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I have sat and thought many a times about the point of life. When one comes to think about it, life is jsut about the most pointless and meaningless thing there is around. We are born, we are stupid and useless. We work for many many years with minimal enjoyment, then we are again stupid and useless. I really don't get the point of all this s**t and it really is getting to me. I have thought about how we all really jsut WANT to live, we don't really need to live. What does this universe or whatever need with humans? We are a pointless existence. In the end, everything will be gone. When the supernova of our sun happenes, everything will be gone. What really is the point? no matter the little joys you may get out of life, I don't see the point in going on through a long and pointless life, to get to nowhere. Death? that's all you get as a reward. its truly pathetic. Therefore, I don't want to live any longer, and I would like to commit suicide. But I am scared, and I do not want to make a scene. I want to just quickly, silently, and painlessly pass away, and be done with all this bulls**t. Please help me out. thank you (link)
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Life was given to us for a reason, Whatever that reason is it's ours to find out. We are put here to do a job, make a better living for the next generation to learn, grow and to help others. In the end we all pass away but we trying to make everyday worthwhile so when we die we die knowing we made a difference or at least trying. Although my life isn't always perfect I try to live everyday at the fullest because there are people who never got to live as long as I have/am. If you end your life not only will you hurt the ones who love you most, but you can't go back.
Live your life to the fullest and be thanksful
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Is it normal for an 18 year old guy to be thinking about marriage and kids? My boyfriend and I have been dating for 8 months and at the begining of the relationship he knew he wanted to get married and maybe have some kids but he never put much thought into it and now suddenly this week he's been asking how I would want to be proposed to in the future and kids and what our house would look like. I didn't know teenage guys thought about this. I know we wouldn't get married for years but I love knowing how committed he is. Any other guys like this? (link)
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yeah it's too young it's nice to know he is commited and everything but are you ready for a commitment?
marriage is the biggest committment.. and having kids is probably going to be the biggest one you will make in your life. wait until your ready
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Lets see me and my babys father got into it about a month ago and he broke up with me.. That is the 2nd time he broke up with me..He broke up with me when i was 4months pregnant.. and i gave him a 2nd chance when i was about 6months but here recently..he broke up with me again..the baby is now 8months..I want to be together for the babys sake i dont want her to have parents that are split i dont want her to grow up like her daddy had to.. What should i do to make him want me back?? (link)
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Don't go strolling back to him he isn't a worth it, Any guy who leaves his wife/girlfriend while pregnant period isn't worth the time. I know you want to be together for the baby's sake but to tell ya the truth this guy doesn't seem to have one bit of interest to do what is best for the child. You are the mother, You be a good role model for the baby as mother is god in the eyes of a child ;)
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I am a junior in high school and I am looking into colleges now. I want to be a criminal profiler, like on the show criminal minds. I currently live in Rhode Island, I want to move to New York. Does anyone know of any good colleges in New York that specializes in that field. but I am open to colleges in Pennsylvania, Maryland, and New Jersey. Basicly I want to get out of Rhode Island but still remain on the east coast. I really dont want to go to mass or anywhere above that. Mass is like a last resort though. (link)
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I also live in Rhode Island lol
Try this one
http://www.jjay.cuny.edu/
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I just moved to San Antonio, and I was a little desperate to make friends with any of my neighbors. I am white and I befriended a Mexican man, Carlos, living nearby. I started loaning him money and buying him drinks. He made it very clear that he didn't want to date me, but wanted a purely physical relationship.
I ended up befriending his sister "Jenny" also, and she told me that he didn't like me and was using me. I bought her drinks and smokes, not really caring about the money.
I was a little hurt, but continued to hang out with him and loan him small dollar amounts here and there. Although he did try to put the moves on me, I said "no".
Carlos and his friend, Jon, came over to my house one night, so they could download music and play on the internet. They were mad that I had talked to Jenny about my "giving" relationship with Carlos. Carlos told me never to talk about it with anyone. I said Jenny was a hypocrite, because I had bought her stuff also. Jon later told Jenny what I had said.
