hey, there are this 2 gurls ,one of them is balck and huge and the other one is skinny and long hair. when they see me give a kiss to my boyfriend they always sem to say something. and in class sometimes they look at my friends and me and they start mumbling and then they start laughing. i dont know whats soo funny. i dont want to go up to them beacuse then the whole class will know . thats how loud they are. if you were in this situation what would you do ?
If I were in this situation, I would definitely ignore these girls. If they're mumbling things when you kiss your boyfriend, they're probably jealous! It's not worth a fight or argument with obnoxious, immature people. They are most likely just trying to cause drama. If you act like they aren't even there, they'll get bored with it and move on to someone else.
Hope this helps(:
Darby
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hi im male 20 my penis is 4 inches at best when fully erect ive had sex a few times but dont no if im giving her the pleasure she shud get out of sex is my size ok would this satisfy most women please answer as soon as possible and be honest i just really want to no how to go about things thanks.
I'm sure your penis size is able to give pleasure. Girls get pleasured by fingers, which are probably smaller than your penis. It's best to be direct about it in order to get a direct answer from her. While in the act, ask things like "Does that feel good? Do you like it like that?" That way you'll get an answer straight up. If she's moaning at all though, I'm sure everything's okay!
Hope this helps
DarbyJay(:
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Ok so my dad makes my life a living hell and i dont know what to do anymore. He makes me just want to leave(die) and never come back. i just want to get away from the pain. i want to commit suicide but im afraid. Can you help me?? What should i do about these thoughts and attempts??
HelP!!!
You need to talk to your father and a counselor. If possible, explain to your father what he is doing wrong and tell him how it makes you feel. Even after doing this, you need to see a therapist. They can do therapy with you and your father to help your relationship and help you get along better.
I don't know what your father is doing here, but if it's a situation where you absolutely cannot talk to him, go to a school counselor first. Tell her/him about these thoughts you've been having, and at the end you also said attempts. Suicidal thoughts and depression are very serious things and needs to be dealt with professionally.
Hope this helps :D
Darby
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I like Natasha Bedingfield, Raven Symone, Pink, Rihanna, Aly & AJ, Vanessa Hudgens, Brittnay Spears, Lilly Allen- the fear, All American Rejects- gives you hell, Lady Gaga- poker face & Avril Lavrine.
What would be some other people to look up/ listen to on: my mp3, playlist.com & or facebook.
P.S. I'm 15/f, america.
This isn't my taste of music but I'm sure I can think of a few artists for you(:
Try:
Beyonce
Miley Cyrus
Colbie Caillat
Christina Milian
Katy Perry
Taylor Swift
Hilary Duff
Jordin Sparks
Jonas Brothers
The Veronicas
The Ting Tings
JoJo
Hope this helps :D
-Darby
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15/f
my friends tell me when they notice that guys are hitting on me and flirting, personally i cant tell at all! how do i know! how do i know when i am!?
There are a lot of ways to tell, but it can be confusing because sometimes people are just being friendly. Typically though, if a guy is joking/teasing a little, making a lot of eye contact and smiling, making physical contact, like touching your shoulder, back, or leg. If you're in a group and the person seems to only be talking to you when the conversation actually involves a few other people. And of course if he compliments you. "Your eyes are beautiful. You have a pretty smile. Your laugh is cute." etc..
Hope this helps!
Darby (:
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okay, i'm 15/f and i am a bit taller than thhis boy who likes me and to tell the truthn im starting to like him. the only problem is my self consciousness of being tall. im usually not this shallow but if u were me, u would probably feel the same way. i was hoping somone could give me some advice on not caring about what other people thought and being more confident in myself and what i want! tips please!!!
I can definitely relate to your problem. I had a boyfriend in the past that was shorter than me. At first I was definitely not sure about it. It does sound shallow, as you said, but I think it's normal. After I started falling for him more, I realised how silly it was. I cared about him for him. He was a good, sweet person and I quickly started not caring that he was shorter than me. No one ever mentioned it to me. I didn't care what people thought about our height difference because it's not like everyone else has perfect relationships, ya know? If the worst part about a boy is his height, you've got a pretty good catch. (:
Hope this helps :D
Darby
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My girlfriend masturbates alot and kinda used to be, like, addicted to it. Could masturbating too much make the skin on the clit and labia loose or somethin'? And make the labia dark... Is there anything that can be done about this?
