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Relationships with my principal
Lately, my principal has been getting closer and much nicer to me. Since I am usually a student who gets into a lot of trouble, i visit his office often. Last time i visited his office, he started massaging my shoulders, and sweet talking me. He was slowly kissing my neck and cheeks. He told me he wants us to go to the next level, if I knew what he ment. I did. I am starting to have feelings for him, though i am only 16, and he is in his 40's. It's not illigal if i come onto him. Or is it ? Please help me, I am not sure what to do.
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Its illegal, he's taking advantage of you because he knows how easy it is to turn a 16 year old's head with a little confident attention.
I know it doesn't feel like it, because you have some feelings too. It feels like you're both just responding to whats there.
That is the biggest load of bullshit you could ever feed yourself. Let me explain.
I'm 25. At 25, I know how to talk to women for effect. I know how to approach a girl the same age and start a conversation and lead it into getting her interested in me. I know female body language, so I can read every little signal she doesn't know she's sending and know within minutes if a girl will chance a date with me.
In essence, I am capable of presenting myself as someone that people want to talk to and be around, and how to present myself as an appealing dating/sexual partner to someone who is also 25.
25 year old women are ALOT harder to impress than 16 year old women. They are more experienced, they know what is bullshit and what isn't, they can read my body language just as well as I can read theirs, and they have enough experience with guys that they have a good chance at spotting a guy who is genuine vs a guy who is full of shit and just trying to get laid.
You have no idea. Its not your fault, no one does at your age. At 16, with your lack of experience, it seems perfectly reasonable that this guy might genuinely LIKE who you are as a person, and might have interest in you that could lead to something real. Its flattering.
And he knows all of this, and he's faking every single second of it because he's a fucking perv who wants to find an opportunity to have sex with a 16 year old. Regardless of whether or not he would go through with it (many guys with these...tendencies... will not fully act on them because of nervousness or something similar) he is still willing to go through with it enough to express the desire, which is fucked up.
Heres how this works.
Option A) You go to the cops, he gets arrested/fired, and you and other girls are safe.
Option B) You do not go to the cops, and he sleeps with you or he doesn't. In the future, he finds another girl who is troubled as you were, and shows her friendship. He grooms her, and sleeps with HER, and fucks her up in the head for life when she realizes that he loved her because she was 16, and it turns him on to fuck underage girls, not because he actually gave a shit who she was.
Don't be that girl, and don't let anyone else be either.
Tell your parents. This guy needs to be arrested before he ends up sleeping with a girl your age (be it you or someone else) and that girl ends up in psychotherapy because she couldn't handle being lied to so convincingly and then cast aside when she no longer satisfies his desire for an underage girl.
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Also, as I've pointed out to many, read everything Rahzie says, she is wise beyond her years.
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It is very illegal but not only just that he is taking advantage of you. ^Your in denial if you find that theres nothing wrong with that stay away from that man are tell someone. If I were you i would go with like a camera and get it on tape you can sue the school and get big bucks ...good luck.
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FOR GOD's SAKE and again FOR GOD's SAKE please understand what he is doing is MORALLY WRONG and ENTIRELY WRONG and the fact that is MORALLY WRONG is more important the fact that it is LEGALLY WRONG. He is a real low grade person. For you it is not very abnormal to develop some sort of feeling for him since you are going through physiological and psycholigical changes because of your age. However, how could he do it being such a matured adult and in such a respectable possition? I would like two make two suggestions to you. First, STOP having any feeling for him since you are going through emotional changes and you may easily make a wrong decision. Second, please talk to your parents or any reliable adult that you know abut this issue. God bless you.
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It is very illegal whether it is you that comes onto him or if it's he that comes onto you. He's at least 26 years older than you. That's very unprofessional of him, and puts you in a weird position. If you two did take it to the 'next level' and someone found out, he would not only get fired, but also go to prison. You need to tell someone about your last encounter before your feelings for him grow any more. All you're going to get is trouble from a situation like this.
Hope this helps,
Darby
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It's illegal.
Pretty much everywhere on this planet that has internet access, it’s completely illegal.
Even if the age of consent in your state is 16, it’s still illegal. He is in a position of authority over you, so if he has sexual contact with you, it will be statutory rape in most states, and sexual assault in all others.
YOU won’t get in much trouble, but he will. He will lose his job, and probably go to jail for a while. The more he does with you, and with other young teens, the longer he’ll get locked away.
Think about that for a second: This is a man on such a power-trip that he would risk his job, his reputation and his career to have sex with a teenage girl. That is not the behaviour of a well-balanced adult. That is the behaviour of someone with a problem: A problem in understanding boundaries, an obsession with control and very poor judgement.
It is always okay to have feelings. It’s not always okay to act on them. You are a teen, so the courts understand that you are learning which feelings you act on and which ones you do not. But your principal knows better than to act on every passing fantasy, and if he doesn’t know better than to solicit sex from a minor, then he should not be allowed to work in a school.
Also, in all honesty, men of that age who prey on teenage girls (and yes babe, he IS preying on you, even if you like it) generally don't just stick to one girl. It's very, very likely, that you aren't the first student he has pursued for sex. Unless you tell another adult what he is doing, you probably won’t be the last one either. He might tell you that you are special to him, but he is probably lying. You are just vulnerable, and attractive to him. He can use his position, and his experience to get what he wants from you, so he will.
Tell an adult you can trust, or at very least, find another adult to help guide you. This man isn’t your friend. He is simply playing the role.
Stay safe.
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