Jenny confronted me on the sidewalk infront of my house that I had talked about everyone behind their back. She called me immature. She brought up the relationship with my neighbor and my feelings for my neighbor infront of other neighbors. I was mortified, I apologized and ran inside why she still ranted. Carlos watched the whole exchange from his yard and let his dog go into my yard. He smiled while it chased me in the house. I no longer have any feelings for Carlos. However, I did want to get along with my neighbors and make friends.
I am afraid to leave the house, and I plan never to talk to my neighbors again. Can you give me any advice? (link)
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It sounds like they are both taking advantage of you. Why are you buying them stuff?...Why does Carlos only want to have a physical relationship with you? You said "I just moved to San Antonio" Don't you find it at all a little weird that someone would want a relationship that is physical if you just moved? They don't sound like real friends from what you've said above. I know you want to meet people and make friends but as far as Carlos and his sister goes I thnk you are looking in the wrong area. The more you give money and buy things for people depending on the person the more they are going to exspect it from you and these sound exactly that those type of people. I say looking for friends eles where
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seriously????? i thought this only happened on t.v.!!!!!!! i got REALLLLYYYY drunk one night at one of my best friends party, and there was this guy who i was talking to before i got drunk. then we started dancing. and then i got completely wasted. i saw him the next day at school and he told me that if i didnt do what i did last night again then he would send the tape to everyone. and im sure u know what was on the tape.... so what do i do, i dont want to have sex with him again but i reallllyyy dont want that tape out because i have no idea whats on it (link)
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14 and getting drunk? Sounds really responsible..
If you drank so much until the point were you wasted yourself away than you need to know that you weren't being responsible and know that there are probably going to be consequences to your actions. If this guy video taped and you have proof of it than you should tell an adult about it as that is blackmail and a violation of privacy and he can get in serious trouble for it.
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15 and still haven't developed boobs?
(as in completely flatchested, not small)
i know its completely repulsive and im so worried,i feel so self conscious and hate my body because of it
im 107 lbs, almost 5'4, have my period and all other signs of puberty (including hips and an otherwise curvy figure), and my mom started developing in junior high
ive also heard that you develop boobs a year or two before your period,and i've already had mine and they're still not here
i've asked this question a lot on here and no answers seem to be from people in the same position as me
thats why im so completely obsessive and worried over this is because there seems to be no one out there like me
is anyone else like me?/has anyone else been like me in the past and eventually got them? (link)
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At 15 i didn't have boobs either just because your mom developed in junior high doesn't mean that there is anything wrong with you. they will come and no it's not true that your boobs develope 2 years before your period because everyone is different we don't all bloom at the same time. You need to be patient, You can't exspect to get your period and have boobs all at once it doesn't work that way. Your boobs will come in time
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16/f
so, obviously im not gonna be a pregnant woman whos gonna be wearin mumu's and huge t-shirts while im big. im lookin for cheap, fashionable, maternity clothes for the younger generation. any one know where i should start ? thanks (link)
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At 16 you obviously aren't ready to have baby if you are more focused on clothes. Get your head straight and start thinking about the kid it's not about you anymore it's about the kid
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17/F
Would it be dangerous for me, as a female, to masturbate with a vacuum? (link)
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yes it is anything you stick down down that isn't meant to go in there is dangerous and if you use a vacuum good luck with treating all the infections
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I'm going to try and make this short as possible. Basiclly I was fired from my old job due to some racism & prejudice. They didn't like me because I wasn't "one of them" & because I was doing good & that was there weakness I guess you could say...ofcourse since I was the "new employee" and they being there for 2 years obviously they ended up winning and I lost..now a month later I'm trying to apply at the same company but at a diffrent location..only problem is when they ask if ever been fired and the reasoning..I don't know how to explain all of what happend so that the hiring manager will believe it & not look at it as a joke..I know that being fired lowers my chances of even getting a call back or interview but I guess its true what evryone says..doesn't hurt to try ..right? (link)
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Your best bet is to not put down jobs you got fired from that is what they look at and as much as you try to exsplain your case about what happened it's your word against their opinion.