Girls' labia color and size vary more than the size of guys' penises. Masturbating wouldn't cause any color change or make a girl's labia 'loose'. If this is something you two discuss openly, ask her if it has always looked that way. If it has, you have nothing to worry about. If not, she might want to look into seeing a gynecologist.
Hope this helps :D
-Darby
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how many girls actually have sex without ever having experienced an orgasm? Do most girls masturbate before this?
Some girls do have sex without ever having an orgasm. Some get it through other things such as oral. Personally, I have, but it's definitely not every time. And by your second question, I think you're asking if masturbating often before having sex makes it harder for them to orgasm? If this is what you're asking, I would say that it could be very possible. The same way guys take longer to cum if they masturbate often, girls would most likely take longer to get off or have a more difficult time reaching that point.
Hope this helps,
Darby
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well i met one of my ex-besties on my birthday we was thick as theives i even began to diss my best friend for her i mean i loaughn i cried and everything with girl so out hte blue she calls me and says i dnt think this friend ship is workn out i mean it hurted but al along i knew it was coming when she became back friends with her other friend so then she tried to say when i didint have nobody she was there 4 me but the thing was vice versa i mean she contradicts herself everything she says i do wrong she does the same thing im jus wondern if leavn her in the past is a good idea
I would definitely make this girl part of my past. If she's going to ditch you the second she re-becomes friends with someone, she's not worth having as a friend. I think it's odd that she called you and practically 'broke up' with you, the way you would if you were in an intimate relationship with someone. If she's willing to go to that length to leave you behind, definitely let her go. Find some better friends that appreciate and won't leave you behind or be hypocritical about everything.
Hope this helps :D
-Darby
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Is there any places where you can send your child to have "the talk"? She is homeschooled so she cant go to a class at school or somthing.
I'm sure you could take him/her to a doctor/gynecologist to talk to her about this. But I definitely think you should talk to him/her. As the person below me said, as I was first discovering sexuality, I would much rather my parents talk to me about it then a doctor that I don't know. My parents never even started to go into the sex talk with me, so everything I learned about it was from people my age or a few years older. If my parents had talked to me about it when I was younger, I would have been much more informed and less naive. I probably would have made better decisions in my sexual awakening as well. It's good that you're wanting your child to get the talk. But it should come from you. It makes it more personal and believable when it's coming from someone you know/look up to.
Hope this helps :D
-Darby
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Ok so me and my boyfriend had sex for the first time about 2 weeks ago and when we had it the condom broke but before anything could happen he pulled out. second time we used a condom and third time we didnt use one but he didnt cum in me at all!!. now i only didnt use one becuase im on birth control now i know there is pre cum but shouldnt the pill be ok with that? Im just kinda nervous, all my friend are all telling me i should be fine and same with my boyfriend cuz i have been good with taking it and never forgetting it. i have been on it about 2 and a half months. but i just wanted to see what you guys think
:] thanksss a lot
If you've been taking your pill properly, you have very little to worry about. Birth control pills are very effective. I think you're covered.
Hope this helps :D
-darby
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is it normal for a virgin female to hurt so much during an attempt at sex that she won't let him get in?
It can be painful enough that she will want to stop. Depending on how big her partner is. Sometimes a virgin's hymen is not broken yet, so it can hurt bad and bleed a little too. Try to relax (or have your girlfriend relax). If you haven't already, try using lube.
Hope this helps:D
Darby
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so im a 17 year old female :] im graduatin like next month so heres my question.. i like this guy... hes filipino and im latina :] we flirt quite a bit and ive been havin a crush on him... anyways later this week he asked to hang out.. the thing is idk if he wants to chill or if hes expectin me to have sex? i mean.. i like him alot so i wouldnt mind hittin it BUT i dont want to get hurt.. i dont want him to use me... if i make out with him does that make me easy??? UGH im so confused!!! what should i do??? i like him alot but im not one to be played so idk.. someone help me please..
I definitely don't think you should have sex with him right away if it turns out that he does want to. Wait until you are in a relationship for a while, that way you know he is all about you and only you. We can't tell if he is wanting sex, he might honestly just be wanting to hang out for right now. You should go hang out with him and let him know how you feel about him. Try not to hook up with him yet. Even if he wants and you want it right now, you'll risk getting hurt because you don't know each others' intentions right now. Let him know that you like him, but try to take things slow to start off with.
