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Hey, my friend is going to go to a july 4th party tonight and theres gonna be weed and alcohol there... she said she doenst want to go, or smoke, but she says she'll drink though. She says she has to go because she promised her friends... im just worried about her.. what can i say to her?? I just dont want her to go.
Thanks so much.
Well you know in life, we want the best for our friends, we see the mistakes they are making - but they dont notice it until it bites them back in the butt. And then they regret it.
Just tell your friend to be careful, and that you dont think its safe. And with that being siad, you told her that you cared for her, and that its not safe. Those are the 2 most important things, so if things go wrong now, atleast you had warned her.
Sometimes we wish there was more tosay to friends who are dangerous and wild childs right?
But Ig uess in time they will figure it out,
even though it sucks to have to watch them make mistakes.
i dont know what to think at the moment. he was my first boyfriend and we thought we were in love for a while. (btw im 14/f.) anyway then i realized that i liked him more as a friend, so we agreed to be just friends. we went out for half of april and early may. now its the 4th of july and im not all that greatful for my independence. how can i be sure i made the right decision, and what should i do if i didnt?
Well your young and you have a long time ahead of you, seriously! Your still so young, focus on enjoying life and living it to the fullest, the main thing is you dont need a guy in your life to make you happy.
You can be sure that you made the right decision because your 14, your going to have a kabillion more people that will want to date you and fall in love with you! Its not like you turned down your soul mate.
I have a friend that came to me with a question but I didnt know how to answer it because it never happened to me. so i was wondering if anyone can help me help her. ok so here is the story: her and her boyfriend have been dating for a few months now and they had sex for the first time. she has always worried about having sex and then beeing dumped. well after they had sex he said to her that he feels bad cuz after sex he should be proud/happy and that he didnt. he also said that he loves her so much and doesnt want anything to happen to her but still feels bad for how things turned out. he also wanted to gie her a ring later on but said that he wants to give her something like that from the heart instead of his moms jewelry box.
now is there any chance that he will leave her and make one of her worries real?
To be honest, no one can give you a direct answer on this. No one would know except him, whats really going on his head or his heart you know? Thats why the best hting to do is get married and then have sex. But thats my opinion. Anyways theres not really an answer to this, you need to ask your friend how she feels about the relationship, and she shouldnt have had sex with him if she had doubts that he would have dumped her after words you know?
Hey,
Im 15, and I still have not had a boyfriend, or hooked up with a guy...
it never really bothered me before but lately it has been.
My best friend since 4th grade (who lives in Texas) (I live in Philly) has had alot more experience with guys than me.
It makes me kind-of jealous, and i dont want to be like...behind her if that makes sense?
alot of girls at my school just give in and do any guy that is willing to do them. There's not alot of people who are in an actually relationship.
I hate my school. All the guys are a-holes.
and i have confidence in myself too i model, im sweet, im funny...
im just really shy.
now im just babbling.
To get to the point I dont want to just hook up with some ass hole who doesnt care about me. But.. i dont want to be prude.
Thanks.
-Anna
When the right guy comes, he will come.
You cant compare yourself to everyone else, and where they are in life, like with boys.
You sound like a nice girl, with good intentions, and good standards, dont become desperate and settle for less than you deserve.
Eventually the right guy will come and you wont regret anything beacuse you didnt give yourself up to some random guy or something.
Okay, my sister installed Windows Live Messenger and I hate it! It's slowing down the computer and has tons of features I hate. How do I uninstall it so I can use an earlier version like MSN 7? I can't stand this one!
Okay uninstall it like the girl said below.
Then google MSN MESSENGER 7 , it will give you links to download msn 7!
http://www.microsoft.com/downloads/details.aspx?familyid=41e73676-f589-496a-bb0b-efb7668b4ff7&displaylang=en
go there, msn messenger 7.0 is wher eyou can download it, my brother did the same thing as your sister haha! I hate the new one.
for thoses who know what kiddie academy is..do they hire at 16? thanks
If kiddie academy has a website, go to it,
and check ages on there, or call their number - which would be listed on their website if they have one.
Christians do not believe in having sex before marriage, so does that include no full on kissing?
I agree with the person below.
Be careful, because kissing causes emotoins to go crazy.
=/ Well, I just wanted to know if you were in my situation, like if you'd be mad.
I really want to see that movie Click, and my boyfriend promised that he would take me on Thursday, because we both don't work & we had it planned out & everything (it being our 2 month, I thought it'd be cool to actually do something like that we both want to do), I was REALLY excited. Todays July 4th obviously, and my boyfriend knows I'm home alone doing absolutely nothing until I have to go to work tonight at 7pm.
He just called me and told me that he's going to be going to the movies with his sisters today to watch Click. And, I'm really upset because not only does he KNOW i'm by myself & I really wanted to do something especially today because of it being July 4th, but we planned everything out to see that movie on Thursday.
