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My ex bf 21 and I 20 were together for a yr and a half on and off. we finally broke up for good. but i just found out im pregnant! yes, it is his kid. i have not dated or had sex with anyone since our breakup. how do i talk to him about it. i know i should do it in person, but ive never been pregnant so what do i say? Thank you!
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you need to sit down with him and calmly say. first off i need to tell you something and id like to start off by saying i havent been with anyone since we have broken up and I just recently found out i am pregnant.
now hun if he freaks out, doesnt want to believe you says your lieing dont freak out. first off its good ifyou two work out yor differences if not its okay to if hes a jerk like some men you dont need him you can do it alone my cousin is going throgh a tough time with her boyfriend.
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Just tell it how it is.
Plain and simply, "I am pregnant and the baby is yours. We need to talk about what's going to happen."
If I were you, I'd do it in person. People can be assholes over the phone and because you are telling him BIG news, it should be in a direct way, so you can both discuss matters maturely. There's another life involved now - even though you're ex's, you need to work together.
Best of luck.
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You really don't have to go in person, if you & he are no longer together & you arent comfortable with it then give him a call. This also depends on what role you want him to play in your childs life, if so then you may want to meet in person that way you can begin trying to have a civil relationship.
When you meet him, just tell him. Dont beat around the bush, say "I know we are broken up, but I'm pregnant. Its your baby, I know this because I have not been with anyone else since we broke up. I would like you to be(or not to be) involved in this childs life(or you can let him make that decision). I just wanted you to hear it from me, rather than from some random person."
Now he will probably freak out at first, I mean being a dad is a big deal & guys are as calm as women usually are so give him his space so he can think about it & process it. Tell him to contact you when he is ready & go from there.
Congratulations & Good Luck.
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