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Q: if you best friend of 3 years made ur boyfriend breakup w/ you for her what would you do?

It depends on how she made him break up with you. was it really her fault is she dating him know.
If she intenutally had your boyfriend break up with you for her and she accepted it and is dating him i wouldnt be friends with her any more.

Q: We're both in our mid-20's; female here.

I have been completely jaded for at least a year as far as love is concerned.

I was in a terrible, on-and-off relationship with this jerk, who I finally got rid of. I've started dating this new guy about a month ago, and I feel SO strongly for him, it's kinda shocking. We've been friends for a few years, and I know he really likes me, and he has for awhile. I just hadn't grown up enough to appreciate a good guy VS a jerk. This guy is an incredible man. He's on my level intellectually (which is really important to me), I can really be myself around him, he thinks I'm beautiful even with no makeup on and tears streaming down my face, I say stupid things and he thinks it's cute; when I'm around him, I smile so much that my cheeks actually hurt. We're still in the honeymoon period - I know that, but we have such incredible conversations and such a strong connection...I dunno.

When we were kissing goodnight (which usually takes awhile, because he's...um...really good at that), the words "I love you" almost slipped out of my mouth. I stopped myself, but should I have? We have a very open and honest relationship. When we got together, it was because I said, straight up, "I like you a lot, and I want to be with you."

I don't really have a concern, per se, it's more I want to know what you all think.

Have I been so complacent for so long that I don't even know liking someone VS loving someone?

Am I getting too invested in this?

What if I'm just rebounding (granted, I don't think so much it's this one - I've kinda liked him all along. He was a regular at the coffee shop I worked at, and I was looking for his car out the window even like a year ago)?

Is there, like, a specific timeline for these emotions?

Am I supposed to wait a certain amount of time?

...Should I wait for him to say it first?

I dunno. Feedback? Thanks, everyone!

I think you should do what you feel is right when you feel the time is good. Think of it this way. You were in this relationship with a complete jerk is this new guy the total oppisite? Could you not see your self with anyone else. have you thought about saying just I like you instead of I love you? We on here cant really tell you when the time is right. All we can say is Love is a strong word and you dont want to toss it out there and get hurt again. bt it sounds to me you have a great guy on your hand and sounds like the two of you are in love.

Q: i am 14 and i masterbated on a corner of a matress that somebody has had sex before, like 6 or 8 months ago! and i was wondering if the sperm that was left from long time ago could i get pregnant from that sperm that has been there for a long time? i am afraid that i might get pregnant!!!

there is no way at all its impossible.

Q: I met this girl, shes in my class too and we started being friends and we hug eachother a lot, i was attracted to her and she has a nice personality and right when i found out she experimented with girls a lot back then and shes bisexual i got my hopes up and i really dont know why, now im having thoughts about me kissing her at times and i really want to try it. One day she was sitting down in a chair and i was walking i gave her a hug and i almost knocked her over because i usually hug her tight all the time and right about to give hera hug and say bye she puckered her lip to me but i didnt do anything so ended up her lips touching my neck and when i walked away she said "YOU KNOW YOU LIKE IT!" and after that nothing like that really happened anymore was she trying to kiss me? and am i bisexual or bicurious? we tend to hug a lot,sometimes we hold hands but we barely talk because i just met her a month ago. Im sure she doesnt like me because she doesn't like anyone right now, i never felt like this with a girl before. I'm really confused.

It sounds like she is flirting with you and may like you some or building up feelings for you. I think you bi courious and a possible bisexual.

Q: I met a wonderful widow with 3 children, 12, 14 & 16. Her husband died from cancer a year ago. We've been dating for almost 9 months. I asked her to marry me after 5 months, she said yes. I found out that I have cancer 1 month after. It appears that this cancer I have is not a very treatable kind. I can prolong my life several yrs., but not much longer, unless I am the one in a million miracle. We have not told the children. It was very hard on them watching there father take 2 yrs to pass. I don't want to hurt them again. She said we will hide it until it's obvious. I'm not sure if I want to put 3 kids into another tragic relationship so soon to their past one. I've grown to love them. Should I break it off with her?, should I break it off with them?, I don't want to be the cause of tempering these wonderful people any further than they are.

