe she's just happy with the friendship that the two of you have and doesn't want to risk the chance of it going bad. Give her a while, and let it be, just be happy with staying friends and see if anything changes ..
xo .
im a 14/f and well i dont think im a lezbo or that im Bi but i have kissed girls and guys. with the gurls it was mostly just for fun like for a laugh. but i also find girls sexy and i think women are just beautiful. but im not like really attracted to any girls. but some are really pretty and like i said i dont mind kissing them especially my close friends. and i dance w/ my friends and we get close and stuff. am i bi? i dont know, im not sure??
Um, if you're only doing it for fun and you're not really attracted to girls, than I don't think so. A lot of girls dance together and stuff, but it doesn't really mean anything. I guess you'd be bi if you were to have a romantic relationship or something with another girl, but it doesn't sound like you're into that stuff, so I'd say no :o).
xo .
13/f- heyy!! does have a tattoo on their left shoulder??? if s0o does it hurt when you got it done, cause im gettin one sometime this year.. and im really scared that its gonna hurt really badd :'(!!!!
Hmm .. around here you can't get a tattoo unless you're 18+ .. even with a parent's permission .. but anywayssss. Any tattoo is going to hurt, you're getting a little needle stuck into you a bunch of times! I don't know how high your pain tolerance is, but it will definately hurt. You might want to think it over, though .. you're 13, you'll have plenty of time later on to get one, and you don't want to regret it later, because they're hard // sometimes impossible to get rid of.
xo .
There is this drug called "wet". People say it is made up embalming fluid, which is used for dead people or whatever.. I read that it is made with embalming fluid and PCP. My question is then: What exactly is embalming fluid made of? And what exactly is PCP made of?
P.S. I don't do it. But I want to let someone know how many messed up things that can get put into thier body.
Yeah, it's actually cigarettes or joints dipped in embalming fluid with PCP usually mixed in, and it's really dangerous. It can cause people to go into a coma *THE FiRST TiME THEY TRY iT*. It can also cause seizures and a number of other not-so-great things.
Embalming fluid = formaldehyde, methanol, ethyl alcohol [[ as well as several other things, but I don't know what ]]
I'm not sure exactly what goes into making PCP, but it's a bunch of chemicals + stuff.
Hope you can change their mind :o)
xo .