As for making out with him equally you being easy, it's hard to say. It depends because every one has a different opinion as to what is considered sleazy and what isn't. Just try hanging out with him and going with the flow. If you can, do something that requires you to be in public such as; go see a movie, go out to dinner, hang out with some friends, etc. That way you can get to know each other in person without having the pressures that you might get while hanging out alone in the privacy of a home.
Hope this helps and good luck :D
-Darby
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okay i have a best friend named mia and a b named james, for some reasn lately i've been having a gut feeling that mia likes james.. now her nd him both say tht the are best friends but for some reason i dont believe it.. she ditches classes with him and thay talk about god knows what. but when i do ask what they are talking about she says in sort of a mocking way, WE HAD A GOOD CONVERSATION.. i dont want to distance myself from hi and then end up looking like a nurotic jealous gf.. but what should i do ad how do i find ou the truth??
im a female and im 16 ( nikki)
That sounds very suspicious to me as well. I would be concerned if my friend and boyfriend were THAT close. If they met after you two started dating, it's even worse. I wouldn't let my boyfriends do anything alone with my friends that are girls. I just don't trust people enough! Plus, they shouldn't be talking about anything that you can't be let in on. If I were you, I'd talk to your friend first. Tell her that lately you've been feeling left out and sort of weirded out about how close she is to your boyfriend. If she really is your friend, she'll take this into consideration and let you in on their conversations- maybe even stop talking or hanging out with him so much.
If she reacts extremely defensively to this, you'll know something's up for sure. If nothing was going on, she would have no reason to get angry at you for simply stating how you feel. Just make sure you act mature about it, ya know. Don't act super whiny or pissy because then she will get defensive either way.
Also, if you do go about it in a responsible way and she does get defensive, you'll have to talk to your boyfriend next. Just say that you passively mentioned to your friend that it hurts your feelings that they leave you out of conversations and are so close. Then tell him that she got defensive about it and it's starting to make you suspicious.
Hopefully nothing is going on, but if you pin both of them separately into corners, they're bound to crack if something is up. If it turns out they've got something going on behind your back, break off ties with both of them immediately. You deserve a better boyfriend and best friend than that!
Hope this helps(:
-Darby
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okay well i used to think mastubating was so bad and "god" would punish me for doing it-crazy things like god taking away my personality or something like that. So i stopped. But now my views are different, such as i don't believe in the bible let alone the god people say there is. I mean, i believe theres a higher power- like a force of the universe- but not at all that its going to punish me. And besides, i'm a good person, so why should masturbating make me a bad person? I think they'res nothing wrong with doing it now-but after doing it those feelings of "he's going to take this or that away from me" still come up? I mean, i was raised catholic and i am being forced to go to confirmation-but i don't believe in any of it.Even if there is a god, i wouldn't think of him/her as this menace that gives humans rules to live by. Saying being gay is a sin, girls can't get there periods- it just isn't what i think this so called god would make you do.I think he would be more a best and trusted friend who loves you no matter what.(i very SLIGHTLY believe in him/her.hardly.) So back to my question- If i don't exactly believe in the catholic god,and don't consider myself catholic in any way- why do i still feel like he or she's going to "punish" me for mastubating?! I feel guilty? any help on this? thanks.
You still have those feelings of guilt because you were raised that way. You are used to associating sexual things with God being angry or dirty things. You need to try to keep telling yourself that sexuality and masturbation is normal. It is human nature to be sexual and it is okay to explore those feelings. Whether you believe in God or not, you're sexuality isn't going to go away because that's not how hormones work. You can't just make those urges go away, nor should you try. In time, you will become more comfortable with your sexuality and begin to really feel that God isn't angry at you just because you have hormones that make you horny.
Hope this helps,
Darby
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ok, so people get STD's when they have sex with someone who is STD positive. But, like, where does thaat person get the STD? You can say that if they were sexually active with someone in the past, that they could have contracted the disease from them. But what I'm saying is, everyone who has an STD couldn't have gotten it from having sex; there has to be a beginning to this. I was thinking that possibly a person can be a carrier of an STD, and not be affected by it. Hence my question, can one get an STD from having sex with a virgin?