I just need to know, if I'm getting mad over something stupid. But I think the least he could've done was invited me to the movies with him. =]
Thank youuu in advance!
I would be mad.
I'd be like, what the heck?
We had plans, and this really hurts my feelings.
Tell him how you feel, communication is they key.
So dont fake your feelings, if you were upset and didnt act that way on the phone, he'll never know that you are upset.
So you need to let him know.
I think your right, he could have invited you with him and his sisters!
hope things work out!
hi..this is pretty long but i really do need your advice.
my best friend and i talk a lot by msn & phone. she has a boyfriend & an exboyfriend. she hooked me up with hi "exboyfriend" he is really sweet and all, he even asked me to be his girlfriend. the thinh is that i have never met him in person or even talked to him by phone. we only talk by msn. and every time my best friend goes offline, then he comes online, and when he goes offline, den she comes online. which is pretty weird.also he talks a lot like my best friend. he started asking me if i was in the mood of cyber sex & stuff like that. i started telling him that when he came back from NY i would like to see him. thats when evrything changed. he told me that he wasnt comin back & that it was better if we broke up. that really broke my heart. but ill get over him. the thing is that i dont think he is real. i think that my best friend just made him up & pretended to be him. i dont know what to think right now. i trust her but this is really weird. please help me. do you think he is real? please tell me what u think.my mind is going crazy. thank you. =]
Well in my honest opinion, it sounds like that is your best friend pretending, and just being a jerk to you. I think you should say something to her like.. "I know that you were pretending to be that boy, why did you do that?" if you say you KNOW, and stuff, she should confess maybe, or she'll get aggitated and really offencsive because she did do it. You know? Its a hard thign to talk to her about, but I can realzie how that owuld make you feel.
how do you get smaller hips and more of an hourglass figure?
You cant change the size of your hip bones..
hey everyone. i asked a question awhile ago about my best friend who's dad had lung cancer. well his dad died. and im just wondering like what are appropriate things to say. not just "i'll be there for you" can someone actually help me with what to say? also me and my friends want to do something for him. big or small no matter what it is. does anyone anyone anyone have any suggestions? im begging you, because this kid is so devastated. thank you.
You cant really do anything for someone who has lost someone important to them.
Theres nothing that can be given, said, or anything to cheer them completley up.
The thing that will mean the most to them is just being there for them.
You dont need to do anything, but be there.
Its what people need, because you there arent anywords, and dont keep sayingyour sorry, because imagine how many people have already said that.
Sometimes sitting with them and crying is the best you can do.
My Ex and I just got back on speaking terms. We were told that a close friend of ours sabotaged the relationship because he wanted to go out with me.... which turned out to be true. I have wanted to tell my Ex about getting back together. I've called him and emailed and I haven't heard anything from him. I saw him the other night and we were hanging out and things were just fine. I don't know what to do. I want to tell him, but how? What are some approaches I can use?
He;s probably not replying to your messages and stuff because he's moved on. I mean that sounds really cruel, but if you guys broke up and werent on speaking terms, and then you found out that a friend wrecked the relationship.
There is still time inbetween that he probably managed to get over you?
But to try to get him back,
just tell him you need to talk to him,
just be normal, and if he does say he doesnt want to get back together, just accept it,
but Iwoudl wait longer, because if your just getting back on talking, you need to start learning to be friends again as well.
13/f.
Hey guys! It is currently summer and I really want to change my wardrobe! I don't really have a label..I get my jewely at claire's and my clothes at kohls. I match my own clothes and stuff you know?? annnyywaaayy I really want to go bohemian with my style! Not like hobo but styleish bohmemian.. does anyone have any tips on like what to wear for that and where to shop for that? This is very much appreciated.
Urban outfitters has the cutest clothes.
And just a note about forever21 some of their clothes are extreamley thin. But the images online dont really show it, so just keep that in mind, and that the sizes are smaller than it says.
let me put this in short version. i met a boy we really clicked he told me how he felt about me and we were just really close.. he left for a week and i saw pictures of him making out with another girl..
and i asked him about it and he said he has been wanting to go see her for a year and a half now.
when he comes back to my state should i forget him?
(he makes out with 7th graders too i learned)
or should i just not date him..
we wearnt exactly dating yet
but he sure made it seem like we were going too...
i threw up three times because of this.
i really believed he wouldnt be like all the other boys but he was...
and i like it when its JUST me and ONE boy..
so my question is.
should i forget him and move on?
thanks so much even if you try..
i rate 5.
Well how old is this guy?
If he's older than 16+ he shoudlnt be making out with seventh graders.
But if he makes out with other girls,
just forget him.
Especially if he really cared and liked you he wouldnt have done that.
