Mercy_x_Me's advice column

Hi I Have A Question. ((Duh!)) Umm, Although I Lover Her ALOT, My Mom Is The Most Irresponsible Immature Woman I Know, And I'm Not Saying This Because I'm Mad At Her Or Anything, I'm Saying It Because She ****'s Up Everything!! Everyday She Forgets To Do Something Or Whatever. Example: I'l Ask Her Nicely To Wake Me Up In The Morning For School, And She'l Do So, But 5 Minutes Before School Even Starts. Here's Some Other Things That Really Bother Me.
-She'll Forget Her Keys In The Car.
-She'll Yell For Me Really Loud In The Store When She's Too Lazy To Walk To The Next Isle And Tell Me To Come.
-She'll Blame Her Problems On Me. i.e.= She Doesnt Take The Wet CLothes Out Of The Washer, Then They Smell Really Bad, And She'll Say, "Well If You Didn't Keep Me Up All Night Makin Me Help You Study I Would Have Remembered" And I Wouldnt Even Keep Her Up All Night. Having Her Do Something With Me Like Helping Me Study For 5 Minutes Is Something That Happens Only Maybe Once A Year. She' Be Too Busy Sleeping.
-She Wears Clothes That Dont Fit Her, And She Dresses Like A Hooker With A Mental Disability. MANY Disablities Actually.
-She Got Her Hair Cut Like A Guy, And It's So Embarassing. Her Whole Appearance Is Embarassing.
I've Been Dealing With Her...Awfulness For Quite Some Years Now, And I Can't Take It Anymore. So Much..Ughh.....I Can't Handle This Anymore, And Sometimes I Even Contemplate Suicide Because My Life's Not Worth Living When She Messes Everything In It Up. SHe Will Go Buy Me Candy To Make Up For What She Did, But That DOesnt Help Me With My Tardy To School, Or My Label "The One With The Retarded Mom." I Hate It, I Hate This. Will You Be My Mom?

As sad as this is, your gunna have to make your own life, and live it independantly than your mom. When you show your mom up and be twice as responsible as her, then maybe she'll even be jealous or upset shes not the one acting like a mom. If she doesnt, screw her! Lifes tough & their are tons of times where we can't depend on our parents, I'm just saying things the honest way. It sounds like you've tried with your mom before, and the best thing you can do for your situation is act like the mom. if she starts blaming things on you just say in a mommish voice : Ok mom, just calm down. It will be ok! You will piss her off and smack her into shape.And for your own problems.

1) Invest in an alarm clock. As annoying as they are they never let you down
2) Get a copy of your moms car key, and carry it in your purse or something. This way if your with her, you wont be stuck outside. If shes alone, she'll just have to learn and you wont suffer.
3)Go on strike and stop going to the stores with her until she promises to not yell so loud like that. Yep, thats right, you having control over her!
4)When she blames her problems on you, just say you know mom i've had to raise myself all alone my whole life, now i have to raise you?? (works everytime--)
5)When she dresses like a ho, just say im not going out with you until you change your outfit. Even if shes about to bring you somewhere that you need to go, walk or get a ride, its worth not being embarrassed....... I guess if you really just need the ride go w/ her and dont say anything.
6)Her haircut isnt your problem. Don't let yourself suffer for her stupid decisions. When people say the "one with the retarded mom" just say.......... just b/c you cant handle your own problems doesnt mean I asked you to handle mine
7) You had mentioned something about studying. Well, now you dont need a mom or any study buddy! Heres a website that allows you to make virtual flash cards and other study guides! www.quia.com . . . . . once there click on "instructor zone" & then "30 day free trial" hope I've helped in that department.

Like I've said, just make her feel like shes the kid and your the mom. She'll be jealous just how accomplished you are at a very young age. Dangle it right over her head and act soo like a mom. She will eventually catch on !! If she doesnt, I would be highly suprised. Let her dress how she wants, just refuse to be around her dressed like that. Offer to help her go shopping every here and there and make a "girls day". Dont commit suicide. Once you live on your own you'll be free to make your own choices, and hopefully you will learn from her mistakes and benefit. Its so responsible that you can visualize shes dressing wrong for her age and stuff. Your really mature and thats awsome! You have some great traits. And when she tries to apologize with candy just simply tell her "this will never make up for the things you do, i want to see improvement and change, not sugar".

good luck!
keep in touch, i would love to hear how the situation goes, dont be afraid to send one to my inbox!!!

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Let me know how everything goes, hope your situation clears up.