Some STD's originated in primates; such as monkeys, baboons, apes, etc. Most STD's have been around nearly as long as civilization has, so there is no clear way of determining where exactly they came from. People that have STD's now got them from people who had them, who got them from other people who had them, who got them from other people that had them and on and on.
You can get an std from any from of sexual contact, so it is possible for someone to me an intercourse virgin and still get one. And even less popular, people can get some from toilet seats. STD's such as crabs. But it is very rare.
Hope this helps,
Darby
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i have been outside like everday and i can't get a taN!!! what are some tips to get a tan???
Get some tanning oil and put it on just before laying out. It enhances tans and can make you skip the sunburn stage.
Hope this helps,
Darby
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Lately, my principal has been getting closer and much nicer to me. Since I am usually a student who gets into a lot of trouble, i visit his office often. Last time i visited his office, he started massaging my shoulders, and sweet talking me. He was slowly kissing my neck and cheeks. He told me he wants us to go to the next level, if I knew what he ment. I did. I am starting to have feelings for him, though i am only 16, and he is in his 40's. It's not illigal if i come onto him. Or is it ? Please help me, I am not sure what to do.
It is very illegal whether it is you that comes onto him or if it's he that comes onto you. He's at least 26 years older than you. That's very unprofessional of him, and puts you in a weird position. If you two did take it to the 'next level' and someone found out, he would not only get fired, but also go to prison. You need to tell someone about your last encounter before your feelings for him grow any more. All you're going to get is trouble from a situation like this.
Hope this helps,
Darby
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My boyfriend seemed perfect to me his nice sweet such a gentlement he makes me happy and i'm actually in love.we've been together for 8 and a half months now and everything has been great he says he loves me. The problem is his ex his ex want nothing to do with him which is a plus but he told me recently that he still has feelings for her it hurts so much .I asked him does he really love me he said yes. I asked him does he want her back he said yes.Now At this point I dont know what to do.
He dated her for 2 years and its been about a year and a half since its been over she was his first girfriend .The question is WHAT IN THE WORLD DO I DO NOW.
It's understandable for him to still miss what they had since it was his first girlfriend and they dated for two years. But he definitely should not still want her back. He's been dating you for 8 1/2 months and they've been broken up for a year and a half. If he's telling you he loves you, but wants his ex back, you need to break things off. As hard as it is, that's a huge warning sign that he might cheat on you. He practically said that he wants to.
Even if his ex doesn't want him, you don't want to have to worry about what he's trying to do behind your back. You deserve much more than that and as perfect as he may seem, that's not a good relationship to be in.
Hope this helps(:
Darby
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In short, there is a guy that I still really care about. We met when I was in 9th grade, had a complicated relationship for a year, then my mom decided that she didn't like him and 'banned' me from him. But we continued meeting, she found out, we had a blow out, and then I ended up cutting off all connections with him. It's been a year since I've talked to him & I still really miss him and love him & he's been trying really hard to try and meet me but I've been ignoring him the best I can. I really don't want him to graduate high school thinking that I don't want to talk to him. I really miss him and I want to start seeing him again desperately. But then there's my mom. I don't know what to do. She won't listen to me; she doesn't care; she doesn't think that 16/17 yr olds are capable of feeling emotions other than angst and false love. I don't know if I should just try and let him go (after a failed year of doing so) or see him against my mom's wants [of course, this will involve her not knowing].
Try sitting your mother down one last time and talking to her about this. Explain your side of things, even if you already have several times before. Be mature about it. Don't be whiny or dramatic. Even if you do love him, it's best not to say things like, "But, Mom, I love him so much!" or "I can't see myself without him."
Try to keep it simple. Something along the lines of, "It's been a year and I've tried to forget about him, but I just can't. We're both much more mature now, so our relationship would be less complicated. I just want to hang out with him as friends at first and see how that goes. If I have any indication that it will be how it used to, I don't plan on dating him."
If this doesn't work, you should abide by your mother's rules, no matter how unfair they are. Your mother won't trust you and it could put a major strain on your relationship if she finds out that you're sneaking around behind her back-- again. If this is the case, contact the guy and tell him that you do really care about him and haven't forgotten about him. But let him know that you aren't going to be able to see him until you're eighteen or until your mother allows you. Tell him that until then, it would be best if you didn't talk.
Hope this helps
If you have any more questions e-mail or message me(:
Darby
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