First off I want to say I am sorry you are going through this. I think it will hurt them more if you leave. You obviously don't want to tell these children you have cancer and just leaving is going to upset them. This woman you meet made it through the lose of her husband and is obviously wanting to stay with you. I think you need to inform the children. after you ask this woman if she is willing to go through this again and if notyour willing to leave. I think its a sign of weakness to leave out on these kids and this woman you met. Stay strong sir and dont back away from those yo love you can do your best to fight through it.

Q: I have a question. Would anyone try a 69er?

My bf of 11 months now brought it up (we're dating online of coruse) He never brought this up before till just a few minutes ago.
Am i being a prude for not wanting to try 69er?

I have tried it but I dont like it my husband dislikes that I dont like doing it.

Q: If the person is away and not at their current address for a while and you sent something out anyways, is their mail held til they get back? or is it returned to you as a RTS and you try again later after you know they are back at that address? thanks!

If the post office is informed that this person will not be at there address they can hold the mail for them. it wont be a RTS it will more and likely just be held

Q: My ex bf 21 and I 20 were together for a yr and a half on and off. we finally broke up for good. but i just found out im pregnant! yes, it is his kid. i have not dated or had sex with anyone since our breakup. how do i talk to him about it. i know i should do it in person, but ive never been pregnant so what do i say? Thank you!

you need to sit down with him and calmly say. first off i need to tell you something and id like to start off by saying i havent been with anyone since we have broken up and I just recently found out i am pregnant.
now hun if he freaks out, doesnt want to believe you says your lieing dont freak out. first off its good ifyou two work out yor differences if not its okay to if hes a jerk like some men you dont need him you can do it alone my cousin is going throgh a tough time with her boyfriend.

Q: Is there any way to find out if my ex bf had any diseases? I was sent an email from someone I dont know telling me, he had stds. He was also sent this message. I told him about it and he said he would go to the doctor to get checked. i know his doctors name because it use to be in his phone. so i called the place to "set up an appointment" and they told me he is not a patient there. The only problem is, is that when he told me about him going to the doctor, he told me that his doctor was a male. then later said, it was a female. he told me they did a blood test and went on a wednesday. on saturday he told me his doctor called and said he was fine. i feel like the results came back way to soon. i think they should take a week or so. also, i called the doctor back to "set up an appointment" and they told me the doctor is booked until april and this doctor only works Thursday and Fridays. the place is closed on Saturday. His story didnt add up, so i dont think he went yet. but what should i do? if i tell him this or talk to him about, he will only say you dont trust me and hang up on me. then ill never know. is there any way i can find out?

if you feel he is lieing to you why are you staying with him? have you and him did anything together if so get your self checked out. he could be lieing because maybe the results came back positive? you need to talk to him if he is lieing to you and has sex with you that is against the law.

Q: Ughhh, I Want My Exx Boyfriendd Backk!

I Just Want To Be Withh Him Againn!
The Onlyy Problem Is HE Broke Up Withh Me Because He Didn't Feel Comfortable, Andd He Says He Reallyy Cares For Me Andd Loves Me But I'm Havingg Trouble Believingg That, Because If He Didd Thenn We'd Be Togetherr Rightt?

Last Weekendd We Hadd Sexx A Lottt. Thenn Whenn Like Mondayy Or Tuesdayy I Go To My Friendds House Andd Her Andd Herr Boyfriendd Toldd Me Angel Was Here Yesterdayy, And I Was Like Okkayyyy, Andd Adriana Was Like I Wouldd Tell Youu Somethingg But I Don't Wantt Youu To Cryy, I Was Like Just Tell Me! So Herr Boyfriendd Enrique Toldd Me, He Saidd Angel Fuckkedd Gabi Yesterdayy. Andd I Just Startedd Cryinggg! I Don't Want Him Messingg Withh Otherr Girls! He Has A Girlfriendd But Theyy Don't Evenn Talkk! It's Like I'm Jealous Whenn He Messes Withh Otherr Girls. I Want Him To Myselff, Andd That's Howw He Is Withh Me I Guess. His Friendd Enrique Andd My Friendd Adriana Toldd Me What Theyy Thinkk. Theyy Usedd Forr A Example Adriana's Mom And Her Exx Boyfriendd Mario. Mario Wantts Herr Mom To Himselff, He's In Love Withh Herr But He's Still Youngg Andd Wants To Mess Aroundd, So He's Basiclyy Like Savingg Herr. Andd I Saidd Well Wtf Angel Has Girlfriendss Alll The Time Andd They Saidd Yeahh Andd He Cheats On Themm Rightt, Andd I Was Like Yeahh Then Enrique Was Like Exactlyy He Doesn't Want To Be withh Youu Right Now Because He Doesn't Want To Hurt Youu! But He Loves Youu!
But Ughhh I Can't Take It Anymoree. I Don't Wanna Just Keep Beingg Fuckk Buddys! I Just Want Him To Myselff! If He Loves Me Thenn He'll Be Withh Me! What Do I Do !!!!