Dont dwell on this,
dont makeyourself sick over a guy who obvoiusly doesnt care about you as much as you care about him.
I highly suggest you just forgethim,
you have your whole life ahead ofyou left.
Well tommorow I am going to a party and I am supposed to be getting my period tommorow and when I have my period I get really slef-conscience and I always feel like my tampon is leaking so I'll go and change it and it really isn't. I'm also sure we will be swimming and I've heard that if your in water you can't get your period so if I'm in the pool with a tampon in can I still get it??
Thanks, I'll rate
Yeah you can still get your period if your in water, except its deluted because othe water so its nto that noticeable until you get out and sit for a while. Then it might turn your suit red.
Question no. 1: Do any of you guys tend to compare your looks to your friends around you?
I do and I hate that. Because whenever I'm near a pretty friend, i'd start to feel like I'm very ugly because I dun look better than her. We have to admit that we do tend to compare people we see on the streets like for eg, this guy looks better than his friend beside him, etc.
OK case 2, there are 2 girls, one very good looking(A) and the other not so good looking(B). And the wierd thing is, there are cases in which people will not compare A and B and will actually see them as each having their own beauty, and both as pretty as the other.
Question no. 2: How do I get to the stage whereby people will not compare me and my friend and see me and my friend as each having our own form of beauty? Meaning to say, see both of us as equally attractive individuals?
Yeah we all do, but I'm pretty confident in myself. I'm to a point in my life where that I do think I'm pretty and I think my friends are too. We all arent perfect, so its okay.
Well one things is if you dont compare people, you shouldnt compare yourself then. You cant let people think they are more prettier than you, or worth more. Dont let people label you as "kind pretty" "okay." "so/so" "goregous!" as long as your are happy with yourself, or atleast learn to be happy with yourself, its a good place to start.
Okay, well if you dont want people comparing you, you shoudlnt compare them either.
Dont say one is prettier than the other, because thats usually not the case. Everyone is goregous in their own unique way.
If you start to learn to love yourself and stop comparing people,, they will see your confidence and stop comparing you, and even if they continue to cmpare you - you shouldnt care, becuase their opinion on what you look like shouldnt matter.
People are always goign to judge and compare,
but you really have to get over it.
You cant make anyone see two people as the same attractiveness. Because some people just honestly dont see two people the same atractiveness. But taht doenst mean the other person is less or more attractive.
It all depends on the person, and you cant change people, buty ou ccan change your attitude on whatyou think about people.
hello if any of you know the starting sallaries of bioengineer and medical engineer. i am thinking to start a career in one of them. do tell me which ones better
Try googling them both,
and doing research on them,
then you can weigh the pros and cons about which one you want to do.
so for about a month i have been getting killer head aches
i thought nothing of it but then mysister pointed out my pupils were differant sizes
im also nautious alot
i dnt do drugs im 15/f i dnt smoke or drink or take meds so what can this be? is it normal?
Well I would get a doctor to check it out,
because sometimes major headaches are a sign of depression or some mental disorder,
or maybe physical.
I know a few people who have depression and they got constant headaches, well migranes, and stuff.
So I would definitly ask your doctor about it either way :]
Everytime I take a shower, I end up losing a lot of hair for some reason. Like when I'm washing my hair and I run my fingers through it, I get a lot of hair falling out. Even when I brush my hair after the shower I still lose a lot. And I use a Garneir conditioner and it makes my hair soft and so its not like its tangly and I'm pulling hair out... it just comes out when I brush it... why does it do that?
I've had that before,
its because most likely your hair is pretty dry?
It doesnt have to look dry, but if you blowdry it or straighten or curl it.. that takes the moisture out ofit, and if you do it often if causes you rhair to do that.
Try aloe vera hair gel, it restores your hairs moisture in it.
okay..umm fourth of july is coming up and my dad was planning a trip to go up to old fordge with my aunt and uncle and cousins and stuff. i would go there the 1st of july - the 5th of july. and my cousin on my moms side is having her graduation party on the 1st of july and i cant miss that for the world bc shes like a sister to me.(and yeah, my parents are divorced) and my dad had said to me if my mom could drive half way on sunday(the 2nd) then he would meet us half way.(in utica) and now my mom says no that she cant bc she has to cook food for a 4th of july party down the street and my dad wont come and pick me up and now im like crying and idk what to do!!! im all confused and if anyone out there whos parents are divorced and know how i feel, then yeah i would lovee some advice on what to do!! please helpp!!
x3
Oh my parents are divorced too!
But they dont live that far away,
but I know how hard it is when neither of them are cooperating. It sounds like your parents arent making this situation anybetter.
Do you have any other people who can take you?
Are you aunts and uncles and cousins already up ther or could you possibly go up wiht one of them? Or try talking to your parents and telling them how important this is to them and how hurt you are that none of them can take you!