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I just started taking the pill about a month ago and I was wondering if it can affect your mood? I've been pretty sad and stressed lately..but it comes and goes. I just started college so I don't know whether to blame this major change or the pill..or probably some of both. Any insight would be helpful! thanks (link)
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perfectly normal to have mood swings your body is adjusting to it.
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So i've been dating this guy for about a year now. We broke up about 3 months ago, i didn't text him, call him nothing he tried reaching out to me but i told him we couldn't be friends. Finally about a month and a half later i decided i would try to be friends, we hung out and he told me the real reason why we broke up and how he wants to be with me after he gets his life in order. He's 22, has no career plan, no car, no licence, in about a month he'll be living back with his parents, doesn't have a college degree, has pretty much nothing. Thats why we broke up..he was sick of me being the person who takes care of him he wanted to date me when he was able to take care of me. anyways..the second time we hung out we hooked up. Then things starting going back to normal, we were always together stuff like that. Recently ive noticed hes been a little bit at distant ( i think its because he's sketchy about us acting like we're together when we're not it defeats the purpose of him spending time getting his life together) so..i asked him about it if he was feeling overwhelmed hanging out with me and he kinda freaked out saying "its so annoying when you ask me that if i didn't want to hang out with you i wouldn't" and i told him im sorry i just dont want him to feel like we're moving to fast and he said "i just dont know abut us acting like we're together yet but its not a big deal im not worried about it, its not a nusance if it was a big deal i would of brought it up to you" then he had to get out of my car and go to work...i called him on friday he told me he was watching a movie hed call me back, never did, didnt on saturday, and now its sunday and he texts me saying he's sorry he hasn't contacted me hes at a baseball game and he'll hit me up later. I never texted him back..and if he does hit me up later i don't think i will. It hurt so much the first time he ended things..and now hes playing this insecurity stuff like he doesn't know if we should act like we're together before we start dating again because itl ruin it if we do..idk what to do i need advice..it's truly breaking my heart and i just want to be happy again. (link)
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It sounds like he could be exspeirencing guilt and a bit of depression. Why doesn't he have a job or a car? You didn't give any specific details. I don't know the whole story but if he isn't trying to go somewhere in life than maybe it is best for you two not be together for your behalf. If he is being lazy and you are taking care of him it is only a matter of time before it starts to drain you out. This guy is 22 years old and needs to start acting like it. If it is breaking your heart than you need to decide for yourself do you want to be with this guy that is going nowhere in life? be friends with him and prolong the pain? or cut contact and focus on your life? You can't let someone hold you back and exspecially someone who isn't doing anything for themselves and the truth is we can't help people who dont' help themselves first. Stop letting him play with your feelings, Move on with your life and meet other people not only is it healthier for you but in the end you will find happiness. I was in a relationship for a long time and I was always doing things for him and for awhile it didnt' bother me but within time it only made me stress out, and it drained me out and I couldn't take it anymore. My advice? I think you need to move on and focus on your life let this guy get his ass straighted out and don't let him hold you back because he sounds like a freeloader
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im a teenage male.
i want sex, how do i get it. (link)
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you cant really just go and get sex it has to happen when the time is right and when you are with someone you love and trust and someone that you know you can see yourself with for a very long time that is what makes it special. having sex isn't something you just do because you want it there is a lot more too it than just that
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is it okay for a 19 year old to date a 24 year old? just curious to everyone's opinions :) thanks! (link)
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I dont see why not. you are an adult and it's not THAT far apart :) go for it!
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im a teenage guy.
i masterbate alot, probably once a day. sometimes twice a day.
i dont know if i should stop, but after i masturbate, i feel great and i feel like nothing can distract me. and doing it before i sleep is good for me to fall asleep faster.
i dont know if its bad for me...i feel guilty when i do it. should i stop? and how?
please dont give me a simple answer like "focus on other things"
i want details. please help! (link)
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if it is becoming an addiction then you should stop. is it getting in the way of school? is it all you think about? do you advoid doing this? if not then I don't see why it is such a big deal everyone does stuff like that
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