He obviously doesnt understand what a relationship is. its good he didnt cheat on you that he broke up with you so he can sleep around but still wants to have sex with you. He only has sex with you now so that he knows you will stay around. I could bet you any amount of money talk with another guy or get your two friends to tell your ex boyfriend you were at the house with another guy you meet and you two had sex or were all over each other hed want you back because hed think you werent going to stick around and you shouldn't find away to get over him hang out with your friends with out him. talk to some other guys etc

Q: Okay,
So Yesterday My girlfriend and I had sex for our second time.
We used a condom and it didnt break or anything.
I checked it Really Good.
And She just got off birth control on the 14th.
and for some reason we are worried she is pregnant.
And idk
What are the chances of her getting pregnant?
like after just getting off birth control and the condom was used correctly.
Thanks(:

your chances are extrememly slim like 1% like the comdom box says its 99% effective.

Q: Recently, whenever my boyfriend and I are around his friends, I tend to get ignored by him. He has a lot of female friends, and they flirt with him, but he doesn't stop them; he kind of does it back. I don't know what to do! It makes me feel very unappreciated and not important.

If you feel that way you need to tell him and if he continues you need to drop him. there are millions of guys out there and there is one for you the one who is going to treat you like gold.

Q: when ever i think about sex I get really disgusted, sex seems so nasty and gross, i mean someone licking you down there and eating you out gross, and someone fingering you and putting there parts in you, im being serious, well my question is, Is sex gross?

its really not gross. its a pretty amazing thing and i thought the same thing until the first time I had sex.

Q: I think I was born to be a male, I love to play football and all sports, i always hang with the guys, and I love men, but i hate being a girl i hate boobs periods vagina its so much to go through and dont sya i just hate the responisblities cause I hate it all aroun, I am not going to get my gender changed and I hate dressing up, dont suggest being a tranny, no way. What should I do????????

There is nothing wrong with the way you feel. I hate being a woman sometimes to. excepically now ( just had a baby a week ago) so my boobs are huge, im always moody. etc. I like playing sports and hate females they piss me off I have always got along better with guys. So its perfectly normal the way you feel. and periods are a pain in the butt. and trust me i havent worn a dress besides when i got married in years. ive worn skirts occasionally only for my husband lol. just be you.

Q: theres this guy in my la class and hes really nice and sweet and we started talking at the begininning of the year on facebook and then we stopped now that we have la together this term we started again, we have talked a little in class and on facebook we have exchanged numbers a couple days ago and talked for the past 3 days. im pretty sure i like him but i dunno what to do? i flirt a little bit but i dont wanna make it to obvious because if he doesnt like me i dont want hm to know... but maybe thats necisarry. how do i know if hes interested or not ? just like little things that he does?
thanks
kaaitlyn

if he has been talking to you since you exchanged numbers then its a good sign he likes you. little things he may say may tell you how he feels about you. but youll never no for sure unless you take the leap and go for it. ask if he has a girlfriend. if he is interested in anyone.

Q: Ok sovi have a terrible headache and my back is really sore and my tummy hurts off and on... I have been having a lot more discharge and it's getting a bit darker...is this like pms or something? Also I feel like I could just lay down and watch tv all day

Is it like a bloody discharge. I dont remember my first period at all. bt if you have an older female around ask her for help because we cant tell you 100 precent for sure. but you should go to the store and get some pads or tampons. congrats.

Q: I take Sronyx birth control and I have the pack where it is 21 active pills then 7 inactive pills. This week I am not the inactive pills so me and my boyfriend are not going to have sex (since we don't like using condoms). But how long does it take for me to get back on track and protected when I get back on the active pills next week? I want to be sure I'm protected before we start having sex again. I KNOW that birth control doesn't protect you 100% and we should be doubling up and using a condom but we don't like to so don't lecture me on that. I would just like to know when I'll be protected. Thanks in advance!

How long have you been on the birth control? Its several weeks if not a month or something when you first start taking the birth control for it to start working. The inactive pill is when you are on your period. and the active are the 3 weeks that you are not on your period. so you should be fine with having sex as long as you have not just started taking the pill.

Q: I am having such a difficult time in my life right now. Mainly I am just sick of having to deal with the problems I have with my mom. And I feel like all men wants to do to me in sexualize me. Right now it really pisses me off that my mom acts like she wants to be distant from me and when she knows I am too upset she say things like I love you when the way she acts is far from that. I keep remembering what happened to us last year during new years eve that she does not care about me anymore at all . And wanted to leave me for ever . But then I am not working right now nor was I then. Cause the main reason is that I am a foreigner and I just came into this country 12 years ago. And that makes it hard for me to find employment since the only person that could fix my citizenship status to get a job is my mom. So I feel that its the only reason that I am still with her. And this feeling disgust me it just seems like all this feeling is coming from a negative place. Every time a subject comes up about my family I have to really watch what I have to say. I feel like this issue to me is so serious and I dont know where else to find help in las vegas, nv . I told her I go online for problems like this and she does not approve of it.

When it comes with the guys. Dont date and make your self a limit like you wont sleep with a guy you are dating until you have been dating for 3 months. If he truely has feelings for you hell stick around. My mom and I are not close anymore and mostly because she drinks and smokes and just has guys to have sex with and now she has been dating a guy for sometime now who just beats on her. You just need to sit down and talk to her I dont know to much about the citzenship stuff. if you are over 18 do you still need her to help you become a citizen?

Q: What is a sponsor and how do I get one? I design clothes and I emailed Seventeen and my clothes were in their magazine. I just want to know what a sponsor does and once I have one, where do I go from there? Thanks!

Im pretty sure its the samething but we get like sponsers for our sport tournaments witch raise money. for example tomorrow we have a volley ball tournament for my husbands fire department to help raise money. each team has to pay 60 dollars to play.. A sponser you call and ask if they would be interested in sponsering your team they pay the 60 dollars to the fire department from there business. in your case i think your sponser would have to do with design and they would probly like to see your work before they decide to sponser you and i think they give you money to help you make more clothing etc.

Q: I was with my boyfriend yesterday and we were just hanging out. I got on his lap and we were making out a little and I got some gas. I was going to get up and go to the bathroom but it slipped out and I totally farted on my boyfriend! I turned red and apologized but it really did smell pretty bad and lingered in my room. He was SO grossed out and went home like 15 minutes later and didn't call me to say goodnight like he usually does. I'm SO embarrassed to even talk to him about this! He really didn't seem very pleased (not that I would expect him to be) but I don't know why he's taking it so hard and is upset...or maybe I'm just overreacting and misinterpretting the situation / his reaction? I don't know what to do now.

If he usally calls you every night and didn't last night for that reason it is stupid. yes farting can be embarssing but its natural. trust me the first time i farted in front of my husband and it was one that slipped. he laughed and said feel better. i feel embarssed but its natural and he does it all the time. (what i get for marrying a country boy lol. it he is still not talking to you hes being a jerk and shouldnt treat it that way.

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My name is Ashley. I am 22 years old. Ill be celebrating my 3rd 21st birthday June :) . I had my first child at 15. I got married at 18 and had another child shortly after. They have two different fathers. I am currently going threw a divorce. I moves states after we seperated ( ugly seperation) but I had no family in that state. I left everything except my beautiful babies and our clothes. I found a job up north and things are going good. I am dating. I have been in abusive situations. I am going to college for psychology and sociaology. Im here to listen help and give you advice ive been in alot of different situations and can relate to a lot.